So why is this guy your friend again? I could understand a friend getting a bit too wild while drunk, but chasing you and threatening to kill you? At some point you gotta leave this guy alone and take responsibility for his own actions. Your rules could potentially ruin your own life.

underscore

252 Posts

May 28 2011 08:20 GMT

#23

Don't delude yourself. You're not a hero and what you did was stupid.

Surili

United Kingdom1141 Posts

May 28 2011 08:49 GMT

#24

On May 28 2011 15:59 SirMilford wrote:

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This 100percent. You have to realize that if he is always like this confront him about it. If he is a retard and just blames it on the alcohol leave him out of your life. You obviously do not want to go through that shit again and personally although you have done the right thing getting him home, you have to confront him about it.

Note: I know that this maybe isn't the best information as i don't know everything about your life but just make sure he knows where he stands now.

What you say is true to some extent, but i am 100% that when he snapped out of it he couldn't remember what happened. As for the rest i will confront him, the last time that stuff happened to do with alcohol that i mentioned in the OP, he ended up seeing counselling for weeks and he got much better. He used to be really bad every week, and now this is the first time in 6 months. I am sure he is gonna have a lot to say when i see him today.

On May 28 2011 15:09 te3l wrote:
You should probably confront ur friend about his drinking and his violent behavior. Just because he is big and built doesnt mean he should go rampaging around town. You certainly got lucky that he snapped out of it but next time you may not be.

Yes you are awesome for seeing through to your rules but u should definitely maintain ur own safety first. If you were a true friend you would sit down and chat with him about his problems. Good job though, who knows where he might have went if you were not there.

Liam isn't even big, that is my friend Jean, although he is strong, he spends a huge amount of time at the gym. I am not even so sure that i couldn't beat him in a fight if i had to, i have spent a long time of my life doing self defence classes, but after he hit me twice i knew i couldn't bring myself to fight my friend, and that i couldn't just leave him, so i just lead him around. I honestly do not know what i should have done. I would never call the police on a friend if i could possibly avoid it, (and he wasn't a threat to anyone else), and i wasn't going to fight him when i would probably lose, so i did the only thing i thought i could do. Running is one of the things that i like to say i'm better than most people at, the other is Gaming, hence the location of this post.

On May 28 2011 17:20 underscore wrote:
Don't delude yourself. You're not a hero and what you did was stupid.

Never have, never will. Your post me smile though, i just woke up, and the different reactions i get from different reactions are always important to me. Can i ask what you think i should have done is?

underscore

252 Posts

May 28 2011 09:26 GMT

#25

On May 28 2011 17:49 Surili wrote:

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At the very latest you should have backed off once he threatened you with physical violence.
Just let him run, it's not like he is gonna freeze to death in May. Even in Britain the weather can't be that shitty.
If it was a woman it would be a different story because she puts herself in danger whereas your friend who has shown this kind of behaviour before is a danger to the people around him.
You can't talk sense into people who are in such a mental state. If you want to help talk to him while both of you are sober.

Pika Chu

Romania2510 Posts

May 28 2011 09:41 GMT

#26

You're surely a very good friend. I don't even know if your friend actually deserves you.

While i seriously doubt he would've killed you, threatening and acting violent with your friends is absolutely wrong, no matter what a friend would do i wouldn't threat or act aggressive towards him (worst case i'd break the friendship). You need to talk to him about that, confront him when he's sober and hopefully you both will find a way for that behavior to stop. I hope he will see what a good friend he has (not many would do what you did).

But i also have to criticize you for texting your girlfriend with that text. What you did was really foolish and egoistic. You were not close to dieing and (if your gf was awake) you scared the shit out of her.

Svartstol

Sweden171 Posts

May 28 2011 09:41 GMT

#27

I had a friend just like yours, but in the end my friend realized that he cant handle alcohol, so he stopped drinking. Your friend should consider it because one day it will catch up to him, and it doesn't require much for the shit to hit the fan. 1 fight with the wrong person and his life could be getting a lot worse.

One example from Stockholm a few nights ago at a fast food resturant a man asks another guy why he was cutting the line. The guy who obviously never learned how to cue became furious and gave the man 2 punches. He fell down and hit his head on a table and died later the next day.
(source to above: here It's in Swedish though)

-Kato-

Spain1146 Posts

May 28 2011 09:59 GMT

#28

I would've let your friend go running, see ya control your drinking.

youngminii

Australia7514 Posts

May 28 2011 10:36 GMT

#29

Sounds like you're a pretty awesome friend.

Be careful though, sometimes it's better to let them do their own thing without you trying to stop them. As other people have said it only encourages him as he's got a 'safety net', if he repeatedly runs into situations where he fucks up when he's drunk, he'll learn through actions that he shouldn't be the huge dick he's being.

In a way, you're enabling him. In a way.

ZeromuS

Canada13407 Posts

May 28 2011 11:12 GMT

#30

Good for you for this one night keeping your friend safe, but if I was you I wouldnt be his friend for much longer with the exception of getting the guy some help for his problems.

CDRdude

United States5625 Posts

May 28 2011 13:35 GMT

#31

Wow. Maybe you should ask Liam to cut back a bit on the booze.

Armathai

1023 Posts

May 28 2011 13:53 GMT

#32

A friend who punches you when he's drunk? I can understand wanting to remain friends even in bad times, but that's taking it too far, you should really tell him he needs to cut back on the booze or learn to not be an aggressive drunk.

Tschis

Brazil1511 Posts

May 28 2011 14:15 GMT

#33

You, sir, are a true friend.

I respect you a lot after what you did for your friend, and I wish you could share with us his reaction after he is sober and hear what he has done to you.

Thanks for sharing :}

nofAcedAgent

United States952 Posts

May 29 2011 03:03 GMT

#34

I know what its like to have a set of rules to live by - and how hard it can be to uphold them..

~~Friends~~ People like you are hard to come by to be sure.

<3 stay true

Hakker

United States1360 Posts

May 29 2011 03:44 GMT

#35

fuck tha poleece!

in all honesty though, you sound like a great person who deserves better than what your friend has to offer. I know this is just a small excerpt of your relationship, but the things you describe are usually either end in lawsuits or deaths.

Louuster

Canada2869 Posts

June 03 2011 15:26 GMT

#36

Wow you sure are a great friend

However, like others have said, your friend doesnt deserve someone like you. Sounds like he knows he gets aggressive/violent when drunk yet he stills drinks enough to trigger it, then hides behind I was too drunk/i dont remember anything i did. Being arrested by the police almost sounds like it would be better for him, waking up behind the bars a few times would certainly teach him a lesson faster than being told in the morning that he punched and ran after you yet you still took care of him..