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Zortch
Profile Blog Joined January 2008
Canada635 Posts
January 12 2010 16:01 GMT
#81
I love you Biff.
Don't forget people, he didn't just look on her facebook page. He logged into her private account!
Thats as bad as reading someone's diary in my opinion. A far worse breach of trust than a drunk makeout.
It seems that your relationship is not on very stable ground considering she is cheating on you and you don't trust her a lick or respect her privacy at all. So you should probably end it, but get off your high horse.
Respect is everything. ~ARchon
Biff The Understudy
Profile Blog Joined February 2008
France7880 Posts
January 12 2010 16:07 GMT
#82
On January 13 2010 01:01 Zortch wrote:
I love you Biff.
Don't forget people, he didn't just look on her facebook page. He logged into her private account!
Thats as bad as reading someone's diary in my opinion. A far worse breach of trust than a drunk makeout.
It seems that your relationship is not on very stable ground considering she is cheating on you and you don't trust her a lick or respect her privacy at all. So you should probably end it, but get off your high horse.

:-)

Or maybe they need to have a good, long, painful talk and see what they both think and feel. That's the hardest and the most painful way, but that's the only fair one.
The fellow who is out to burn things up is the counterpart of the fool who thinks he can save the world. The world needs neither to be burned up nor to be saved. The world is, we are. Transients, if we buck it; here to stay if we accept it. ~H.Miller
randomProtoss
Profile Joined January 2010
Andorra1 Post
Last Edited: 2010-01-12 17:08:03
January 12 2010 16:18 GMT
#83
well, Biff might be right. good luck with that Lx
Biff The Understudy
Profile Blog Joined February 2008
France7880 Posts
January 12 2010 16:23 GMT
#84
On January 13 2010 01:18 randomProtoss wrote:
First of all, you must know that she doesn't respect you, and you can't build a lasting relationship without that. She may like you, but she definitely doesn't respect you.

You know her very well, and you know exactly the situation, don't you?

I've betrayed a girl in the past, and I have regretted. And I respected her, hugely. And she forgave me, and I have been incredibly grateful for that.

You don't know anything about this guy, about this girl, about their couple, about their feeling, about their story and about this stupid non-event.. Anything. So stop thinking you are a very smart psychologist. Stop judging. Just for a minute or so.
The fellow who is out to burn things up is the counterpart of the fool who thinks he can save the world. The world needs neither to be burned up nor to be saved. The world is, we are. Transients, if we buck it; here to stay if we accept it. ~H.Miller
Sadist
Profile Blog Joined October 2002
United States7215 Posts
Last Edited: 2010-01-12 17:12:29
January 12 2010 17:11 GMT
#85
On January 13 2010 00:15 Biff The Understudy wrote:
Show nested quote +
On January 13 2010 00:00 Revolt wrote:
On January 12 2010 23:57 Biff The Understudy wrote:
On January 12 2010 17:39 Marimokkori wrote:
Fuck an ultimatum. If this is the second offense you seriously need to get out now, and get out fast. The longer you stay with her the harder it will be.

On January 12 2010 16:10 seppolevne wrote:
On January 12 2010 15:53 LxRogue wrote:

Should i just end it? Give her an ultimatum?


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And target your relationship, her phone number and her facebook login info. Drop the bitch.


Agreed. Target everything. You don't need her anywhere in your life. Destroy all possible contact, IMO.

Drop the bitch.


Edit after reading more replies:

On January 12 2010 17:21 Biff The Understudy wrote:
Don't be stupid, and don't listen stupid people.


Talk to her, and discuss it with her. Don't rage, don't feel humiliated. It just happens.

Everybody can make mistakes, believe me I know what I am talking about, and I am so thankful to my girlfriend that she forgave me. It just needs to be discussed.

And the "best advice" is not a good a advice. What will you earn in your life by saying someone you have loved for two years that she doesn't deserve any respect? Fucking hell people are so silly. Who on earth has never done a shit like that?

Forgiving is not a weakness. Shutting your mouth is, but forgiving is what people who have a brain and a heart can do. Raging and insulting your gf is just stupid dumbfuck reaction.


Sorry if I offend you, but this really aggravates me. This viewpoint of cheating being mildly acceptable is part of why it seems so common.

"It just happens."

Did you read the op? This did not just happen. This is her SECOND offense! Cheating NEVER "just happens."

It's sounds to me like you know what it's like to be the one doing the cheating and can therefore sympathize with his girlfriend who obviously treats him like trash. I think you need a morality check, to be honest.

This kind of shit is not OK, should not be so easily forgiven, if forgiven at all.

"Forgiving is not a weakness. Shutting your mouth is, but forgiving is what people who have a brain and a heart can do. Raging and insulting your gf is just stupid dumbfuck reaction."

Having the capacity to forgive is important. So is having the ability to tell people who walk on you and use you to fuck off. Cheating is a stupid dumbfuck thing to do and not raging about it will only allow her to walk on you more.

Allow me to reiterate:

This is her second offense and she's been lying to you.

Drop the bitch.


If you really want to give her an ultimatum, demand a threesome with another girl, then leave her anyway.

It does just happen. It did happen to me to fall in love with someone else and to forget everything. If it can't happen to you, good for you. It does happen to lot of people, sometimes amazing persons. Two of my best friends are a couple, and the girl cheated three time at the guy. And everytime he got hurt, and everytime it was a big shit. But they are still together and they are amazing. And they love each other.

You don't know the girl. You don't fucking have any fucking right to call her a bitch. And you don't have to judge her.

If I was OP I would slap you in the face.

Judgemental douche.


everything you said was just irrational, love is irrational; it's fear of never finding happiness and looking else where (in another human being) it's for the week, imo.
Every human being desires happiness. this guy needs to ditch this bitch.
oh, btw she is a bitch and every negative word that can describe a bitch in this situation.

Buy a brain or something equivalent.

I don't like to quote the Bible but there is a good sentence:

"Let thoses who have never sinned throw the first stone".

I hope you guys are very clean, like, really, really, really clean to speak the way you do.

Incontrol talked about self respect. Self respect is not letting random fucks talk shit about your girlfriend. Whatever she did. That's self respect.

Geez.



Oh look its captain save-a-hoe
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How do you go from where you are to where you want to be? I think you have to have an enthusiasm for life. You have to have a dream, a goal and you have to be willing to work for it. Jim Valvano
Biff The Understudy
Profile Blog Joined February 2008
France7880 Posts
January 12 2010 17:13 GMT
#86
On January 13 2010 02:11 Sadist wrote:
Show nested quote +
On January 13 2010 00:15 Biff The Understudy wrote:
On January 13 2010 00:00 Revolt wrote:
On January 12 2010 23:57 Biff The Understudy wrote:
On January 12 2010 17:39 Marimokkori wrote:
Fuck an ultimatum. If this is the second offense you seriously need to get out now, and get out fast. The longer you stay with her the harder it will be.

On January 12 2010 16:10 seppolevne wrote:
On January 12 2010 15:53 LxRogue wrote:

Should i just end it? Give her an ultimatum?


[image loading]


And target your relationship, her phone number and her facebook login info. Drop the bitch.


Agreed. Target everything. You don't need her anywhere in your life. Destroy all possible contact, IMO.

Drop the bitch.


Edit after reading more replies:

On January 12 2010 17:21 Biff The Understudy wrote:
Don't be stupid, and don't listen stupid people.


Talk to her, and discuss it with her. Don't rage, don't feel humiliated. It just happens.

Everybody can make mistakes, believe me I know what I am talking about, and I am so thankful to my girlfriend that she forgave me. It just needs to be discussed.

And the "best advice" is not a good a advice. What will you earn in your life by saying someone you have loved for two years that she doesn't deserve any respect? Fucking hell people are so silly. Who on earth has never done a shit like that?

Forgiving is not a weakness. Shutting your mouth is, but forgiving is what people who have a brain and a heart can do. Raging and insulting your gf is just stupid dumbfuck reaction.


Sorry if I offend you, but this really aggravates me. This viewpoint of cheating being mildly acceptable is part of why it seems so common.

"It just happens."

Did you read the op? This did not just happen. This is her SECOND offense! Cheating NEVER "just happens."

It's sounds to me like you know what it's like to be the one doing the cheating and can therefore sympathize with his girlfriend who obviously treats him like trash. I think you need a morality check, to be honest.

This kind of shit is not OK, should not be so easily forgiven, if forgiven at all.

"Forgiving is not a weakness. Shutting your mouth is, but forgiving is what people who have a brain and a heart can do. Raging and insulting your gf is just stupid dumbfuck reaction."

Having the capacity to forgive is important. So is having the ability to tell people who walk on you and use you to fuck off. Cheating is a stupid dumbfuck thing to do and not raging about it will only allow her to walk on you more.

Allow me to reiterate:

This is her second offense and she's been lying to you.

Drop the bitch.


If you really want to give her an ultimatum, demand a threesome with another girl, then leave her anyway.

It does just happen. It did happen to me to fall in love with someone else and to forget everything. If it can't happen to you, good for you. It does happen to lot of people, sometimes amazing persons. Two of my best friends are a couple, and the girl cheated three time at the guy. And everytime he got hurt, and everytime it was a big shit. But they are still together and they are amazing. And they love each other.

You don't know the girl. You don't fucking have any fucking right to call her a bitch. And you don't have to judge her.

If I was OP I would slap you in the face.

Judgemental douche.


everything you said was just irrational, love is irrational; it's fear of never finding happiness and looking else where (in another human being) it's for the week, imo.
Every human being desires happiness. this guy needs to ditch this bitch.
oh, btw she is a bitch and every negative word that can describe a bitch in this situation.

Buy a brain or something equivalent.

I don't like to quote the Bible but there is a good sentence:

"Let thoses who have never sinned throw the first stone".

I hope you guys are very clean, like, really, really, really clean to speak the way you do.

Incontrol talked about self respect. Self respect is not letting random fucks talk shit about your girlfriend. Whatever she did. That's self respect.

Geez.



Oh look its captain save-a-hoe
[image loading]

Very cool, "sadist".

Anything else?
The fellow who is out to burn things up is the counterpart of the fool who thinks he can save the world. The world needs neither to be burned up nor to be saved. The world is, we are. Transients, if we buck it; here to stay if we accept it. ~H.Miller
Draconizard
Profile Joined October 2008
628 Posts
January 12 2010 17:22 GMT
#87
On January 13 2010 02:11 Sadist wrote:
Show nested quote +
On January 13 2010 00:15 Biff The Understudy wrote:
On January 13 2010 00:00 Revolt wrote:
On January 12 2010 23:57 Biff The Understudy wrote:
On January 12 2010 17:39 Marimokkori wrote:
Fuck an ultimatum. If this is the second offense you seriously need to get out now, and get out fast. The longer you stay with her the harder it will be.

On January 12 2010 16:10 seppolevne wrote:
On January 12 2010 15:53 LxRogue wrote:

Should i just end it? Give her an ultimatum?


[image loading]


And target your relationship, her phone number and her facebook login info. Drop the bitch.


Agreed. Target everything. You don't need her anywhere in your life. Destroy all possible contact, IMO.

Drop the bitch.


Edit after reading more replies:

On January 12 2010 17:21 Biff The Understudy wrote:
Don't be stupid, and don't listen stupid people.


Talk to her, and discuss it with her. Don't rage, don't feel humiliated. It just happens.

Everybody can make mistakes, believe me I know what I am talking about, and I am so thankful to my girlfriend that she forgave me. It just needs to be discussed.

And the "best advice" is not a good a advice. What will you earn in your life by saying someone you have loved for two years that she doesn't deserve any respect? Fucking hell people are so silly. Who on earth has never done a shit like that?

Forgiving is not a weakness. Shutting your mouth is, but forgiving is what people who have a brain and a heart can do. Raging and insulting your gf is just stupid dumbfuck reaction.


Sorry if I offend you, but this really aggravates me. This viewpoint of cheating being mildly acceptable is part of why it seems so common.

"It just happens."

Did you read the op? This did not just happen. This is her SECOND offense! Cheating NEVER "just happens."

It's sounds to me like you know what it's like to be the one doing the cheating and can therefore sympathize with his girlfriend who obviously treats him like trash. I think you need a morality check, to be honest.

This kind of shit is not OK, should not be so easily forgiven, if forgiven at all.

"Forgiving is not a weakness. Shutting your mouth is, but forgiving is what people who have a brain and a heart can do. Raging and insulting your gf is just stupid dumbfuck reaction."

Having the capacity to forgive is important. So is having the ability to tell people who walk on you and use you to fuck off. Cheating is a stupid dumbfuck thing to do and not raging about it will only allow her to walk on you more.

Allow me to reiterate:

This is her second offense and she's been lying to you.

Drop the bitch.


If you really want to give her an ultimatum, demand a threesome with another girl, then leave her anyway.

It does just happen. It did happen to me to fall in love with someone else and to forget everything. If it can't happen to you, good for you. It does happen to lot of people, sometimes amazing persons. Two of my best friends are a couple, and the girl cheated three time at the guy. And everytime he got hurt, and everytime it was a big shit. But they are still together and they are amazing. And they love each other.

You don't know the girl. You don't fucking have any fucking right to call her a bitch. And you don't have to judge her.

If I was OP I would slap you in the face.

Judgemental douche.


everything you said was just irrational, love is irrational; it's fear of never finding happiness and looking else where (in another human being) it's for the week, imo.
Every human being desires happiness. this guy needs to ditch this bitch.
oh, btw she is a bitch and every negative word that can describe a bitch in this situation.

Buy a brain or something equivalent.

I don't like to quote the Bible but there is a good sentence:

"Let thoses who have never sinned throw the first stone".

I hope you guys are very clean, like, really, really, really clean to speak the way you do.

Incontrol talked about self respect. Self respect is not letting random fucks talk shit about your girlfriend. Whatever she did. That's self respect.

Geez.



Oh look its captain save-a-hoe
[image loading]


The level of maturity in this thread (barring a few, select posters) is amazing.
Ghardo
Profile Blog Joined September 2004
Germany1685 Posts
January 12 2010 17:23 GMT
#88
to give credit to the heartwrenching situations of biff and zortch you could ask her flat out if she would regret it if you ended the relationship because you are thinking along those lines. and if she isn't clear about it or doesn't sound convincing.. well..

you have to ask yourself the question if there are reasons for her acting that way. if your relationship may have not been as exciting as it used to be (apart from the normal way things go) and if you can change this somehow. it's bad to be in a spot where you have to ask yourself if you can't offer her what she needs so she looks for it elsewhere. it may be the case, or it's that she just has little self-control and easily falls for momentary attractions.

the hard thing is: no one here can really judge this 100%. there is sound advice and the most secure thing for not being hurt in the future / investing in a relationship which is already in an unhealthy state is just putting an end to it. if someone cheats on the tsl ladder the popular opinion goes towards: ban him immediately whatever his reasons were. if you think the relationship / girl is worth it you can make clear how angry you are and that this is an absolute no go, but at the same time trying to find out if there are any valid reasons (too little attention, too little excitement, arousal, whatev) she could give or problems she sees so that she lowers herself to such a behaviour.

it's up to youuuuuuuuu
Always
Profile Blog Joined March 2009
United States376 Posts
January 12 2010 17:52 GMT
#89
I'm usually for trying to make relationships work, but I'm definitely against cheating. Whether she tells you or not, if it's recurring, then there isn't much you can do, imo. You deserve better dude.
"Do unto others 20% better than you would expect them to do unto you, to correct for subjective error." - Linus Pauling
Biff The Understudy
Profile Blog Joined February 2008
France7880 Posts
January 12 2010 18:03 GMT
#90
On January 13 2010 02:52 Always wrote:
I'm usually for trying to make relationships work, but I'm definitely against cheating. Whether she tells you or not, if it's recurring, then there isn't much you can do, imo. You deserve better dude.

Everybody is against cheating. The question is wether your pride go above everything and you throw your girlfriend like a piece of shit because you "worth better", or you actually talk with her, confront her calmly, and try to understand what happened and how she lived the whole thing. And then make a decision, obviously. Maybe it's better to end up the relationship, maybe it worth to forgive and carry on. But you don't act with your hurted masculin little prise. You act with your heart and your brain.

A relationship is based on confidence. Confidence deosn't mean not doing mistakes, even several time. Confidence mean that you do things together. Confidence means that you talk about what is wrong. Even if it's very wrong.

If the guy break up brutally, without discussing, without trying to understand, it's not her who didn't deserve him. It's him who didn't deserve her.
The fellow who is out to burn things up is the counterpart of the fool who thinks he can save the world. The world needs neither to be burned up nor to be saved. The world is, we are. Transients, if we buck it; here to stay if we accept it. ~H.Miller
kidd
Profile Blog Joined November 2002
United States2848 Posts
January 12 2010 18:14 GMT
#91
On January 13 2010 03:03 Biff The Understudy wrote:
Show nested quote +
On January 13 2010 02:52 Always wrote:
I'm usually for trying to make relationships work, but I'm definitely against cheating. Whether she tells you or not, if it's recurring, then there isn't much you can do, imo. You deserve better dude.

Everybody is against cheating. The question is wether your pride go above everything and you throw your girlfriend like a piece of shit because you "worth better", or you actually talk with her, confront her calmly, and try to understand what happened and how she lived the whole thing. And then make a decision, obviously. Maybe it's better to end up the relationship, maybe it worth to forgive and carry on. But you don't act with your hurted masculin little prise. You act with your heart and your brain.

A relationship is based on confidence. Confidence deosn't mean not doing mistakes, even several time. Confidence mean that you do things together. Confidence means that you talk about what is wrong. Even if it's very wrong.

If the guy break up brutally, without discussing, without trying to understand, it's not her who didn't deserve him. It's him who didn't deserve her.


Biff, what your saying would have some merit based on the notion that she actually admitted what she did instead of the OP having to find out for himself. Sure it was pretty sneaky to check her facebook inbox and chat logs to see what was going on but that was because he was already suspecting her cheating.

Just because you have been in a similar situation where you cheated and the girl forgave you does not give you the right to say that cheating is something that just happens and doesn't mean anything. When you are in a commited relationship and you break that commitment you deserved to be dumped. If the other person is trusting enough and kind enough they could take you back and give you another chance but as they say you can only forgive and never forget.

You also may have admitted that you actually did cheat which makes you just an ounce better than this girl who probably will never admit to doing any of the said activities unless I have missed anything skimming this thread. The OP is going to have to acutally confront her to get a confession about something that she did that was wrong. These two should decide for themselves if they want to be together but the right thing to do would be to dump this girl because what she did was clearly wrong.

If I were the OP I would talk to the girl and see what she has to say about the whole situation. Based off the information provided in the OP and the fact that she has already done this once before I think a major dumping would be in order unless she managed to slip up more than one time especially when the OP expressed his concern about her talking to other guys.
Hi
Biff The Understudy
Profile Blog Joined February 2008
France7880 Posts
January 12 2010 18:33 GMT
#92
On January 13 2010 03:14 kidd wrote:
Show nested quote +
On January 13 2010 03:03 Biff The Understudy wrote:
On January 13 2010 02:52 Always wrote:
I'm usually for trying to make relationships work, but I'm definitely against cheating. Whether she tells you or not, if it's recurring, then there isn't much you can do, imo. You deserve better dude.

Everybody is against cheating. The question is wether your pride go above everything and you throw your girlfriend like a piece of shit because you "worth better", or you actually talk with her, confront her calmly, and try to understand what happened and how she lived the whole thing. And then make a decision, obviously. Maybe it's better to end up the relationship, maybe it worth to forgive and carry on. But you don't act with your hurted masculin little prise. You act with your heart and your brain.

A relationship is based on confidence. Confidence deosn't mean not doing mistakes, even several time. Confidence mean that you do things together. Confidence means that you talk about what is wrong. Even if it's very wrong.

If the guy break up brutally, without discussing, without trying to understand, it's not her who didn't deserve him. It's him who didn't deserve her.


Biff, what your saying would have some merit based on the notion that she actually admitted what she did instead of the OP having to find out for himself. Sure it was pretty sneaky to check her facebook inbox and chat logs to see what was going on but that was because he was already suspecting her cheating.

Just because you have been in a similar situation where you cheated and the girl forgave you does not give you the right to say that cheating is something that just happens and doesn't mean anything. When you are in a commited relationship and you break that commitment you deserved to be dumped. If the other person is trusting enough and kind enough they could take you back and give you another chance but as they say you can only forgive and never forget.

You also may have admitted that you actually did cheat which makes you just an ounce better than this girl who probably will never admit to doing any of the said activities unless I have missed anything skimming this thread. The OP is going to have to acutally confront her to get a confession about something that she did that was wrong. These two should decide for themselves if they want to be together but the right thing to do would be to dump this girl because what she did was clearly wrong.

If I were the OP I would talk to the girl and see what she has to say about the whole situation. Based off the information provided in the OP and the fact that she has already done this once before I think a major dumping would be in order unless she managed to slip up more than one time especially when the OP expressed his concern about her talking to other guys.

I never said cheating was acceptable. And I don't say it doesn't mean anything.

I say that

1) Nobody here knows anyhting at all about the whole story. Nobody know them. Nobody know their story. Nobody, including the OP know what exactly happens. And people think they are smart calling her a bitch and saying that OP should dump her and be very angry. So my point is: people should be a little humble, and stop being fucking stupid.

2) When you are in a relationship, you have to talk. Especially if bad things happen. Then you decide. That's where confidence is involved. I don't say OP should forgive blindly. I say that he has to talk with her, confront her, and then decide calmly if it worths continuing. The right thing is to do what he think is right. And that's not some excited nerd talking about his self respect on a video game website who will tell him if his love story worths forgiving this betrayal.

And I am angry at judgemental people. That just pisses me of. Because if we had to be judged this way, by random people who don't know us, I don't think anybody here would go out white as snow.
The fellow who is out to burn things up is the counterpart of the fool who thinks he can save the world. The world needs neither to be burned up nor to be saved. The world is, we are. Transients, if we buck it; here to stay if we accept it. ~H.Miller
iNcontroL *
Profile Blog Joined July 2004
USA29055 Posts
January 12 2010 18:39 GMT
#93
nah sometimes you don't really talk. Sometimes people do irreversible things and they should be tossed for it. If they were married obviously a talk before making decisions is a good call. But they aren't. Unfortunately they've been together a long time so that hurts but not half as bad as it would to somehow look passed the fact she has cheated 2x, lied about it and continued to disrespect him by communicating with an ex non-stop.

You can try and play devil's advocate as much as you like biff. People are calling her a bitch because cheating and lying are the trademarks of a bitch. Being mad and dumping bitches is what we do.
kidd
Profile Blog Joined November 2002
United States2848 Posts
January 12 2010 18:50 GMT
#94
I'm also not saying that it's right for all the people calling her a bitch but what she is doing is obviously very disrespectful to her bf. The same applies to you. When you are in a relationship you commit to that person. That means you create an unspoken bond that you will respect when you are with that person.

If you feel like you can break that and just do whatever you want regardless od the reason or the situation then that just makes you look like a disrepsectful idiot hence the people calling her a bitch. There is no excuse for cheating of any kind and the only way to resolve the matter is for them to talk to each other which I agree with you.

But if I were in the same situation there would be no discussion. I would simply tell the other person how I felt and that I have confidence in myself to be able to move on to find someone out there who will respect the commitment of a relationship like I would.

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Romance_us
Profile Joined March 2006
Seychelles1806 Posts
Last Edited: 2010-01-12 19:10:02
January 12 2010 19:04 GMT
#95
On January 13 2010 03:39 {88}iNcontroL wrote:
nah sometimes you don't really talk. Sometimes people do irreversible things and they should be tossed for it. If they were married obviously a talk before making decisions is a good call. But they aren't. Unfortunately they've been together a long time so that hurts but not half as bad as it would to somehow look passed the fact she has cheated 2x, lied about it and continued to disrespect him by communicating with an ex non-stop.

You can try and play devil's advocate as much as you like biff. People are calling her a bitch because cheating and lying are the trademarks of a bitch. Being mad and dumping bitches is what we do.



Jesus, sometimes I hate reading these threads because I'm such an extremist about morality and it makes me feel over-serious and too uptight. I would dump a girl for ONLY communicating with her ex, and not stopping. The cheating on top of that.. just.. blows my mind.

I also don't really know where to start with Biff, but I would like to say that your friend who has a girlfriend with three previous areas of cheating, is an idiot. That or he has absolutely zero self-esteem. Oh, but I'm sure they are amazing and love each other! HAHAH you're hilarious.

edit: Also didn't know that coming to a conclusion based off of facts is being "judgmental".
Maybe if the OP had been MUCH more vague you could get away with that. However, I see, texting ex, says will stop, lies completely and goes to alternate method of talking to ex, has cheated previously, JUST cheated again, etc, etc. How can you say that calling this person a "bitch", would be judgmental?
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Profile Blog Joined July 2004
USA29055 Posts
January 12 2010 19:09 GMT
#96
I'm pretty old school about that stuff too. I would have a serious issue with that.. not insta-dump but it'd be a problem until it was fixed. If she didn't insta-respect that it would be dump time yes. And I agree, I think we are far more hardcore on that than the typical tl.net poster which makes threads like this difficult hah.

But yeah I couldn't fathom being cheated on and still being with that girl Let alone a 2nd time + her lying about it.
BlasiuS
Profile Blog Joined September 2007
United States2405 Posts
Last Edited: 2010-01-12 22:45:10
January 12 2010 22:41 GMT
#97
Biff your advice really only works between two mature adults, who are married or otherwise engaged in a cemented long-term relationship.

The OP & his girlfriend are just dating, and they are probably two teenagers, complete with raging hormones.

to the OP: yes you should confront her directly. Give her a chance to own up to it, and/or apologize. If she fails to do either, end it right there. IF she does both, then be wary, because she'll probably do it again unless you're some kind of amazing unique person (no offense). If you find out she's doing it again, then for christ's sake DTMFA
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Kenpachi
Profile Blog Joined August 2009
United States9908 Posts
January 12 2010 23:24 GMT
#98
Do something about it!
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Chef
Profile Blog Joined August 2005
10810 Posts
January 12 2010 23:51 GMT
#99
Something people like you need to learn is that if you don't trust your partner, it's already over.

It's really that simple. Her cheating on you is bad, but the core reason you should end it is because you don't trust her. You should have ended it when you felt the need to go snooping on her account, not after you'd done it (because that's pretty fucked up too).
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Biff The Understudy
Profile Blog Joined February 2008
France7880 Posts
January 13 2010 00:33 GMT
#100
On January 13 2010 07:41 BlasiuS wrote:
Biff your advice really only works between two mature adults, who are married or otherwise engaged in a cemented long-term relationship.

The OP & his girlfriend are just dating, and they are probably two teenagers, complete with raging hormones.

to the OP: yes you should confront her directly. Give her a chance to own up to it, and/or apologize. If she fails to do either, end it right there. IF she does both, then be wary, because she'll probably do it again unless you're some kind of amazing unique person (no offense). If you find out she's doing it again, then for christ's sake DTMFA

I don't know, they have been together for two years, you know... I am with my girlfriend since a year and it's not random dating. And I'm not that old.

I hope OP manage to deal with that a good way.

Don't be too harsh on people, guys. That's all I have to say. Sometimes life is a bitch, and it's hard to deal with some stuff. Including fidelity. That doesn't make one a bitch or a bad person, nor a relationship valueless.

Anyway. Good luck to you OP.
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