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On January 14 2010 10:34 LxRogue wrote:
Well i confronted her. First i asked her if the story she had first told me was true, (about her falling asleep for 15 minutes) and she just acted confused and didn't really say anything. Then i eventually told her i had seen the FB messages and that she couldn't be telling the truth. Still, she vaguely denied anything happening that she hadn't told me about.
She "explained" that the guy was confronting her about his own girl problems and she thought it had been awkward, and he didn't want anyone else to know about his emotional problems or whatever. But she had already told me this the first time she called me, so it didn't explain anything. The only things she "admitted were that she lied about falling asleep and that it "felt" like he was coming on to her. She said she could see why i was suspicious of her message, but that i was wrong.
Part of me really trusts her and knows that she isn't a sneaky or mean person.
Part of me thinks that would be willing to make a totally blatant lie if it meant me not breaking up with her. She's had a really unstable and unfortunate upbringing, and now that she's an adult, she has a intense need for a stable relationship.
I feel like no rational person could have read the original message and her following excuse, and then believed her. She said things like:
[her] "After sleeping on it, i am regretting what happened, we shouldn't have done that. I didn't explain the situation with my boyfriend to you"
[him] "I don't have any regrets if it makes you feel any better. Friends?"
I plan on confronting her again, although i should have been more prepared for her denying it the first time. I just wasn't expecting it.
Alternatively, i could contact the guy and just ask him. Even though i've never even met him, he might be more honest with me if i was straight-up with him.
Everyone uses the excuse "we fell asleep but nothing happened" when something really happened. Also girls are fucking oblivious to guys coming on to them most of the time, so think about it if she FELT someone was coming onto her then he was prolly already on her.
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[her] "After sleeping on it, i am regretting what happened, we shouldn't have done that. I didn't explain the situation with my boyfriend to you"
how can she excuse from that statement. that's just plain ridiculous.
END it.
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On January 14 2010 10:34 LxRogue wrote:
Well i confronted her. First i asked her if the story she had first told me was true, (about her falling asleep for 15 minutes) and she just acted confused and didn't really say anything. Then i eventually told her i had seen the FB messages and that she couldn't be telling the truth. Still, she vaguely denied anything happening that she hadn't told me about.
She "explained" that the guy was confronting her about his own girl problems and she thought it had been awkward, and he didn't want anyone else to know about his emotional problems or whatever. But she had already told me this the first time she called me, so it didn't explain anything. The only things she "admitted were that she lied about falling asleep and that it "felt" like he was coming on to her. She said she could see why i was suspicious of her message, but that i was wrong.
Part of me really trusts her and knows that she isn't a sneaky or mean person.
Part of me thinks that would be willing to make a totally blatant lie if it meant me not breaking up with her. She's had a really unstable and unfortunate upbringing, and now that she's an adult, she has a intense need for a stable relationship.
I feel like no rational person could have read the original message and her following excuse, and then believed her. She said things like:
[her] "After sleeping on it, i am regretting what happened, we shouldn't have done that. I didn't explain the situation with my boyfriend to you"
[him] "I don't have any regrets if it makes you feel any better. Friends?"
I plan on confronting her again, although i should have been more prepared for her denying it the first time. I just wasn't expecting it.
Alternatively, i could contact the guy and just ask him. Even though i've never even met him, he might be more honest with me if i was straight-up with him.
What do you mean you 'trust' her? You went snooping on her facebook. You obviously do not. I know it's a really jive thing to say for every teenager in a relationship (okay you're not a teenager, but you talk like you're in high school) to talk about how much they trust their partner, but actions and feelings speak louder than words. If you trusted her you wouldn't doubt her.
I'm not saying she warrants any trust. She clearly doesn't. You just need to break it off with her. Sure she'll feel bad and miss you, but that'll last a month tops, and you need to learn how to live for yourself. You're not here to rescue her from some 'unfortunate upbringing.' You're here for your own piece of pie. Right now you're chasing a piece of pie that doesn't know what she wants and will sleep with random guys until she finds out and dumps you.
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Still, she vaguely denied anything happening that she hadn't told me about.
She "explained" that the guy was confronting her about his own girl problems and she thought it had been awkward, and he didn't want anyone else to know about his emotional problems or whatever.
She's obviously still lying to you. You obviously don't believe her. Why keep up the charade? Get rid of her.
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this shit is too serious. take some time off and clear your head.
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On January 15 2010 00:42 Chef wrote:
[...] You're not here to rescue her from some 'unfortunate upbringing.' You're here for your own piece of pie. Right now you're chasing a piece of pie that doesn't know what she wants and will sleep with random guys until she finds out and dumps you.
You can't say it any better. Seriously, dump her.
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Heard of sunk costs in economics?
End it.
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gg no re bro
gl with your future girls
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internet wins, sadly  or not xD
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I had a similar problem.
I told the guys that kept flirting with her that I would slit their throats and ruin their lives. I even tracked one down and threatened him with a knife.
Now that the story has gone around, everyone thinks that I'm in a Korean gang and that I'm a psychopath.
No guy talks to my girlfriend anymore. 
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OP you did the right thing, she was doing it anyway so don't feel bad, enjoy your time being single until you find some better girl and next time maybe you will be luckier.
good job keep on moving!
also, fuck that bitch.
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So turns out she was fucking her ex-boyfriend. How fucking stupid do you have to be to have a long, detailed conversation with him about it open on your computer when i was using it to order her some take out? After she KNEW i snooped her facebook and KNEW i was suspicious.
It's possible she just didn't want to be the one to say it... People can be really strange about these things.
Either way, good for you for finally ending it Thankfully you have awesome Flash vs Jaedong finals to sooth the wounds.
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On January 20 2010 23:36 Chef wrote:Show nested quote +So turns out she was fucking her ex-boyfriend. How fucking stupid do you have to be to have a long, detailed conversation with him about it open on your computer when i was using it to order her some take out? After she KNEW i snooped her facebook and KNEW i was suspicious. It's possible she just didn't want to be the one to say it... People can be really strange about these things. Either way, good for you for finally ending it Thankfully you have awesome Flash vs Jaedong finals to sooth the wounds.
http://www.teamliquid.net/forum/viewmessage.php?topic_id=110423
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And that hurts the experience of people who can only watch the VODs anyway how? Unless I'm somehow misinterpreting the situation, the terrible thing about that is that it seems harmful to esports, lots of people won't get to see it live, and the players won't be under as much pressure. Not that we don't get to watch.
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Ok. Just that to me not seeing a big ass crowd at a finals really makes it less awesome.
Anyways, to OP, good for you
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I'm with Chef on this one. I can't watch anything but VOD's, and if they are under less pressure (due to the lack of a visible crowd), it will probably be beneficial to their gameplay.
Unlike other sports, this one cannot be watched directly, you need to watch on a computer screen, meaning it doesn't really matter if the players are playing in vision of the crowd, or not, from the crowd's perspective..... Are they really watching the players, or the game they are playing?
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On January 20 2010 21:28 kOre wrote:I had a similar problem. I told the guys that kept flirting with her that I would slit their throats and ruin their lives. I even tracked one down and threatened him with a knife. Now that the story has gone around, everyone thinks that I'm in a Korean gang and that I'm a psychopath. No guy talks to my girlfriend anymore.
wow you are pathetic, man hahahaha
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