On January 12 2010 16:00 DanceCommander wrote:
confront her. see what she wants. then decide what you want.

edit: also, you are retarded for creeping on her facebook, if shes been ur gf for 2+ years you should trust her, sounds kind of dumb since she really is fooling around with someone else

Obviously he can't trust her if she goes to parties and makes out with random guys....

I say to give her an ultimatum, if she still truly likes you, maybe she will change, if not, then it is a good thing that your relationship would end as soon as possible.

Yogurt

United States4258 Posts

January 12 2010 07:23 GMT

#24

end it she abused your trust and the relationship

Pengu1n

United States552 Posts

January 12 2010 07:24 GMT

#25

I think it was a good idea to creep her facebook and kinda bm to say OP is retarded....and yeah you SHOULD trust a 2+ year gf but not when she has cheated on him in the past and started acting suspicous after passing out drunk at a party. I really hate bitches like this but i love how you can discover the true intentions of any person by logging into their facebook account lolz

Pyrrhuloxia

United States6700 Posts

January 12 2010 07:25 GMT

#26

yeah don't say you were on her FB just say you heard about her hooking up with some guy

ZeroCartin

Costa Rica2390 Posts

January 12 2010 07:26 GMT

#27

if you KNOW she cheated, then why the hell give her an ultimatum?? plus, its the 2nd time ://///

Mickey

United States2606 Posts

January 12 2010 07:27 GMT

#28

I have to agree with everyone. End it and move on. You'll thank yourself years from now when you think back on it.

JohnColtrane

Australia4813 Posts

January 12 2010 07:28 GMT

#29

drop her

vRoOk

United States1024 Posts

January 12 2010 07:31 GMT

#30

On January 12 2010 16:14 JFKWT wrote:

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one of the best replies ever imho.

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and best done when you're also innocent of similar charges =p

LOLOL

but yea..

drop her dude

love1another

United States1844 Posts

January 12 2010 07:32 GMT

#31

The real question is whether you love one another. If you do then I've seen worse...

DanceCommander

United States1808 Posts

January 12 2010 07:33 GMT

#32

On January 12 2010 16:07 Pyrrhuloxia wrote:

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creep on her dude no ones gonna tell you that shit if you think you deserve to know then try to find out you don't wanna get married to someone and then find out they are a cheater. you can't find out if you never try to. live like you've got nothing to hide from your love and lots to hide from the government.

lol woah, slow down, marrige? hahaha im just saying in general, you really really shouldn't invade someones privacy, and it was even more fucked up since she was a girlfriend of 2 years. He already knew about this guy and had all the hints in the world something fucked was going on. But i've been in a similar situation, and all im saying is if you are wrong and she finds out, say goodbye to your relationship as it was

Etherone

United States1898 Posts

January 12 2010 07:40 GMT

#33

loool why should he trust her she has done this before.

end it.

ffswowsucks

Greece2298 Posts

January 12 2010 07:47 GMT

#34

u'r a rogue, just backstab her.

Freaky[x]

Canada995 Posts

January 12 2010 07:56 GMT

#35

Trust me when I say this, it's not cool to be cheated on, but if it happens, you have to first confront her and don't go doing it passively either. If I were you, this is what I would say.

First off I wouldn't even say hi to her, sorry but nobody deserves any respect after cheating like that

"*insert her name here* I heard you did this and that (*name actions here*) with this random person at that party you were at the other day, is this true?" give her 30 seconds to think of a lie...or say the truth w/e "actually I know it's true so don't give me excuses..." "I expect my shit back by let's say tomorrow... you just lost all my respect..."

that's it! by the way, don't give her her shit back until you get yours back. Also, you'll probably feel like shit since you seem to be a lover boy (I know how it is) so have a girl to relieve yourself with (yes a rebound) anyways gl man

Husky

United States3362 Posts

January 12 2010 08:03 GMT

#36

I have a friend who's GF did this same shit. She is going to continue to do it, over, and over, and over again.

Things will be fine for a couple months, but this shit has a way of repeating itself.

If she is too dumb to keep her tongue outside of other guys' mouth she really isn't worth your time IMO.

RHCPgergo

Hungary345 Posts

January 12 2010 08:08 GMT

#37

End it before she ends it. It would be painful if she did that, wouldn't it? She is not in love with you, which would normally be the basis of a long term relationship. (Do you love her?)

qrs

United States3637 Posts

January 12 2010 08:12 GMT

#38

On January 12 2010 16:11 XinRan wrote:

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I agree. The only advice I'll offer is to not let her find out you've been looking at her private messages. If word spreads that you did that, kiss your reputation good-bye.

This, I agree with. It's wrong to abuse someone's trust and that goes for you at least as much as her. As for the relationship, if each of you is going behind the other's back, probably it's time to end it.

chongu

Malaysia2599 Posts

January 12 2010 08:14 GMT

#39

The question you should be asking is: What would I do..... If I were Dr. Phil....... Well, Dr. Phill would probably, 'she's obviously not serious about this and attempted to hide it behind your back, just end it.'