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On March 28 2011 07:45 apm66 wrote:Show nested quote +On March 28 2011 07:35 SkytoM wrote:On March 28 2011 07:33 etheovermind wrote: Talk to her about it. Try to convince her to stop. If that doesn't work, talk about it with your mom and try to get her to act against your sisters bad habit. When your sister is 40 years old and has lung cancer, she will honestly wish you had intervened. This. First personally, then parents. This is a thing that concerns the whole family. If OP tells his parents, that would make him a snitch. Would suck to have a sibling as a snitch Personally I would rather be a snitch than a bad brother. If I started smoking and nobody stopped me because they didn't want to be a snitch, I would be pretty disappointed in them.
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Do not pass up this amazing opportunity at blackmail. You now have a personal slave.
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Your way overeacting, talk to her say that ur concerned but other than that if she wants to continue their is nothing u can do or ur parents for the matter.
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Her parents will probably be able to tell sooner or later. As a moral and caring brother, you should tell your parents but ask them if they can pretend like they smelled it.
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In almost all of Europe the smoking age is 16, and often not enforced, and a lot of young people smoke for a little while. I guess it's not as popular in the US or whatever, but it's really not a big deal imo for a 16 year old girl to experiment for a few weeks. I guess you could talk to her and make sure she knows the risks and shit, but I think you're overreacting a little bit.
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Make her feel extremely guilty by informing her that at a very young age you became terrified that you would die from second hand smoke at the hands of your father and now that she has started you have began to go into a deep depression for fear that those nearest to you will lead to your demise.
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Next time you find her cigarettes, stick each one up your butt and put it back. The cigarette butt will taste like shit, and the smoke itself will smell like ass
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I wouldn't be surprised if your mom knows already, if she told you she's been finding cigarette butts in the sink at which time you probably told her it wasn't you and your dad is away, she can probably put two and two together. Try to understand the reason why she is smoking - at her age it's likely due to her friends smoking or the fact that women tend to use it as a lazy way to lose weight (appetite suppressant).
She could be just experimenting, which is a pretty natural thing so I wouldn't make a big deal out of it unless you suspect that she is smoking regularly. The last thing a teenager likes to be told is that they straight up shouldn't do something, so if you want her to quit I would just subtly hint to her that many guys are put off by girls that smoke.
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On March 28 2011 07:42 TechniQ.UK wrote: 1) She's an adult she has to make this decision for herself ultimately. 2) It's legal in the UK and in most of Europe to smoke at 16. It's just that the U.S. happens to be a bit more conservative. It's not like shes on drugs or doing something actually wrong. 3) Don't tell your parent's.
If you want to try and intervene speak to her but treat her as an adult, don't try and force your opinion down her throat. Ultimately no matter how stupid it is to smoke she needs to make the autonomous decision by herself and she's going to anyway whether you like it or not.
1) 16 is far from being an adult
2) Just because it might be legal somewhere for her age doesn't mean it's not a big deal.
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I know it probably sounds like I'm overreacting... but if you think about it this way you might undestand my concern.
Our father is a pack a day + smoker for most of his life. He cant excercise, he wakes up to caughing fits and has trouble breathing. Doctors say even if he quit smoking tomorrow the damage he's done is enough to reduce his life expectancy by years. Because of his smoking, me and my brother both developed severe asthma and have to take inhalers etc. every day.
I just cant help but be concerned when I see her starting to pick up smoking because I know what it leads to and how it affects the people around you by first hand experience.
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On March 28 2011 07:26 Hakker wrote: I basically found out she was smoking because a few weeks ago she asked me if i could buy a lighter for her, since she's underage, which i told her no. Over the next few days my mom kept finding cigarette butts in the sink, but our father was out on business, so it couldnt be him. Then earlier today I was in the mudroom and found a pack of cigarettes inside her jacket pocket when I was looking for some gum.
Your sister isn't trying to hide her habit at all. Unless your parents are totally oblivious, I think they'll figure this one out in their own time.
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I suggest just mentioning it and asking if she wants to talk about it. Otherwise drop it unless it becomes out of hand and a serious risk to her health. I believe there's still time for her to make the decision to stop before it becomes an addiction.
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she is just experimenting. don't worry about it. everyone including you will have a drinking phase when they turn 21 and they don't become alcoholics.
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umm I thought it was perfectly legal for underage people to smoke in the USA. Just illegal to buy? Was I wrong my whole life?
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If you value your relationship with her, talk to her about it. Ask her why, and if she gives you a reason, just let it be. You can't make choices for her, and you can't force her to stop. It's her health and her body, so let her figure it out.
You're an idiot. If she gives you a reason, help her deal with that situation. Just to let her kill herself with smoking is going to bust not only your relationship with your sister but the entire family. You cannot let her do this to her body. You know that it's wrong, unhealthy and stupid; you can't just sit idly by while she slowly deteriorates herself.
You don't force her to do anything, but you must make any and all efforts to convince her to stop smoking and relieve any stresses that may be causing this.
I'm sorry but all this talk about not doing anything is just retarded. Forget the short-term "shock factor" and think about the long-term! What if your sister becomes a chronic smoker and falls into the same condition as your father?
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On March 28 2011 08:16 Terranist wrote: she is just experimenting. don't worry about it. everyone including you will have a drinking phase when they turn 21 and they don't become alcoholics.
Not quite true. I'm nearly 22 and have never drank more than a sip of wine once. I think beer smells fucking terrible and the wine I tried I thought tasted like tar water.
Also for those that are saying it's her decision alone need to realize that its also a health concern for anybody she constantly smokes around. I can tell you from personal experience that if you have a family member that smokes inside the house it has a high chance of leading to breathing problems and in rare cases even worse. Not to mention the terrible smell your house has along with a 10 ft radius around it. I honestly can't understand how smoking is legal while other drugs with much lesser effects are not.
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On March 28 2011 08:33 ragingfungus wrote:Show nested quote +On March 28 2011 08:16 Terranist wrote: she is just experimenting. don't worry about it. everyone including you will have a drinking phase when they turn 21 and they don't become alcoholics. Not quite true. I'm nearly 22 and have never drank more than a sip of wine once. I think beer smells fucking terrible and the wine I tried I thought tasted like tar water. Also for those that are saying it's her decision alone need to realize that its also a health concern for anybody she constantly smokes around. I can tell you from personal experience that if you have a family member that smokes inside the house it has a high chance of leading to breathing problems and in rare cases even worse. Not to mention the terrible smell your house has along with a 10 ft radius around it. I honestly can't understand how smoking is legal while other drugs with much lesser effects are not.
you need to keep drinking it till you like it
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On March 28 2011 07:47 Leviance wrote: Don't tell your parents, seriously. You would ruin your seemingly very good relationship forever. She's old enough to make her own decisions, I assume she knows smoking isn't too healthy.
There has to be one thing or two that you yourself wouldn't want to be told to your parents, imagine your sis would tell them Wow talk about an exaggeration. Yeah she will probably be pissed for some time but I'm sure she will forget about it. They are siblings after all and I'm sure she doesn't want her brother to smoke even though she is doing it right now.
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All you can do is tell her how big of a mistake she's making. She's going to ignore you, because that's what stupid kids, and more importantly addicted smokers, do best. Your family will never be rid of cigarettes. Control your family's future by making sure that your children avoid the cigarette using members of your family. Do not let them be impressed upon whatsoever if you want them to be healthy. Even with all of this, it's very likely even your children will smoke, because your children are going to be born so biologically willing to accept nicotine.
Fuck cigarettes.
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On March 28 2011 07:37 mahnini wrote: i would smack her upside the head This is the answer, everyone needs a good smacking once in a while.
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