During all these years, he centered his life around her, so when she broke up with him, she left a hole deep down his soul.
Now, even when some time has passed, he is still depressed, and he thinks that he doesn't have any value to offer to a girl anymore... So I'm making this not only to try to cheer him up, but to try to cheer up other people in similar situations.
So, here we go:
My friend, remember that to be happy with someone else, first you need to be happy with yourself.
So, if you think you've got nothing to give, the solution is as simple as to create something.
But even then, you have to realize that you've got a lot to give already: your smile, your life, your experience.
There is only one person who has lived what you have lived, that has learned things they way you have learned them, and has had the life experiences that you have experienced. And that is you.
Everything that you have lived is unique, there isn't anyone who has lived things the same way as you did, and it will never be. What you learned today from work; what you didn't learn. What you have done and what you will do. All of that creates a story. Your story.
Everyone's got a story to tell, and everyone up for a great story to listen to. So, as long as you've got it, and you know how to listen to another one's quest, there will be someone who will be there, waiting to meet you, because she'll want to hear your story, because that's worth it, because you're worth it. Because that is the best thing you can give.
Yours is a great story, and you have learned a lot from it, as you have said, you could write a novel out of it. But you know what is great about a novel? All those little details, all those little stories they contain.
In the end, that part of your life were just a few chapters in a book. In your book. And there are still more to be written, there's still work to be done. And as Hot Bid's twitter biography says: "When in doubt, ask yourself: What would make a better story?" And so, make that decision, because your story goes on, and you are the writer, and trust me when i tell you that there does not exist a greater story, than a true one.
Live your life to make it awesome, you've got time, you've got freedom, you've got life.
So today ask yourself: ¿What is the story you want to tell? ¿What is the story you want to hear? ¿What is the story, that you want to live in?
And then write it. It's that simple; it's that complex. A single long step, that contains smaller ones.
The chapter's over, close it now and look forward to the future. Find happiness within you, then look to share that happiness with others. Never try to find and center your happiness around someone, because that quest is destined to failure. Find yourself, be happy, and share your story with someone. Only then, a new special one will share her story with you, and at that moment, when both's stories merge into one, you will create something even better.
So come on now, the world is waiting for you.