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So my friend whom I know from college, James, subtly set me up on a blind date with one of his childhood friends. I am in Madrid, Spain for a semester studying abroad and so is Chelsea and he kind of introduced us to each other through Facebook. I wanted to wait a couple of days before messaging her, but the next day, she took the initiative to message and add me. I again, was going to wait a couple of days, except that I already read her message and being how creepy Facebook is nowadays, she can see what time I read it. I didn't want her to see that I read the message and ignored it so I messaged her back pretty quickly (too quickly, this all happened within about 1 hour) She kept joking to me that she wasn't a creep and she looks like a nice girl.
Anyway, I've never been on a blind date before but it's kind of exciting and nerve-wrecking. Facebook can be helpful or really useless depending on the situation, but I'm hoping I don't bring up a subject from something I saw on her profile haha. Any experiences with blind dates?
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How is it a blind date if you both already wrote each other and know what the other looks like?
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On October 06 2012 06:40 Sauwelios wrote: How is it a blind date if you both already wrote each other and know what the other looks like?
We wrote very brief messages, one or two lines max just agreeing on meeting up for lunch sometime. Also, just because I know what she looks like does not mean it is not a blind date in my opinion.
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On October 06 2012 06:49 il0seonpurpose wrote: We wrote very brief messages, one or two lines max just agreeing on meeting up for lunch sometime. Also, just because I know what she looks like does not mean it is not a blind date in my opinion. What does the "blind" part of the date mean to you then, if you've both wrote and seen each other?
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why are you stressing out so much on how fast the two of you are responding to messages? jesus. dont read into that unless she takes a ridiculous amount of time to respond or never responds. if you are over thinking at this point I hate to see what your date will be like. just relax.
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On October 06 2012 06:50 divito wrote:Show nested quote +On October 06 2012 06:49 il0seonpurpose wrote: We wrote very brief messages, one or two lines max just agreeing on meeting up for lunch sometime. Also, just because I know what she looks like does not mean it is not a blind date in my opinion. What does the "blind" part of the date mean to you then, if you've both wrote and seen each other?
I was thinking it's "blind" because we don't know each other? Am I wrong in using the term blind date?
On October 06 2012 06:52 AcrossFiveJulys wrote: why are you stressing out so much on how fast the two of you are responding to messages? jesus. dont read into that unless she takes a ridiculous amount of time to respond or never responds. if you are over thinking at this point I hate to see what your date will be like. just relax.
I'm not stressing over it, I just thought I responded way too fast but I don't mind it anymore. I'll be fine
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On October 06 2012 06:56 il0seonpurpose wrote: I was thinking it's "blind" because we don't know each other? Am I wrong in using the term blind date? Blind date is typically used when you're setup with someone that you haven't spoken to or seen. You've already seen what they look like, and had a conversation, albeit unrevealing. I would think that would eliminate the aspects of it being a blind date.
Semantics aside, I've personally not been on a blind date, but I wish you luck :D Just relax and be yourself.
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Yeah, just try and be relaxed. Don't think of it as a date. Think of it as a chance to meet a new friend.
If you're nervous, then you can understand how she is probably also nervous. Your most important task if you want to be able to see her again is to make sure that she relaxes.
How would you behave if you were just hanging out with a female friend? Do that.
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Just be calm . She seems like a nice-enough girl. The thing you have to know about before you go into a blind date (forgive me if this makes little sense, I'm really headsick right now and I feel like i'll pass out lol) is that its not torture to be there. If you treat it as such neither of you will have much fun. Be cordial, nice, and most of all not an enormous anxiety ridden perfectionist. If you let the conversation flow, keep it light and be semi-charismatic you will have an easy time.
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On October 06 2012 06:40 Sauwelios wrote: How is it a blind date if you both already wrote each other and know what the other looks like?
You mean to tell me youve never met a girl whos more attractive on facebook then in real life?
Never been on a blind date, sure it would be interesting though, best of luck good sir!
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Also, if you're at least a semi-competent conversationalist, make sure you don't take her to a movie.
I'd recommend meeting for a coffee/tea or whatever you drink and chat. I'd suggest a somewhat busy coffee shop with comfortable seats and nice 'expensive' drinks like a Starbucks. Know what you want before you get to the counter and when you get there, let her put her order in first and then add yours. Pay for the drinks. If she attempts to 'argue' about splitting the bill, tell her she can get the coffees the next time.
Sit down, enjoy yourself. Report back.
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"She kept joking to me that she wasn't a creep and she looks like a nice girl."
I think the meaning behind this is that she prob has spoken to your mutual friend about finding a guy but no girl wants to be perceived as desperate. Also if you are fds on facebook it is almost certain she has stalked you beforehand - so nope it aint a conventional blind date!
Good luck, and most importantly, have fun.
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GL HF I hope it works out for both of you!
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A tip.
Writing down a list of (light-hearted) conversation topics on your phone. When you don't know someone very well and both parties are nervous, it's common for those dreaded awkward pauses to occur. Better to have an idea of what you can talk about in advance than trying to think of something to say on the spot while nervous.
Other than that, a blind date is exactly like every other date. Be interesting, fun, well-dressed and socially able.
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Be as phony as possible, because that's all set-ups/blind dates end up being haha
Or maybe it will lead to boning, but no real connection otherwise.
Well, hopefully it will be amusing for you.
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This is why I love the TL community, thank you guys!
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