Agreed, you do have a real cute smile. I think if you sit there, smile, get someone started, and just smile/look interested, you won't have to say too much.

Armand Tamzarian

Oman74 Posts

December 01 2005 09:58 GMT

#142

do drugs

QuietIdiot

7004 Posts

December 01 2005 10:02 GMT

#143

drugs and sex will only corrupt and make a person ugly

Smile + basic talk(Hi, my name is, how are you doing, etc) + cuteness = Pwnage

Chibi[OWNS]

United Kingdom10597 Posts

December 01 2005 10:09 GMT

#144

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Chibi[OWNS]

United Kingdom10597 Posts

December 01 2005 10:15 GMT

#145

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mnm

United States4493 Posts

December 01 2005 10:21 GMT

#146

i think im gonna give up on the humor bit.. im not one least bit funny

Chibi[OWNS]

United Kingdom10597 Posts

December 01 2005 10:23 GMT

#147

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TruthBringer

United States578 Posts

December 01 2005 10:24 GMT

#148

How condescending . . . just smile, prettyface, no one cares what you have to say, just smile . . . haha.

As for "2nd conversation" topics, figure out what the person does with their free time. "What did you do this weekend?" "Any plans tonight?" See if they are like-minded person with you, ask about a favorite TV show, "hey have you ever gone [insert your interest]" paintballing, surfing, etc. If you want to be this person's friend, eventually you will probably want to do something to hang out with them. "My boyfriend and I are going hiking this weekend, would you like to come with?" Anything. In the United States, I strike out so often when I ask people if they are into soccer, but I keep asking anyways.

mnm

United States4493 Posts

December 01 2005 10:27 GMT

#149

how does one get into soccer? do you ask your friends to go kicking it when you want to play.. or do you bring your soccer ball to some wall n kick it there? do you just go to some random field or is there a soccer field at your school where you could just play any time? or are you in a team?

there was this one time i was talking to this guy and he even told me it started sounding like an interview cuz i would just ask him random questions o.O

TruthBringer

United States578 Posts

December 01 2005 10:29 GMT

#150

Sometimes I just run around kicking a soccer ball at a soccer field . . . eventually other people show up. But mostly, I get a group of at least 6 so we can play 3v3 or I just get some friends and then go where I know I can find opponents. It helps to be at a University with international students though . . .

TruthBringer

United States578 Posts

December 01 2005 10:30 GMT

#151

If you ask your questions one at a time it seems less like an interview

lIlIlIlIlIlI

Korea (South)3851 Posts

December 01 2005 12:57 GMT

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FroST(TE)

United States909 Posts

December 01 2005 14:44 GMT

#153

On December 01 2005 14:12 brite wrote:

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where the fuck did you hear that??

its the idea that shyness is genetic. if you have what they call the shyness gene you will be unable to fall flat on your nose willingly as well -_-

OhThatDang

United States4685 Posts

December 01 2005 14:48 GMT

#154

hmm i still have troublez like mnm does T_T
if i start the convo i hope they would continue and i just respond but most of the times they dont..so its quiet until i get something going again
mainly cuz i dont wanna soun like an idiot/look like one by doing something i usually do?

OhThatDang

United States4685 Posts

December 01 2005 14:51 GMT

#155

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United States909 Posts

December 01 2005 14:55 GMT

#156

i think essentially everything manablue said was right. i doubt your problem has to do with you not being able to think of anything to say. im sure you can talk with your friends for hours upon hours if you wanted. talking with strangers or aquaintances is little different. everybody stands on some kind of common ground. its not very hard to start a conversation with a stranger after you've done it enough times.

Ready2[ESC]

Hungary1436 Posts

December 01 2005 16:56 GMT

#157

uhm if you cant remember names well or remember storys it means you havent used your memory in a while. (outside of trivial things)
studying makes your mind sharp.
try doing some memory games once in a while or try to memorize short poems regulary. you would be suprised how this can help your memory and your ability to focus.

btw it seems clear that your main problem is that your not knowledgeable, you dont know a thing outside the bw world. you need to be aware of the world around you to be able to have a conversation that is more than your average "hi whats your hobby". you should watch news channels, read books, read newspapers and basically have an open mind for things.
you should also try new things out once in a while so atleast you can have an opinion about them. you dont need to be good in anything just have something to say about them.

if something comes up in a conversation and you dont know about it, try to ask quesitons and try to understand it, try to relate to things you know.
you can make friends fast if your a good listener. what makes a good listener? noding at the right moment, agreeing from time to time, smiling and basically trying to look interested.
you dont even have to talk a lot just need to be able to listen. (of course its better if you can contribute to the conversation but you need to know about the subject to do so

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btw I too agree that if your a semi decent looking woman then you can start conversations more easily (doesnt help in keeping them alive though)