EPTHelp the shy quiet antisocial introvert...
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mnm
United States4493 Posts
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mitsy
United States1792 Posts
edit: no, seriously. shyness is not your essence. it's a symptom. and you're looking for a perscription to relieve it. but when it comes to personality, it's up to your own interpretation of yourself and others--first you must admit those to yourself in their fullest terms, then be open to argument about how others see those differently. even if you commit to practicing others' interpretations wholeheartedly, thereby being "less shy," it takes more time than most people realize. you are experienced when it comes to being shy. to put it in terms you'll understand: you are gosu at it. if you switch races, you will be noob. and you'll want to fall back on your shy-related patterns, (interpretations, coping mechanisms, etc.) so you must slowly build up a whole new way of dealing with things, seeing things, and so on. it takes TIME, more than people are willing to accept. you must accept gradual changes as a goal, meaning 4-6 weeks of TRYING something before really seeing how it pans out--small things, like telling yourself to think X Y Z about people instead of your old A B C. and these are the kinsd of things that are hard to stick to and easy to forget (easy to relapse!) now that you understand everything... i have shown you the path. but knowing the path is very different from walking the path. i can bring you to the door but only you can go through it. become gosu random player! | ||
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1hp
Korea (South)903 Posts
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[X]Ken_D
United States4650 Posts
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mitsy
United States1792 Posts
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YoUr_KiLLeR
United States3420 Posts
edit: but then again, i dont know you very well at all | ||
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lIlIlIlIlIlI
Korea (South)3851 Posts
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mitsy
United States1792 Posts
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GeeyoUkNIT
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if your at a party, never do that "find something to do so you can look busy and not talk to anyone" push yourself to come out of that comfort zone and try to talk about things that both of you can agree instead of debating, i read about that before and makes connections a lot better. | ||
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skyglow1
New Zealand3962 Posts
On November 30 2005 22:15 randomKo_Orean wrote: are you joking? dont be quiet, reach out no guys or girls will refuse if you start a friendly convo with them (About anything) Friendly convo of starcraft = no re skyglow1 | ||
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collegeBored
United States1524 Posts
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collegeBored
United States1524 Posts
On November 30 2005 22:18 GeeyoUkNIT wrote: if your at a party, never do that "find something to do so you can look busy and not talk to anyone" push yourself to come out of that comfort zone and try to talk about things that both of you can agree instead of debating, i read about that before and makes connections a lot better. i disagree, i think arguements make the best conversations, if both people can be mature about it. if you pick something u both agree on it just ends up with -hi -hi -i think [blah] -yup -.... if you have different opinions on something it makes it easier to talk about it and express your own oh and of course a good motto to live by is "life of lively to live to life of full life thx to shield battery" | ||
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HeadBangaa
United States6512 Posts
On November 30 2005 22:18 GeeyoUkNIT wrote: You hella sound like you're from Nor Callol I was HELLA shy back in the days, but i moved up like hella, and now act as if im hyper or something. took me about 7 years though. some things to do are, keep your head up (omg i never wanna talk to people walking with their heads down), smile -exercise those muscles, keep eye contact, if your in talking distance from an other person and their not talking to anyone talk to them! if your at a party, never do that "find something to do so you can look busy and not talk to anyone" push yourself to come out of that comfort zone and try to talk about things that both of you can agree instead of debating, i read about that before and makes connections a lot better. EDIT: Original poster, you're one of our rare female members, right? I always confuse you with mrmin or whoever, names look kinda similar. I met a helluva lotta great people at work. Half of my best friends are coworkers. | ||
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OhThatDang
United States4685 Posts
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lIlIlIlIlIlI
Korea (South)3851 Posts
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mitsy
United States1792 Posts
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lIlIlIlIlIlI
Korea (South)3851 Posts
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lastprobeALIVE
United States974 Posts
 edit: start to party A LOT | ||
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lIlIlIlIlIlI
Korea (South)3851 Posts
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mitsy
United States1792 Posts
one thing i am thinking of is how likable girls can be to many many guys very easily. sincere simling, confidence, aggressiveness, proximity can go a LONG way. so it depends what u mean by shyness. if you want some shallow bitches to like you, then you, well, have to make them feel good about themselves and use you probably. most girls who can't be popular and think they're all high and mighty would do the same thing if they had the opportunity/skills. non-bitches are rare, and they're sitll kinda bitchy if you ask me. most guys are bitches too. in fact, most species are bitches. except sloths. they fucking rock. | ||
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