EPTHelp the shy quiet antisocial introvert... - Page 4
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logitech
Canada230 Posts
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8882
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On November 30 2005 22:05 mnm wrote: im too quiet and shy. i need help. how do i talk more? how do i make friends? outside of the bw setting i mean.. as far as I remember you were the chick that posted her photo on blizzforums and like 50 guys started to follow you on sctactics.com just go to a fucking club and dont reject the people who will start talking to you actually you can go anywhere, even school; if you're a semi hot chick without the "hi!" "fuck off" attitude, you should find someone fast problem solved. | ||
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DV8
United States1623 Posts
On November 30 2005 22:07 mitsy wrote: want a build order? edit: no, seriously. shyness is not your essence. it's a symptom. and you're looking for a perscription to relieve it. but when it comes to personality, it's up to your own interpretation of yourself and others--first you must admit those to yourself in their fullest terms, then be open to argument about how others see those differently. even if you commit to practicing others' interpretations wholeheartedly, thereby being "less shy," it takes more time than most people realize. you are experienced when it comes to being shy. to put it in terms you'll understand: you are gosu at it. if you switch races, you will be noob. and you'll want to fall back on your shy-related patterns, (interpretations, coping mechanisms, etc.) so you must slowly build up a whole new way of dealing with things, seeing things, and so on. it takes TIME, more than people are willing to accept. you must accept gradual changes as a goal, meaning 4-6 weeks of TRYING something before really seeing how it pans out--small things, like telling yourself to think X Y Z about people instead of your old A B C. and these are the kinsd of things that are hard to stick to and easy to forget (easy to relapse!) now that you understand everything... i have shown you the path. but knowing the path is very different from walking the path. i can bring you to the door but only you can go through it. become gosu random player! You can do all that, or get wasted one night and become the life of the party. | ||
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Passion
Netherlands1486 Posts
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United States7081 Posts
Now I know that sounds stupid, but it's true. Imagine doing a math problem. The first time you do it, it could take you a long time. Or you might not even figure it out. But after do similar problems repeatedly you'll make the moves which stumped you automatically. The same is for conversation. Now if you were a social little kid then you've had a lot of practice, and you'll be able to keep a conversation going well. If you weren't, you'll be stuck nodding and looking at the clock or whatever. Just make it your goal to keep a conversation interesting as long as possilble (while being able to take a hint of when to stop). | ||
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88)WhyYouKickMyDog
United States608 Posts
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Guam3521 Posts
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mnm
United States4493 Posts
i have no interest in meeting strangers in random settings. i do tend to stare at the floor when i walk around the city. i don't like it when strangers talk to me when im walking to and from work or when i'm riding the train or bus. the only settings im comfortable with are bw events.. especially when i know a bunch of people already and im actually a lot more sociable in that setting.. and clubs.. cuz i like dancing.. but i may become extremely rude to persistent men who wont leave me alone.. or women who just dance too close by.. my boyfriend is not a ganster. i do not live in south california. i do have problems talking to girls.. and/or people in general who don't play bw.. usually conversation goes along the lines of.. "what do you do for fun".. i would say i play video games.. and they would say something else and then silence.. i also have a very short attention span.. if the person im talking to doesn't interest me right away and/or doesnt play video games and/or doesn't know what ubisoft is.. then i tend not to ask as many questions about them.. usually because i don't know what else to talk about.. i may possibly have that "hi. fuck off." expression many times.. im not sure though.. i tend to not pay attention to people as much as i probably should. i think keeping eye contact with someone (usually of the opposite gender) for too long without having anything to say might give them the wrong message. i don't drink. | ||
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poor newb
United States1879 Posts
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Hot_Bid
Braavos36402 Posts
anyway making conversation should never be a chore and is something that is developed. you may be just expecting too much out of people, there's no way they'd know even a fraction of what you do about something you're passionate about like video games. but seriously, if that's all you're willing to talk about, you might as well stick to bw and video gaming events. if you're unwilling to have other interests/be passionate about other stuff/be well rounded then of course others are going to seem boring. hell, you probably seem really boring to them as well, if all you want to talk about is gaming. i'd advise just getting more interests and not be so limited in your hobbies. remember, it's a lot easier for you to meet people because a) you're female and b) you're attractive. basically you're going to get friends whichever new thing you try. | ||
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LetMeBeWithYou
Canada4254 Posts
On November 30 2005 22:05 mnm wrote: how do i make friends? Oh man | ||
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mnm
United States4493 Posts
note.. this is just a side thought i had.. not really a humungous rpf-level problem.. i can deal with being the way i am now.. but i do appreciate the advice.. just for the sake of self improvement | ||
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WGT)Dknight
United States114 Posts
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lil.sis
China4650 Posts
i haven't read any replies you are antisocial because you like to be | ||
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lil.sis
China4650 Posts
strengthen the few friendships you already have instead of wasting energy looking for new superficial conversation mates those types of relationships probably don't satisfy you | ||
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brite
United Kingdom253 Posts
On December 01 2005 12:28 mnm wrote: and/or people in general who don't play bw.. well tbh you should get yourself a different hobby. only playing video games is perhaps not the easiest way to get to talk to people/get nw friends. | ||
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decafchicken
United States20168 Posts
1) Too picky combined with not meeting the right people 2) Aren't trying to be social/want to be anti social like lil.sis said 3) Just flat out ARENT a social person in general. You're just not made to be a little social butterfly. Nothing wrong with that, it's just the way you might be. | ||
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FroST(TE)
United States909 Posts
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CorporalClegg
United States52 Posts
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Hot_Bid
Braavos36402 Posts
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