EPTHelp the shy quiet antisocial introvert... - Page 12
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ahk-gosu
Korea (South)2099 Posts
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mitsy
United States1792 Posts
On December 15 2005 09:38 mnm wrote: I think that ladder thing is bs.. but perhaps only bec it doesn't apply to me.. i hope you guys dont think they meant it to be taken seriously.. o.Oa what girls think of what they do and what they do are pretty different things, i've found | ||
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CoralReefer
Canada2069 Posts
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mnm
United States4493 Posts
On December 15 2005 09:48 mitsy wrote: what girls think of what they do and what they do are pretty different things, i've found str_replace("girls", | ||
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mnm
United States4493 Posts
On December 15 2005 10:43 ml1710 wrote: so mnm, have you made any progress yet ? i made one female friend.. i think.. i went shopping with her and she got me a dress for my company Christmas party. everyone loved the dress ^^. um.. i still stare at the floor when i walk though.. and i even keep my hood on so u can barely see my eyes.. but i dont care much for interaction with random strangers in the street anyway. i think i can hold 1v1 conversations in gatherings/party settings.. but my 1v1 is inconsistent.. sometimes i do well, sometimes i perform poorly. my team game needs some work though but i guess theres less pressure for me to talk during that circumstance.. i jus end up staying in the background n laughing.. hmm.. in clubs the situation is very awkward.. i dont think that is a good place to make friends at all. | ||
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IronMentality
United States1129 Posts
That would just seem weird to me in a climate where it's 70 degrees and sunny everyday. | ||
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mnm
United States4493 Posts
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XaI)CyRiC
United States4471 Posts
I am naturally quite shy, but have learned to get over it. One thing that helped me a lot in terms of talking to people I don't know was working at the front desk of my dad's business. On one hand, I built friendships with my co-workers, and, on the other, I was forced to talk to strangers everyday because it was my job. When it comes to shyness, you really have to find a way to force yourself to come out of your shell because it's too easy to default back to your anti-social tendencies. It also helps to have friends who will support and help you, it's easier to put yourself out there when you have people you are comfortable with around. Clubs and bars are not ideal places for shy people for a variety of reasons, unless you plan on following the very popular method of using alcohol to overcome your shyness. If you're looking to meet new people, the best way is to meet them through existing friends. There's an initial filter that makes it more likely that you'll have something in common with the new people, and you'll have your friend to help introduce you and make you comfortable in the setting. When it comes to actual interaction, it just comes down to finding something you and the other person can talk about. Whether it's something you agree upon or something you can have a friendly debate about, just something that interests both parties. Smiling and not looking at the floor or ceiling can help to make the other person think you're interested in your interaction. Don't think that helps much, but just my two cents. Oh, and So Cal IS much better than No Cal in terms of warmer weather, although both are probably better as compared to other areas. As any other TL.netter would, I would be glad to meet up and hang out if you ever drive into the LA area. You have a network already in place to begin meeting people and being more social. With TL.net you have friends waiting for you in almost every part of the world, may as well take advantage of it  | ||
RaGe
Belgium9949 Posts
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mnm
United States4493 Posts
working in a place where u have to talk to strangers as part of your job doesn't help. i've done that. i worked in a computer lab as a computer consultant/assistant/student computer consulting services.. its completely different because its not like you try to engage yourself in conversation with them.. you aren't trying to find topics to talk about bec u already have that ("whats the problem with your computer" ).. it doesn't really help social skills much. | ||
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Tycho
Netherlands351 Posts
others will notice your own confidence and your 'being happy with yourself' in all the random conversation --> and they will contribute more to the conversation --> you will have more to talk about --> you'll find out that conversation isn't something you 'try' , it just flows from the basic stuff, almost every conversation starts 'randomly' : just either start talking a bit about urself or / and the other person or / and the things around you confidently ! i guess what i just said is body language helps (don't TRY being confident, BE confident) | ||
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Resse
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mnm
United States4493 Posts
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Sadist
United States7291 Posts
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collegeBored
United States1524 Posts
On December 15 2005 09:38 mnm wrote: I think that ladder thing is bs.. but perhaps only bec it doesn't apply to me.. i hope you guys dont think they meant it to be taken seriously.. o.Oa would u mind explaining how that doesn't apply to you lol to quote the "bible": ask yourself this question: If you were both alone at his place one night, and you excused yourself to the bathroom and came out naked and asked him to have sex with you would he? as for whether or not it was meant to be taken seriously, again, to quote him: "nothing is JUST satire", so while there are obviously exceptions to every rule, the theory still holds true to extreme majority of occasions | ||
ManaBlue
Canada10458 Posts
On December 12 2005 23:08 FakeSteve[TPR] wrote: a derp a doop uh tiddly tum de doop And he's about to find out...that being 8, ain't so great. Rob Schnider is...Kenny. On December 15 2005 09:38 mnm wrote: I think that ladder thing is bs.. but perhaps only bec it doesn't apply to me.. i hope you guys dont think they meant it to be taken seriously.. o.Oa Obviously you feel that way. All girls do, that's the point. It's actually written into the ladder if you read it. | ||
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funkie
Venezuela9376 Posts
On November 30 2005 22:07 mitsy wrote: want a build order? Holy fucking shit, I laughed at this like 3 mins in a row today, omfg ! ! >.<!! Gettin' into the topic, I was like you, and I still am, but there are "rare" times when I drop my shyness somewhere, and I became soo relaxed with everything, I mean at parties I usually am A shy guy who just talks with their friends, recently, I went to this party, and I think I forgot about my shyness and I was all cool and relaxed, and was fucking amazingly funny with everyone, even with the people I do not even know. I think that way is cooler and it is better for you, cuz you learn that you have to be yourself, instead of being all inside yourself and not talking to others. | ||
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CuddlyCuteKitten
Sweden2649 Posts
 I wouldn't really know though, I'm extremly extroverted so when I feel stressed out and insecure I tend to find people to talk to as a comfort (I'm probably quite annoying). So I have no real problem talking to random people except the standard Swedish Problem. (You Americans start talking to strangers about the weirdest things... And also in situations where I just go wtf? like on public transports and in resturants and stuff like that.) | ||
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mnm
United States4493 Posts
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mitsy
United States1792 Posts
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