On December 01 2005 13:51 FroST(TE) wrote:
i once read somewhere that if you cant stand on your knees and allow yourself to fall straight on your nose you'll never be not shy

Well yeah, if you can do that, people are going to ask you how you broke your nose.

Edit: OMG. You just said it wasn't an rpfish problem. AHHAAHAHAAHAHA.

TruthBringer

United States578 Posts

December 01 2005 08:57 GMT

#122

I guess I have more sympathy, for mnm because I don't necessarily think that it's a lack of wanting to be more social it's somewhat out of her control. Similar to her short attention span, I have something of a hearing problem. It has caused me to be shy in the past because when I would talk to people I wouldn't know what they were saying or I would have to ask them to repeat themselves. Sometimes I just laugh or smile and nod my head because I hear so poorly.

I am not even deaf or partially deaf, I just have difficulty listening even when I really want to.

mnm

United States4493 Posts

December 01 2005 08:58 GMT

#123

i like it when ppl come up to me and they seem genuinely interested in me and they want to learn more about my interests and such.. i would like the ability to do the same.. i know deep inside each person.. there is a part of him or her that would interest me.. but i dont know how to dig to find that.. and it does take effort to do that.. thats why its so much easier to hang around ppl u already know and are already friends with.. it takes effort to get to know someone.. and with introverts it doesnt come easily.. i know each situation is diff tho.. i cant get one build order that will work for every person because every map and matchup is differrent.. and the situations change not only per person but also per game.. its alsoa problem i have in bw.. learning to come up with the right strategies throughout the game and adapting along the way

Chibi[OWNS]

United Kingdom10597 Posts

December 01 2005 08:59 GMT

#124

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mnm

United States4493 Posts

December 01 2005 09:00 GMT

#125

On December 01 2005 17:57 TruthBringer wrote:
Similar to her short attention span, I have something of a hearing problem. It has caused me to be shy in the past because when I would talk to people I wouldn't know what they were saying or I would have to ask them to repeat themselves. Sometimes I just laugh or smile and nod my head because I hear so poorly.

I am not even deaf or partially deaf, I just have difficulty listening even when I really want to.

hey me too o.O

TruthBringer

United States578 Posts

December 01 2005 09:00 GMT

#126

Well in the BW analysis then, practice, practice, practice.

ManaBlue

Canada10458 Posts

December 01 2005 09:04 GMT

#127

No, it doesn't. I never said there is a shiny golden nugget of goodness in every person. Am I from fairy land? Truth is, you won't like most people. Half or them are assholes and another chunk will seem weird to you. You can't and shouldn't be everyone's friend. After a 5 minute conversation you can tell if a person is someone that would interest you, so be discriminating. I coulda met 20 people at that party you were at and I might've cared enough to talk to a couple of them for more than the time it takes to finish my beer. So is life.

As for the "it takes too much effort to meet someone new" thing, I must restate my original point. You obviously don't give a shit about meeting people.

As for the rest of this, I'm not trying to be an asshole, but seriously I couldn't help but laugh.

i know each situation is diff tho.. i cant get one build order that will work for every person because every map and matchup is differrent.. and the situations change not only per person but also per game.. its alsoa problem i have in bw.. learning to come up with the right strategies throughout the game and adapting along the way

mnm

United States4493 Posts

December 01 2005 09:08 GMT

#128

ah yea ok but i wanna give a shit
-_-a

TruthBringer

United States578 Posts

December 01 2005 09:08 GMT

#129

Manablue, you seem to have a very cynical worldview. Do you really think that you would hate many people if you truly understood them? I do not. People are to some extent a product of their circumstances. I don't really think most people are assholes. I think they try to be good and do the best that they can.

cava

United States1035 Posts

December 01 2005 09:16 GMT

#130

mnm everything you have said about yourself actually sounds a lot like myself. What I find helpful is just put yourself out there. Even if its stupid say anything to initiate a conversation and things can spawn off the most random of topics. And hey if you ever need anyone to talk to you there's me right here ^^

lIlIlIlIlIlI

Korea (South)3851 Posts

December 01 2005 09:18 GMT

#131

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ManaBlue

Canada10458 Posts

December 01 2005 09:18 GMT

#132

Ok ok ok TB, let's not get into a philosophical debate now. I was exaggerating to drive home the point that I didn't suggest she be everyone's friend. You gonna debate the validity of me living in fairy land too?

For the record though, I would say there are many assholes out there. Maybe you've just had a string of good luck.

mnm, I'm not trying to come down on you here. I just saw this turning into a pity fest and wanted to bring you something useful. If you care, talk, that's it. You should be having fun. Socializing with people shouldn't feel like work.

StarN

United States2587 Posts

December 01 2005 09:18 GMT

#133

it's a slow process. just put yourself in situations where you hang around people alot more and you'll slowly become less antisocial. (just a thought)

mnm

United States4493 Posts

December 01 2005 09:21 GMT

#134

im not looking for pity

TruthBringer

United States578 Posts

December 01 2005 09:22 GMT

#135

I concur with StarN and ManaBlue, particularly, "Socializing with people shouldn't feel like work." Talk about stuff that you care about.

ManaBlue

Canada10458 Posts

December 01 2005 09:24 GMT

#136

On December 01 2005 18:21 mnm wrote:
im not looking for pity

I never said you did.

Good luck, I'm out.

mnm

United States4493 Posts

December 01 2005 09:25 GMT

#137

hffffffffffff

Chibi[OWNS]

United Kingdom10597 Posts

December 01 2005 09:42 GMT

#138

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CorporalClegg

United States52 Posts

December 01 2005 09:52 GMT

#139

On December 01 2005 17:58 mnm wrote:
i like it when ppl come up to me and they seem genuinely interested in me and they want to learn more about my interests and such.. i would like the ability to do the same.. i know deep inside each person.. there is a part of him or her that would interest me.. but i dont know how to dig to find that.. and it does take effort to do that.. thats why its so much easier to hang around ppl u already know and are already friends with.. it takes effort to get to know someone.. and with introverts it doesnt come easily.. i know each situation is diff tho.. i cant get one build order that will work for every person because every map and matchup is differrent.. and the situations change not only per person but also per game.. its alsoa problem i have in bw.. learning to come up with the right strategies throughout the game and adapting along the way

Best way is to just ask the person some basic questions to start off the conversation with a random person. This, usually, leads to conversations you never could have expected.

mnm

United States4493 Posts

December 01 2005 09:54 GMT

#140

what r basic question conversation starters/continuers? i got the hi whats your name thing down.. how are you for the 2nd meetings.. but then what next?