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We are extremely close to shutting down this thread for the same reasons the PUA thread was shut down. While some of the time this thread contains actual discussion with people asking help and people giving nice advice, it often gets derailed by rubbish that should not be here. The moderation team will be trying to steer this thread in a different direction from now on. Posts of the following nature are banned: 1) ANYTHING regarding PUA. If your post contains the words 'alpha' or 'beta' or anything of that sort please don't hit post. 2) Stupid brags. You can tell us about your nice success stories with someone, but posts such as 'lol 50 Tinder matches' are a no-no. 3) Any misogynistic bullshit, including discussion about rape culture. 4) One night stands and random sex. These are basically brags that invariably devolve into gender role discussions and misogynistic comments. Last chance, guys. This thread is for dating advice and sharing dating stories. While gender roles, sociocultural norms, and our biological imperative to reproduce are all tangentially related, these subjects are not the main purpose of the thread. Please AVOID these discussions. If you want to discuss them at length, go to PMs or start a blog. If you disagree with someone's ideologies, state that you disagree with them and why they won't work from a dating standpoint and move on. We will not tolerate any lengthy derailments that aren't directly about dating. | ||
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irenerheflin
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bloodwhore~
1010 Posts
On March 03 2017 08:25 jojamon wrote: An update from my end. Did end up doing it with my girlfriend when she had her cycle, but there was very minimal red blood cells. Used protection. First time PIV felt...underwhelming? The oral she gave me was great though. She told me not to give her any oral because she's afraid I'll find it disgusting. Anyway, one week later we found a chance to do it again. The 2nd time was much better, I watched the Nina Hartley vid on how to eat a girl out, and utilized the technique. She enjoyed it a lot, could tell by the way she moved her pelvis and her moans. I couldn't finish though...I had to finish off myself by hand, and she helped me out by kissing me all over while I was fapping away (as a history, I'm not circumsized, and I always fap without lube, and I guess I do grip my dick pretty hard). I think I suffer from deathgrip...whenever I fapped, I always used the same technique and style. Need to NoFap for like a month (or maybe longer) until my little buddy is extremely sensitive, then I think that'll be a better experience for the both of us the next time. Awesome! Yeah fapping too much is never good, I should probably ease down on my fapping as well... | ||
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Sunjino
United States37 Posts
On March 03 2017 08:01 B.I.G. wrote: Why did you suddenly start becoming insecure Sunjino? There must have been something that changed in your life or between you two that triggered these feelings. Met at a boba shop, when i quit to move onto my current job she stayed and surrounded herself with the folks there. It became a constant battle of her bringing up interests in individuals there and me taking it personally. Sounds childish but thats how i handled things back then. Self reflecting onto myself coming into 2017, I thought I would be ready to handle things better but like the other two post suggested i think its really is a good idea to move on. I love her but i guess its a process that all of us have to take when we move on from our past significant others. | ||
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B.I.G.
3251 Posts
Yup, I yet again found a girl that likes age gaps. I've started this age difference discussion here earlier and some interesting theories/points of view were mentioned, but the thing that surprises me now is that I always seem to be the exception to these girls - every dude they've been with before (and historically, after) was like 10 years older than me. And that while I don't think there are many people who would consider me to be particularly mature.. Regardless, so far this little thing we have seems to have the potential to be the first healthy with future potential dating experience I've ever had. It's a bit tough sometimes to not relate anything to past negative experiences but I'm wise enough to not burden this girl with baggage from my past (likewise for her). Could it be I actually managed to find an emotionally healthy - non manipulative girl here? | ||
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bloodwhore~
1010 Posts
On March 10 2017 08:34 B.I.G. wrote: "All my friends think you're so young." Said the more than two years younger girl I've been seeing for the past two months after I mentioned that sometimes it was fun when my friend's younger brother and co. joined our little gang for a night out and she opened up a bit about how the other dudes she dated were usually 10 to 15 years older than her. Yup, I yet again found a girl that likes age gaps. I've started this age difference discussion here earlier and some interesting theories/points of view were mentioned, but the thing that surprises me now is that I always seem to be the exception to these girls - every dude they've been with before (and historically, after) was like 10 years older than me. And that while I don't think there are many people who would consider me to be particularly mature.. Regardless, so far this little thing we have seems to have the potential to be the first healthy with future potential dating experience I've ever had. It's a bit tough sometimes to not relate anything to past negative experiences but I'm wise enough to not burden this girl with baggage from my past (likewise for her). Could it be I actually managed to find an emotionally healthy - non manipulative girl here? This was all pretty unclear to me... So the reason you think she is emotionally healthy is because she likes age gaps? Either way, it is hard to say anything about her being non manipulative from what you said here. And why does everyone here seem to find so many fucked up women? | ||
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killa_robot
Canada1884 Posts
On March 10 2017 08:34 B.I.G. wrote: "All my friends think you're so young." Said the more than two years younger girl I've been seeing for the past two months after I mentioned that sometimes it was fun when my friend's younger brother and co. joined our little gang for a night out and she opened up a bit about how the other dudes she dated were usually 10 to 15 years older than her. Yup, I yet again found a girl that likes age gaps. I've started this age difference discussion here earlier and some interesting theories/points of view were mentioned, but the thing that surprises me now is that I always seem to be the exception to these girls - every dude they've been with before (and historically, after) was like 10 years older than me. And that while I don't think there are many people who would consider me to be particularly mature.. Regardless, so far this little thing we have seems to have the potential to be the first healthy with future potential dating experience I've ever had. It's a bit tough sometimes to not relate anything to past negative experiences but I'm wise enough to not burden this girl with baggage from my past (likewise for her). Could it be I actually managed to find an emotionally healthy - non manipulative girl here? More likely you found a girl with daddy issues and you're now her daddy. | ||
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LegalLord
United States13779 Posts
On March 11 2017 02:50 bloodwhore~ wrote: And why does everyone here seem to find so many fucked up women? How much fun is it to talk about normal, stable women? | ||
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evilfatsh1t
Australia8865 Posts
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WarSame
Canada1950 Posts
 I was always worried how I would do in a relationship because I don't match up with a lot of people well, but we mesh really well. She's great  | ||
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bloodwhore~
1010 Posts
On March 11 2017 04:51 LegalLord wrote: How much fun is it to talk about normal, stable women? You make a good point On March 11 2017 12:58 evilfatsh1t wrote: this thread could use a proper success story for once Someone here is in a relationship after the amazing advice given in this thread... right? | ||
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Artisreal
Germany9235 Posts
You could call that a success story though Regarding normal, stable women, I think it's really important to reflect what it is you're searching in your partner. I do support my gf quite often while she sometimes struggles doing so for me. But life is progress, developing and going through hard times together forms strong bonds and alot of confidence in one another. | ||
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evilfatsh1t
Australia8865 Posts
On March 11 2017 17:20 bloodwhore~ wrote: You make a good point Someone here is in a relationship after the amazing advice given in this thread... right? well i think thats the saddest part. i dont remember the last time a tl user has come back to this thread after taking advice from users here and saying "I DID IT. IM GETTING MARRIED" either were all losers or the advice in this thread is shit lol. the last person i can think of who was a regular in this thread and had a "successful" relationship was dpb and from what i know his relationship predates this thread and hes not even here much anymore. 8 days past revolution day and this thread still needs one | ||
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Skynx
Turkey7150 Posts
http://www.teamliquid.net/blogs/77511-the-worst-best-pick-up-line-story-ever http://www.teamliquid.net/blogs/95778-the-update-youve-all-been-waiting-for And few very bad ones: http://www.teamliquid.net/blogs/22757-she-cheats-on-meomg | ||
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farvacola
United States18857 Posts
I'm also pretty sure we're automatically going to hear more horror stories than successes; after all, y'all really don't want to hear about how my girlfriend and I really enjoy sitting at home and watching food network while we do work  | ||
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Dark_Chill
Canada3353 Posts
And if it is true that nobody has been successful after advice in this thread, I don't think that necessarily means we're terrible. Quite a few opinions can go around at once, so it's not always clear what path a person should take. We won't know the whole story anyways, so we're more or less making guesses with as much info as we have, as well as adding our experience and/or theory. Even if people don't directly benefit from the advice given, having multiple opinions and being able to voice what you might not be able to voice with others is usually helpful in some way. | ||
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LegalLord
United States13779 Posts
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waffelz
Germany711 Posts
I am going to break up with my girlfriend, since I am sure it won’t work out much longer. While there isn’t anything major that puts me off, there isn’t anything that makes me awfully enthusiastic either and the relationship just isn’t fulfilling me. Unfortunately she doesn’t seem to feel the same, quite the opposite so yeah… not looking forward to it. I need a bit of reaffirmation on how I decided to handle this. We have a semi-long distance relationship like usually one stays at the others place over the weekend. If we were lucky we managed to make seeing each other every weekend work, so it probably doesn’t qualify as a ‘real’ long distance relationship. My plan was to break up with her the next time we see each other (while in advance arranging that I will be going to her). My doubts lie in the fact that she probably anticipates my visit a lot so turning the reunion into a break up should be an unpleasant surprise, even considering that breakups usually are always unpleasant for at least one participant. Some signs for her are there, I unconsciously grew more distant lately and I assume she is aware of that but I am sure she won’t expect the breakup. On the other hand, there is no real way of making things less awful. Like I can’t really tell her beforehand that we need to talk about some serious stuff, it will lead to her asking questions, me refusing to answer and in the end she will be worried up to the moment when I break up with her. So yeah… sticking to my plan to just accept there is no better way than to kind of hit her out of nowhere with it, the next time we see each other? | ||
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Artisreal
Germany9235 Posts
As to making the breakup more pleasant, I've never been good at that tbh. Even if put nicely, it hurts, no matter what. Just on a sidenote, I don't think one should search fulfillment in a relationship unless you really desire to be a parent. Although there's always adoption for that as well. My current ideal is one of strenghtening one another while not being dependent, of bringin out the best and accepting the worst. Being happy with oneself and blooming with the other. Not merging together but synergizing. I'm not sure whether I just vastly misinterpretet your first paragraph but I wanted to share my thoughts on that one | ||
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waffelz
Germany711 Posts
On March 15 2017 07:32 Artisreal wrote: I can and support your point of not wanting a relationship with so vastly differing investments of the parties involved. As to making the breakup more pleasant, I've never been good at that tbh. Even if put nicely, it hurts, no matter what. Just on a sidenote, I don't think one should search fulfillment in a relationship unless you really desire to be a parent. Although there's always adoption for that as well. My current ideal is one of strenghtening one another while not being dependent, of bringin out the best and accepting the worst. Being happy with oneself and blooming with the other. Not merging together but synergizing. I'm not sure whether I just vastly misinterpretet your first paragraph but I wanted to share my thoughts on that one By "not being fulfilled" I was trying to say something more along the lines of "it just doesn't feel like it is what I desire/doesn't add to my life what I want from it”. Even though I believe that at a certain point, your relationship naturally becomes a fundamental part of yourself. Definitely not after only 6 month though. Breakups usually always hurt, I won’t be able to change that. I am rather questioning, if I am wrong in assuming somehow signalling it to her won’t make things better. | ||
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Ghostcom
Denmark4783 Posts
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