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We are extremely close to shutting down this thread for the same reasons the PUA thread was shut down. While some of the time this thread contains actual discussion with people asking help and people giving nice advice, it often gets derailed by rubbish that should not be here. The moderation team will be trying to steer this thread in a different direction from now on. Posts of the following nature are banned: 1) ANYTHING regarding PUA. If your post contains the words 'alpha' or 'beta' or anything of that sort please don't hit post. 2) Stupid brags. You can tell us about your nice success stories with someone, but posts such as 'lol 50 Tinder matches' are a no-no. 3) Any misogynistic bullshit, including discussion about rape culture. 4) One night stands and random sex. These are basically brags that invariably devolve into gender role discussions and misogynistic comments. Last chance, guys. This thread is for dating advice and sharing dating stories. While gender roles, sociocultural norms, and our biological imperative to reproduce are all tangentially related, these subjects are not the main purpose of the thread. Please AVOID these discussions. If you want to discuss them at length, go to PMs or start a blog. If you disagree with someone's ideologies, state that you disagree with them and why they won't work from a dating standpoint and move on. We will not tolerate any lengthy derailments that aren't directly about dating. | ||
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Skynx
Turkey7150 Posts
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CosmicSpiral
United States15275 Posts
On August 15 2016 19:50 farvacola wrote: I once dated a 6'3 Asian-American girl for a few weeks. Given that I'm 6'2, we were almost always the tallest couple in the room. That was fun  Damn, I'm feeling pretty jelly right now. | ||
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SatsuinoHado
Bulgaria777 Posts
On August 13 2016 12:15 the bear jew wrote: I guess I'll give her a few days, see if she talks to me and go from there. If she doesn't reach out to me....then back to my seemingly fruitless search for love. Take it from me man, its better to not chase now than wind up like me being semi friend/lover to your ex... | ||
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RvB
Netherlands6303 Posts
On August 16 2016 02:57 Skynx wrote: Man Malta is full of fit dutch grills idk why i met two different ones when we were there competing few years back. First one taught me how to say jij bent lekker so i used it the other night. We have these travel agencies specifically for youngsters who wwnt to go clubbing. A lot of people use these and Malta is getting an increasingly popular destination (with good reason). When we arrived here we were literally with a group of 5 men and 15+ women and they all want to have sex. Pretty crazy. | ||
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Titusmaster6
United States5937 Posts
On August 15 2016 22:42 RvB wrote: I missed a wing man yesterday :/. I'm on holiday at Malta and was out clubbing yesterday. This girl starts talking with me (doesn't happen often when a girl takes the initiative). She's pretty small but her body was perfect with full boobs and ass. A solid 8/10 for me. Pretty loud in there so we go outside to talk. I grab her hand and tale her out. While talkibg I put my hand on her back and afterwards on her ass. She obviously likes it. Was planning on taking her to the beach. This girl basically got dropped in my lap on a silver platter. Suddenly her friend comes in and cock blocks hard :/. All I could do was bring her to the bus and give a little kiss on her mouth. Luckily I got hwr number and she is Dutch so I'm sure we'll meet sone time. Out of frustration I went to a techno club with all the druggies of Malta and danced like a madman. We need to chill Xp | ||
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B.I.G.
3251 Posts
When I was 18 or so I had a relationship with someone that due to whatever cheated on me (as I found out later) like 4 or 5 times. This was followed by a period of 5 years of so where I was dating but always keeping my distance and occasionally being a jerk. At 25 or 26 I got into what I would call my second serious attempt at a relationship, and it was another trainwreck due to a variety of reasons (not sure if she cheated on me as well but this was turning out to be a rabbit hole that I was not willing to go down in). After that I actually met 2 really awesome women. One I met when she was still dating a guy I vaguely know and I remember thinking he was one lucky SOB. Such an awesome girl. Like a month or 2 later she randomly invited me for dinner to discuss something related to work (we both work in related industries) so it seemed innocent enough. Still not sure how it happened but we turned out having sex that night and we were seeing each other on and off for several months after that. The other girl I met on a night out with mutual friends. This girl ticked off so many boxes on the "awesome characteristics" list. Social, smart, well spoken, nerdy interests, and although by no means an alcoholic still someone that stands her own with a bottle. Well me and my dumb drunk ass ended up having sex with her on the first night of meeting her as well (DERP). We hung out the next day and it all was pretty nice. Didn't see her for a long time after that until we ran into each other at another mutual acquaintance's birthday party. Hung out a bit more that night and she ditched me in a bar (as it turns out because she didn't want it to end up like the first night we met). We had one more date after that but although I honestly had a good time I couldn't bring myself to pursue contact after that. All that was a bit less than a year ago. Dated a dozen of women after that but the real realization came after having a drink today with a girl tonight: I honestly couldn't bring myself to give a fuck anymore. I vaguely feel like I fucked up with the last two girls I described but that's it. When I was having a drink with a girl recently she mentioned how another guy she had been on a date with whom she really liked got upset and broke of all contact when he found out she went for a drink with another guy. All I could say is that I would expect nothing less and that I honestly couldn't care less. That's kinda fucked up right? | ||
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bloodwhore~
1010 Posts
On August 18 2016 23:53 B.I.G. wrote:When I was having a drink with a girl recently she mentioned how another guy she had been on a date with whom she really liked got upset and broke of all contact when he found out she went for a drink with another guy. All I could say is that I would expect nothing less and that I honestly couldn't care less. That's kinda fucked up right? I don't think that is so fucked up. As long as she wasn't having sex with both of us I wouldn't think it was that bad. Of course I would move on if she talked about the other guy all the time. | ||
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B.I.G.
3251 Posts
On August 19 2016 04:11 bloodwhore~ wrote: I don't think that is so fucked up. As long as she wasn't having sex with both of us I wouldn't think it was that bad. Of course I would move on if she talked about the other guy all the time. Not the point bro  | ||
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LemOn
United Kingdom8629 Posts
P.S. I prefer to avoid dating women in their late 20's. But I think it's pretty normal for your age. | ||
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bloodwhore~
1010 Posts
Then what was your point? That you didn't give a fuck about the girl you dated? Just seems to me that you were not that interested in her from the start. Do you think you would have been equally indifferent towards her if she was one of the two amazing women you dated? | ||
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Crocolisk Dundee
870 Posts
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B.I.G.
3251 Posts
I kinda started appreciating the girls I mentioned more and more after everything was said and done. Hence the question, kinda fucked up right? ;P @Lemon I am 28 now so I guess that makes sense? Usually date girls that are kinda similar to my age or a bit older. @Crocolisk Dunee I guess you can motivate yourself with the knowledge that getting a woman is easy but getting one that you want to keep is hard for anyone. In the end its a numbers game so keep trying. | ||
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Laurens
Belgium4557 Posts
On August 19 2016 22:35 B.I.G. wrote: My point was that I started to expect nothing less from any woman than to bang as many dudes as she can at the same time. This in combination with the hard time I'm having with feeling any emotional connection with women I've dated as of late got me a bit worried about my state of mind. Are you browsing redpill forums by any chance?  | ||
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Crocolisk Dundee
870 Posts
Thinking of it as a numbers game is a helpful thought. At the same time, I find it difficult to cope with disappointment after disappointment and no success. I have tried for so long. | ||
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B.I.G.
3251 Posts
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IgnE
United States7681 Posts
On August 19 2016 22:35 B.I.G. wrote: My point was that I started to expect nothing less from any woman than to bang as many dudes as she can at the same time. This in combination with the hard time I'm having with feeling any emotional connection with women I've dated as of late got me a bit worried about my state of mind. I kinda started appreciating the girls I mentioned more and more after everything was said and done. Hence the question, kinda fucked up right? ;P @Lemon I am 28 now so I guess that makes sense? Usually date girls that are kinda similar to my age or a bit older. @Crocolisk Dunee I guess you can motivate yourself with the knowledge that getting a woman is easy but getting one that you want to keep is hard for anyone. In the end its a numbers game so keep trying. I think it's a deeper problem than just "dating." Once people get out of college and start working, especially in cities, it becomes harder to connect with new people to the same depth that they connected with their friends in college and before. It certainly doesn't come as easily, and for a variety of socially structured reasons it leads to the impression that most new connections are superficial. So it's totally understandable that if you found some women you really connected with that you would regret losing those nodes in your social network. I don't really know what to tell you except to try and increase your throughput while using a more selective filter. If your prospective date doesn't know what the word "anomie" means, for example, you can pretty confidently move on without worrying about a missed opportunity. Btw, this whole idea of "sleeping with someone on the first date ruins the chances of a relationship" is total bullshit. That's not why it didn't work between you and the amazing girl. | ||
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JoeCool
Germany2520 Posts
We watched the movie, ate sth, had some good laughs... I kissed her and suddenly she told me, that this is not what she wanted, shes not Sure if this is a good idea etc. I told her that Im okay with that, we talked on for 1.5 hours, had a great evening. i just Got home and already recieved another measage from her.... Not quite sure where this is going... | ||
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LemOn
United Kingdom8629 Posts
On August 19 2016 22:35 B.I.G. wrote: My point was that I started to expect nothing less from any woman than to bang as many dudes as she can at the same time. This in combination with the hard time I'm having with feeling any emotional connection with women I've dated as of late got me a bit worried about my state of mind. I kinda started appreciating the girls I mentioned more and more after everything was said and done. Hence the question, kinda fucked up right? ;P @Lemon I am 28 now so I guess that makes sense? Usually date girls that are kinda similar to my age or a bit older. @Crocolisk Dunee I guess you can motivate yourself with the knowledge that getting a woman is easy but getting one that you want to keep is hard for anyone. In the end its a numbers game so keep trying. I mean I avoid the because at least the attractive successful ones usually had a few failed relationships, lost their illusions and willingness to take risks and plunge into something new yet at the same time haven't figured everything out and aren't at peace with how things are and what they want. It's a strange period in life. But the after 30 the ones that are single usually start understanding themselves better, and just go realistically directly after what they want. Maybe you're going through something similar, all I'd say is as long as you're getting new experiences and are aware of what you want it'll eventually sort itself out | ||
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Zooper31
United States5713 Posts
Things went well, talks for a few more days. Exchanged numbers, talked more over text. I asked to meet up over some drinks this weekend, a date. She agreed, and we decided on a place we both knew. Stood up... I was really excited about this too, first date I've had (or would've had) in years. Back to not caring about being in a relationship. Single life can get lonely sometimes though. | ||
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bloodwhore~
1010 Posts
On August 20 2016 13:26 Zooper31 wrote: Posted couple days ago about girl I was talking to. Things went well, talks for a few more days. Exchanged numbers, talked more over text. I asked to meet up over some drinks this weekend, a date. She agreed, and we decided on a place we both knew. Stood up... I was really excited about this too, first date I've had (or would've had) in years. Back to not caring about being in a relationship. Single life can get lonely sometimes though. Dude, don't take rejection and go full turtle mode. It sucks getting stood up, however not everyone does that, get back on that horse! | ||
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