EPT@bloodwhore: for the love of god stop nitpicking over everything every girl does and endlessly mulling over options and requirements. Just go date any of those girls you get along with and isn't repulsive to you. I've seen plenty guys overanalyzing and being picky (without experience) and they were all just scared of being judged or rejected.
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B.I.G.
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@bloodwhore: for the love of god stop nitpicking over everything every girl does and endlessly mulling over options and requirements. Just go date any of those girls you get along with and isn't repulsive to you. I've seen plenty guys overanalyzing and being picky (without experience) and they were all just scared of being judged or rejected. | ||
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Luepert
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LemOn
United Kingdom8629 Posts
On October 25 2015 14:13 Luepert wrote: My date didn't go as well as I expected. Dinner was great but then we did homework for 6 hours. Oh - You actually did homework? I thought that was just a phrase  What did you do during the date - did you do any touching etc? | ||
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LemOn
United Kingdom8629 Posts
On October 25 2015 01:45 bloodwhore~ wrote: I'm trying not to overanalyze.. It's so hard because every person who has been interested in me has talked to me a lot. Well I guess I'm a bit weird in that way, I'm always thinking about statistics and probabilites etc, it's the way my brain works and probably has to do with me being insecure. I just find it super odd not to want to talk to the person you're dating more than at the date. Well if I like someone I want to talk to that person a lot, don't see why I wouldn't talk to them outside of the dates... Just some casual chit chat. Good luck! It's just so great when you stop using the phone, and when you get together you have all these things you did to tell her, questions to ask and vice versa. You spend the week wondering what they're up to, and when you actually do see them, you never run out of topics and are always left wanting more after a date. It's really attractive to women when they can wonder about you, and it keeps the passion for both flowing. I think texting's great for simple statements between dates that don't expect a reply like"hey I'd love to taste your pussy so bad right now...can't wait to see you Monday" "You're awesome" "I've just seen seen this thing that's reminded me of how awesome you are, our date can't come soon enough!" ... But if you use it for conversations you're depriving yourself of a great experience imo. AND you could be using the time you spend texting on becoming a better man, talking to other women or planning great dates. | ||
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bloodwhore~
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She called me last night and seemed pretty hype about the date. Talked a bit and she actually mentioned she liked to talk over the phone rather than texting as well. She would let me know with a date and time when she is available and we will bake something, possibly bread at my place.  | ||
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evanthebouncy!
United States12796 Posts
Seriously just get a grip and take it easy haha. It's only a girl | ||
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Luepert
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[UoN]Sentinel
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Awkward conversation over food turned into going to my place and having an hour and a half long jam session. Me on keyboards and her on guitar. Haven't felt this with a girl since god knows how long. She reminds me of me. | ||
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DarkPlasmaBall
United States45713 Posts
On October 26 2015 08:35 [UoN]Sentinel wrote: Went on one of the most amazing dates I've been on. Awkward conversation over food turned into going to my place and having an hour and a half long jam session. Me on keyboards and her on guitar. Haven't felt this with a girl since god knows how long. She reminds me of me. That's awesome Good luck! | ||
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LemOn
United Kingdom8629 Posts
On October 26 2015 04:25 Luepert wrote: Not too much. Just brushed he hair a little bit when it was getting on my hands. I'm realizing that I'm really bad at progressing things which is really hard because she is really shy and reserved too. I think we were both just kind of waiting for something but never did anything. I think I want to try something to advance our relationship but I'm not sure how since I've never done it before. I Kind of didn't last night because we were both very focused on completing the assignment so when we finished we were just exhausted. I didn't want to keep her any longer since it was 1:30 and I knew she had another project due the next night so she had to get rest. Ye. Get a proper date where you're clear that you're taking her out on a date next time and both focus on that, that's a start! | ||
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LemOn
United Kingdom8629 Posts
On October 26 2015 08:35 [UoN]Sentinel wrote: Went on one of the most amazing dates I've been on. Awkward conversation over food turned into going to my place and having an hour and a half long jam session. Me on keyboards and her on guitar. Haven't felt this with a girl since god knows how long. She reminds me of me. Jam session does mean sex right? Or is that actual music :D | ||
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[UoN]Sentinel
United States11320 Posts
On October 26 2015 09:07 LemOn wrote: Jam session does mean sex right? Or is that actual music :D Lolno actual music. I have reservations about kissing on the first date (unless I really know she wants to), let alone fucking. That being said, fucking is nice, but a person that you create something you might one day use with, that'll stay with you forever | ||
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Luepert
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LemOn
United Kingdom8629 Posts
On October 26 2015 09:36 Luepert wrote: Yeah that's what it was supposed to be. We agreed that it was a date and the plan was to see a movie but our work took way too long so that messed it up. Don't mix work and play. I honestly thought "homework" is a codename for some thinly disguised powchickapowowwow | ||
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zf
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On October 25 2015 14:13 Luepert wrote: My date didn't go as well as I expected. Dinner was great but then we did homework for 6 hours. That sounds like a wonderful date. A relationship that doesn't intrude on your work? You don't know what you're missing. | ||
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LemOn
United Kingdom8629 Posts
On October 25 2015 17:37 bloodwhore~ wrote: Yeah you guys were right.. again. She called me last night and seemed pretty hype about the date. Talked a bit and she actually mentioned she liked to talk over the phone rather than texting as well. She would let me know with a date and time when she is available and we will bake something, possibly bread at my place. Yeah phone's better than texts! Even though after several 1+hours with my current GF in the beginning I've decided to stop them too, takes self control but it's worth it. Don't screw this up seriously, you don't have to do or overthink anything, just be yourself during dates, don't hold back (that includes physically) and force some patience on yourself off dates. By the way we had a great time with cookies... Preparation's more fun as you make them individually, they are made way faster. And you can fuck up a lot more. That was the first time when we "did the homework" with my current girl btw, good times :D | ||
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