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On October 28 2015 07:10 LemOn wrote:Show nested quote +On October 27 2015 22:50 crimethinking wrote:On October 27 2015 22:45 DarkPlasmaBall wrote:On October 27 2015 22:19 crimethinking wrote:
Date was rad. She expected just a lunch then home, we ended up having a good time at the museum, then found a university chapel that played classical music that day.
Then she stopped replying to my text message. Singular, because I only texted her once. "how did your day go?".
This is confusing. How long ago did you text her? Maybe she's, like, busy.  12 hours ago. Maybe. Seriously guys, why'd you do this to yourself, I don't get it! You had a great time..in person, why'd you ask her that and.move into texting. "hey girl, I'd love to see you, what day r u free to get together again?" send. All you have to do and should text to any.girl who.takes her time to reply or.is.at all flaky.
Lesson learned senpai. Will apply later tonight after I'm done with work.
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On October 28 2015 07:10 LemOn wrote:Show nested quote +On October 27 2015 22:50 crimethinking wrote:On October 27 2015 22:45 DarkPlasmaBall wrote:On October 27 2015 22:19 crimethinking wrote:
Date was rad. She expected just a lunch then home, we ended up having a good time at the museum, then found a university chapel that played classical music that day.
Then she stopped replying to my text message. Singular, because I only texted her once. "how did your day go?".
This is confusing. How long ago did you text her? Maybe she's, like, busy. 12 hours ago. Maybe. Seriously guys, why'd you do this to yourself, I don't get it! You had a great time..in person, why'd you ask her that and.move into texting. "hey girl, I'd love to see you, what day r u free to get together again?" send. All you have to do and should text to any.girl who.takes her time to reply or.is.at all flaky.
Boys and girls who use proper spelling are sexy though.
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On October 28 2015 08:05 Luepert wrote:
So I guess I'm dating homework girl now. We were talking on skype and she just kind of mentions that we are dating so that's good. I guess it just sort of happens like that. Having not been in a relationship before I didn't really know what it would be like when one starts. Turns out if you both just like each other you can be in a relationship. There's not like any process or paperwork.
Wait you mean you haven't signed the contract yet? Or taken the blood oath?
We were talking on skype and she just kind of mentions that we are dating so that's good.
I laughed way too hard at the casual acknowledgement of this XD
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On October 28 2015 10:44 DarkPlasmaBall wrote:Show nested quote +On October 28 2015 07:10 LemOn wrote:On October 27 2015 22:50 crimethinking wrote:On October 27 2015 22:45 DarkPlasmaBall wrote:On October 27 2015 22:19 crimethinking wrote:
Date was rad. She expected just a lunch then home, we ended up having a good time at the museum, then found a university chapel that played classical music that day.
Then she stopped replying to my text message. Singular, because I only texted her once. "how did your day go?".
This is confusing. How long ago did you text her? Maybe she's, like, busy. 12 hours ago. Maybe. Seriously guys, why'd you do this to yourself, I don't get it! You had a great time..in person, why'd you ask her that and.move into texting. "hey girl, I'd love to see you, what day r u free to get together again?" send. All you have to do and should text to any.girl who.takes her time to reply or.is.at all flaky. Boys and girls who use proper spelling are sexy though.
Then I should start texting you. I use Oxford commas, and check everything through a spell checker before I hit send.
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On October 28 2015 08:05 Luepert wrote:
So I guess I'm dating homework girl now. We were talking on skype and she just kind of mentions that we are dating so that's good. I guess it just sort of happens like that. Having not been in a relationship before I didn't really know what it would be like when one starts. Turns out if you both just like each other you can be in a relationship. There's not like any process or paperwork.
This is the most important realization you can make my friend.
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My insider told me that my target said that the date was perfect. Perfect locations and everything. But she said that the way I talked ended the conversation too quickly. When she asked me questions, I would just answer them thoroughly and not asking anything back, killing the conversation.
DPB pls send help.
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This post may help you out a lot - it goes on about conversation threading. It allows you to keep conversations going naturally. Reading it, something clicked in my head and I was like "I've been so stupid for so long."
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On October 28 2015 10:45 DarkPlasmaBall wrote:Show nested quote +On October 28 2015 08:05 Luepert wrote:
So I guess I'm dating homework girl now. We were talking on skype and she just kind of mentions that we are dating so that's good. I guess it just sort of happens like that. Having not been in a relationship before I didn't really know what it would be like when one starts. Turns out if you both just like each other you can be in a relationship. There's not like any process or paperwork. Wait you mean you haven't signed the contract yet? Or taken the blood oath? Show nested quote +We were talking on skype and she just kind of mentions that we are dating so that's good. I laughed way too hard at the casual acknowledgement of this XD
This was funny. 
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Sounds like you are a bad conversationalist or she just didn't like you and gave that as a reason, or both. It's fixable.
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On October 28 2015 13:02 IgnE wrote:
Sounds like you are a bad conversationalist or she just didn't like you and gave that as a reason, or both. It's fixable.
I don't disagree that I'm a bad conversationalist. Outside of my specialization (technical stuff), I don't do fluff/filler talk most of the time.
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It's usually hard to get people to like you if you are bad at conversation.
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On October 28 2015 10:44 DarkPlasmaBall wrote:Show nested quote +On October 28 2015 07:10 LemOn wrote:On October 27 2015 22:50 crimethinking wrote:On October 27 2015 22:45 DarkPlasmaBall wrote:On October 27 2015 22:19 crimethinking wrote:
Date was rad. She expected just a lunch then home, we ended up having a good time at the museum, then found a university chapel that played classical music that day.
Then she stopped replying to my text message. Singular, because I only texted her once. "how did your day go?".
This is confusing. How long ago did you text her? Maybe she's, like, busy. 12 hours ago. Maybe. Seriously guys, why'd you do this to yourself, I don't get it! You had a great time..in person, why'd you ask her that and.move into texting. "hey girl, I'd love to see you, what day r u free to get together again?" send. All you have to do and should text to any.girl who.takes her time to reply or.is.at all flaky. Boys and girls who use proper spelling are sexy though.
I'd like to see you spell nice drunk on the phone. On the Subway :D
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On October 28 2015 11:29 crimethinking wrote:Show nested quote +On October 28 2015 10:44 DarkPlasmaBall wrote:On October 28 2015 07:10 LemOn wrote:On October 27 2015 22:50 crimethinking wrote:On October 27 2015 22:45 DarkPlasmaBall wrote:On October 27 2015 22:19 crimethinking wrote:
Date was rad. She expected just a lunch then home, we ended up having a good time at the museum, then found a university chapel that played classical music that day.
Then she stopped replying to my text message. Singular, because I only texted her once. "how did your day go?".
This is confusing. How long ago did you text her? Maybe she's, like, busy. 12 hours ago. Maybe. Seriously guys, why'd you do this to yourself, I don't get it! You had a great time..in person, why'd you ask her that and.move into texting. "hey girl, I'd love to see you, what day r u free to get together again?" send. All you have to do and should text to any.girl who.takes her time to reply or.is.at all flaky. Boys and girls who use proper spelling are sexy though. Then I should start texting you. I use Oxford commas, and check everything through a spell checker before I hit send.
Mmmmmm.... Sometimes, when I wish to separate two independent clauses, I use semi-colons in my text messages. Correctly.
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Just realized that talking in non-native language is hard.
I speak and understand English fluently, but I'm ten times better at holding a conversation in Vietnamese than in English. Meanings are lost when translation between languages happens. My date spoke Chinese natively, I spoke Vietnamese natively, we resolved to English to talk, and it did not pan out well.
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On October 28 2015 22:50 crimethinking wrote:
Just realized that talking in non-native language is hard.
I speak and understand English fluently, but I'm ten times better at holding a conversation in Vietnamese than in English. Meanings are lost when translation between languages happens. My date spoke Chinese natively, I spoke Vietnamese natively, we resolved to English to talk, and it did not pan out well.
Are you translating from Vietnamese when talking in English?
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On October 28 2015 23:07 maybenexttime wrote:Show nested quote +On October 28 2015 22:50 crimethinking wrote:
Just realized that talking in non-native language is hard.
I speak and understand English fluently, but I'm ten times better at holding a conversation in Vietnamese than in English. Meanings are lost when translation between languages happens. My date spoke Chinese natively, I spoke Vietnamese natively, we resolved to English to talk, and it did not pan out well. Are you translating from Vietnamese when talking in English?
Not entirely. Most of the thoughts and the speaking are fully English, but sometimes I still resolve to thinking in Vietnamese. And my English, in terms of both thoughts and speaking, does not have the same flair as my Vietnamese.
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On October 28 2015 22:50 crimethinking wrote:
Just realized that talking in non-native language is hard.
I speak and understand English fluently, but I'm ten times better at holding a conversation in Vietnamese than in English. Meanings are lost when translation between languages happens. My date spoke Chinese natively, I spoke Vietnamese natively, we resolved to English to talk, and it did not pan out well.
Me and my girl are actually fully bi-lingual in most conversations, swapping Czech and English as it feels right, often mid-sentence.
But it just takes practice really, just use English more, maybe try to get friends that speak it who're learning Vietnamese ? You can help each other out.
We are confusing as hell to outsiders though, it's funny
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Awwww yiss, what a day!
Sold my stocks today just before the collapse (went down ~40%), but not only that - the date went awesome!
We started making bread, talked a lot. Then went to my room and sat together in my bed watching a few episodes of Rick and Morty. I had the window open so she got cold, not sure if that was a hint for me to make a move since I just sat really close to her before but we sat under the cover and I had my arms around her. She has this little laugh she does sometimes, adorable as fuck. Kissed her goodbye and she told me to let her know when I had time again.
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