EPTIt's true, single moms don't have time for bullshit, that's why I said they make great fuck buddies, and most of the time they won't mind either, all you have to be is very bluntly open and upfront about what you want. With other girls it'll lead to better relationships, and more success if you just put your raw self out there, but with single moms you pretty much have a moral obligation to do that.
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LemOn
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It's true, single moms don't have time for bullshit, that's why I said they make great fuck buddies, and most of the time they won't mind either, all you have to be is very bluntly open and upfront about what you want. With other girls it'll lead to better relationships, and more success if you just put your raw self out there, but with single moms you pretty much have a moral obligation to do that. | ||
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LemOn
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On October 15 2015 17:47 Emon_ wrote: Subtle bro, real subtle. Agreed. Love yourself some and think long and hard if you really want to be a part of this. Single moms have trouble dating just because so many guys press the abort button as soon as children are involved. 26 is young to be raising someone else's child. Come back when you're 32 and you'll still find 24 single moms that want to date you. Use this time to find a single girl that you love and want to have a family of your own with Why so judgmental, both of you? You don't want family for at least 5 years into the future. You are single. You go out on one date with a single mom Who says anything about replacing the father even ever being in a committed relationship? | ||
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bloodwhore~
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On October 15 2015 18:03 LemOn wrote: Why so judgmental, both of you? You don't want family for at least 5 years into the future. You are single. You go out on one date with a single mom Who says anything about replacing the father even ever being in a committed relationship? Assuming she wants a relationship that will last he will become a father figure to the kid whether he wants to or not. Sure a fuckbuddy who happens to be a single mom isn't all that bad though, not that I would want it for myself. | ||
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LemOn
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I mean going on dates with someone doesn't mean at all you will end up in a committed relationship, or that that's what they want either Dating a single mom for a while is a great experience. | ||
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bloodwhore~
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Have you dated one or? | ||
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LemOn
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Like right now you could be dating multiple women and having great fun and sex, with single moms included, while keeping an open mind and heart so you don't miss the very compatible ones slip away. | ||
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DarkPlasmaBall
United States46561 Posts
On October 15 2015 17:57 LemOn wrote: It's true, single moms don't have time for bullshit, that's why I said they make great fuck buddies, and most of the time they won't mind either, all you have to be is very bluntly open and upfront about what you want. With other girls it'll lead to better relationships, and more success if you just put your raw self out there, but with single moms you pretty much have a moral obligation to do that. I don't have any experience with being intimate with single moms, but I feel that what you're saying is counterintuitive to their priorities (assuming their priority is raising their children). I feel like a single mom would have less time to fuck around and would only waste time on a guy if it isn't taking time away from their kid. Furthermore, the idea that a guy might be good enough to stick around (or at least be temporarily around their kids) could be very appealing, and so they might want to streamline the potential mates in favor of possible fatherly figures, rather than wasting time with flaky, superficial guys. Because they're thinking of their children too. On October 15 2015 23:48 bloodwhore~ wrote: I just got that impression from the way he wrote. I assume single moms would want to strive for financial security, a partner etc as well. Have you dated one or? That was my reaction too. They don't have time for bullshit and games anymore, because they have children to focus on and additional mouths to feed. | ||
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bloodwhore~
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On October 16 2015 00:39 LemOn wrote: I'm not even sure why you'd assume that a single mum wants that right off the bat when they just got burned and separated, if anything I'd expect the opposite. Really the best way to approach dating is to not assume at all, focus on the present moment, state what you want, be genuine and get to know people without pre-judging with an open mind. Well I don't know if she recently got separated, I don't remember him saying that. If I found out I dated a single mom I'd immediately ask her where she wanted to go with us dating. Would be awful to lead someone on, especially if it was a single mother in my opinion. | ||
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Acrofales
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bloodwhore~
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On October 16 2015 04:27 Acrofales wrote: So many white knights in this thread... how about you let single moms worry about what they want instead of making all these assumptions. Don't you think we do? I would personally not want to date a girl who I knew was a single mom unless I knew she only wanted to fuck, I really don't think that makes you a white knight, it makes you a decent human being. I highly doubt single moms want that her new lover have to care like "real father". Not if he is just her fuck buddy obviously, however nobody has claimed that either. | ||
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LemOn
United Kingdom8629 Posts
On October 16 2015 05:01 bloodwhore~ wrote: Don't you think we do? I would personally not want to date a girl who I knew was a single mom unless I knew she only wanted to fuck, I really don't think that makes you a white knight, it makes you a decent human being. Not if he is just her fuck buddy obviously, however nobody has claimed that either. Fuck buddy, open relationship, whatever. You just never know what happens, especially when you are single, in my eyes all girls I date I'm in an open relationship with at first until get to know them and there's no obligation to commit. That doesn't mean you will stay with them forever, that you have to be their father/therapist, or that you won't have sex with other women. And if you decide to commit to one of them, child or not - great. If you want to have many open relationships, also good. As long as you are honest with yourself and towards other people there's no reason to stop yourself from having great experiences just because your assumptions and projecting. Put yourself and what you genuinely want out there, and let them decide if they want it or not. EDIT: Actually it's basically what you said, no disagreement there. If your personal preference is a strict fuck buddy (not rly sure what that is, there's always some sort of a relationship involved - I guess that's if there's low attraction and you just mechanically fuck anyways?) you just express that when things start escalating on a date, and she will either take it or not. | ||
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DarkPlasmaBall
United States46561 Posts
On October 16 2015 04:27 Acrofales wrote: So many white knights in this thread... how about you let single moms worry about what they want instead of making all these assumptions. When someone makes the unjustified, sweeping generalization that all single moms love to superficially screw around because they're single moms, I think it's completely appropriate if someone disagrees for reasons. Dismissing a difference of opinion with "lol white knight" is a poor rebuttal. | ||
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LemOn
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DarkPlasmaBall
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On October 16 2015 07:51 LemOn wrote: And who said that? All we said is that you should say what you want without pre-assumptions and let them decide... Seriously? B.I.G. said: "single mother whose relationship or marriage is completely in shambles and hasnt been laid in a long time.. You do the math man" And then you said: "single moms don't have time for bullshit, that's why I said they make great fuck buddies, and most of the time they won't mind either" These are two provocative opinions about single moms (especially your generalization), and are obviously opinions which can be disagreed with. Disagreeing with them shouldn't be dismissed because "lol white knighting". I'd much rather have a conversation regarding our opinions/ generalizations. | ||
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obesechicken13
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WarSame
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EDIT: Directed at Acrofales, not Lemon. | ||
[Phantom]
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Altough I must say that I agree with DPB that not because Lemon had an experience with a single mom who just wanted to fuck that means every single mom is looking for that, or would even accept or make a good fuck buddy. | ||
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On October 16 2015 08:30 DarkPlasmaBall wrote: Seriously? B.I.G. said: "single mother whose relationship or marriage is completely in shambles and hasnt been laid in a long time.. You do the math man" And then you said: "single moms don't have time for bullshit, that's why I said they make great fuck buddies, and most of the time they won't mind either" These are two provocative opinions about single moms (especially your generalization), and are obviously opinions which can be disagreed with. Disagreeing with them shouldn't be dismissed because "lol white knighting". I'd much rather have a conversation regarding our opinions/ generalizations. Waaaaait a minute there buddy I said that in relation to the single mom that asked our TLer to come to her place instead of a date outside. By no means do I want to imply that's all single moms are looking for. | ||
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