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On September 07 2015 07:35 waffelz wrote:Have to post earlier in here then I thought. I need some suggestions for couple activities. I had to undergo surgery and have to take it very easy for the next 6-8 weeks. No sport stuff that puts stress on the abdominal muscles, which basically means every sport for that period, I am not even allowed to walk at my usual speed. So no more martial arts activities (aka knocking out women  ) for that time and goodbye to all the progress I made this year -.-. Walking does hurt at the moment, but the pain is tolerable and as long as I don't do it to much I am allowed to, I should refrain from using stairs a lot though. Any suggestions for couple activities under the given circumstances, besides cinema/theatre/concerts?
Picnics, going for walks, mini-golf, wine tasting, video games, museums, art galleries?
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On September 07 2015 08:54 DarkPlasmaBall wrote:
Picnics, going for walks, mini-golf, wine tasting, video games, museums, art galleries?
Picnics: Later on sure, but at the moment not really doable. Would either have to walk a great distance or take the bus and taking the bus is a pure torture at the moment. Every pothole makes me feel like something is ripping apart and should be avoided.
Going for walks: For the first time since I don't know how long I am forced to walk at a speed that would make this enjoyable for others as well. Will have to wait a bit though since I am asked not to walk that much atm.
Mini-Golf: No.
Wine-Tasting: I don't drink alcohol. But thanks for assuming I could be that classy.
Video games: Sadly she isn't much into that as far as I know. If she is interested in that I wait for her to initiate since I am way to enthusiastic with that topic. To soon for this massive nerd-attack I think.
Museums/ Art-Galleries: Mostly not my type of thing, but I guess we could find some stuff that fit both our tastes/interests us both.
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There's also cheese/ chocolate/ other tastings, and there are some classes on like "How to make Dinner X" if you're into cooking and stuff.
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Have to check if there are some chocolate tastings in my area. I am not really a sweets-person, but I have to try that simply out of curiosity. My opportunity to be classy . And she will enjoy it for sure.
We usually already cook stuff together since I like cooking and she is very skilled, but I am also very limited in what I am allowed to eat at the moment so this would be rather boring for the time being. Not a big fan of cooking-courses though, I feel like they are pretty useless for the most part. I know how to cut properly/the basics and following a recipe also isnt that hard. The freestyle and improvisational stuff is what impresses me.
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On September 07 2015 07:35 waffelz wrote:Have to post earlier in here then I thought. I need some suggestions for couple activities. I had to undergo surgery and have to take it very easy for the next 6-8 weeks. No sport stuff that puts stress on the abdominal muscles, which basically means every sport for that period, I am not even allowed to walk at my usual speed. So no more martial arts activities (aka knocking out women ) for that time and goodbye to all the progress I made this year -.-. Walking does hurt at the moment, but the pain is tolerable and as long as I don't do it to much I am allowed to, I should refrain from using stairs a lot though. Any suggestions for couple activities under the given circumstances, besides cinema/theatre/concerts?
I will give you a list of things I've done with my current love interest on dates, maybe you can pick something:
1) club/bar with friends
2) A place where they sell funky lemonades + macha teas =>walk through Tesco looking at weird things
3) A punk rock concert=>random walk in town, commenting on buildings=>Irish bar with tasting my favorite whisky.
4) Gallery/concert hall opening in a former warehouse (lots of exhibits, saying how dumb stuff is, exploring the place)=>Pizza
5) Newtownhall tower climb=>bar with accessible pianos where we learned to play a song together+playing chess
6) Walk through town, seeking out random foods none of us tasted before
7) Walk to my favourite nature reserve/hill with a swing and view of my area=>calling a chinese takeaway, ordering random numbers for food=>watching Tangled at my place
8) Botanical gardens =>Soup disco - a party where you chop and clean discarded vegetables from supermarkets for free with other people in the rythm of music, and then everyone shares the salad/soup, there was a bike powered smoothie maker for juices too =>festival on Prague Islands, we learned CPR, took a 3rd world issues quiz, played some strange games and tasted stuff
9) Junk Shop=>French Food Festival ( I got her 3 balloons there, she was so happy, nobody had that many  )
10) Walk through town+fun cafe=> Ballroom dancing on a boat (defo recommend this one - ther ought to be a dancing club in your town), free champagne on top of dancing house building.
11) Baking cookies at my place from scratch (That was out first time, yay!)
12) Rope climbing park
13) Vysehrad Hill=>Cozy TeaRoom=> Local reserve =>Outside Grilled burger => sneaking to see Krizik Fountains, getting yelled at by security guard => Fun Fair=> Prague Exhibition Centre=> Outside cinema with some godawful canadian movie
14) Literally covering ourselves with paint on a boat (art therapy apparently) See here:
+ Show Spoiler + =>Groupon for 2kg of chicken wings. Apparently we were only the second couple to eat them all in one sitting (and I ordered a heavy first course too :D)
15) Paddle Boats=>Korean meat at a restaurant you get to cook yourself right there.
16) Walk to Prague giant metronome=>riverside beer garden=>took black + white pictures=>cable car to local hill
17) Bowling with my buddies => local tiny zoo => Ukranian shop where we bought loads of stuff from her childhood+cooked it at my place
18) Cat Cafe =>Latino Food Fair
18) Night climb to a lookout from 1820 in the woods=>picknick with champagne, fruit=>releasing flying lanterns (It was her birthday)
19) Squash =>showing her around my gym, climbing wall for fun => cooking food at my place
20) Zoo => Her favorite Burger place=>tasting tiny whisky bottles she brought in a park
+ Show Spoiler +
21) Local Game reserve+ visit of summer castle from 14th century with book exhibit=>eating a giant pizza at a tram stop=>children's playground with rope obstacles and a hammock where we lied down and talked for an hour=>Night climb to petrin tower, we found some random guy's forgotten diary=>trip to pub to examine and go through said diary
22) Visiting Her place, going through her stuff=>dinner she made=>sleep over at my place=>6am 3.5hr trip to an autocamp in prachovske Rock, swimming in a lake, walking through the rocks, junk food, arcade=>get off at wrong stop, forced to stay in pub till 4am in a random town, playing darts, eating a kebab, dealing with annoying locals =>trip home.
23) Re-visiting where we went on our first date=> Cooking Steak =>Chocolate Body Paint night
24) Just a sleepover+talking :O
25) Minigolf =>Ikea
Future Dates will be:
- Asean film festival really awesomely dumb SEA movie =>Night Time rappelling
- Sex Shop Visit
- Blind Exhibition where you see how blind people live in complete darkness with a guide.
- Take a random trip by train to a random town, see what's there
- A Scottish music concert
- Science fair, Fairs in general, there's loads in Prague randomly
- A trip around Prague Towers
- National Museum
- Large Botanical Gardens
- Burger Festival
- A Music concert or festival
- Trip to my home town
- Trip to her town where she lived
- Parks, reserves, Nature Areas...
- Workshops (clay, sculpture, cloth, learning japanese...what have you)
- Random new sports
- Flying a Kite
- Making a bow and arrows from scratch+shooting that stuff
- Quiz night/Rock Paper Scissors championships/karaoke/what have you - quirky pub stuff
- Shooting range (bow or guns)
- Pruhonice- large park, castle and teahouse
- Coffee shop with timed paid entry (all free otherwise) - cats, board games, Wii, Xbox360...
- Wall climbing
- renting a crappy hotel room for a night
- Groupon stuff (always worth a look for new activities!)
- Sports game with large audience
- Tandem bike
- Scavenger Hunt (there's groups organizing this here)
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Thanks for the big list LemOn, you kind of missed the point though. I don't need ideas for couple activities in general, I need some ideas that are doable without causing me internal bleedings/ ripping open my stitches. Cant do anything that is physical demanding, features percussions, requires a lot of walking(at least this should be fine over the course of the next 2 weeks). Will take some notes for later though .
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No worries I kinda made the list to remember stuff we did + to remember stuff I want to do, if you get any ideas even better ;p
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On September 07 2015 19:24 waffelz wrote:Thanks for the big list LemOn, you kind of missed the point though. I don't need ideas for couple activities in general, I need some ideas that are doable without causing me internal bleedings/ ripping open my stitches. Cant do anything that is physical demanding, features percussions, requires a lot of walking(at least this should be fine over the course of the next 2 weeks). Will take some notes for later though .
- Invite friends, do a board game evening with some snacks. If your girlfriend enjoys it (why wouldn't she?) you can even do it regularly. Don't say "board games are not my kind of thing", there are literally board games for everything and everyone. It is just about finding the ones you enjoy (which can be a pain :p).
- movie nights or bingewatching a show together (though I'm sure you already thought of that/do that)
- do origami with her (iirc you do know how to origami)
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Boardgames is a good one. For some reason I always assume that stuff I like isnt very fitting lol. Gonna have a boardgame-evening today.
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On September 07 2015 22:50 waffelz wrote:
Boardgames is a good one. For some reason I always assume that stuff I like isnt very fitting lol. Gonna have a boardgame-evening today.
you are welcome
Depending on how much you want this to be a date or a couples-activity, there is always the option to invite people over for games or do 2-player games.
If your bodily pain continues for too long there is always the option to buy a big puzzle. Or do a Karaoke-Night. But I somehow felt like those activities might suit you less :p (they sure can be fun)
Also just a classic romantic candlelight dinner for no reason at all isn't a bad idea either.
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Yeah, it will be a big round with some friends of hers. Cant play battlestar galactica with my friends anymore, they always neutralize me as soon as there is a reason after one of them pointed out that they always lose if I am alive till the end. Either I am the cylon and the king of manipulation, or they get uber-paranoid about me - because I am the king of manipulation and therefore not to be trusted and screw themselve that way. So I potentially got some new prey.
And you would be right. Puzzles are boring to me and karaoke... when trying to sing I have - to quote nightends former liquipedia-page - "the voice of an angel" (I dont have nightends voice, but my voice would fit the song as much as his normal voice would do  ). I tend to leave music to the professionals.
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based on lemons list you should bake cookies man
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oh, another thing. Use the weather forecast, pick a warm autumn day, do a barbecue (grillen?). Doesn't even have to be meat if your GF is not into that. Everybody loves a barbecue.
Another fun indoor group activity: Fondue. Cheese with bread or chocolate with fruits (careful, your stomach will be full in no time, don't overdo it with chocolate )
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You have a negative attitude waffelz. Maybe you should just try something you think you don't like and/or are bad at.
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On September 07 2015 22:50 waffelz wrote:
Boardgames is a good one. For some reason I always assume that stuff I like isnt very fitting lol. Gonna have a boardgame-evening today.
I hear Chill made a pretty awesome one.
One I'd definitely recommend is if both of you are into the same kind of humor, get tickets to a show for a comedian you both like. The amount of inside jokes the two of you will have between each other will go up exponentially and it'll create a much happier atmosphere for a very long time.
Introduced my then-gf to Russell Peters. Showed her one of his shows from a few years back, then saw him in New York 2 months after that. No regrets.
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On September 08 2015 02:10 IgnE wrote:
You have a negative attitude waffelz. Maybe you should just try something you think you don't like and/or are bad at.
Yeah I agree. Maybe you won't find a perfect thing to do but shooting down almost every idea indicates to me that you are quite afraid to leave your very small comfort zone.
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In the lights of our first technical-knockout-date, I managed once again to make things interesting.
The board game evening was fun and during it, a friend of hers brought up a dating idea she got from a show she used to watch when younger. In the show, the person would be allowed to search though the apartment/room of the other person, to try and get some clues about them. She thought it would be an interesting idea, since I usually fail at spotting what might be special/interesting about me apart from the obvious, as well as tending to not talk much about myself in general. Also, I have lots of random stuff and like to confuse her. The only thing we changed was that you can mark stuff as off limits of course.
Today I had to go to the hospital for some post-surgery checkups so there would be plenty of time for her to go through my apartment. Apart from the random stuff I have, I assumed there is only one really weird thing there which would be a drawer that contains different knives(mostly crappy), gloves, bats, knuckle-dusters and stuff like that. Stuff that I got from disarmings from a time where I was careless and stupid. She knows about that as well as that its well in the past, so there shouldn't be a problem, right?
Wrong.
I seriously forgot about the small collection of deactivated firearms under my bed, featuring some pistols, assault rifles, sniper rifles and even a light machine gun, as well as disarmed ammunition. Neatly organized and tucked into some sheets. None of those weapons/that ammunition is functional, but you wont recognize that without further inspection.
At this point you might ask "Why the hell you rented the storage under your bed to John Wick?". Explanation is quite simple. My former best friend who served in the military and deceased about a year ago and bequeathed some of his weapons to me as they hold some sentimental value to him. Because of the gun laws here they got properly deactivated before they got shipped to me. I store them under my bed because there is no other place to put them in my apartment and I don't want to store them in my cellar as it isn't very secure and them still holding quite some value, despite being deactivated (for example, the scopes are still fully operational, one even featuring night vision etc.).
So this morning, my girlfriend arrives and is super prepared, she already made a plan how she goes on as well as some forms like "item X, position, question about it". We spend some time, then I go to the hospital while she goes through my stuff. As I said, I have some random stuff some of which she expected to just been some stuff from my youth that I haven't thrown away, so she checks the box under my bed at the end, hoping to find some embarrassing bedding she can mock me about and add to her "haha"-list(yes, she even prepared a list for stuff she could use to mock me).
After my checkup, I check my phone only to see that she send me a text, asking me to head back as soon as I finished. I arrive at my place, only to find her looking really worried and a bit scared, then I saw what she found and couldn't help but grin like an idiot. Explanation was easy, so nothing to worry, but I found the whole thing pretty hilarious. Best part was reading her notes, you could clearly see when she found the guns. Previously her notes where well organized, with some questions or assumptions regarding the item that got her attention. You could see that she went through the stuff very methodical, up to this point. After it, her notes where a lot less organized, and her note for the bed simply stated what would translate to "what the hell?!". First she assumed those where softair-guns, then she took up one of the pistols, realized the weight and saw some of the mags/ammunition and didn't dare to touch any of them anymore and started to make some wild assumptions. So the clumsy dating-master stroke again and had lots of fun : D. Tomorrow will be my turn, hopefully I am going to find something equally suprising. Still have to find that strapon I was warned about .
Despite my small oversight, I liked the general idea of this. It was really interesting to see how some of my stuff appeals to her and what assumptions she made. I even learned a bit about me by being forced to think about stuff that I haven thought about before. Plus she told me she feels a lot more like knowing me after this since it showed her some small stuff that you usually only pick up after some time. I can even imagine this being fun even when you already together for quite some time. Even if it is only to see what you should finally throw away
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Jeez, she must have been so freaked out by the guns, I know I would!
Also, did you guys pork yet?
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great date today btw, Asean film festival with a hilariously shitty malaysian movie, with malaysian band playing before hand and tasting of food after. And then we went night climbing a wall, ended by one last time in a tent at my place (in the living room :D) I've got quite a few scratches on me, she tends to do that.
One thing I should get under control is doing it without a condom here and there - just a few seconds at a time, e.g. when we are masturbating in-front of each other, I mean the probability is super low as I do it after 1-2 times+ so there's no pre-cum really, but there's always a risk (which gives us a kick out of it too)
She also made a habit out of reading my thoughts journal, it's pretty uncomfortable still since I write about her+sometimes other girls and e.g. today she read an entry about what memories about her pop into my head while jacking off
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What the hell am I reading.
All of TL is reading your diary it seems...
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