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I don't know if you told us why, but are you seriously going to deny her sex just because you want to take it slow..? I honestly think it could be a problem for her even though she might not want to admit it. I don't really see the reason for it either. Not when you're going shopping together etc etc.
On another note, the girl I've been seeing lately won't come back to our university town until the 17th. This nofap and noporn (well i try to not watch any pics but i accidentally click them on reddit's /all sometimes out of habit) is making me super fucking horny. Just want to push her up against a wall and demolish her!
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On August 09 2015 20:07 bloodwhore~ wrote:I don't know if you told us why, but are you seriously going to deny her sex just because you want to take it slow..? I honestly think it could be a problem for her even though she might not want to admit it. I don't really see the reason for it either. Not when you're going shopping together etc etc. On another note, the girl I've been seeing lately won't come back to our university town until the 17th. This nofap and noporn (well i try to not watch any pics but i accidentally click them on reddit's /all sometimes out of habit) is making me super fucking horny. Just want to push her up against a wall and demolish her!  cute coming from a virgin lol at least youre sure you wont have problems getting it up now also, isnt there this theory (fact?) that if men dont ejaculate for a long time it makes their sperm bad or something? might want to be careful with where you ejaculate because your sperm might not look pretty
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On August 09 2015 20:20 evilfatsh1t wrote:Show nested quote +On August 09 2015 20:07 bloodwhore~ wrote:I don't know if you told us why, but are you seriously going to deny her sex just because you want to take it slow..? I honestly think it could be a problem for her even though she might not want to admit it. I don't really see the reason for it either. Not when you're going shopping together etc etc. On another note, the girl I've been seeing lately won't come back to our university town until the 17th. This nofap and noporn (well i try to not watch any pics but i accidentally click them on reddit's /all sometimes out of habit) is making me super fucking horny. Just want to push her up against a wall and demolish her!  cute coming from a virgin lol at least youre sure you wont have problems getting it up now also, isnt there this theory (fact?) that if men dont ejaculate for a long time it makes their sperm bad or something?might want to be careful with where you ejaculate because your sperm might not look pretty
Not that I'm aware of (or more specifically, citation needed for such a thing), but I guess it might be more likely for you to blow your load sooner.
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On August 09 2015 20:07 bloodwhore~ wrote: I don't know if you told us why, but are you seriously going to deny her sex just because you want to take it slow..? I honestly think it could be a problem for her even though she might not want to admit it. I don't really see the reason for it either. Not when you're going shopping together etc etc.
Some people want to just take it slow; some people feel that sex is a meaningful and significant event (or at least, not wanting to fuck everything that walks). Usually that's a stereotype for girls and not guys, but some guys feel that way too.
On another note, the girl I've been seeing lately won't come back to our university town until the 17th. This nofap and noporn (well i try to not watch any pics but i accidentally click them on reddit's /all sometimes out of habit) is making me super fucking horny. Just want to push her up against a wall and demolish her! 
wtf? Just fap. If you used to do it too frequently, just limit yourself to X times per week or whatever.
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On August 09 2015 20:20 evilfatsh1t wrote: cute coming from a virgin lol at least youre sure you wont have problems getting it up now also, isnt there this theory (fact?) that if men dont ejaculate for a long time it makes their sperm bad or something? might want to be careful with where you ejaculate because your sperm might not look pretty
Look doesn't change much as long as you eat proper. The taste and smell does change though, especially the taste. Be a gentlemen and either have sex with her first or jack off before(not more then 2 days before. When aroused, your testis fire up their sperm production to max, but they produce at a slow rate all the time. Sperm in your testis lasts for about 3 days after which it either dies off or gets dissolved by some other cells, don't remember exactly which. Point is, you can either serve her an old, stale drink or a fresh one that still has plenty of sparkling in it. Another side note: some researches suggest that Y-sperms get to live longer in the males testis, while the X-sperms get to live longer in the women and that you can affect the possibility of having a boy or a girl by with that.). Also don't masturbate furiously before you expect a blowjob, after a certain amount of orgasms over short time, you almost exclusively shoot some milky juice that also smells weird and probably doesn't taste well.
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My girlfriend of a little over 2 months just wanted some 'me-time' (IE spending time with a friend and reading after) after spending pretty much the last 48 hours together and while also having plans with me for the next day. I'm guessing this is completely normal (actually I'm surprised that hasn't happened to me yet, I'm big on me-time normally), but seeing as this is my first relationship I'm not sure I should be slightly worried. Would having tentative plans before deciding otherwise ('we could get together after work!') change anything?
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On August 09 2015 23:25 Mikau wrote: My girlfriend of a little over 2 months just wanted some 'me-time' (IE spending time with a friend and reading after) after spending pretty much the last 48 hours together and while also having plans with me for the next day. I'm guessing this is completely normal (actually I'm surprised that hasn't happened to me yet, I'm big on me-time normally), but seeing as this is my first relationship I'm not sure I should be slightly worried. Would having tentative plans before deciding otherwise ('we could get together after work!') change anything?
Me-time is totally understandable and acceptable. Don't smother her or be overly selfish with stealing all her time You'll only push her away if you try to invade every second of her life.
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On August 09 2015 23:25 Mikau wrote: My girlfriend of a little over 2 months just wanted some 'me-time' (IE spending time with a friend and reading after) after spending pretty much the last 48 hours together and while also having plans with me for the next day. I'm guessing this is completely normal (actually I'm surprised that hasn't happened to me yet, I'm big on me-time normally), but seeing as this is my first relationship I'm not sure I should be slightly worried. Would having tentative plans before deciding otherwise ('we could get together after work!') change anything?
Sounds like you're doing fine on spending time together. Don't overdo it.
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On August 09 2015 20:20 evilfatsh1t wrote: cute coming from a virgin lol
Do you only expect experienced guys to be dominant? .
I'm going to use a condom and unless she blows me and I cum at that point she most likely won't eat/drink it.
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Its not only about swallowing it. Like in general. Trust me, have a wank a day or 2 before. Try to do it with the least stimulation possible/no thinking at all and you wont lose any of your horniness. Best way to get blowjobs is to make it as comfortable for her as possible 
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Reading the last page one might get to the concuson that waffelz has given a lot of head in recent times :D
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On August 09 2015 23:25 Mikau wrote: My girlfriend of a little over 2 months just wanted some 'me-time' (IE spending time with a friend and reading after) after spending pretty much the last 48 hours together and while also having plans with me for the next day. I'm guessing this is completely normal (actually I'm surprised that hasn't happened to me yet, I'm big on me-time normally), but seeing as this is my first relationship I'm not sure I should be slightly worried. Would having tentative plans before deciding otherwise ('we could get together after work!') change anything? Do you want to keep this girl, or do you want to enjoy the thrill of dating her as much as possible and then move on?
If the 1st thing, you should avoid making any dates or making any plans to be together whatsoever actually during a date unless she brings it up. Have a banging time focus on the present, leave her with a passionate kiss telling her how awesome she is... And then let her contact you first. And when she does just say "Hey, I'd love to see you - when are you free to get together?" Well and if she doesn't, wait 3-5 days, call her, and say the same.
What you are doing will be unsustainable in 99% cases long term I'd say and you will smother her eventually, that she has to actively ask for "me" time is a big warning sign tbh.
If you want to just use her as much as possible, and you don't mind that the relationship will most likely burn out fast then there's no issue, just respect when she asks for free time.
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Btw Waffelz you sound so much like a chick, I have a weird tendency to ask you out from reading your posts :D
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On August 10 2015 06:35 LemOn wrote: Btw Waffelz you sound so much like a chick, I have a weird tendency to ask you out from reading your posts :D
 But seriously, you guys never had the desire to understand the side of the women during sex/ a relationship in general? I am generally very curious, but in this case it seems rather obvious to me. If you are together with someone, you care for them and therefore want things to be nice for them don't you? When having sex, gifting your partner a moment of pure joy should regularly be your intention, minus the occasions where your partner decided to treat you. And to achieve that, you need at least a general understanding of how these things work for women and for your partner especially. Also, its really funny and fascinating how the whole thing works for women and you can play around with that knowledge quite a bit. Even if you are not such a wonderful and selfless perfect being like me(see: idealist without connection to reality), you do want sex, don't you? And the easiest way to get that is to make it as desirable as possible for your women. I've never had the problem of being in a relationship where lack of sex was a problem and I am very sure the reason for it is that I always took great care of my partner and in general made sure she always knew and felt how I desired her. Make her feel comfortable with it, make her feel sexy and desirable and do your part good and things work out themselves. Its very important though, that you stay honest with your compliments and that you make her realize that she can be sure of that. From my experience and what I got from the stories of my female friends, most girls don't mind giving head for example, a lot actually quite enjoy it - if you keep certain things in mind, like the stuff mentioned above. And don't be one of those hypocrites that expect their girlfriend to give head, but refuse to go down on her. In general, most guys just need to realise that sex with your partner is usually a team-job and your own pleasure shouldn't be the sole purpose of it.
I have to admit though that I often felt like enjoying her orgasm more than my own and I might got carried away by that over the course of the years, but at least I never had much complaints, besides her being to exhausted to go on . I would say it is a very good fetish :D
And I will I set you on the waiting list and call you if things with our current girls won't work out 
EDIT: ...not ment to steer you away from your girl... but I actually got bigger breasts then some girls. just letting you know
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Well I read books, listened and practiced to a couple hundred hrs of podcasts, had many conversations with women (often complete strangers on the street - it's fun to ask if it's true most women can't orgasm from pure vaginal stimulation a group of chicks you met 7 minutes ago) practiced in bed (this girl who's my friend now is an incredibly open screamer squirter dirty talker, she opened my horizons pretty wide) And still do.
But I never actually became one, If I didn't know you were a guy I'd assume it's a chick writing this stuff :D
(Even though being a chick =/= understanding women, most girls don't know what works on them in the first place I'd say)
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By the way for you guys in committed relationships. What are the ways you mix it up to keep your women guessing / surprised / how do you keep mystery to be present in the relationship?
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Thats something new. You see the beautiful princess inside me that I really am :D But nah, I am not a girl. And I don't ask random people on the street lol. That sounds funny, but also awfully weird/uncomfortable for the person that gets asked. And I still believe that the thing with "most women cant orgasm from pure vaginal stimulation" is bullshit/the reason is their partners. Unless "pure vaginal stimulation" means no foreplay and as I said, a moron as a partner. Or it ment "cant always orgasm from pure vaginal stimulation". But I believe we had that topic already.
EDIT: Spontaneity is key I think. Mixing things up and breaking the routine. Also being open towards things that maybe arent necessarily your thing. And always keeping eyes on the little things to see with what you can suprise her in a positive way.
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On August 10 2015 01:13 bloodwhore~ wrote:Do you only expect experienced guys to be dominant? . I'm going to use a condom and unless she blows me and I cum at that point she most likely won't eat/drink it. pretty much lol you cant dominate a game of dota when its your first time playing you cant dominate a race track when its your first time in a race car get my drift?
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On August 10 2015 09:20 evilfatsh1t wrote:Show nested quote +On August 10 2015 01:13 bloodwhore~ wrote:On August 09 2015 20:20 evilfatsh1t wrote: cute coming from a virgin lol Do you only expect experienced guys to be dominant? . I'm going to use a condom and unless she blows me and I cum at that point she most likely won't eat/drink it. pretty much lol you cant dominate a game of dota when its your first time playing you cant dominate a race track when its your first time in a race car get my drift? Fake it till you make it. You watch enough Dota, you can play a game and maybe dominate against a team full of scrubs.
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