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We are extremely close to shutting down this thread for the same reasons the PUA thread was shut down. While some of the time this thread contains actual discussion with people asking help and people giving nice advice, it often gets derailed by rubbish that should not be here. The moderation team will be trying to steer this thread in a different direction from now on. Posts of the following nature are banned: 1) ANYTHING regarding PUA. If your post contains the words 'alpha' or 'beta' or anything of that sort please don't hit post. 2) Stupid brags. You can tell us about your nice success stories with someone, but posts such as 'lol 50 Tinder matches' are a no-no. 3) Any misogynistic bullshit, including discussion about rape culture. 4) One night stands and random sex. These are basically brags that invariably devolve into gender role discussions and misogynistic comments. Last chance, guys. This thread is for dating advice and sharing dating stories. While gender roles, sociocultural norms, and our biological imperative to reproduce are all tangentially related, these subjects are not the main purpose of the thread. Please AVOID these discussions. If you want to discuss them at length, go to PMs or start a blog. If you disagree with someone's ideologies, state that you disagree with them and why they won't work from a dating standpoint and move on. We will not tolerate any lengthy derailments that aren't directly about dating. | ||
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Pucca
Taiwan1280 Posts
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drowisimba
65 Posts
On January 04 2013 12:05 ZERG_RUSSIAN wrote: I know from your self-report that you've never kissed a woman in your straight life and I think that's a horrible tragedy. Look, man, I know you're not going to listen to me right now because you don't like me (and don't get me wrong, I don't particularly like you), but maybe this will sink in a few years down the road and you'll realize that you can have romance in your life. That bar doesn't have to be a 0 when you balance your life chart. You're right about the intelligent people having less sex thing, I'll give you that, and I knew that from the get-go. I was really just picking holes in your argument for fun because if you failed to argue correctly I could just lolol my way to the bank. BUT HERE'S THE BIG POINT WE CAN'T ASSUME INTELLIGENT PEOPLE HAVE LESS SEX BECAUSE IT'S HARDER FOR THEM TO GET LAID Maybe, just maybe, there are other things in life than sticking your penis inside a vagina, some of which may be more interesting. That is not an excuse to completely disregard romance and sex in your life, though. Sex is a BASIC HUMAN NEED which keeps us physically and psychologically healthy. Take slow steps and move towards being a more attractive person. You're not particularly enlighted. You're not in any position to give me or anyone else advice. You know painfully little about the world, and I never asked for your advice. In fact, I asked you not to give any. Yet here you are, spouting your ridiculous bullshit. Now you say I'm right about the fact you so vehemently denied before, and that you knew it all along... Great troll, man. Congratulations. The thread is about sticking your penis into a vagina (well, sort of). That's why I'm discussing it here. If you wish to have another discussion, go somewhere else or talk to the voices in your head. User was banned for this post. | ||
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ZERG_RUSSIAN
10417 Posts
On January 04 2013 12:09 Pucca wrote: It may be a disadvantage of being guy only at 5'3. Just find a girl who's 4'10"  | ||
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ZERG_RUSSIAN
10417 Posts
On January 04 2013 12:10 drowisimba wrote: You're not particularly enlighted. You're not in any position to give me or anyone else advice. You know painfully little about the world, and I never asked for your advice. In fact, I asked you not to give any. Yet here you are, spouting your ridiculous bullshit. Now you say I'm right about the fact you so vehemently denied before, and that you knew it all along... Great troll, man. Congratulations. The thread is about sticking your penis into a vagina (well, sort of). That's why I'm discussing it here. If you wish to have another discussion, go somewhere else or talk to the voices in your head. Hey, we all asked you to stfu and leave the thread because your posts were dumb, but nobody's forcing you . | ||
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Pucca
Taiwan1280 Posts
My spawning pool of the ladies is very restricted at that point than. Looks like I'll have to try harder | ||
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ZERG_RUSSIAN
10417 Posts
On January 04 2013 12:13 Pucca wrote: My spawning pool of the ladies is very restricted at that point than. Looks like I'll have to try harder Your attitude is fucking amazing, you'll do just fine. Meet as many new people as you can while constantly improving the quality of your life, it's basically a foolproof formula for success. | ||
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obesechicken13
United States10467 Posts
 Has anyone designed a program to search TL threads? | ||
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Alryk
United States2718 Posts
On January 04 2013 12:13 Pucca wrote: My spawning pool of the ladies is very restricted at that point than. Looks like I'll have to try harder Psh, just get taller. It's easy! Also: to whoever mentioned the average IQ being the best "evolution-wise," have you ever stopped to consider the fact that the average is on a constant but steady trend upwards, and there will always be people above and below the "average" curve? The average man now is smarter than the average man of the 1600s is smarter than the average man of the 800s etc. down to the stone ages. Just because it's average doesn't mean that "100" (example) has been the best IQ for the past 2000 years. | ||
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sc4k
United Kingdom5454 Posts
On January 04 2013 12:09 Pucca wrote: It may be a disadvantage of being guy only at 5'3. Haha, well the most pussy destroying man I've ever met is like 5ft 1. So it's not always impossible :D. Good thing about being small is that if you go to the gym it's much easier to pack on a bit of muscle... | ||
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loiop
34 Posts
On January 04 2013 12:17 obesechicken13 wrote: I remember making a post in this thread a few years ago. But I don't think there's a way to easily search for this. It seems my last feedback thread was deleted Has anyone designed a program to search TL threads? Click your profile ----> number next to your total posts ---> click on the page links that are under this topic on the search tab Doesn't that do the trick? | ||
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obesechicken13
United States10467 Posts
On January 04 2013 12:25 loiop wrote: Click your profile ----> number next to your total posts ---> click on the page links that are under this topic on the search tab Doesn't that do the trick? No. My post was years ago. The threads are separated for some reason. Oh well. I have a feeling I know what it was about. Something concerning not caring. Somewhat of a lie to myself. | ||
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Kukaracha
France1954 Posts
I don't brag much, but this is too much. I need to say it. I'm dating one of the cutest girls from my high school (and in general), who is also madly in love with me, who's got a passion for history and ancient Egypt, a sharp mind, and killer face and body. And a perfect, small little nose. It's been three years and I'm happy. I could go into crazy details, but it's NSFW. | ||
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farvacola
United States18845 Posts
On January 04 2013 12:48 Kukaracha wrote: Ok so I need to vent. I don't brag much, but this is too much. I need to say it. I'm dating one of the cutest girls from my high school (and in general), who is also madly in love with me, who's got a passion for history and ancient Egypt, a sharp mind, and killer face and body. And a perfect, small little nose. It's been three years and I'm happy. I could go into crazy details, but it's NSFW. This might sound strange, but does she remind you of any sort of bird? If so, thumbs up from me. | ||
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sam!zdat
United States5559 Posts
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rezoacken
Canada2719 Posts
On January 04 2013 11:44 Pucca wrote: At age 18 only one attempt for a date and got rejected. The sad life of a nerd ;D Where you obsessing over it ? Don't. Are you obsessing over it ? Don't. We all have been there and even Casanova gets rejected. On January 04 2013 11:55 zJayy962 wrote: To be fair. Drow did cite a source. Though I have not checked out how credible it is, it is indeed an article that supports his statement of "smart people get laid less". And I agree with that (the correlation). I disagree with the causation he was suggesting (but he backed off later). While I think smart people tend to be less social savy because they are just less exposed (or where taught its unimportant), I don't think it can't be overcome or that in itself cleverness is unattractive. Also cleverness may in the end give you the necessary tools to get you out of a state you are in. But I think it takes a special kind of intelligence which people, even smart people lack, and that is auto-critic (to detect issues) and courage (to act on it). It may be a disadvantage of being guy only at 5'3. Nobody's perfect and that's certainly not an advantage. Being short is like having a bad hand in poker (well not too bad but its no pocket Ace). Doesn't mean you can't win the pot. Also... better short with cool posture than tall with a Sheldon like posture imo. And finally... you can't do anything about anyway; so its pretty useless to think about it. | ||
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Alex1Sun
494 Posts
On January 04 2013 06:10 Tien wrote: Jesus I didn't realize this thread had so many woman haters. It's not wrong for a female to not want to date a broke ass man that dresses like a beggar. Why is the man a broke ass man in the first place? The reasons why often make him unattractive. No self confidence. Not smart. Doing nothing with his life. Those are not very desirable qualities. People don't want to associate themselves with losers doing nothing with their life, you don't call them money grubbers, you call them realists. Well, it depends. There are quite a few smart, talented and confident men who are not sound financially because they have decided that doing good is more important than money. I'm speaking about musicians, scientists, farmers, artists, professors, carpenters. In many cases these jobs pay around or even bellow poverty level. These guys however are often quite attractive for certain types of girls. | ||
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sunprince
United States2258 Posts
On January 04 2013 12:09 Pucca wrote: It may be a disadvantage of being guy only at 5'3. 1. Get into shape. This guy might be 5'3" too, but his physical stature looks fine: ![[image loading]](http://mmadiehards.com/live/wp-content/uploads/2011/06/dj.jpg) 2. Read up on male fashion. There are ways to dress in order to minimize the visual impact of your height. | ||
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biomech
Germany380 Posts
On January 04 2013 12:48 Kukaracha wrote: Ok so I need to vent. I don't brag much, but this is too much. I need to say it. I'm dating one of the cutest girls from my high school (and in general), who is also madly in love with me, who's got a passion for history and ancient Egypt, a sharp mind, and killer face and body. And a perfect, small little nose. It's been three years and I'm happy. I could go into crazy details, but it's NSFW. That's france for you boys, GL HF. French girls, uh uh, delicious. | ||
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Satire
Canada295 Posts
On January 04 2013 11:44 drowisimba wrote: I wasn't speaking to you as a psychologist to another. (Besides, taking casual assumptions as fact is pretty much everything that psychologists do). Just a question to you: Why do you think the average IQ is the average? Because, evolutionary it's been the best IQ to have. If you want something to read, here: http://www.gnxp.com/blog/2007/04/intercourse-and-intelligence.php Also, feel free to shut up about me. I'm not talking about myself. Hey Drow, I've been reading your posts all day. You seem to have a very cynical approach to dating and interactions in general. I also spent some time reading your article, and while I did find it interesting, the method in which the various studies are presented misrepresents the intent of the various research articles. It is essentially assuming correlation between interrelated factors rather than providing accurate representation of the intent of the research. Assumed correlation, while it has it's place in interpretive research in terms of forming nul-hypothesis and hypothesis for further research, in and of itself it is a way to manipulate information. Still, props for finding a reasonably well supported blog post about what you believe. With that said, some of your beliefs are wrong. In particular, the belief that "smart" people (those with high IQ) are inclined to have poor social skills. This is actually wrong, for many academically intelligent people are also socially and emotionally intelligent as well. This is supported by a variety of sources: Meijs, N., Cillessen, A. N., Scholte, R. J., Segers, E., & Spijkerman, R. (2010). Social intelligence and academic achievement as predictors of adolescent popularity. Journal Of Youth And Adolescence, 39(1), 62-72. doi:10.1007/s10964-008-9373-9 Stichler, J. (2007). On leadership. Social intelligence: an essential trait of effective leaders. Nursing For Women's Health, 11(2), 189-193. Sadri, G. (2012). Emotional Intelligence and Leadership Development. Public Personnel Management, 41(3), 535-548. And one that is actually critical of this correlation: Antonakis, J. (2004). On why 'emotional intelligence' will not predict leadership effectiveness beyond IQ or the 'big five': An extension and rejoinder. Organizational Analysis, 12(2), 171-182. doi:10.1108/eb028991 (Even in this article, he more so describes that the correlation is not any stronger than normal academic intelligence and other indicators of leadership skills) Why is this important? Essentially stating that intelligence is a hindrance to you, is incorrect. If anything, your intelligence is an asset. This is actually an attraction point for females as well. Finally, your observed trend that intelligent people are more likely to be introverted is an incorrect assumption. Introversion and extroversion are not a function of intelligence, but are an observed personality trait on a continuum. (http://www.psychologytoday.com/articles/201008/revenge-the-introvert). I personally believe that while it may be true that intelligent people may have less sex on average than your average joe-smoe, I don't believe this indicates that there is less opportunity for sexual encounters in this sense. I believe that because of an increased awareness of consequences of actions, as well as increased interest in other areas and opportunities in combination with increased social skills and emotional intelligence, that this causes intelligence people to view sex in a risk vs reward paradigm, rather than within the context of immediate gratification. This means that (I believe) that intelligent people, on average, likely place a higher emphasis on meaningful relationships rather than sexual encounters. This of course is my own opinion and holds no scientific merrit what-so-ever. Finally, with that said, I must disagree with many of the people saying that you need to change who you are to be successful with women. While there are definitely some things you can do to help yourself physically to gain more confidence (such as working out at the gym), or something that may make you appear more attractive to women (such as learning a new skill or music), ultimately at the end of the day the most attraction quality anyone can have is to love yourself. It sounds simple, but loving the person you are is at the heart of confidence and attractiveness. This, above all, will assist you more than any PUA material will. After all, at the heart of all things PUA, is a simple belief that people are unhappy with this facet of their life. It's only natural that when people are willing to take steps towards being more successful, that they become more confident in themselves and their own ability. This is ultimately what it is all about. Day9 is my favourite example of this - the dude is a nerd baller. He loves Starcraft II and games and he lets everyone know it. And we love him for it. Women want him. Men want to be him. Children weep in his presence. Why? Because he is happy being the person he wants to be.  | ||
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Emzeeshady
Canada4203 Posts
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