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On February 04 2014 14:53 dravernor wrote:Show nested quote +On February 04 2014 14:28 xDaunt wrote:On February 04 2014 13:05 dravernor wrote:On February 04 2014 07:09 xDaunt wrote:On February 04 2014 06:57 JIJI_ wrote:
not sure if this is right place 2 ask this but:
do u guys think it is smart to only go after girl who is into gaming and actually good (like plat league+ for instance)?
all the time i have nothing 2 talk about outside of school(and not gonna talk about school work LOL) and random games i am playing that is why most girls who r not top gamers do not like me it seems
my dream girl would be some1 in masters league but that is very hard 2 get / find and they usually go for the pro-gamers (thorzain)
thx. This may seem a little counter-intuitive right now, but I'm of the strong opinion that the last kind of girl that you want to date (at least in terms of looking for a serious relationship) is a hardcore gamer. In fact, it's better to keep your girlfriends/spouses out of gaming altogether for the most part. I'm curious as to why you think this? Surly having something you can bond over and talk about, something you're both passionate about, it's something you'd want? I agree it is silly to look for girls who are particularly good only, or who are hardcore gamers, but having a girlfriend who shares an interest in your gaming habits can't be that bad? There are just better things to bond over. More to the point, gaming takes up a lot of time. If your girl is any good at games, she probably plays too much of them, which means that she's not doing a lot of other things that you may want her to do. If she's not good, then it probably is rather boring to play with her (I know this one from experience -- I bought a wii specifically to play with my wife, but I abandoned that little experiment really fast). There are things she isn't doing because of gaming that you'd want her to do? Do you not think this could apply to you too though? I am aware a lot of girls who date geeky guys have this complaint about them. Maybe playing 1 on 1 with them will get boring for you if she is bad, but if she is interested in learning you could teach her to get better. @cloud I think you generalize gamer girls. They probably all do get a lot of attention, but it is unfair to assume they're all the same.
Yep, it definitely cuts both ways. I'm a sorry shadow of my former self in terms of my gaming abilities.
Good luck teaching a girl a game like Starcraft. It probably isn't gong to go well.
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Then there's gamer and gamer. I'm happy with my casual girlfriend and teaching her a game here and there but if she was spending 6h a day playing LoL I'd probably wouldn't like it.
Would just like her to be a little bit more persistent -_-
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Northern Ireland26022 Posts
I generally dislike 'gamer girls', but if she just enjoys gaming i see no reason not to go for it. Like any other hobby really, I wouldn't make it a pre-requisite though
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I struck out without even trying yesterday.
Went grocery shopping, picked up a bag of veggies a girl dropped, gave it to her, smiled because it had been a good day, and instead of saying thanks she goes:
"Short guys aren't my thing". What?
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On February 04 2014 21:03 SixStrings wrote:
I struck out without even trying yesterday.
Went grocery shopping, picked up a bag of veggies a girl dropped, gave it to her, smiled because it had been a good day, and instead of saying thanks she goes:
"Short guys aren't my thing". What?
It could be either a shit test or she doesn't genuinely think people can be nice to her without wanting something else. Either way the best response is have no reaction to the statement.
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On February 04 2014 14:53 dravernor wrote:Show nested quote +On February 04 2014 14:28 xDaunt wrote:On February 04 2014 13:05 dravernor wrote:On February 04 2014 07:09 xDaunt wrote:On February 04 2014 06:57 JIJI_ wrote:
not sure if this is right place 2 ask this but:
do u guys think it is smart to only go after girl who is into gaming and actually good (like plat league+ for instance)?
all the time i have nothing 2 talk about outside of school(and not gonna talk about school work LOL) and random games i am playing that is why most girls who r not top gamers do not like me it seems
my dream girl would be some1 in masters league but that is very hard 2 get / find and they usually go for the pro-gamers (thorzain)
thx. This may seem a little counter-intuitive right now, but I'm of the strong opinion that the last kind of girl that you want to date (at least in terms of looking for a serious relationship) is a hardcore gamer. In fact, it's better to keep your girlfriends/spouses out of gaming altogether for the most part. I'm curious as to why you think this? Surly having something you can bond over and talk about, something you're both passionate about, it's something you'd want? I agree it is silly to look for girls who are particularly good only, or who are hardcore gamers, but having a girlfriend who shares an interest in your gaming habits can't be that bad? There are just better things to bond over. More to the point, gaming takes up a lot of time. If your girl is any good at games, she probably plays too much of them, which means that she's not doing a lot of other things that you may want her to do. If she's not good, then it probably is rather boring to play with her (I know this one from experience -- I bought a wii specifically to play with my wife, but I abandoned that little experiment really fast). @cloud I think you generalize gamer girls. They probably all do get a lot of attention, but it is unfair to assume they're all the same.
Of course they aren't, but it's not really worth looking for one
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On February 04 2014 21:03 SixStrings wrote:
I struck out without even trying yesterday.
Went grocery shopping, picked up a bag of veggies a girl dropped, gave it to her, smiled because it had been a good day, and instead of saying thanks she goes:
"Short guys aren't my thing". What?
Haha if some girl would say that to me I'd instantly respond "Well I guess you're in luck then. When the full moon is out I turn into a werewolf from twilight and I grow at least 6 inches!" with a wink after. And then just walk away and tell a good story to my buddies. Too bad I'm average height :D
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On February 04 2014 15:01 xDaunt wrote:Show nested quote +On February 04 2014 14:53 dravernor wrote:On February 04 2014 14:28 xDaunt wrote:On February 04 2014 13:05 dravernor wrote:On February 04 2014 07:09 xDaunt wrote:On February 04 2014 06:57 JIJI_ wrote:
not sure if this is right place 2 ask this but:
do u guys think it is smart to only go after girl who is into gaming and actually good (like plat league+ for instance)?
all the time i have nothing 2 talk about outside of school(and not gonna talk about school work LOL) and random games i am playing that is why most girls who r not top gamers do not like me it seems
my dream girl would be some1 in masters league but that is very hard 2 get / find and they usually go for the pro-gamers (thorzain)
thx. This may seem a little counter-intuitive right now, but I'm of the strong opinion that the last kind of girl that you want to date (at least in terms of looking for a serious relationship) is a hardcore gamer. In fact, it's better to keep your girlfriends/spouses out of gaming altogether for the most part. I'm curious as to why you think this? Surly having something you can bond over and talk about, something you're both passionate about, it's something you'd want? I agree it is silly to look for girls who are particularly good only, or who are hardcore gamers, but having a girlfriend who shares an interest in your gaming habits can't be that bad? There are just better things to bond over. More to the point, gaming takes up a lot of time. If your girl is any good at games, she probably plays too much of them, which means that she's not doing a lot of other things that you may want her to do. If she's not good, then it probably is rather boring to play with her (I know this one from experience -- I bought a wii specifically to play with my wife, but I abandoned that little experiment really fast). There are things she isn't doing because of gaming that you'd want her to do? Do you not think this could apply to you too though? I am aware a lot of girls who date geeky guys have this complaint about them. Maybe playing 1 on 1 with them will get boring for you if she is bad, but if she is interested in learning you could teach her to get better. @cloud I think you generalize gamer girls. They probably all do get a lot of attention, but it is unfair to assume they're all the same. Yep, it definitely cuts both ways. I'm a sorry shadow of my former self in terms of my gaming abilities. Good luck teaching a girl a game like Starcraft. It probably isn't gong to go well.
Just for some equally valid anecdotal evidence in the opposite direction. My girlfriend had gamed in the past but wasnt gaming when we starting hooking up. Now shes better at starcraft than me and we play all kinds of games together and she games more than me and its basically my nerd fantasy.
By the way negatively generalizing a group of women due to the actions of a group of boys was a funny one.
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On February 04 2014 22:28 MightyBill wrote:Show nested quote +On February 04 2014 21:03 SixStrings wrote:
I struck out without even trying yesterday.
Went grocery shopping, picked up a bag of veggies a girl dropped, gave it to her, smiled because it had been a good day, and instead of saying thanks she goes:
"Short guys aren't my thing". What? Haha if some girl would say that to me I'd instantly respond "Well I guess you're in luck then. When the full moon is out I turn into a werewolf from twilight and I grow at least 6 inches!" with a wink after. And then just walk away and tell a good story to my buddies. Too bad I'm average height :D
That's the dumbest thing I've read all week...
On February 04 2014 21:03 SixStrings wrote:
I struck out without even trying yesterday.
Went grocery shopping, picked up a bag of veggies a girl dropped, gave it to her, smiled because it had been a good day, and instead of saying thanks she goes:
"Short guys aren't my thing". What?
Had I been a short person in your situation, I would have just said something like "didn't know I had to be tall to be nice to a stranger" and walked off. People with an attitude like that can go fuck themselves.
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On February 04 2014 21:03 SixStrings wrote:
I struck out without even trying yesterday.
Went grocery shopping, picked up a bag of veggies a girl dropped, gave it to her, smiled because it had been a good day, and instead of saying thanks she goes:
"Short guys aren't my thing". What?
Hah, what a cunt, I'd reply: "Thank god, cause chubby girls aren't my thing either"
Oh no, some guy wanted to be friendly and/or thinks I'm attractive, I better insult him!
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do you guys really think thats what happened? Its sixstrings after all.
most likely he said he wanted to impregnate her while she calls her father or something similiar.
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On February 04 2014 23:53 h0lgr wrote:Show nested quote +On February 04 2014 21:03 SixStrings wrote:
I struck out without even trying yesterday.
Went grocery shopping, picked up a bag of veggies a girl dropped, gave it to her, smiled because it had been a good day, and instead of saying thanks she goes:
"Short guys aren't my thing". What? Hah, what a cunt, I'd reply: "Thank god, cause chubby girls aren't my thing either" Oh no, some guy wanted to be friendly and/or thinks I'm attractive, I better insult him!
If they like you they might want to see how you react to stress and hostility
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On February 05 2014 00:03 aTnClouD wrote:Show nested quote +On February 04 2014 23:53 h0lgr wrote:On February 04 2014 21:03 SixStrings wrote:
I struck out without even trying yesterday.
Went grocery shopping, picked up a bag of veggies a girl dropped, gave it to her, smiled because it had been a good day, and instead of saying thanks she goes:
"Short guys aren't my thing". What? Hah, what a cunt, I'd reply: "Thank god, cause chubby girls aren't my thing either" Oh no, some guy wanted to be friendly and/or thinks I'm attractive, I better insult him! If they like you they might want to see how you react to stress and hostility
Yeah, exactly the sort of woman I'd want to avoid.
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On February 05 2014 00:10 h0lgr wrote:Show nested quote +On February 05 2014 00:03 aTnClouD wrote:On February 04 2014 23:53 h0lgr wrote:On February 04 2014 21:03 SixStrings wrote:
I struck out without even trying yesterday.
Went grocery shopping, picked up a bag of veggies a girl dropped, gave it to her, smiled because it had been a good day, and instead of saying thanks she goes:
"Short guys aren't my thing". What? Hah, what a cunt, I'd reply: "Thank god, cause chubby girls aren't my thing either" Oh no, some guy wanted to be friendly and/or thinks I'm attractive, I better insult him! If they like you they might want to see how you react to stress and hostility Yeah, exactly the sort of woman I'd want to avoid.
These are the tests you have to deal with if you want a woman in huge demand. Your choice
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Northern Ireland26022 Posts
Depends what you're looking for in a woman. Those in high demand are often only in such demand because they're hot, and only due to that. It's why the whole concept of 'negging' exists/works to varying degrees, primarily on those in-demand ladies of which you speak.
Anyway, trying to get out of generalisation mode, if I continue this discussion I'll be stuck in it for a good week or more!
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Thanks for all the great replies, I had a few of those in my mind, ten minutes later when they were completely fucking useless.
On February 04 2014 22:28 MightyBill wrote:Show nested quote +On February 04 2014 21:03 SixStrings wrote:
I struck out without even trying yesterday.
Went grocery shopping, picked up a bag of veggies a girl dropped, gave it to her, smiled because it had been a good day, and instead of saying thanks she goes:
"Short guys aren't my thing". What? Haha if some girl would say that to me I'd instantly respond "Well I guess you're in luck then. When the full moon is out I turn into a werewolf from twilight and I grow at least 6 inches!" with a wink after. And then just walk away and tell a good story to my buddies. Too bad I'm average height :D
Excepting this one of course, that was absolutely atrocious. She would have been halfway home before I even got to the really lame part.
On February 05 2014 00:18 aTnClouD wrote:Show nested quote +On February 05 2014 00:10 h0lgr wrote:On February 05 2014 00:03 aTnClouD wrote:On February 04 2014 23:53 h0lgr wrote:On February 04 2014 21:03 SixStrings wrote:
I struck out without even trying yesterday.
Went grocery shopping, picked up a bag of veggies a girl dropped, gave it to her, smiled because it had been a good day, and instead of saying thanks she goes:
"Short guys aren't my thing". What? Hah, what a cunt, I'd reply: "Thank god, cause chubby girls aren't my thing either" Oh no, some guy wanted to be friendly and/or thinks I'm attractive, I better insult him! If they like you they might want to see how you react to stress and hostility Yeah, exactly the sort of woman I'd want to avoid. These are the tests you have to deal with if you want a woman in huge demand. Your choice
Why would you even do that to yourself?
There's two things I want from a woman: companionship (meaning having a good time together, feeling good when I'm with her, maybe sharing hobbies and making experiences) and sex. Which of these do you suppose a "hot" one would be better at than someone whose looks don't draw much attention?
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On February 05 2014 00:31 SixStrings wrote:Thanks for all the great replies, I had a few of those in my mind, ten minutes later when they were completely fucking useless. Show nested quote +On February 04 2014 22:28 MightyBill wrote:On February 04 2014 21:03 SixStrings wrote:
I struck out without even trying yesterday.
Went grocery shopping, picked up a bag of veggies a girl dropped, gave it to her, smiled because it had been a good day, and instead of saying thanks she goes:
"Short guys aren't my thing". What? Haha if some girl would say that to me I'd instantly respond "Well I guess you're in luck then. When the full moon is out I turn into a werewolf from twilight and I grow at least 6 inches!" with a wink after. And then just walk away and tell a good story to my buddies. Too bad I'm average height :D Excepting this one of course, that was absolutely atrocious. She would have been halfway home before I even got to the really lame part. Show nested quote +On February 05 2014 00:18 aTnClouD wrote:On February 05 2014 00:10 h0lgr wrote:On February 05 2014 00:03 aTnClouD wrote:On February 04 2014 23:53 h0lgr wrote:On February 04 2014 21:03 SixStrings wrote:
I struck out without even trying yesterday.
Went grocery shopping, picked up a bag of veggies a girl dropped, gave it to her, smiled because it had been a good day, and instead of saying thanks she goes:
"Short guys aren't my thing". What? Hah, what a cunt, I'd reply: "Thank god, cause chubby girls aren't my thing either" Oh no, some guy wanted to be friendly and/or thinks I'm attractive, I better insult him! If they like you they might want to see how you react to stress and hostility Yeah, exactly the sort of woman I'd want to avoid. These are the tests you have to deal with if you want a woman in huge demand. Your choice Why would you even do that to yourself? There's two things I want from a woman: companionship (meaning having a good time together, feeling good when I'm with her, maybe sharing hobbies and making experiences) and sex. Which of these do you suppose a "hot" one would be better at than someone whose looks don't draw much attention?
You've got it right. Think about it like this: Feeling a lil' down about it? Nope, you won this one.
That bitch didn't deserve you anyway, bullet dodged. You've got things to do. Next!
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I recently reactivated my Plenty of Fish account. I think I'm going to narrow down the search to people within 2 years of my age. Not interested in college frosh as the age difference is too large.
Try to not care too much about dates but also actively seek them. Felt really lonely this morning or something.
I'm also considering searching by location. Do you think this is a good idea? Some people live in neighboring parts of the city. So like an hour to two away by public transit. I know many relationships are like this but I don't know how many start with weekly dates.
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On February 04 2014 23:53 h0lgr wrote:Show nested quote +On February 04 2014 21:03 SixStrings wrote:
I struck out without even trying yesterday.
Went grocery shopping, picked up a bag of veggies a girl dropped, gave it to her, smiled because it had been a good day, and instead of saying thanks she goes:
"Short guys aren't my thing". What? Hah, what a cunt, I'd reply: "Thank god, cause chubby girls aren't my thing either" Oh no, some guy wanted to be friendly and/or thinks I'm attractive, I better insult him!
She didn't insult him though. She rejected what she thought was a come-on, in a reasonably polite way. The only rude person here is you - why do you feel the need to throw a retort at someone just because they don't want to date you?
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On February 05 2014 00:31 Wombat_NI wrote:
Depends what you're looking for in a woman. Those in high demand are often only in such demand because they're hot, and only due to that. It's why the whole concept of 'negging' exists/works to varying degrees, primarily on those in-demand ladies of which you speak.
Everything you said is absolutely correct. It's a sad and shallow reality.
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