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On August 31 2013 08:07 Thor.Rush wrote:
Few days ago I went on a long hike in the middle of the night with a chick and other people we didn't know. We looked at the stars, could see the milky way galaxy and shooting stars. We talked lying down with faces very close and looking into each other's eyes.
She said she wanted to do more activities with me. I asked her out for dinner and she said yes.
Then out of nowhere I get a text asking if another guy friend can join for dinner. I called her and asked wtf is up, and she said she had a boyfriend.
So in a few minutes I'm going to go to this awkward dinner and pretend to have a good time.
FML...seriously
At that point I would've said, "I'm sorry this was a date, if you wanna bring you're bf along then you 2 can go out to dinner by yourselves, what did you think this dinner was?"
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On August 31 2013 08:35 Zooper31 wrote:Show nested quote +On August 31 2013 08:07 Thor.Rush wrote:
Few days ago I went on a long hike in the middle of the night with a chick and other people we didn't know. We looked at the stars, could see the milky way galaxy and shooting stars. We talked lying down with faces very close and looking into each other's eyes.
She said she wanted to do more activities with me. I asked her out for dinner and she said yes.
Then out of nowhere I get a text asking if another guy friend can join for dinner. I called her and asked wtf is up, and she said she had a boyfriend.
So in a few minutes I'm going to go to this awkward dinner and pretend to have a good time.
FML...seriously At that point I would've said, "I'm sorry this was a date, if you wanna bring you're bf along then you 2 can go out to dinner by yourselves, what did you think this dinner was?"
Yeah exactly, have boundaries and just tell her "no I don't want to go anymore". I'm sure you have many other things to do with your life than wasting it playing third wheel on some dinner. Shit I'd rather stay at home and watch videos/play video games.
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On August 31 2013 12:42 FractalsOnFire wrote:Show nested quote +On August 31 2013 08:35 Zooper31 wrote:On August 31 2013 08:07 Thor.Rush wrote:
Few days ago I went on a long hike in the middle of the night with a chick and other people we didn't know. We looked at the stars, could see the milky way galaxy and shooting stars. We talked lying down with faces very close and looking into each other's eyes.
She said she wanted to do more activities with me. I asked her out for dinner and she said yes.
Then out of nowhere I get a text asking if another guy friend can join for dinner. I called her and asked wtf is up, and she said she had a boyfriend.
So in a few minutes I'm going to go to this awkward dinner and pretend to have a good time.
FML...seriously At that point I would've said, "I'm sorry this was a date, if you wanna bring you're bf along then you 2 can go out to dinner by yourselves, what did you think this dinner was?" Yeah exactly, have boundaries and just tell her "no I don't want to go anymore". I'm sure you have many other things to do with your life than wasting it playing third wheel on some dinner. Shit I'd rather stay at home and watch videos/play video games.
It's just a shitty situation for everyone =p, on one hand there is a guy who met a cute girl and thought he was going on a date with her but she has a boyfriend. On the other there is a girl who a met a really cool guy that she clicked well with only to find out that he wasnt interested in hanging out with her at all but merely wanted a girlfriend.
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Ive never been on a date before. I don't know what that is...
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On August 31 2013 08:08 farvacola wrote:
The obvious solution is for you to compete with the dude over paying the bill. That'll show her who's the best mate
Fuck that, paying for shit makes you look like a loser who's time has no value.
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On August 31 2013 13:22 NotSorry wrote:Show nested quote +On August 31 2013 08:08 farvacola wrote:
The obvious solution is for you to compete with the dude over paying the bill. That'll show her who's the best mate Fuck that, paying for shit makes you look like a loser who's time has no value.
He meant "Whoever makes sure the other guy pays for everyone wins".
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I meant whatever it takes for the reader to consider the statement facetious. 
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Little field report:
Anyways, took my dogs to the lake today after morning training and my dogs picked up a little girly for me, we were just hanging out in a little side area apart from the main beach area and this cute little, (19, maybe 20yrs old, 5'6 tops, maybe 115lbs, only b-cups tho) thing comes on over and starts asking if my dogs were nice and could she pet them so of course I turn the wild beasts loose on her and they pretty much lick her to death and she's just all laughing and playing with them, then I snap my fingers and both my girls sit down instantly without a second movement just like I taught them. She comes over and talks me up saying how impressed she is with my control over them, and that she's a dog trainer herself. We chat for a bit then splash around in the lake like a bunch of little kids. A little kissing/grabbing then I left, told her I had some stuff I needed to take care of, she looked so confused like she expected me to sit around and play with her all day or something. As I'm packing up she gives me her business card and tells me to call her anytime.
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So my story goes like this....
During highschool, which was 5 years ago, this one odd girl came on to me, and we got off great. The problem really started when I go to know her more; she has a really screwed up family situation, mental problems, and various self esteem issues. Despite knowing that I really tried to help her, and now looking back I probably prevented a few suicides; every time we chat about problems, it's a huge nightmare for me but I went through it trying to help her. I seem to have an attraction to these kind of girls probably because I have a huge caring side. Anyways eventually through all of this we decided to give it a shot, and the relationship lasted for about 2 days....She said to me after "I'm sorry I ever fell in love with you, I was on my period". So ya after all the effort I put in I got nothing. Fast forward to about second year in university I got over her, and we actually made up and hugged it out with tears in our eyes; she also got a lot of counseling and mental health support during this time which made her a lot better (thankfully).
What also happened to me during this time was a huge onset of depression and family issues (You can actually read about it here. I unfortunately didn't seek help right away, and it got me into a whole bunch of problems. After a suicide attempt my parents finally smartened up (they were responsible for a huge chunk of it). I dropped out of school and moved out trying to start anew...
During my university years, a friend of mine actually introduced me to his friend. She was a pretty nice person and we got along decently. Unfortunately we don't talk much because I go to school on the east coast. Since I dropped out of school and moved back to the west coast, we actually got along really well. Before you know it we got really close. The next twist is she told me her secret. She is actually transgendered. She started going for gender reassignment at a pretty young age so anyways....I really didn't mind it since I've known her for 3 years and I always has known her as a girl. So ya we practically asked each other out at the same time and we're together now. So overall it's a pretty interesting story....
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On August 31 2013 08:07 Thor.Rush wrote:
Few days ago I went on a long hike in the middle of the night with a chick and other people we didn't know. We looked at the stars, could see the milky way galaxy and shooting stars. We talked lying down with faces very close and looking into each other's eyes.
She said she wanted to do more activities with me. I asked her out for dinner and she said yes.
Then out of nowhere I get a text asking if another guy friend can join for dinner. I called her and asked wtf is up, and she said she had a boyfriend.
So in a few minutes I'm going to go to this awkward dinner and pretend to have a good time.
FML...seriously
I laughed pretty hard at this.
Either ditch her or be prepared to be her emotional tampon.
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On August 31 2013 08:07 Thor.Rush wrote:
Few days ago I went on a long hike in the middle of the night with a chick and other people we didn't know. We looked at the stars, could see the milky way galaxy and shooting stars. We talked lying down with faces very close and looking into each other's eyes.
She said she wanted to do more activities with me. I asked her out for dinner and she said yes.
Then out of nowhere I get a text asking if another guy friend can join for dinner. I called her and asked wtf is up, and she said she had a boyfriend.
So in a few minutes I'm going to go to this awkward dinner and pretend to have a good time.
FML...seriously
1. You could have backed out of the dinner, explaining to her that you were hoping she was single and that it could have been a date. It's at least honest.
2. could see the milky way galaxy You realize you can always be doing this by looking in any direction at any time, right?
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Go to dinner, and just bounce before the check comes ^ ^
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On August 31 2013 12:48 KlaCkoN wrote:Show nested quote +On August 31 2013 12:42 FractalsOnFire wrote:On August 31 2013 08:35 Zooper31 wrote:On August 31 2013 08:07 Thor.Rush wrote:
Few days ago I went on a long hike in the middle of the night with a chick and other people we didn't know. We looked at the stars, could see the milky way galaxy and shooting stars. We talked lying down with faces very close and looking into each other's eyes.
She said she wanted to do more activities with me. I asked her out for dinner and she said yes.
Then out of nowhere I get a text asking if another guy friend can join for dinner. I called her and asked wtf is up, and she said she had a boyfriend.
So in a few minutes I'm going to go to this awkward dinner and pretend to have a good time.
FML...seriously At that point I would've said, "I'm sorry this was a date, if you wanna bring you're bf along then you 2 can go out to dinner by yourselves, what did you think this dinner was?" Yeah exactly, have boundaries and just tell her "no I don't want to go anymore". I'm sure you have many other things to do with your life than wasting it playing third wheel on some dinner. Shit I'd rather stay at home and watch videos/play video games. It's just a shitty situation for everyone =p, on one hand there is a guy who met a cute girl and thought he was going on a date with her but she has a boyfriend. On the other there is a girl who a met a really cool guy that she clicked well with only to find out that he wasnt interested in hanging out with her at all but merely wanted a girlfriend.
Except she wanted to bring her boyfriend along to a dinner that was originally for just them two. If she wanted a friend to hang out with you would either: Not invite your SO and tell them on the dinner if any moves are pulled (or even beforehand) or invite them to parties, events that you like with a larger social group. What she did doesn't seem right.
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On August 31 2013 14:59 FractalsOnFire wrote:Show nested quote +On August 31 2013 12:48 KlaCkoN wrote:On August 31 2013 12:42 FractalsOnFire wrote:On August 31 2013 08:35 Zooper31 wrote:On August 31 2013 08:07 Thor.Rush wrote:
Few days ago I went on a long hike in the middle of the night with a chick and other people we didn't know. We looked at the stars, could see the milky way galaxy and shooting stars. We talked lying down with faces very close and looking into each other's eyes.
She said she wanted to do more activities with me. I asked her out for dinner and she said yes.
Then out of nowhere I get a text asking if another guy friend can join for dinner. I called her and asked wtf is up, and she said she had a boyfriend.
So in a few minutes I'm going to go to this awkward dinner and pretend to have a good time.
FML...seriously At that point I would've said, "I'm sorry this was a date, if you wanna bring you're bf along then you 2 can go out to dinner by yourselves, what did you think this dinner was?" Yeah exactly, have boundaries and just tell her "no I don't want to go anymore". I'm sure you have many other things to do with your life than wasting it playing third wheel on some dinner. Shit I'd rather stay at home and watch videos/play video games. It's just a shitty situation for everyone =p, on one hand there is a guy who met a cute girl and thought he was going on a date with her but she has a boyfriend. On the other there is a girl who a met a really cool guy that she clicked well with only to find out that he wasnt interested in hanging out with her at all but merely wanted a girlfriend. Except she wanted to bring her boyfriend along to a dinner that was originally for just them two. If she wanted a friend to hang out with you would either: Not invite your SO and tell them on the dinner if any moves are pulled (or even beforehand) or invite them to parties, events that you like with a larger social group. What she did doesn't seem right.
Dont think that's what he said. He said she wanted to bring another friend, then stating she had a boyfriend as further but separate evidence that she didn't want to date him, at least that's how I read it. If indeed she wanted to bring the boyfriend to the dinner that's kinda dumb.
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I just got married guys
What do I do now?
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Look a little more excited would be my guess 
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Suicide, is the only way out my friend, sorry it had to end this way.
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On August 31 2013 15:35 NotSorry wrote:
Suicide, is the only way out my friend, sorry it had to end this way.
but you're NotSorry
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congrats on winning
or... losing. not too sure. congrats tho! :p
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Still waiting on the details of Thor.Rush's 3rd wheel date!
Just got home from a party and I spent the night protecting this one severely drunk girl. Helped her puke the booze out, made sure she didn't fall asleep, wiped her down, made sure she was drinking water, and literally carried her to her friends car and put her seatbelt on. Even cockblocked a dude who was gonna have sex with her when she was blacked out on the bed. That feeling when you do everything right and still go home alone. Wishing karma would pay me back sometime.
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