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Fayth you spend the rest of your life loving her. Alternatively you can end up like Menalaus and have some dude steal your wife so that you can sack troy for her glory.
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Grats on the marriage, just stay faythful! :D
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On August 31 2013 13:38 NotSorry wrote: Little field report:
Anyways, took my dogs to the lake today after morning training and my dogs picked up a little girly for me, we were just hanging out in a little side area apart from the main beach area and this cute little, (19, maybe 20yrs old, 5'6 tops, maybe 115lbs, only b-cups tho) thing comes on over and starts asking if my dogs were nice and could she pet them so of course I turn the wild beasts loose on her and they pretty much lick her to death and she's just all laughing and playing with them, then I snap my fingers and both my girls sit down instantly without a second movement just like I taught them. She comes over and talks me up saying how impressed she is with my control over them, and that she's a dog trainer herself. We chat for a bit then splash around in the lake like a bunch of little kids. A little kissing/grabbing then I left, told her I had some stuff I needed to take care of, she looked so confused like she expected me to sit around and play with her all day or something. As I'm packing up she gives me her business card and tells me to call her anytime.
Note to myself: Get one or two dogs and train them to their fullest potential! :D
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On September 01 2013 01:29 Najda wrote: Grats on the marriage, just stay faythful! :D I see what you did there. On another note, cute pic Fayth. Epic picture.
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On August 29 2013 22:45 r.Evo wrote:Show nested quote +On August 29 2013 22:05 Najda wrote: What would you guys recommend as an alternative to inviting girls home either after a date or after a few dates?
Invite yourself to her home? Not sure what you're asking. @Mentalizor: Told you you shouldn't verbalize it. =P
That you did... But talking straight just might save the friendship
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So this past 5 years, I finally started hangin' out with this girl, whom I've been aquainted with on several occasions through friends and so on .. shes really sweet,.. shes got some anxiety problems and stress-related old problems that needs fixin'.. very naive.. and not my type from the get-to.. but she's very natural and loveable.. and totally non-bullshittery person.. very loyal, honest and earnest.. just sweet and cool.. and a demon in the sack..
and of course now she decideded to move to holland to.. try something different for a year, before returning and finding out what she wants to study..
Fuck this shit.
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That sucks but it would be selfish to stop her from going. Finding out what you want in life is almost always more important than a relationship, because if you aren't happy with yourself, it will be very hard to be happy with your relationship.
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On August 31 2013 13:38 NotSorry wrote: Little field report:
Anyways, took my dogs to the lake today after morning training and my dogs picked up a little girly for me, we were just hanging out in a little side area apart from the main beach area and this cute little, (19, maybe 20yrs old, 5'6 tops, maybe 115lbs, only b-cups tho) thing comes on over and starts asking if my dogs were nice and could she pet them so of course I turn the wild beasts loose on her and they pretty much lick her to death and she's just all laughing and playing with them, then I snap my fingers and both my girls sit down instantly without a second movement just like I taught them. She comes over and talks me up saying how impressed she is with my control over them, and that she's a dog trainer herself. We chat for a bit then splash around in the lake like a bunch of little kids. A little kissing/grabbing then I left, told her I had some stuff I needed to take care of, she looked so confused like she expected me to sit around and play with her all day or something. As I'm packing up she gives me her business card and tells me to call her anytime.
I don't understand this. Aren't you married with kids? So either you're a cheating bastard or a liar?
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On September 02 2013 02:14 HardlyNever wrote:Show nested quote +On August 31 2013 13:38 NotSorry wrote: Little field report:
Anyways, took my dogs to the lake today after morning training and my dogs picked up a little girly for me, we were just hanging out in a little side area apart from the main beach area and this cute little, (19, maybe 20yrs old, 5'6 tops, maybe 115lbs, only b-cups tho) thing comes on over and starts asking if my dogs were nice and could she pet them so of course I turn the wild beasts loose on her and they pretty much lick her to death and she's just all laughing and playing with them, then I snap my fingers and both my girls sit down instantly without a second movement just like I taught them. She comes over and talks me up saying how impressed she is with my control over them, and that she's a dog trainer herself. We chat for a bit then splash around in the lake like a bunch of little kids. A little kissing/grabbing then I left, told her I had some stuff I needed to take care of, she looked so confused like she expected me to sit around and play with her all day or something. As I'm packing up she gives me her business card and tells me to call her anytime. I don't understand this. Aren't you married with kids? So either you're a cheating bastard or a liar? What's bad about being in a committed relationship and picking up other women at the same time?
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On September 02 2013 02:40 r.Evo wrote:Show nested quote +On September 02 2013 02:14 HardlyNever wrote:On August 31 2013 13:38 NotSorry wrote: Little field report:
Anyways, took my dogs to the lake today after morning training and my dogs picked up a little girly for me, we were just hanging out in a little side area apart from the main beach area and this cute little, (19, maybe 20yrs old, 5'6 tops, maybe 115lbs, only b-cups tho) thing comes on over and starts asking if my dogs were nice and could she pet them so of course I turn the wild beasts loose on her and they pretty much lick her to death and she's just all laughing and playing with them, then I snap my fingers and both my girls sit down instantly without a second movement just like I taught them. She comes over and talks me up saying how impressed she is with my control over them, and that she's a dog trainer herself. We chat for a bit then splash around in the lake like a bunch of little kids. A little kissing/grabbing then I left, told her I had some stuff I needed to take care of, she looked so confused like she expected me to sit around and play with her all day or something. As I'm packing up she gives me her business card and tells me to call her anytime. I don't understand this. Aren't you married with kids? So either you're a cheating bastard or a liar? What's bad about being in a committed relationship and picking up other women at the same time?
Well... I wouldn't want it done to me, for one. I'm not 100% what the nature of his relationship is, and maybe they have an "open" relationship.
I guess it is personal opinion. I think it is pretty scummy, but that's me. If his wife knew about it, would she be ok with it? If so, then I guess it doesn't matter.
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On September 02 2013 02:40 r.Evo wrote:Show nested quote +On September 02 2013 02:14 HardlyNever wrote:On August 31 2013 13:38 NotSorry wrote: Little field report:
Anyways, took my dogs to the lake today after morning training and my dogs picked up a little girly for me, we were just hanging out in a little side area apart from the main beach area and this cute little, (19, maybe 20yrs old, 5'6 tops, maybe 115lbs, only b-cups tho) thing comes on over and starts asking if my dogs were nice and could she pet them so of course I turn the wild beasts loose on her and they pretty much lick her to death and she's just all laughing and playing with them, then I snap my fingers and both my girls sit down instantly without a second movement just like I taught them. She comes over and talks me up saying how impressed she is with my control over them, and that she's a dog trainer herself. We chat for a bit then splash around in the lake like a bunch of little kids. A little kissing/grabbing then I left, told her I had some stuff I needed to take care of, she looked so confused like she expected me to sit around and play with her all day or something. As I'm packing up she gives me her business card and tells me to call her anytime. I don't understand this. Aren't you married with kids? So either you're a cheating bastard or a liar? What's bad about being in a committed relationship and picking up other women at the same time? I'm assuming you're being sarcastic...
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On September 02 2013 03:14 ROOTFayth wrote:Show nested quote +On September 02 2013 02:40 r.Evo wrote:On September 02 2013 02:14 HardlyNever wrote:On August 31 2013 13:38 NotSorry wrote: Little field report:
Anyways, took my dogs to the lake today after morning training and my dogs picked up a little girly for me, we were just hanging out in a little side area apart from the main beach area and this cute little, (19, maybe 20yrs old, 5'6 tops, maybe 115lbs, only b-cups tho) thing comes on over and starts asking if my dogs were nice and could she pet them so of course I turn the wild beasts loose on her and they pretty much lick her to death and she's just all laughing and playing with them, then I snap my fingers and both my girls sit down instantly without a second movement just like I taught them. She comes over and talks me up saying how impressed she is with my control over them, and that she's a dog trainer herself. We chat for a bit then splash around in the lake like a bunch of little kids. A little kissing/grabbing then I left, told her I had some stuff I needed to take care of, she looked so confused like she expected me to sit around and play with her all day or something. As I'm packing up she gives me her business card and tells me to call her anytime. I don't understand this. Aren't you married with kids? So either you're a cheating bastard or a liar? What's bad about being in a committed relationship and picking up other women at the same time? I'm assuming you're being sarcastic...
NotSorry has posted a few times about his open marriage in this thread so in this context it's okay.
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yeah it's not for me personally, but as long as both people genuinely want it, agree to it and adhere to whatever terms they set forth, good for them
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I think one of the 2 is always going to be unhappy at some point about that and obviously will never say it
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On September 02 2013 03:14 ROOTFayth wrote:Show nested quote +On September 02 2013 02:40 r.Evo wrote:On September 02 2013 02:14 HardlyNever wrote:On August 31 2013 13:38 NotSorry wrote: Little field report:
Anyways, took my dogs to the lake today after morning training and my dogs picked up a little girly for me, we were just hanging out in a little side area apart from the main beach area and this cute little, (19, maybe 20yrs old, 5'6 tops, maybe 115lbs, only b-cups tho) thing comes on over and starts asking if my dogs were nice and could she pet them so of course I turn the wild beasts loose on her and they pretty much lick her to death and she's just all laughing and playing with them, then I snap my fingers and both my girls sit down instantly without a second movement just like I taught them. She comes over and talks me up saying how impressed she is with my control over them, and that she's a dog trainer herself. We chat for a bit then splash around in the lake like a bunch of little kids. A little kissing/grabbing then I left, told her I had some stuff I needed to take care of, she looked so confused like she expected me to sit around and play with her all day or something. As I'm packing up she gives me her business card and tells me to call her anytime. I don't understand this. Aren't you married with kids? So either you're a cheating bastard or a liar? What's bad about being in a committed relationship and picking up other women at the same time? I'm assuming you're being sarcastic... I'm actually not.
People who can't wrap their head around a non-monogamous relationship aren't exactly uncommon.
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On September 02 2013 05:39 r.Evo wrote:Show nested quote +On September 02 2013 03:14 ROOTFayth wrote:On September 02 2013 02:40 r.Evo wrote:On September 02 2013 02:14 HardlyNever wrote:On August 31 2013 13:38 NotSorry wrote: Little field report:
Anyways, took my dogs to the lake today after morning training and my dogs picked up a little girly for me, we were just hanging out in a little side area apart from the main beach area and this cute little, (19, maybe 20yrs old, 5'6 tops, maybe 115lbs, only b-cups tho) thing comes on over and starts asking if my dogs were nice and could she pet them so of course I turn the wild beasts loose on her and they pretty much lick her to death and she's just all laughing and playing with them, then I snap my fingers and both my girls sit down instantly without a second movement just like I taught them. She comes over and talks me up saying how impressed she is with my control over them, and that she's a dog trainer herself. We chat for a bit then splash around in the lake like a bunch of little kids. A little kissing/grabbing then I left, told her I had some stuff I needed to take care of, she looked so confused like she expected me to sit around and play with her all day or something. As I'm packing up she gives me her business card and tells me to call her anytime. I don't understand this. Aren't you married with kids? So either you're a cheating bastard or a liar? What's bad about being in a committed relationship and picking up other women at the same time? I'm assuming you're being sarcastic... I'm actually not. People who can't wrap their head around a non-monogamous relationship aren't exactly uncommon. So just because you would agree to a non-monogamous relationship means you're completely oblivious to the cons of it?
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there are lots of happy people in open relationships. It works for some people. I don't see why that means he'd be oblivious to anything though.
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I just assumed him saying "what's bad" meant he doesn't see anything bad about it
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On September 02 2013 05:39 r.Evo wrote:Show nested quote +On September 02 2013 03:14 ROOTFayth wrote:On September 02 2013 02:40 r.Evo wrote:On September 02 2013 02:14 HardlyNever wrote:On August 31 2013 13:38 NotSorry wrote: Little field report:
Anyways, took my dogs to the lake today after morning training and my dogs picked up a little girly for me, we were just hanging out in a little side area apart from the main beach area and this cute little, (19, maybe 20yrs old, 5'6 tops, maybe 115lbs, only b-cups tho) thing comes on over and starts asking if my dogs were nice and could she pet them so of course I turn the wild beasts loose on her and they pretty much lick her to death and she's just all laughing and playing with them, then I snap my fingers and both my girls sit down instantly without a second movement just like I taught them. She comes over and talks me up saying how impressed she is with my control over them, and that she's a dog trainer herself. We chat for a bit then splash around in the lake like a bunch of little kids. A little kissing/grabbing then I left, told her I had some stuff I needed to take care of, she looked so confused like she expected me to sit around and play with her all day or something. As I'm packing up she gives me her business card and tells me to call her anytime. I don't understand this. Aren't you married with kids? So either you're a cheating bastard or a liar? What's bad about being in a committed relationship and picking up other women at the same time? I'm assuming you're being sarcastic... I'm actually not. People who can't wrap their head around a non-monogamous relationship aren't exactly uncommon.
How does a person commit to another person if they're agreeing to a polygamous/ open relationship? I feel like that kind of "commitment" is very different than what it takes to be fully committed to one person.
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For some people, sex is everything. for others it's just something fun to do. This argument is very open and shut.
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