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On August 09 2013 19:05 Meborg wrote:Show nested quote +On August 09 2013 18:51 TheAntZ wrote: Terrible. I think it has less to do with luck and more to do with the fact that I'm uninteresting and unnatractive, but still, terrible. Watch "The Blueprint Decoded". I can tell you that you're NOT uninteresting and unattractive, but the guy from the blueprint can probably do a better job at it. It basically boils down to "Just" trying to see yourself as an awesome guy. Takes a lot of work and time, but it's possible. If you're comfortable with you being an awesome guy, dating doesnt have a lot to do with luck either, but you will be a more lucky and happy guy.
Ugh, that guy from the Blueprint comes over as really fake. The bolded part is very true.
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On August 09 2013 10:59 Retgery wrote:Show nested quote +On August 09 2013 09:24 Godwrath wrote: You don't tell why you are on fear (laughed hard at the terror boner, fucking imagination), i would guess because you were scared of not being good enough ? Drop that shit out of the window, if you never start you will never get better at it. I am pretty sure most people have had some of those insecurities at some point. I really don't know why I was afraid, I was probably afraid of what would happen after. I usually decide if somethings a bad idea before I do it, and then decide not to do it.
You should probably just let Meg go to town on you if she likes you. If you had the blue balls at least you know your subconscious wanted her. I get the same way about women sometimes - it doesn't turn out well if you over think things. You are young, have fun. You may come to regret not getting with her one day. Just wrap up your tool cause bitches be trippin.
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Did the text game change that much or am I doing something wrong? I mean back in the MSN day sI had chat with a girl for straight 2 hours activly and nowadays on facebook the same girl keeps writing me meaningless sentences with 2-3 words or just put a "XDDDDD" and that's it. Every girl is like that or she isn't interested anymore?
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If you chatted with her back in the msn days and now try again, after what, 10 years, maybe she just moved on? Kidding, no way we can tell how to interpret a "XDDDDD".
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On August 10 2013 01:05 YoruWaAkeru wrote: Did the text game change that much or am I doing something wrong? I mean back in the MSN day sI had chat with a girl for straight 2 hours activly and nowadays on facebook the same girl keeps writing me meaningless sentences with 2-3 words or just put a "XDDDDD" and that's it. Every girl is like that or she isn't interested anymore? she's just stupid. why do you wanna waste time on someone like that?
On August 09 2013 18:51 TheAntZ wrote: Terrible. I think it has less to do with luck and more to do with the fact that I'm uninteresting and unnatractive, but still, terrible.
these are both very fixable things? start doing other things than video games and posting on the internet, hit the gym, learn some style, etc. you don't have to have the body of adonis, an infectious personality and a garage full of exepnsive cars to have attractive, interesting girls looking at your differently. a little basic hygiene, some taste and some give a fuck goes a long way
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On August 10 2013 02:13 chadissilent wrote: To get laid. well yeah that is true hahah. even if you are just trying to get a nut off that requires tolerating someone's presence for at least a few hours and id prefer to not feel like stabbing myself in the eye during that time, but it could just be me. everyone is different!
On August 09 2013 14:38 Shotcoder wrote: Protocol for dating/seeing your manager? shit rolls down hill, but you can fuck your way to the top
On August 09 2013 10:47 sunprince wrote:Show nested quote +On August 09 2013 07:16 Frits wrote: Shallowness usually stems from stupidity, try looking for gay guys in more intelligent places. I would argue it's more likely to be a maturity issue. Undergraduate students are generally more intelligent than average, yet campus culture (including fraternities/sororities, college bars/clubs, and house parties) is rather shallow. A gay high school student is particularly disadvantaged when looking for a partner due to the low total number of available out-of-the-closet gay/bi peers, let alone mature ones.
I tend to agree with this more.
On August 09 2013 10:59 Retgery wrote:Show nested quote +On August 09 2013 09:24 Godwrath wrote: You don't tell why you are on fear (laughed hard at the terror boner, fucking imagination), i would guess because you were scared of not being good enough ? Drop that shit out of the window, if you never start you will never get better at it. I am pretty sure most people have had some of those insecurities at some point. I really don't know why I was afraid, I was probably afraid of what would happen after. I usually decide if somethings a bad idea before I do it, and then decide not to do it.
you've got anxiety issues dude, that's why you were afraid. Every single person in this thread, even the super confident ones, were nervous as hell at one time or another when they were inexperienced like you are.
your therapist could obviously give you better insight than i could since you have built up trust with them and i'm just a swell and fabulous internet stranger, and you should probably talk to them about this, but you are in high school. what happens after really is insignifcant because high school relationships are pretty much all bullshit where people are first learning about themselves and relationships, and years later youll just have a funny story most likely. youre battling your own head on that one. there's really not much to think about. get laid, evaluate after, probably get laid again. you have crippling social anxiety and youve got two girls fawning after you. you're already way better than most people in your spot haha
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On August 10 2013 02:19 QuanticHawk wrote:well yeah that is true hahah. even if you are just trying to get a nut off that requires tolerating someone's presence for at least a few hours and id prefer to not feel like stabbing myself in the eye during that time, but it could just be me. everyone is different! Protip: rate girls on a combination of their looks and personality. I'd fuck anything 15 or higher, so she can be a pretty dumb bitch (5) if she's a 10 in the looks department. Conversely, I'd take down a 5 if she was the coolest person ever. Protip #2: in no way does sex imply dating in the above protip.
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oh when we broke up i think i got replaced freaking girls qq
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Been reading this thread alot, figured I'd post. Now before I begin this story, I will warn you it involves a high school relationship. :D I meet this girl my Sophomore year in high school, and the first thing I say to myself mentally when I see her is "This is the most beautiful girl I have ever seen. Holy mother of god....". At that point I had decided that I wanted to get to know her. So I fuckin went Rambo mode, and straight up bum rushed her and her group of friends and said exactly what I was thinking. In front of everyone. And it worked. Fast forward a few months and her and I are happily dating, everything is going great. We became THAT couple in school, the one where we did EVERYTHING together and just overall worked well. She was definitely not my first girlfriend, and I felt like I could spend the rest of my life with her. I only thought this because my family has this trend where the vast majority of my close relatives have married their high school sweethearts, and I figured I was to be no different. We lasted all the way up until I left for the University. Once it got to that point, she and I both became increasingly distant, and eventually her anger at me for leaving and her jealousy from me going out and partying exploded like the muthafuckin Nukes on Hiroshima and Nagasaki. Needless to say, her anger and jealousy twisted our relationship into something that i was completely unhappy with, and so was she. So we agreed to break up, but it was complete and utter heartbreak and loneliness for me after we broke up. I felt completely unattracted to any other girls and realized that alot of my happiness stemmed from her. So i began to improve myself; I started working out way more (gained a bunch of muscle) and focused even harder on my studies and now I'm happier than ever. Just trying to share a positive story to those who are having a hard time being happy after a hard break up. It gets better, but you have to want it to get better
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On August 10 2013 02:40 chadissilent wrote:Show nested quote +On August 10 2013 02:19 QuanticHawk wrote:On August 10 2013 02:13 chadissilent wrote: To get laid. well yeah that is true hahah. even if you are just trying to get a nut off that requires tolerating someone's presence for at least a few hours and id prefer to not feel like stabbing myself in the eye during that time, but it could just be me. everyone is different! Protip: rate girls on a combination of their looks and personality. I'd fuck anything 15 or higher, so she can be a pretty dumb bitch (5) if she's a 10 in the looks department. Conversely, I'd take down a 5 if she was the coolest person ever. Protip #2: in no way does sex imply dating in the above protip. these are both true hahahahahah. very different standards depending what you are going for
anyone that sounds like the girl the guy was talking about is getting a negative value for me though hahaha
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If this is what one can expect I don't think I want a relationship. Ever. It's like sticking your penis in a blender.
I would rather become gay or marry my hand if this is what I could expect. Just terrible people.
If you are a shitty person the quality of relationship you can expect will be shitty. Because you have shitty people.
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"Dating" my fuckfriend of one year, despite deciding numerous times to call it quits, oh boy is it getting wierd. Not fuckfriends anymore, nor are we a couple; something in between, if that is even a thing.
Truly a mindfuck to remember, if you find yourself in the same situation at some point =D
Guess dating is good though.
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On August 10 2013 17:46 BisuEver wrote:If this is what one can expect I don't think I want a relationship. Ever. It's like sticking your penis in a blender. I would rather become gay or marry my hand if this is what I could expect. Just terrible people. If you are a shitty person the quality of relationship you can expect will be shitty. Because you have shitty people.
Just-world fallacy.
If anything, you've got it backwards: being a bad person increases the likelihood that you will be taking advantage of other people rather than the other way around, so if you are a "shitty" person you are less likely to date "shitty" people.
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On August 10 2013 19:03 sunprince wrote:Show nested quote +On August 10 2013 17:46 BisuEver wrote:If this is what one can expect I don't think I want a relationship. Ever. It's like sticking your penis in a blender. I would rather become gay or marry my hand if this is what I could expect. Just terrible people. If you are a shitty person the quality of relationship you can expect will be shitty. Because you have shitty people. Just-world fallacy. If anything, you've got it backwards: being a bad person increases the likelihood that you will be taking advantage of other people rather than the other way around, so if you are a "shitty" person you are less likely to date "shitty" people. No, I'm saying it will be a shitty relationship. There's 2 people in 1. It's like a prisoner's dilemma thing.
Either you can be a worse person or they can be a better one. Otherwise you're both in for some shit.
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On August 10 2013 02:40 chadissilent wrote:Show nested quote +On August 10 2013 02:19 QuanticHawk wrote:On August 10 2013 02:13 chadissilent wrote: To get laid. well yeah that is true hahah. even if you are just trying to get a nut off that requires tolerating someone's presence for at least a few hours and id prefer to not feel like stabbing myself in the eye during that time, but it could just be me. everyone is different! Protip: rate girls on a combination of their looks and personality. I'd fuck anything 15 or higher, so she can be a pretty dumb bitch (5) if she's a 10 in the looks department. Conversely, I'd take down a 5 if she was the coolest person ever. Protip #2: in no way does sex imply dating in the above protip.
Nah, fuck those with high looks but low personality, friendzone those with low looks but high personality, date those with high of both.
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On August 11 2013 00:35 Ianuus wrote:Show nested quote +On August 10 2013 02:40 chadissilent wrote:On August 10 2013 02:19 QuanticHawk wrote:On August 10 2013 02:13 chadissilent wrote: To get laid. well yeah that is true hahah. even if you are just trying to get a nut off that requires tolerating someone's presence for at least a few hours and id prefer to not feel like stabbing myself in the eye during that time, but it could just be me. everyone is different! Protip: rate girls on a combination of their looks and personality. I'd fuck anything 15 or higher, so she can be a pretty dumb bitch (5) if she's a 10 in the looks department. Conversely, I'd take down a 5 if she was the coolest person ever. Protip #2: in no way does sex imply dating in the above protip. Nah, fuck those with high looks but low personality, friendzone those with low looks but high personality, date those with high of both. I don't like stupid girls and I don't like girls with shitty personalities. Other things can be worked out.
I only date girls that like small dogs.
The smaller the better.
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On August 10 2013 17:46 BisuEver wrote:![[image loading]](http://i.imgur.com/TpgwIGA.jpg) If this is what one can expect I don't think I want a relationship. Ever. It's like sticking your penis in a blender. I would rather become gay or marry my hand if this is what I could expect. Just terrible people. If you are a shitty person the quality of relationship you can expect will be shitty. Because you have shitty people. You can have a relationship, you just have to man up and be ready to let it go if that happens. So many break up problems are caused by useless clinging.
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On August 11 2013 03:26 aTnClouD wrote:Show nested quote +On August 10 2013 17:46 BisuEver wrote:![[image loading]](http://i.imgur.com/TpgwIGA.jpg) If this is what one can expect I don't think I want a relationship. Ever. It's like sticking your penis in a blender. I would rather become gay or marry my hand if this is what I could expect. Just terrible people. If you are a shitty person the quality of relationship you can expect will be shitty. Because you have shitty people. You can have a relationship, you just have to man up and be ready to let it go if that happens. So many break up problems are caused by useless clinging. That's not what caused it but ok.
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