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On June 24 2013 18:34 djfoxmccloud wrote:
Is it selfish of me to want someone to help me forget her even if I don't end up having a serious relationship ?
no just be straight forward about it. if it progresses for more than a few weeks, you have to say that
On June 29 2013 20:57 Fantazmoes wrote:
Pretty complicated right now. I have been together with a girl for about six months but two weeks ago we decided to split. She is going to study in another country for a year and I felt it was mutual when we agreed that our relationship wouldn't live through that. However I was wrong. Turns out there are apparently different ways to break up. She says she doesn't want to lose me and still wants to see me beacuse she's afraid I will dissapear, but thats not what I want, I just want to move on and live my life without having to talk to my ex and pretend I'm her friend. Beacuse seeing her and talking to her knowing we are no longer in a relationship makes me sad and I can't live like that.
So yesterday we got into a pretty big fight after not talking for a few days. She basically said I was selfish and only cared about myself in this, I replied that I can't pretend to want to be with her just so she can feel better. I was at a nightclub when all this happened and I noticed how much I had missed being single, it made me doubt our whole relationship and if I really loved her or not. Pretty sure I don't love her now. I walked away from the club with a few numbers from girls i met there and felt like shit going home. I just want it to end but it's so friggin hard telling her how I really feel.
Solution: ignore the idiot who is trying to manipulate you to soothe her own feelings. Let her be a big girl on her own, and block her if necessary.
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On June 29 2013 23:49 Cirqueenflex wrote:Show nested quote +On June 29 2013 23:32 sambo400 wrote:On June 29 2013 18:25 Cynry wrote:On June 29 2013 11:09 sambo400 wrote:
It turns out that the pregnant girl is actually just a sociopathic self harming pathological liar. Oh well. Oh wow, who whould have guessed :-D Teach me to give people the benefit of the doubt I suppose... I actually had no idea people would do such crazy things so I guess its good experience going forward. so she is not pregnant at all? Did she lie because she likes to sabotage herself? Or because she likes trolling people? When you say self harming, does that include physical harming? I'm just curious, because she was apparently hot enough for you to go out with her on a date even though she told you she was pregnant.
I'm really curious on this one too. Plox explain.
Fantazmoes, what you need to do is talk to her, no screaming, no rage, no crying on your end until the talk gets emotional. Don't call her up crying, but honestly I think she's just more into you than visa versa. I think you should work things out though, right now you're leaving her worse than you found her, and that is unacceptable to do to any person. Campground rule dude.
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On June 30 2013 23:44 docvoc wrote:Show nested quote +On June 29 2013 23:49 Cirqueenflex wrote:On June 29 2013 23:32 sambo400 wrote:On June 29 2013 18:25 Cynry wrote:On June 29 2013 11:09 sambo400 wrote:
It turns out that the pregnant girl is actually just a sociopathic self harming pathological liar. Oh well. Oh wow, who whould have guessed :-D Teach me to give people the benefit of the doubt I suppose... I actually had no idea people would do such crazy things so I guess its good experience going forward. so she is not pregnant at all? Did she lie because she likes to sabotage herself? Or because she likes trolling people? When you say self harming, does that include physical harming? I'm just curious, because she was apparently hot enough for you to go out with her on a date even though she told you she was pregnant. I'm really curious on this one too. Plox explain. Fantazmoes, what you need to do is talk to her, no screaming, no rage, no crying on your end until the talk gets emotional. Don't call her up crying, but honestly I think she's just more into you than visa versa. I think you should work things out though, right now you're leaving her worse than you found her, and that is unacceptable to do to any person. Campground rule dude.
You are definently right and that's basically what happened. She wanted to meet me yesterday and i agreed to it. I cut pretty much straight to the chase and said that we can't be together due to the reasons I stated before. We both got very upset and I walked away. The scary thing was that I started getting almost suicidal texts from her and when I went back to the place we talked she was almost in a sort of apathic state. Not speaking and just staring in front of her.
Needless to say I got pretty scared for her sake and took her home. 2 hours later I got a text saying "don't leave me". Haven't replied yet. This shit just keeps on going, I obviously care about her a lot but it seems like she can't accept the fact that I want to break up.
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Yup, been there, almost pathological addiction, suicide texts and everything. Not much you can do I'm afraid. I tried staying friends, it hurt me because I didn't want to, it hurt her because she still didn't get what she needed.
I'd say move along.
Docvoc: leaving her in a worst state you found her. That's very noble but people aren't houses. You never know how they were deep inside when you found them, and you can't really predict how they will react to anything. Maye sometimes you can sort things out by talking, sometimes all that will achieve is give her more attention and delay the inevitable.
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On July 01 2013 01:00 Fantazmoes wrote:Show nested quote +On June 30 2013 23:44 docvoc wrote:On June 29 2013 23:49 Cirqueenflex wrote:On June 29 2013 23:32 sambo400 wrote:On June 29 2013 18:25 Cynry wrote:On June 29 2013 11:09 sambo400 wrote:
It turns out that the pregnant girl is actually just a sociopathic self harming pathological liar. Oh well. Oh wow, who whould have guessed :-D Teach me to give people the benefit of the doubt I suppose... I actually had no idea people would do such crazy things so I guess its good experience going forward. so she is not pregnant at all? Did she lie because she likes to sabotage herself? Or because she likes trolling people? When you say self harming, does that include physical harming? I'm just curious, because she was apparently hot enough for you to go out with her on a date even though she told you she was pregnant. I'm really curious on this one too. Plox explain. Fantazmoes, what you need to do is talk to her, no screaming, no rage, no crying on your end until the talk gets emotional. Don't call her up crying, but honestly I think she's just more into you than visa versa. I think you should work things out though, right now you're leaving her worse than you found her, and that is unacceptable to do to any person. Campground rule dude. You are definently right and that's basically what happened. She wanted to meet me yesterday and i agreed to it. I cut pretty much straight to the chase and said that we can't be together due to the reasons I stated before. We both got very upset and I walked away. The scary thing was that I started getting almost suicidal texts from her and when I went back to the place we talked she was almost in a sort of apathic state. Not speaking and just staring in front of her. Needless to say I got pretty scared for her sake and took her home. 2 hours later I got a text saying "don't leave me". Haven't replied yet. This shit just keeps on going, I obviously care about her a lot but it seems like she can't accept the fact that I want to break up.
Ok, so she's one of the crazy, "I'll die if you leave me people" oh god, I'm sorry dude. At this point I'd consider calling a parent or a friend of hers because it actually seems like she's entered the depression/denial stage even before you guys have fully broken up. Maybe you should be the one that goes on a trip somewhere else, like if you are in UNI, take an exhange program as soon as you can. I wouldn't recommend staying with her, but I'm not gonna leave that off as a possibility, she does seem very committed to you, I'll admit.
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On July 01 2013 01:35 docvoc wrote:Show nested quote +On July 01 2013 01:00 Fantazmoes wrote:On June 30 2013 23:44 docvoc wrote:On June 29 2013 23:49 Cirqueenflex wrote:On June 29 2013 23:32 sambo400 wrote:On June 29 2013 18:25 Cynry wrote:On June 29 2013 11:09 sambo400 wrote:
It turns out that the pregnant girl is actually just a sociopathic self harming pathological liar. Oh well. Oh wow, who whould have guessed :-D Teach me to give people the benefit of the doubt I suppose... I actually had no idea people would do such crazy things so I guess its good experience going forward. so she is not pregnant at all? Did she lie because she likes to sabotage herself? Or because she likes trolling people? When you say self harming, does that include physical harming? I'm just curious, because she was apparently hot enough for you to go out with her on a date even though she told you she was pregnant. I'm really curious on this one too. Plox explain. Fantazmoes, what you need to do is talk to her, no screaming, no rage, no crying on your end until the talk gets emotional. Don't call her up crying, but honestly I think she's just more into you than visa versa. I think you should work things out though, right now you're leaving her worse than you found her, and that is unacceptable to do to any person. Campground rule dude. You are definently right and that's basically what happened. She wanted to meet me yesterday and i agreed to it. I cut pretty much straight to the chase and said that we can't be together due to the reasons I stated before. We both got very upset and I walked away. The scary thing was that I started getting almost suicidal texts from her and when I went back to the place we talked she was almost in a sort of apathic state. Not speaking and just staring in front of her. Needless to say I got pretty scared for her sake and took her home. 2 hours later I got a text saying "don't leave me". Haven't replied yet. This shit just keeps on going, I obviously care about her a lot but it seems like she can't accept the fact that I want to break up. Ok, so she's one of the crazy, "I'll die if you leave me people" oh god, I'm sorry dude. At this point I'd consider calling a parent or a friend of hers because it actually seems like she's entered the depression/denial stage even before you guys have fully broken up. Maybe you should be the one that goes on a trip somewhere else, like if you are in UNI, take an exhange program as soon as you can. I wouldn't recommend staying with her, but I'm not gonna leave that off as a possibility, she does seem very committed to you, I'll admit.
So she called me this afternoon and apoligized for the way she acted last night explained that she was in shock and it just was hard to accept that we were not going to see eachother again. We kept talking for a bit but then said our good byes and it seems it is actually over now. Can't say that I'm happy since it's obviously hard for me as well but I'm happy that both of us can try and move on from here. Will see what happens and if she keeps texting but this definently seems like a step forward.
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On July 01 2013 05:21 Fantazmoes wrote:Show nested quote +On July 01 2013 01:35 docvoc wrote:On July 01 2013 01:00 Fantazmoes wrote:On June 30 2013 23:44 docvoc wrote:On June 29 2013 23:49 Cirqueenflex wrote:On June 29 2013 23:32 sambo400 wrote:On June 29 2013 18:25 Cynry wrote:On June 29 2013 11:09 sambo400 wrote:
It turns out that the pregnant girl is actually just a sociopathic self harming pathological liar. Oh well. Oh wow, who whould have guessed :-D Teach me to give people the benefit of the doubt I suppose... I actually had no idea people would do such crazy things so I guess its good experience going forward. so she is not pregnant at all? Did she lie because she likes to sabotage herself? Or because she likes trolling people? When you say self harming, does that include physical harming? I'm just curious, because she was apparently hot enough for you to go out with her on a date even though she told you she was pregnant. I'm really curious on this one too. Plox explain. Fantazmoes, what you need to do is talk to her, no screaming, no rage, no crying on your end until the talk gets emotional. Don't call her up crying, but honestly I think she's just more into you than visa versa. I think you should work things out though, right now you're leaving her worse than you found her, and that is unacceptable to do to any person. Campground rule dude. You are definently right and that's basically what happened. She wanted to meet me yesterday and i agreed to it. I cut pretty much straight to the chase and said that we can't be together due to the reasons I stated before. We both got very upset and I walked away. The scary thing was that I started getting almost suicidal texts from her and when I went back to the place we talked she was almost in a sort of apathic state. Not speaking and just staring in front of her. Needless to say I got pretty scared for her sake and took her home. 2 hours later I got a text saying "don't leave me". Haven't replied yet. This shit just keeps on going, I obviously care about her a lot but it seems like she can't accept the fact that I want to break up. Ok, so she's one of the crazy, "I'll die if you leave me people" oh god, I'm sorry dude. At this point I'd consider calling a parent or a friend of hers because it actually seems like she's entered the depression/denial stage even before you guys have fully broken up. Maybe you should be the one that goes on a trip somewhere else, like if you are in UNI, take an exhange program as soon as you can. I wouldn't recommend staying with her, but I'm not gonna leave that off as a possibility, she does seem very committed to you, I'll admit. So she called me this afternoon and apoligized for the way she acted last night explained that she was in shock and it just was hard to accept that we were not going to see eachother again. We kept talking for a bit but then said our good byes and it seems it is actually over now. Can't say that I'm happy since it's obviously hard for me as well but I'm happy that both of us can try and move on from here. Will see what happens and if she keeps texting but this definently seems like a step forward.
Whatever you do, don't let yourself get dragged into this any more. You're not responsible for someone else's happiness.
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On July 01 2013 06:17 r.Evo wrote:Show nested quote +On July 01 2013 05:21 Fantazmoes wrote:On July 01 2013 01:35 docvoc wrote:On July 01 2013 01:00 Fantazmoes wrote:On June 30 2013 23:44 docvoc wrote:On June 29 2013 23:49 Cirqueenflex wrote:On June 29 2013 23:32 sambo400 wrote:On June 29 2013 18:25 Cynry wrote:On June 29 2013 11:09 sambo400 wrote:
It turns out that the pregnant girl is actually just a sociopathic self harming pathological liar. Oh well. Oh wow, who whould have guessed :-D Teach me to give people the benefit of the doubt I suppose... I actually had no idea people would do such crazy things so I guess its good experience going forward. so she is not pregnant at all? Did she lie because she likes to sabotage herself? Or because she likes trolling people? When you say self harming, does that include physical harming? I'm just curious, because she was apparently hot enough for you to go out with her on a date even though she told you she was pregnant. I'm really curious on this one too. Plox explain. Fantazmoes, what you need to do is talk to her, no screaming, no rage, no crying on your end until the talk gets emotional. Don't call her up crying, but honestly I think she's just more into you than visa versa. I think you should work things out though, right now you're leaving her worse than you found her, and that is unacceptable to do to any person. Campground rule dude. You are definently right and that's basically what happened. She wanted to meet me yesterday and i agreed to it. I cut pretty much straight to the chase and said that we can't be together due to the reasons I stated before. We both got very upset and I walked away. The scary thing was that I started getting almost suicidal texts from her and when I went back to the place we talked she was almost in a sort of apathic state. Not speaking and just staring in front of her. Needless to say I got pretty scared for her sake and took her home. 2 hours later I got a text saying "don't leave me". Haven't replied yet. This shit just keeps on going, I obviously care about her a lot but it seems like she can't accept the fact that I want to break up. Ok, so she's one of the crazy, "I'll die if you leave me people" oh god, I'm sorry dude. At this point I'd consider calling a parent or a friend of hers because it actually seems like she's entered the depression/denial stage even before you guys have fully broken up. Maybe you should be the one that goes on a trip somewhere else, like if you are in UNI, take an exhange program as soon as you can. I wouldn't recommend staying with her, but I'm not gonna leave that off as a possibility, she does seem very committed to you, I'll admit. So she called me this afternoon and apoligized for the way she acted last night explained that she was in shock and it just was hard to accept that we were not going to see eachother again. We kept talking for a bit but then said our good byes and it seems it is actually over now. Can't say that I'm happy since it's obviously hard for me as well but I'm happy that both of us can try and move on from here. Will see what happens and if she keeps texting but this definently seems like a step forward. Whatever you do, don't let yourself get dragged into this any more. You're not responsible for someone else's happiness.
Thanks man, feels good hearing from other people what I'm thinking as well. I have always been the good guy since we started dating, never got mad and always tried to handle things in a way that wouldn't creat drama and such and now it feels harder than I thought putting the foot down and putting her in this position. I won't go back with her though, I have felt too shitty for too long to put myself in that position again and I will stand my ground.
Thanks for replying all of you, feels good to hear others opinions.
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On July 01 2013 06:44 Fantazmoes wrote:Show nested quote +On July 01 2013 06:17 r.Evo wrote:On July 01 2013 05:21 Fantazmoes wrote:On July 01 2013 01:35 docvoc wrote:On July 01 2013 01:00 Fantazmoes wrote:On June 30 2013 23:44 docvoc wrote:On June 29 2013 23:49 Cirqueenflex wrote:On June 29 2013 23:32 sambo400 wrote:On June 29 2013 18:25 Cynry wrote:On June 29 2013 11:09 sambo400 wrote:
It turns out that the pregnant girl is actually just a sociopathic self harming pathological liar. Oh well. Oh wow, who whould have guessed :-D Teach me to give people the benefit of the doubt I suppose... I actually had no idea people would do such crazy things so I guess its good experience going forward. so she is not pregnant at all? Did she lie because she likes to sabotage herself? Or because she likes trolling people? When you say self harming, does that include physical harming? I'm just curious, because she was apparently hot enough for you to go out with her on a date even though she told you she was pregnant. I'm really curious on this one too. Plox explain. Fantazmoes, what you need to do is talk to her, no screaming, no rage, no crying on your end until the talk gets emotional. Don't call her up crying, but honestly I think she's just more into you than visa versa. I think you should work things out though, right now you're leaving her worse than you found her, and that is unacceptable to do to any person. Campground rule dude. You are definently right and that's basically what happened. She wanted to meet me yesterday and i agreed to it. I cut pretty much straight to the chase and said that we can't be together due to the reasons I stated before. We both got very upset and I walked away. The scary thing was that I started getting almost suicidal texts from her and when I went back to the place we talked she was almost in a sort of apathic state. Not speaking and just staring in front of her. Needless to say I got pretty scared for her sake and took her home. 2 hours later I got a text saying "don't leave me". Haven't replied yet. This shit just keeps on going, I obviously care about her a lot but it seems like she can't accept the fact that I want to break up. Ok, so she's one of the crazy, "I'll die if you leave me people" oh god, I'm sorry dude. At this point I'd consider calling a parent or a friend of hers because it actually seems like she's entered the depression/denial stage even before you guys have fully broken up. Maybe you should be the one that goes on a trip somewhere else, like if you are in UNI, take an exhange program as soon as you can. I wouldn't recommend staying with her, but I'm not gonna leave that off as a possibility, she does seem very committed to you, I'll admit. So she called me this afternoon and apoligized for the way she acted last night explained that she was in shock and it just was hard to accept that we were not going to see eachother again. We kept talking for a bit but then said our good byes and it seems it is actually over now. Can't say that I'm happy since it's obviously hard for me as well but I'm happy that both of us can try and move on from here. Will see what happens and if she keeps texting but this definently seems like a step forward. Whatever you do, don't let yourself get dragged into this any more. You're not responsible for someone else's happiness. Thanks man, feels good hearing from other people what I'm thinking as well. I have always been the good guy since we started dating, never got mad and always tried to handle things in a way that wouldn't creat drama and such and now it feels harder than I thought putting the foot down and putting her in this position. I won't go back with her though, I have felt too shitty for too long to put myself in that position again and I will stand my ground. Thanks for replying all of you, feels good to hear others opinions.
Btw, going back to her if she does that sort of thing could easily make her keep doing it, as you're responding to it. I liked the idea of someone else who said to call a friend or family member, because at that point, you can put to rest your worries and not have to go back to make sure she's okay.
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On July 01 2013 01:21 BrenttheGreat wrote:
Good. I am married.
I'd say it's bad when it comes to dating. Unless you're one classy mofo and still have dates with your wife, in that case I tip my hat to you, sire.
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On July 01 2013 05:21 Fantazmoes wrote:Show nested quote +On July 01 2013 01:35 docvoc wrote:On July 01 2013 01:00 Fantazmoes wrote:On June 30 2013 23:44 docvoc wrote:On June 29 2013 23:49 Cirqueenflex wrote:On June 29 2013 23:32 sambo400 wrote:On June 29 2013 18:25 Cynry wrote:On June 29 2013 11:09 sambo400 wrote:
It turns out that the pregnant girl is actually just a sociopathic self harming pathological liar. Oh well. Oh wow, who whould have guessed :-D Teach me to give people the benefit of the doubt I suppose... I actually had no idea people would do such crazy things so I guess its good experience going forward. so she is not pregnant at all? Did she lie because she likes to sabotage herself? Or because she likes trolling people? When you say self harming, does that include physical harming? I'm just curious, because she was apparently hot enough for you to go out with her on a date even though she told you she was pregnant. I'm really curious on this one too. Plox explain. Fantazmoes, what you need to do is talk to her, no screaming, no rage, no crying on your end until the talk gets emotional. Don't call her up crying, but honestly I think she's just more into you than visa versa. I think you should work things out though, right now you're leaving her worse than you found her, and that is unacceptable to do to any person. Campground rule dude. You are definently right and that's basically what happened. She wanted to meet me yesterday and i agreed to it. I cut pretty much straight to the chase and said that we can't be together due to the reasons I stated before. We both got very upset and I walked away. The scary thing was that I started getting almost suicidal texts from her and when I went back to the place we talked she was almost in a sort of apathic state. Not speaking and just staring in front of her. Needless to say I got pretty scared for her sake and took her home. 2 hours later I got a text saying "don't leave me". Haven't replied yet. This shit just keeps on going, I obviously care about her a lot but it seems like she can't accept the fact that I want to break up. Ok, so she's one of the crazy, "I'll die if you leave me people" oh god, I'm sorry dude. At this point I'd consider calling a parent or a friend of hers because it actually seems like she's entered the depression/denial stage even before you guys have fully broken up. Maybe you should be the one that goes on a trip somewhere else, like if you are in UNI, take an exhange program as soon as you can. I wouldn't recommend staying with her, but I'm not gonna leave that off as a possibility, she does seem very committed to you, I'll admit. So she called me this afternoon and apoligized for the way she acted last night explained that she was in shock and it just was hard to accept that we were not going to see eachother again. We kept talking for a bit but then said our good byes and it seems it is actually over now. Can't say that I'm happy since it's obviously hard for me as well but I'm happy that both of us can try and move on from here. Will see what happens and if she keeps texting but this definently seems like a step forward.
Nice. If this is how it ends I think this is the best you could hope for. It's ok to feel bad, it doesn't mean you did wrong.
It also is a great lesson for me, because as I said, I have been through that as well, and was still feeling bad because I believed I did wrong. Not anymore. Thank you, I guess :-D
Bro love for everyone, yay ^^
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For me, the question should be, "Dating, is there such a thing?" lol
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On July 01 2013 11:00 Orangered wrote:
For me, the question should be, "Dating, is there such a thing?" lol
FEAR NOT YOUNG ONE, PLENTIFUL PASTURES EXIST BEYOND YONDER HILLS, READY FOR YOU TO EXPLORE THEM ALL IN DUE TIME!!!!
I have no idea if you're being a bit sarcastic or if you do feel this way. So just to be safe:
Don't worry about wondering if there is such a thing. Should you not actively search for it, at some point it may just come to you at some random point.
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On July 01 2013 01:00 Fantazmoes wrote:Show nested quote +On June 30 2013 23:44 docvoc wrote:On June 29 2013 23:49 Cirqueenflex wrote:On June 29 2013 23:32 sambo400 wrote:On June 29 2013 18:25 Cynry wrote:On June 29 2013 11:09 sambo400 wrote:
It turns out that the pregnant girl is actually just a sociopathic self harming pathological liar. Oh well. Oh wow, who whould have guessed :-D Teach me to give people the benefit of the doubt I suppose... I actually had no idea people would do such crazy things so I guess its good experience going forward. so she is not pregnant at all? Did she lie because she likes to sabotage herself? Or because she likes trolling people? When you say self harming, does that include physical harming? I'm just curious, because she was apparently hot enough for you to go out with her on a date even though she told you she was pregnant. I'm really curious on this one too. Plox explain. Fantazmoes, what you need to do is talk to her, no screaming, no rage, no crying on your end until the talk gets emotional. Don't call her up crying, but honestly I think she's just more into you than visa versa. I think you should work things out though, right now you're leaving her worse than you found her, and that is unacceptable to do to any person. Campground rule dude. You are definently right and that's basically what happened. She wanted to meet me yesterday and i agreed to it. I cut pretty much straight to the chase and said that we can't be together due to the reasons I stated before. We both got very upset and I walked away. The scary thing was that I started getting almost suicidal texts from her and when I went back to the place we talked she was almost in a sort of apathic state. Not speaking and just staring in front of her. Needless to say I got pretty scared for her sake and took her home. 2 hours later I got a text saying "don't leave me". Haven't replied yet. This shit just keeps on going, I obviously care about her a lot but it seems like she can't accept the fact that I want to break up.
Some people say that after a bad break up a girl will be completely devestated for a few weeks/months and then get over it, while a guy won't feel it as strongly but it will be bothering him much much longer than the girl. My ex girlfriend also went completely apeshit when I broke up with her but once she figured she could fill that void in her life with a shitload of dicks she seemed fine.
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Dating is fine, getting dumped and/or rejected sucks big time.
Been going out with this woman for like 3 months, all seemed fine except for some disagreements.
One of them being that she went to a baby baptizing with her first ex-boyfriend from 15 years ago (that dude beat her, at least that's what she told me, but they're still friends (?!)), I told her I don't like that, she insisted to tell her why I don't like it, so I did. I didn't like the idea of her banging that dude. After which she told me she was going with the same guy 3 days in Germany for some wedding (his cousin's wedding, to be precise)
She got pissed ("how could you think such a thing" "you don't trust me" etc etc), I apologized (if any women read this, imo don't ask your man to speak his mind unless you REALLY want to hear what he has to say, good or bad) and things moved on.
She also asked me to move closer to where she lives (she lives with her grandmother, her granny is old and sick and she is taking care of her) so that we can spend more time together, I agreed to do that too.
So I talk to my landlord, I told him in advance that I am moving, everything was fine, except for the last 2 weeks. She would not talk to me on the phone, tried going to her workplace with flowers (flowers always good right?), tried to kiss her, she said that we are filmed(!? some cameras somewhere dunno), then she wrecks my car that I borrowed her to help her with going to work etc etc.
So I ask her what's wrong, what did I do to make her angry (she was always angry at the phone).
Her reply was "you should know what you did wrong"
I am lost, and I start to get angry, so we fight over the phone.
She comes the next day, she dumps me at the entrance of the building that i live in, she did not want to go up to my place, in public. "You are a robot, a child, immature, you have no emotions, you did nothing to help me" she tells me.
Then she asks me if I want her to fix my car, or if I want to. So, me being an idiot, I told her to fix it, cause she was driving when she wrecked it, I wasn't even there.
After a week or so, she does not want to fix the car anymore (car is banged up but still ran, until the engine refused to start), she asks me for money to get my car back, and the insurance papers, which I payed to get it back.
Cherry on the cake, she actually figured out we don't get along about 1 month and a half ago.
That's the short story. I don't get how some people say things, and some time later say completely opposite things.
So bottom line, car is broken, I now have to move, and I also got dumped. Life's good.
On the bright side, better late than never.
Sorry for the wall of text, and thanks for reading, if you did.
TLDR:3 months relationship, GF breaks up with me after agreeing to move and crashing my car, that I boroughed to her, after realizing 1 and a half month be4 that "we are not compatible"
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one of the worst would probably be my 2nd "relationship". the girl i dated had an bf she SAID she had an fight with and had broke up, 1 month after dating her she told me they were still together, i started leaving her but she "loved me to much" so yeah, i really couldnt.. shouldve dropped the bitch right there ,but kid -me was stupid. anyway..
in the end i forced her to quit the school we were both attending at that time, and she moved far away. i laughed in her face.
my first relationship.... through internet, the girl wasnt as cute or anymean "me-material" but i got together with her for 5 months just because i couldnt be mean and give her the big No and ignore her after that..
ive learned so much.. and thats why i have have been in a relationship for 1.2 years TODAY actually 
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On July 02 2013 00:22 Korrawi wrote:
Dating is fine, getting dumped and/or rejected sucks big time.
Been going out with this woman for like 3 months, all seemed fine except for some disagreements.
One of them being that she went to a baby baptizing with her first ex-boyfriend from 15 years ago (that dude beat her, at least that's what she told me, but they're still friends (?!)), I told her I don't like that, she insisted to tell her why I don't like it, so I did. I didn't like the idea of her banging that dude. After which she told me she was going with the same guy 3 days in Germany for some wedding (his cousin's wedding, to be precise)
She got pissed ("how could you think such a thing" "you don't trust me" etc etc), I apologized (if any women read this, imo don't ask your man to speak his mind unless you REALLY want to hear what he has to say, good or bad) and things moved on.
She also asked me to move closer to where she lives (she lives with her grandmother, her granny is old and sick and she is taking care of her) so that we can spend more time together, I agreed to do that too.
So I talk to my landlord, I told him in advance that I am moving, everything was fine, except for the last 2 weeks. She would not talk to me on the phone, tried going to her workplace with flowers (flowers always good right?), tried to kiss her, she said that we are filmed(!? some cameras somewhere dunno), then she wrecks my car that I borrowed her to help her with going to work etc etc.
So I ask her what's wrong, what did I do to make her angry (she was always angry at the phone).
Her reply was "you should know what you did wrong"
I am lost, and I start to get angry, so we fight over the phone.
She comes the next day, she dumps me at the entrance of the building that i live in, she did not want to go up to my place, in public. "You are a robot, a child, immature, you have no emotions, you did nothing to help me" she tells me.
Then she asks me if I want her to fix my car, or if I want to. So, me being an idiot, I told her to fix it, cause she was driving when she wrecked it, I wasn't even there.
After a week or so, she does not want to fix the car anymore (car is banged up but still ran, until the engine refused to start), she asks me for money to get my car back, and the insurance papers, which I payed to get it back.
Cherry on the cake, she actually figured out we don't get along about 1 month and a half ago.
That's the short story. I don't get how some people say things, and some time later say completely opposite things.
So bottom line, car is broken, I now have to move, and I also got dumped. Life's good.
On the bright side, better late than never.
Sorry for the wall of text, and thanks for reading, if you did.
TLDR:3 months relationship, GF breaks up with me after agreeing to move and crashing my car, that I boroughed to her, after realizing 1 and a half month be4 that "we are not compatible"
Sorry to hear that dude, though I'm kind of glad you got out of that. I hope you were able to reconcile with your landlord about not moving, and I'd suggest you take her to court over the car if it is that badly damaged. Also, I don't get too angry about girls hanging out with ex-s, but I can see why other people would, especially if those people were abusive etc.
On July 01 2013 18:18 B.I.G. wrote:
Some people say that after a bad break up a girl will be completely devestated for a few weeks/months and then get over it, while a guy won't feel it as strongly but it will be bothering him much much longer than the girl. My ex girlfriend also went completely apeshit when I broke up with her but once she figured she could fill that void in her life with a shitload of dicks she seemed fine.
Seems like she recoveredd well  . I feel like I hear that kind of story a lot, especially from younger people (like myself). Guy breaks it off with Girl: Guy feels ok at first, but slowly becomes sadder as he misses her, and eventually gets over her and goes out to get some again; Girl becomes depressed instantly at her loss but then recovers quickly when she realizes that she can pretty much get some when she pleases if/when she goes to the club. Yup.
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Korrawi what's stopping you from going to her place and starting to break stuff until she agrees to pay for the goddamn car?
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You probably realize this now but 3 months is a really short time to start re-arranging your life around someone. I would probably end it with someone who was that willing to pick up and move so quickly because it just seems like they aren't serious about their own life.
In reality you probably didn't do anything and she just realized she's not that attracted to you. The whole relationship could have just been for attention from the way it sounds.
(Aimed at Korr's post, btw)
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