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We are extremely close to shutting down this thread for the same reasons the PUA thread was shut down. While some of the time this thread contains actual discussion with people asking help and people giving nice advice, it often gets derailed by rubbish that should not be here. The moderation team will be trying to steer this thread in a different direction from now on. Posts of the following nature are banned: 1) ANYTHING regarding PUA. If your post contains the words 'alpha' or 'beta' or anything of that sort please don't hit post. 2) Stupid brags. You can tell us about your nice success stories with someone, but posts such as 'lol 50 Tinder matches' are a no-no. 3) Any misogynistic bullshit, including discussion about rape culture. 4) One night stands and random sex. These are basically brags that invariably devolve into gender role discussions and misogynistic comments. Last chance, guys. This thread is for dating advice and sharing dating stories. While gender roles, sociocultural norms, and our biological imperative to reproduce are all tangentially related, these subjects are not the main purpose of the thread. Please AVOID these discussions. If you want to discuss them at length, go to PMs or start a blog. If you disagree with someone's ideologies, state that you disagree with them and why they won't work from a dating standpoint and move on. We will not tolerate any lengthy derailments that aren't directly about dating. | ||
BigAsia
Canada451 Posts
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zbedlam
Australia549 Posts
On July 03 2013 22:33 BigAsia wrote: Only bad part about dating a hot girl is how much male attention she gets. Not that I really mind but its annoying when they hit on her and I'm there. Should I give them all titty twisters? Blatantly hitting on her? Gotta get defensive bro, if she isn't being hostile to them she wants you to be, if she's enabling them your girl is trouble though. Subtly? Can't do much about it aside from make sure you don't see them again. | ||
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Korrawi
Romania31 Posts
On July 02 2013 00:42 docvoc wrote:Sorry to hear that dude, though I'm kind of glad you got out of that. I hope you were able to reconcile with your landlord about not moving, and I'd suggest you take her to court over the car if it is that badly damaged. Also, I don't get too angry about girls hanging out with ex-s, but I can see why other people would, especially if those people were abusive etc. Well, the landlord is an awesome guy, he let me stay for a couple of months in a 3 room apartment for the same money until I sort my stuff out. As for taking her to court, over here that could take 2 years+, I thought about that and going to courts for 2+ years vs paying her about 90$, I payed to be done with it ... anyways maybe I'm too soft or some shit, I just don't see the point in it, at least in our justice system. The person that hit my car is at fault (so not my ex), so in theory the guilty person's insurance would cover for it, except that over here some insurance companies are very shady and delay the repair process as long as they can (couple of months). People buy their insurance because it's cheap. At first I was not upset about the car, I mean I knew there is a possibility that she may damage it when I borrowed it to her. I wasn't using it much and I just wanted to help her (no good deed goes unpunished ey?  )Edit: as for about getting angry hanging with exes, baby baptizing over here is kind of like going to a wedding. So she's going to a wedding with her ex, because apparently he's a cop and he's involved with a prostitute and he can't go alone(don't get this one) and ofc, he can't take the prostitute as a partner, so she offers to go, my then gf. The people at the baptizing were also cops, his colleagues, his superiors would also be there. Should have ended it right there and then, but I liked her so I wanted to make it work. On July 02 2013 00:44 B.I.G. wrote: Korrawi what's stopping you from going to her place and starting to break stuff until she agrees to pay for the goddamn car? Laws man, laws, let's see, break in and entering, destruction of private property etc. Also, she does not have much "shit" to break. All in all, glad it's over, just have to not be more cautious who I trust next time I guess <.<. Thanks for reading | ||
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BigAsia
Canada451 Posts
On July 03 2013 22:47 zbedlam wrote: Blatantly hitting on her? Gotta get defensive bro, if she isn't being hostile to them she wants you to be, if she's enabling them your girl is trouble though. Subtly? Can't do much about it aside from make sure you don't see them again. More subtly but you always have the drunks who blatantly do it ya know. But I mean can't be getting into bar fights all the time, I'll be barred from everywhere. | ||
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Korrawi
Romania31 Posts
Stop going to those places, find other bars/clubs where people don't hit on your gf. Politely point out to the would be suitors that you're the boyfriend, if that does not work get aggressive but that might get you in trouble. I'd choose the first one tbh, if she's really into you I don't think she wants you in a hospital, or worse, in jail for some stupid stuff. But better yet, talk to her about it, see hwat she says. my2c | ||
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Korrawi
Romania31 Posts
On July 02 2013 00:47 sambo400 wrote: You probably realize this now but 3 months is a really short time to start re-arranging your life around someone. I would probably end it with someone who was that willing to pick up and move so quickly because it just seems like they aren't serious about their own life. In reality you probably didn't do anything and she just realized she's not that attracted to you. The whole relationship could have just been for attention from the way it sounds. (Aimed at Korr's post, btw) um, ok so why ask? Maybe I don't get it... prolly never will, why ask? To explain a bit more why I actually agreed, she did not live alone. She lives in her grandmother's apartment, who is about 80 years old I think. So, she asked me to move closer to her (not together, just closer to where she is living) so that we get to spend more time together. In my mind, I don't see why I would not do that since I obviously liked her and I did want to spend more time with her. Add to that, I got to meet her mother (seemed like a nice lady, then again so did she for about 3 months), and she hinted that I should visit my relatives (Easter holiday) so she met mine. In addition, she talked about how a relationship is about 2 people and that we should always say what's bothering us, and that she wants a serious relationship, trust, how every relationship is like starting anew etc etc Maybe I'm just extremely naive, I believed every word, like an idiot. I had no reason not to, she seemed very together. | ||
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BigAsia
Canada451 Posts
On July 03 2013 23:00 Korrawi wrote: hm, interesting predicament you have there. Well, the way I see it, you got several options: Stop going to those places, find other bars/clubs where people don't hit on your gf. Politely point out to the would be suitors that you're the boyfriend, if that does not work get aggressive but that might get you in trouble. I'd choose the first one tbh, if she's really into you I don't think she wants you in a hospital, or worse, in jail for some stupid stuff. But better yet, talk to her about it, see hwat she says. my2c Yah brah I have and she told me not to worry about it. Its hard sometimes esp when its blatant, but the worst thing to be is a jelly bf. Biggest turnoff for a girl other than being needy. | ||
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Korrawi
Romania31 Posts
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Dark_Chill
Canada3353 Posts
On July 03 2013 22:33 BigAsia wrote: Only bad part about dating a hot girl is how much male attention she gets. Not that I really mind but its annoying when they hit on her and I'm there. Should I give them all titty twisters? If you're there, you're gonna have to stand up. Does not look good when it seems like you're just letting it happen. If stuff gets aggressive because the other guy isn't listening, it can be a bit of a problem. You could always hint that you have a weapon if you want to avoid violence. Obviously some people will be stronger than you, but intimidation can still work. | ||
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APurpleCow
United States1372 Posts
On July 04 2013 01:09 Dark_Chill wrote: If you're there, you're gonna have to stand up. Does not look good when it seems like you're just letting it happen. If stuff gets aggressive because the other guy isn't listening, it can be a bit of a problem. You could always hint that you have a weapon if you want to avoid violence. Obviously some people will be stronger than you, but intimidation can still work. Why would it not look good when it seems like you're just letting it happen? If you're confident in yourself and in your relationship, you should just laugh when people hit on your girlfriend and thank them for the compliment. | ||
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Ghostcom
Denmark4782 Posts
On July 04 2013 01:19 APurpleCow wrote: Why would it not look good when it seems like you're just letting it happen? If you're confident in yourself and in your relationship, you should just laugh when people hit on your girlfriend and thank them for the compliment. This! You invalidate her as a person with her own free will and ability to say no and at the same time essentially signal that you don't really trust her if you can't simply laugh at it. | ||
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Dark_Chill
Canada3353 Posts
The reason it doesn't look good is because you're leaving someone alone on the matter. The thing you suggested at the end, laughing at it, is fine too, as it shows that you're there with her and are supporting her. People feel a lot better when they have someone else there to help them. I will accept though that what I said is probably a worse choice than yours, depending on the type of girl. Some girls like guys who aren't afraid to stand up, while others like guys who can seem perfectly calm in these sorts of situations. | ||
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BigAsia
Canada451 Posts
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Ghostcom
Denmark4782 Posts
I have however still occasionally had to stand up (the guy simply not backing off despite being clearly rejected), but I simply can't recognize the need to hint about carrying a weapon or intimidation tactics. I find the best working trick is to simply walk over to them, huge smile, say that you have been looking for her, kiss her and apologize to him that you are going to snatch away your girlfriend. | ||
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Cynry
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AlphaMan
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BigAsia
Canada451 Posts
On July 04 2013 02:37 Cynry wrote: Especially as weapons and intimidation can severely backfire. If a girl has a need for that kind of behavior, better avoid her imo. Yeah especially if they actually have a weapon and i end up getting shanked. Gonna blame tl | ||
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gedatsu
1286 Posts
Because, you know, if the come-on works on her, you won't be able to stop her from cheating anyway. Unless you plan on keeping tabs on her 24/7. Not worrying that she might run off with whoever gives her attention means you're showing her you're confident you're better than that guy. If you genuinely aren't better and she knows it, you won't be able to stop them from getting together. Even with a weapon. | ||
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r.Evo
Germany14080 Posts
On July 03 2013 22:33 BigAsia wrote: Only bad part about dating a hot girl is how much male attention she gets. Not that I really mind but its annoying when they hit on her and I'm there. Should I give them all titty twisters? When it comes to someone who is drunk and being an ass (and obviously the Miss is annoyed about it) I'd be very straight forward about it. In the 10% of cases where that doesn't work I'd swap where we're hanging out and/or tip off a bouncer about the guy. If you're talking about clubs where bouncers don't care about this type of stuff then I don't really have a suggestion for you. | ||
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Disarmed
Austria721 Posts
It's going rough for me because im kinda weird in regards to incepting ANY form of conversation. I got told many times that im handsome and funny and generally a good guy to hang around with and blablabla, but i CANNOT with all power in the universe go up to a girl and start talking. It feels sooooo fucking weird for me, though it's one of most basic concepts of human communication. I always have the impression the girl immediately knows what i have in mind and it always feels like a test, or like a "you got one chance, better not say ONE wrong word". Once we talk, everything is smooth sailing, but starting it......*shivers* Im full of confidence in pretty much every other aspect in my life, but when it comes to the sweet ladies, im fucking paralyzed | ||
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