EPTSame here but i didn't know if i should write that. I mean, is your biggest problem really the ukulele? Haha.
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Nerchio
Poland2633 Posts
Same here but i didn't know if i should write that. I mean, is your biggest problem really the ukulele? Haha. | ||
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McBengt
Sweden1684 Posts
On May 11 2013 05:19 Wombat_NI wrote: What's the issue again? Hopefully Wombat can distill some sage advice at a later juncture Girl at gym, been semi-coaching her, seems interested, interest not reciprocated on my part, need to arrange smooth explanation of situation without jeopardizing professional courtesy. Only wimps run over cats. You're out. =( It was already dead! I jest, there was no feline fatality, 'twas but fabrication. I did sit on a frog when I was ten though, broke my heart. Always liked frogs. | ||
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WombaT
Northern Ireland26225 Posts
In reassuring girls with that mentality. Flipping it around and making a joke works because it is inferring that the starting position of 'oh I'm so fat' is ridiculous, and ergo not true. God I can't think properly today, curse my brain! | ||
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WombaT
Northern Ireland26225 Posts
In seriousness though, how do you know she is interested? Are you a coach in a professional capacity or have you been assisting her off your own bat? If you want to shirk confrontation in letting her down, kill her interest organically over a period. Think of it as applying PUA techs, but backwards. unless she's a weird obsessive (understandable in your case ofc), if you frame yourself as undesirable, her interest will wane. | ||
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Conti
Germany2516 Posts
On May 11 2013 00:51 HardlyNever wrote: That makes absolutely no sense. She had this idea before I ever met her, and trying to show her the reverse reinforces that same idea? You're either trolling or this is some PUA crap. You do know that all the PUA crazies have migrated to this thread ever since their beloved PUA thread got closed, right? | ||
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Shady Sands
United States4021 Posts
EDIT: nvm figured it out. How did I miss that thread rofl | ||
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McBengt
Sweden1684 Posts
On May 11 2013 05:38 Wombat_NI wrote: Go watch Hannibal the TV series and start acting like Will Graham, you will kill her interest :p In seriousness though, how do you know she is interested? Are you a coach in a professional capacity or have you been assisting her off your own bat? If you want to shirk confrontation in letting her down, kill her interest organically over a period. Think of it as applying PUA techs, but backwards. unless she's a weird obsessive (understandable in your case ofc), if you frame yourself as undesirable, her interest will wane. I think I'm more the actual Hannibal type. I'm standing in for the regular coach during the summer, so it's in at least a semi-professional capacity. I don't think she's obsessed or has any kind of unhealthy interest, I just suck at letting people down, it makes me feel like a turd. Lol, what was that about obsession being understandable in my case? Not offended or anything, just a little perplexed. | ||
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WombaT
Northern Ireland26225 Posts
And understandable because you're such a fine specimen obviously! | ||
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TheFish7
United States2824 Posts
On May 11 2013 04:29 kafkaesque wrote: From December to around March I had been having sex with a friend of mine, around twice or thrice a week. We would sometimes hang around each other and have occasional phone calls, but nothing serious and the topic of a relationship never came up, as I knew that she wouldn't be interested, that we would make an abysmal couple and that she was still hung up on her ex boyfriend. So one day she's in tears and tells me she has something horrible to admit. Obviously, she had slept with her ex. I wasn't sure why she even told me and said something along the lines of: "That's really not a problem, I've assumed you had been doing that all along.", because I really had assumed that. Suddenly she screams at me, do I take her for a whore, what a horrible thing to say, yada yada. I tried to calm her down, but ultimately left and haven't heard from her since. Here's the problem: when I left in a hurry, I forgot that she still has my ukulele. How do I get her to mail it to me, without being too inconsiderate? Hmm, maybe give her some time to cool off, then you could send her some flowers and/or a handwritten note telling her you don't think she's a whore and asking for the ukulele back? | ||
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Grumbels
Netherlands7031 Posts
On May 11 2013 01:24 HardlyNever wrote: It's a moot point, b/c we've been broken up for a while. I don't really care about your personal views on marriage one way or another. All you're doing is reinforcing what I said: you can't change someone, it is up to them to "change." You are suggesting some sort of infantile reverse psychology, that strikes me as very "PUA," but it could be some other form of weird thinking. People are sheep, of course you can change them. | ||
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McBengt
Sweden1684 Posts
On May 11 2013 06:03 Wombat_NI wrote: Hannibal is charming though. And understandable because you're such a fine specimen obviously! Hannibal is a boss. "I'm giving serious thought to eating your wife" is still the best one liner ever. Given my strictly culinary interest in children, I've always found him to be something of a role-model. And your kind words warm my shriveled heart, were I not busy watching a masterpiece starring the inimitable Dwayne Johnson I would compose an epic in your honour. | ||
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WombaT
Northern Ireland26225 Posts
Hannibal is a most scary individual for sure, but I am rather jealous of his meticulous neatness and sharp tailoring | ||
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Baumbart
Germany17 Posts
On May 11 2013 04:29 kafkaesque wrote: From December to around March I had been having sex with a friend of mine, around twice or thrice a week. We would sometimes hang around each other and have occasional phone calls, but nothing serious and the topic of a relationship never came up, as I knew that she wouldn't be interested, that we would make an abysmal couple and that she was still hung up on her ex boyfriend. So one day she's in tears and tells me she has something horrible to admit. Obviously, she had slept with her ex. I wasn't sure why she even told me and said something along the lines of: "That's really not a problem, I've assumed you had been doing that all along.", because I really had assumed that. Suddenly she screams at me, do I take her for a whore, what a horrible thing to say, yada yada. I tried to calm her down, but ultimately left and haven't heard from her since. Here's the problem: when I left in a hurry, I forgot that she still has my ukulele. How do I get her to mail it to me, without being too inconsiderate? Just go to her place, get her a small gift and apologize for what you said. Afterwards just ask her for your ukelele. | ||
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Dullahan
United States248 Posts
http://www.explosm.net/comics/3167/ ![[image loading]](http://i.imgur.com/JRlsyuD.png) | ||
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B.I.G.
3251 Posts
On May 11 2013 04:47 Shady Sands wrote: Hate to break it to you dude but you just poked her where it hurts (no pun intended). You're lucky if she hasn't already done unspeakable things to your instrument. Lol all this time I was thinking his ukelele was a synonym for his penis... I felt rather disturbed when I read the "doing unspeakable things to your instrument" haha.. | ||
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kafkaesque
Germany2006 Posts
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Monsen
Germany2548 Posts
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McBengt
Sweden1684 Posts
On May 11 2013 08:40 Wombat_NI wrote: Which of the many Dwayne Jonhson masterpieces have you chosen to write? Hannibal is a most scary individual for sure, but I am rather jealous of his meticulous neatness and sharp tailoring Uh, I'm not really sure. He was beating some dudes up with a 2 by 4, then, suddenly, Johnny Knoxville. Then he beat up some more dudes and that was it. | ||
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Shady Sands
United States4021 Posts
On May 12 2013 01:09 kafkaesque wrote: Genitalia is rarely detachable. Key word: rarely http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/John_and_Lorena_Bobbitt | ||
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kafkaesque
Germany2006 Posts
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