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ROOTFayth
Canada3351 Posts
nobody really likes horror movies lolol | ||
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McBengt
Sweden1684 Posts
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heishe
Germany2284 Posts
On April 28 2013 11:06 r.Evo wrote: Always assume that anything the girl you're into does is because she is trying to seduce you. -Calling back quickly? - She couldn't resist you. -Calling back late? - She tried to play hard to get. -Wants to watch horror movie? - Needs a reason to get close. -Wants to watch comedy? - Wants to find out if your humor is similar to hers. Throw those assumptions her way with not the most serious attitude and much fun is to be had. =D Yeah, the second date's over now and literally nothing happened. We didn't even come close to touching, even though I was constantly setting up for it. except for the hug when I left where she wished me a safe way home and asked me to maybe contact her again in the future (you're German, she said "kannst dich vielleicht ja mal melden"), which sounds pretty negative to me. Otherwise in terms of signals, I don't know how to interpret all the stuff she told me. She made an effort to generally talk about past acquaintances a lot (a lot of stories like "this time I met this guy...") and made a lot of references to her looks and her weight, and how much sport she does and how she lost so much weight losing this and that diet (she's got a pretty fit body but is on one of those girly "I need to look like Germany's Next Top Model" runs) like she wanted me to judge her. Usually these are positive signals given by an insecure person, but then she's the most outgoing and (seemingly) confident person I've ever met. Also she said a ton of shit that directly contradicted that, e.g. once she described this guy and listed a bunch of characteristics that she liked and then said she was totally turned of by him after they kissed first. Anyways, of those characteristics literally all (10 or so) were exact opposites of me. Dunno, gotta figure out a way to get a clear signal via text messages, cause I don't really want to waste any more time and money in real life, but I really like her personality [and looks] (I don't really get anything out of the "getting to know random persons" thing). I figure straight out asking is fine but this probably nets me negative points if she is in fact into me (just asking her on a third date won't work since I know she's looking for platonic friends as well. She'd just say yes to have some fun and not be bored). | ||
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r.Evo
Germany14080 Posts
In terms of topics I personally like brushing away fishing for compliments either rather rough (She's talking about how she lost weight? Muster her and ask "Are you sure?", smile afterwards) or rather soft ("Are you really trying to fish for compliments here? Do you really think you need that?" - smile!). None of what you mentioned are "signals". Not so confident, definitely, but it's not classy rapport seeking behaviour either. Talking about past acquaintances is, from my experience, more of a inexperienced way of screening the other side and/or trying to establish value by insecure people. However, you're not there to talk about her ex-hookups. Think of those stories as a bridge to what you want from her. The example you mentioned with her being turned of by him after they first kissed - dirty smile into "What turns you on when a guy kisses you?" ~ That's the type of emtional response you're looking to evoke. It doesn't really matter what you're talking about as long as you manage to evoke strong emotions. Might as well keep dating her and work on the way you act around her, she won't be the last and she's certainly not the best. It's your job to make clear signals, it's her job to not come off as "too easy". Easiest ways to judge if/how much she is attracted in a real conversation (if you really don't get it) is to make horrible jokes or check for approval seeking behaviour. PS: "I don't want to spend more money"? What exactly did you do..? | ||
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B.I.G.
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WombaT
Northern Ireland26225 Posts
On April 28 2013 19:13 McBengt wrote: Careful Grumbels, your oozing masculinity may just lead me to foist my affections on you rather than Wombat. Fuck, damnit. I'll do that series of erotic photos I promised you, honest! | ||
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Danglars
United States12133 Posts
It's up to you to make things happen. Less analyzing (internal) more acting (external). "Setting up touching her" sounds creepy as fuck. Just box her when she says something dumb, pet her head when she's trying to be cute or tip/box her when you're trying to get her attention. Still working on that crap. It does not come easy. I'm getting better at not just doing the beta-compliment from afar treatment, and upping the light teasing and interest-seeking further than I usually go. Like saying "Are you sure?" if somebody is clearing fishing for a compliment. Can't wait to try something of that nature instead of a bland comment. I guess I'm really saying that my focus area is being a playful guy and charming. New girl in the my extended social circle seems very receptive, we'll see how it goes. Liked reading r.Evo's post, keep it up. | ||
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docvoc
United States5491 Posts
On April 28 2013 16:24 KezseN wrote: hahahahahaha nice reply to brighten up the thread It made me laugh hahaha. This thread is like a combination dick waving thread and cry-on-shoulder thread  , and this was a good way to lighten it up the latter part of this sentence. | ||
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Recognizable
Netherlands1552 Posts
I got good signals whilst I was whatsapping yesterday. I'm gonna go for it  I don't drink, because it's bad mmmkay. However, I just might down a couple of beers tonight. | ||
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mcmartini
Australia1972 Posts
I love horror movies actually my favorite genre. Old and trashy. New and disgusting what ever. My mates new gf loves them as well. | ||
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McBengt
Sweden1684 Posts
On April 29 2013 13:33 Wombat_NI wrote: Fuck, damnit. I'll do that series of erotic photos I promised you, honest! I've already fedex'd the pink robocop mankini. | ||
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Rollin
Australia1552 Posts
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rezoacken
Canada2719 Posts
In terms of topics I personally like brushing away fishing for compliments either rather rough (She's talking about how she lost weight? Muster her and ask "Are you sure?", smile afterwards) or rather soft ("Are you really trying to fish for compliments here? Do you really think you need that?" - smile!). None of what you mentioned are "signals". Not so confident, definitely, but it's not classy rapport seeking behaviour either. Yes brushing them away is good. Another thing is turning it around as her trying to please you. Example: F "I lost weight" M "Cool, I like you better now " Imo, it's very different than "you look good" or even worse "you were already beautiful".or "For me ? :D" If she responds negatively it doesn't really matter... however if she's confused or something that's a good sign. Or in case you guys are on the way to victory and sexuality is already somewhat there, you can go with a bolder line like: "If you continue like this, I'll have to kiss you" (and leave it there, don't start drooling -.-) I guess you get the idea. The main problem with a bland comment is that they are... bland. They don't create anything. Instead be playful and funny as you said. | ||
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Recognizable
Netherlands1552 Posts
On April 29 2013 16:57 Rollin wrote: What does "whatsapping" mean? Google is no help...? Instant messaging? http://www.whatsapp.com/ | ||
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WalkinDead
88 Posts
Me cares about said girl. Me wants girl, but doesn't want to ruin the seemingly deteriorating relationship between them already. ug. | ||
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rezoacken
Canada2719 Posts
Let her deal with her own relationship, find one of your own. You can flirt a little with her meanwhile and if you're still into her when she breaks up you can move on it. | ||
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aTnClouD
Italy2428 Posts
On April 30 2013 05:22 WalkinDead wrote: girl has boyfriend. girl is annoyed with her boyfriend Me cares about said girl. Me wants girl, but doesn't want to ruin the seemingly deteriorating relationship between them already. ug. beta as fuck | ||
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McBengt
Sweden1684 Posts
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isaachukfan
Canada785 Posts
Truth spoken from the master! | ||
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Recognizable
Netherlands1552 Posts
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