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On April 27 2013 02:21 Recognizable wrote: How's my luck? I don't know man. This dropdead gorgeous girl who broke up a couple of months ago with her boyfriend seems to have taking a liking to me. But I am not sure. Because she's perfect. It's the kind of girl everybody in the school knows. She skillfully rejected almost 6 guys at the last party. So obviously I am hesitant. On the other hand... I'm whatsapping with her and we were on the subject of cooking and she casually suggested that she wouldn't mind me cooking for her sometime. So yeah... But come on. Every fucking guy in the school is after her and she could get every single one of them. She's off the charts. A 1-10 scale doesn't apply to her. She is a model for christ sake. I know I have soul piercing blue eyes but objectively; I am nowhere near her level.
You know that women dont compare looks the same way as guys, do you? There is a lot more that makes a man attraktive. There are so many guys with women way to pretty for them. why not join the club?
If youre not butt-ugly she could very well find you attractive.
And with an opener like the cooking thing there is really no reason to not at least try!
Do it! Do it! Or i will find you and take your dick, because you dont deserve it anymore!
Damn right I will try. But with a girl like that it's hard not to have your doubts. I seriously don't find myself that attractive. I know I am well liked, probably intelligent. But so is she. I just don't see myself as attractive. I don't know man. I seem to have a fanclub of 14 year old girls who stare at me and give random compliments on my eyes, but I figured it's just because I am four years older than them.
The number one rule of dealing with attractive people is treating them just like everyone else.
Keep in mind that if much of her value comes from her physical attractiveness, then that value is a continuously depreciating asset. By contrast, your value is continuously appreciating if you work on it.
QFT. Girls will know if you treat them better because they're more good looking.
I don´t treat her any differently; I didn´t even pay attention to her a month ago and I generally hang out with everyone and anyone. Anyway, this monday I have a party and she should be there. I'll dance with her, chat with her, and at one point I'm just going to ask her if she likes me. It´s a win-win situation. If she says no that means I can finally focus on studying for my exams. If she says yes, well, that's definitely a win too.
Don't ask her if she likes you. Tell her you like her.
And I once watched American Psycho with a girl, that was interesting :p
On April 28 2013 04:51 heishe wrote: Had a date with a girl on thursday. She wants to watch horror movies with me tomorrow. Don't chicks do that if they want to get close and make out?
it's a good way for a girl to gauge if you can give her safety
So should I loudly proclaim that I would beat those monsters up if they were threatening her?
yeah, then shout like tarzan and look deep into her eyes and tell her "im batman!"
I just thought of this scene acted out behind some horror movie with Christian Bale playing the role of the suitor and can't stop laughing. This is too good. Instead of "I'm batman!" it's more like "Ahmasasodfjnga"
On April 28 2013 04:51 heishe wrote: Had a date with a girl on thursday. She wants to watch horror movies with me tomorrow. Don't chicks do that if they want to get close and make out?
it's a good way for a girl to gauge if you can give her safety
maybe she just likes horror movies?
Always assume that anything the girl you're into does is because she is trying to seduce you.
-Calling back quickly? - She couldn't resist you. -Calling back late? - She tried to play hard to get.
-Wants to watch horror movie? - Needs a reason to get close. -Wants to watch comedy? - Wants to find out if your humor is similar to hers.
Throw those assumptions her way with not the most serious attitude and much fun is to be had. =D
If you wanna do a movie night but aren't sure what to pick... I highly recommend Interview with a Vampire. I have never had a bad experience with that one with any girl. Vampires that are cool unlike all the Twilight vampires we see lately, young Brad Pitt + Tom Cruise (chicks dig it), badass story that combines awesomeness with a touch of romance which is nice for the whole date thing, etc.
On April 28 2013 04:51 heishe wrote: Had a date with a girl on thursday. She wants to watch horror movies with me tomorrow. Don't chicks do that if they want to get close and make out?
it's a good way for a girl to gauge if you can give her safety
maybe she just likes horror movies?
Always assume that anything the girl you're into does is because she is trying to seduce you.
-Calling back quickly? - She couldn't resist you. -Calling back late? - She tried to play hard to get.
-Wants to watch horror movie? - Needs a reason to get close. -Wants to watch comedy? - Wants to find out if your humor is similar to hers.
Throw those assumptions her way with not the most serious attitude and much fun is to be had. =D
Don't bother. Forever alone white knights like Grumbels never listen, and they deserve what they get anyway.
I'm dating this one really hot girl. Well not exactly dating. She's just really hot so I look at her pictures on facebook and masturbate to them lol. I'm going to have sex with her IRL one day though
On April 28 2013 15:39 RexFTW wrote: This may be the saddest thread i have ever seen on a forum. LEAVE YOUR HOME AND MEET PEOPLE.
The thread just got sadder, for a whole different reason.
On topic: Just pick a movie you like that she agrees to see. The movie really doesn't matter that much. No girl is gonna reject you because you picked a specific movie (unless you decided to watch a porn movie on the date). Anyway... if she comes alone at your house to watch a movie it's already end game.
On April 28 2013 15:27 Wojciech Zywny wrote: I'm dating this one really hot girl. Well not exactly dating. She's just really hot so I look at her pictures on facebook and masturbate to them lol. I'm going to have sex with her IRL one day though
On April 28 2013 15:27 Wojciech Zywny wrote: I'm dating this one really hot girl. Well not exactly dating. She's just really hot so I look at her pictures on facebook and masturbate to them lol. I'm going to have sex with her IRL one day though
On April 28 2013 04:51 heishe wrote: Had a date with a girl on thursday. She wants to watch horror movies with me tomorrow. Don't chicks do that if they want to get close and make out?
it's a good way for a girl to gauge if you can give her safety
maybe she just likes horror movies?
Always assume that anything the girl you're into does is because she is trying to seduce you.
-Calling back quickly? - She couldn't resist you. -Calling back late? - She tried to play hard to get.
-Wants to watch horror movie? - Needs a reason to get close. -Wants to watch comedy? - Wants to find out if your humor is similar to hers.
Throw those assumptions her way with not the most serious attitude and much fun is to be had. =D
Don't bother. Forever alone white knights like Grumbels never listen, and they deserve what they get anyway.
Based on your responses I can only assume that you have a crush on me and are following your dating strategy to win me over. :p
On April 27 2013 02:21 Recognizable wrote: How's my luck? I don't know man. This dropdead gorgeous girl who broke up a couple of months ago with her boyfriend seems to have taking a liking to me. But I am not sure. Because she's perfect. It's the kind of girl everybody in the school knows. She skillfully rejected almost 6 guys at the last party. So obviously I am hesitant. On the other hand... I'm whatsapping with her and we were on the subject of cooking and she casually suggested that she wouldn't mind me cooking for her sometime. So yeah... But come on. Every fucking guy in the school is after her and she could get every single one of them. She's off the charts. A 1-10 scale doesn't apply to her. She is a model for christ sake. I know I have soul piercing blue eyes but objectively; I am nowhere near her level.
You know that women dont compare looks the same way as guys, do you? There is a lot more that makes a man attraktive. There are so many guys with women way to pretty for them. why not join the club?
If youre not butt-ugly she could very well find you attractive.
And with an opener like the cooking thing there is really no reason to not at least try!
Do it! Do it! Or i will find you and take your dick, because you dont deserve it anymore!
Damn right I will try. But with a girl like that it's hard not to have your doubts. I seriously don't find myself that attractive. I know I am well liked, probably intelligent. But so is she. I just don't see myself as attractive. I don't know man. I seem to have a fanclub of 14 year old girls who stare at me and give random compliments on my eyes, but I figured it's just because I am four years older than them.
The number one rule of dealing with attractive people is treating them just like everyone else.
Keep in mind that if much of her value comes from her physical attractiveness, then that value is a continuously depreciating asset. By contrast, your value is continuously appreciating if you work on it.
QFT. Girls will know if you treat them better because they're more good looking.
I don´t treat her any differently; I didn´t even pay attention to her a month ago and I generally hang out with everyone and anyone. Anyway, this monday I have a party and she should be there. I'll dance with her, chat with her, and at one point I'm just going to ask her if she likes me. It´s a win-win situation. If she says no that means I can finally focus on studying for my exams. If she says yes, well, that's definitely a win too.
On April 28 2013 04:51 heishe wrote: Had a date with a girl on thursday. She wants to watch horror movies with me tomorrow. Don't chicks do that if they want to get close and make out?
it's a good way for a girl to gauge if you can give her safety
maybe she just likes horror movies?
Always assume that anything the girl you're into does is because she is trying to seduce you.
-Calling back quickly? - She couldn't resist you. -Calling back late? - She tried to play hard to get.
-Wants to watch horror movie? - Needs a reason to get close. -Wants to watch comedy? - Wants to find out if your humor is similar to hers.
Throw those assumptions her way with not the most serious attitude and much fun is to be had. =D
Don't bother. Forever alone white knights like Grumbels never listen, and they deserve what they get anyway.
Based on your responses I can only assume that you have a crush on me and are following your dating strategy to win me over. :p
It's fairly certain I would still find you repulsive if I was gay. Probably more so, considering that gay men appear to have higher standards than straight men.
On April 27 2013 02:21 Recognizable wrote: How's my luck? I don't know man. This dropdead gorgeous girl who broke up a couple of months ago with her boyfriend seems to have taking a liking to me. But I am not sure. Because she's perfect. It's the kind of girl everybody in the school knows. She skillfully rejected almost 6 guys at the last party. So obviously I am hesitant. On the other hand... I'm whatsapping with her and we were on the subject of cooking and she casually suggested that she wouldn't mind me cooking for her sometime. So yeah... But come on. Every fucking guy in the school is after her and she could get every single one of them. She's off the charts. A 1-10 scale doesn't apply to her. She is a model for christ sake. I know I have soul piercing blue eyes but objectively; I am nowhere near her level.
You know that women dont compare looks the same way as guys, do you? There is a lot more that makes a man attraktive. There are so many guys with women way to pretty for them. why not join the club?
If youre not butt-ugly she could very well find you attractive.
And with an opener like the cooking thing there is really no reason to not at least try!
Do it! Do it! Or i will find you and take your dick, because you dont deserve it anymore!
Damn right I will try. But with a girl like that it's hard not to have your doubts. I seriously don't find myself that attractive. I know I am well liked, probably intelligent. But so is she. I just don't see myself as attractive. I don't know man. I seem to have a fanclub of 14 year old girls who stare at me and give random compliments on my eyes, but I figured it's just because I am four years older than them.
The number one rule of dealing with attractive people is treating them just like everyone else.
Keep in mind that if much of her value comes from her physical attractiveness, then that value is a continuously depreciating asset. By contrast, your value is continuously appreciating if you work on it.
QFT. Girls will know if you treat them better because they're more good looking.
I don´t treat her any differently; I didn´t even pay attention to her a month ago and I generally hang out with everyone and anyone. Anyway, this monday I have a party and she should be there. I'll dance with her, chat with her, and at one point I'm just going to ask her if she likes me. It´s a win-win situation. If she says no that means I can finally focus on studying for my exams. If she says yes, well, that's definitely a win too.
Ask her if she likes you? Are you 12?
It actually sounds like he's given up hope completely and just wants to get the rejection over with. His plan is not that different from cat calls and wolf whistles, in terms of practical effect.
On April 27 2013 03:19 McBengt wrote: Woah, what did I create here o0.
It was meant as a lighthearted anecdote on the subject of online dating, I was 17 years old at the time, with hormones coming out of my ears. It was just an amusing setback brought on by an overpowering urge to copulate, before I was old enough to control it.
It's not racist to have a preference for people with appearances similar to your own 'race' ...
Ehm, that is being racist. If you are not attracted to an otherwise wonderful girl because she is black, then what else would you call it but racism?
It's one thing to say you don't like someone because she is black, it's another thing to just be not attracted to the typical features attributed with a race.
Grumbels has an itchy trigger finger. Obviously I was going for the latter in your example.
Racism has two definitions:
1. The belief that race accounts for differences in human character or ability and that a particular race is superior to others. 2. Discrimination or prejudice based on race.
I meant in the second sense, not the first. A preference can be racist despite the fact that the person they belong to is not racist in the first sense at all. If you think that fat people aren't attractive then you are discriminating based on weight, if you think that black people aren't attractive then you are discriminating based on color (i.e. racism). It's not meant to say that you are evil racist scum.
Heres a question: Does taking longer to ask a girl out automatically put you in the friend zone? Or if you play it right and keep the conversation somewhat sexual, you'll avoid this "zone".
Nope, absolutely not. I had been pretty good friends with my current girlfriend for over 1.5 years before sealing the deal not long ago. There are a few rules you have to follow, though, to be seen as a potential partner and not her gay best friend. We were really good friends, she told me everything that happened to her, about the guys that were hitting on her, etc. You have to read her personality to know what she likes, and find out how she wants to be hit on. If you have a longer conversation (like over an hour) with her, don't hesitate to build and maintain a sexual tension, but you have to be careful. You either have to only give her hints that you're interested in her (she might not pick up on them), without being too obvious, or you have to go overboard so that she gets that you're being ironic, sarcastic or w/e depending on how the conversation's going. When you do that, she'll know that a) you're interested and b) not 100% serious, though. It'll make her think about you and wonder which part of what you said is sincere, and which one is not. If you're giving hints that are too obvious or not going overboard enough (without being rude ! just keep complimenting her every 5-10mns with stuff that is way too "strong" to be true... I don't have an example right now, sry), she'll know exactly how interested you are, and lose interest in you (as a sexual partner). So yeah, if you play it right and don't act like a) a brother and b) her dog (ie : don't do EVERYTHING she asks, don't give her presents if they aren't ironic -- such as offering a clock to someone who's late 100% of the time -- etc), you're good. But it only works if you don't see each other too much (we sometimes didn't talk to each other for two weeks and to then talk from 6pm to 4-5am). If you see each other everyday and talk to each other everyday, it can't take too long. My advice if you're looking for a girlfriend :
- if you've already known her for some time (like 1 year+), you either won't date her or have played it right and if you bring up the possibility of dating each other at the exact right moment, you'll get her
- if you've just met her, just ask her to go & get a drink w/ you, to get to know each other... it's a win-win situation : you'll either get a positive answer, which is great, or a negative one, in which case she probably wasn't worth it anyway.
On April 27 2013 02:21 Recognizable wrote: How's my luck? I don't know man. This dropdead gorgeous girl who broke up a couple of months ago with her boyfriend seems to have taking a liking to me. But I am not sure. Because she's perfect. It's the kind of girl everybody in the school knows. She skillfully rejected almost 6 guys at the last party. So obviously I am hesitant. On the other hand... I'm whatsapping with her and we were on the subject of cooking and she casually suggested that she wouldn't mind me cooking for her sometime. So yeah... But come on. Every fucking guy in the school is after her and she could get every single one of them. She's off the charts. A 1-10 scale doesn't apply to her. She is a model for christ sake. I know I have soul piercing blue eyes but objectively; I am nowhere near her level.
You know that women dont compare looks the same way as guys, do you? There is a lot more that makes a man attraktive. There are so many guys with women way to pretty for them. why not join the club?
If youre not butt-ugly she could very well find you attractive.
And with an opener like the cooking thing there is really no reason to not at least try!
Do it! Do it! Or i will find you and take your dick, because you dont deserve it anymore!
Damn right I will try. But with a girl like that it's hard not to have your doubts. I seriously don't find myself that attractive. I know I am well liked, probably intelligent. But so is she. I just don't see myself as attractive. I don't know man. I seem to have a fanclub of 14 year old girls who stare at me and give random compliments on my eyes, but I figured it's just because I am four years older than them.
The number one rule of dealing with attractive people is treating them just like everyone else.
Keep in mind that if much of her value comes from her physical attractiveness, then that value is a continuously depreciating asset. By contrast, your value is continuously appreciating if you work on it.
QFT. Girls will know if you treat them better because they're more good looking.
And then they will take advantage of you're free dinners. Sometimes I wish I was an attractive girl just for the sake of never having to pay for food again.
This. Free food & drinks everywhere!
On April 28 2013 15:27 Wojciech Zywny wrote: I'm dating this one really hot girl. Well not exactly dating. She's just really hot so I look at her pictures on facebook and masturbate to them lol. I'm going to have sex with her IRL one day though
On April 28 2013 15:27 Wojciech Zywny wrote: I'm dating this one really hot girl. Well not exactly dating. She's just really hot so I look at her pictures on facebook and masturbate to them lol. I'm going to have sex with her IRL one day though
On April 28 2013 15:27 Wojciech Zywny wrote: I'm dating this one really hot girl. Well not exactly dating. She's just really hot so I look at her pictures on facebook and masturbate to them lol. I'm going to have sex with her IRL one day though
EPT
