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I have the biggest de-motivational story in the world to tell about living together and games and stuff. But always remember, true love = real love = conquers all. Anyone who stops trying or gives excuses = not real love, no excuse, no extra reason needed.
Sounds like you are happy and everything is ready to go. I hope you have a great great life with lots of kids and your wife running barefooted around the place pregnant <3 Work hard for your family, stay grounded, stay loyal and things will always work out Mwahhhhh <3 GLHF!
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On September 30 2011 04:06 kellymilkies wrote: I have the biggest de-motivational story in the world to tell about living together and games and stuff. But always remember, true love = real love = conquers all. Anyone who stops trying or gives excuses = not real love, no excuse, no extra reason needed.
Sounds like you are happy and everything is ready to go. I hope you have a great great life with lots of kids and your wife running barefooted around the place pregnant <3 Work hard for your family, stay grounded, stay loyal and things will always work out Mwahhhhh <3 GLHF!
Living together sometimes just doesn't work out. I went out for a girl for over 2 years moved in together and broke up after 2 weeks. Sometimes you're just not compatible to live together simple as that, but if you are going as far as to legaly bind yourself to eachother surely you would have gone over that humb ages ago.
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Me and my girlfriend have lived together for a couple months. during the beginning we didn't have interest, and for the past 2 weeks or so we just got it. she goes to school full time, and i work part time and play sc2, so iv spent every day playing as much as i can. It tough sometimes, u have to balance it like you would in the game. Life is a game per say.
You have to micro your entertainment, but you also have to focus on your macro with your job and relationships. Macro is the more important one ( to most ) but micro will keep you from losing the game. If that makes sense. If not then i just sounded very nerdy.
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I would say that marriage shouldn't affect gaming - you will still have time for hobbies, and although you will do more stuff together you should still have time for yourself. You just need to have an understanding partner.
However, having kids will dramatically cut down on gaming.
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My marriage hasn't reduced my gaming at all. What reduces gaming is mostly economic/life concerns.
Honestly though, you need to find a woman who respects you for what you are and doesn't try to change you. My wife probably feels my gaming is a waste of time, just like I feel her watching TV is a waste of time, but we don't ever criticize each other for it because it's what we enjoy doing. As long as the bills are all paid, you can't really complain about "wasting time" imo.
She does sometimes complain that I spend more time on the computer than I spend with her, but we probably still spend more time together than most married couples. The problem is she doesn't really have a hobby or interest of her own and she just gets bored. It's always good for your wife to have plenty of girl friends, they can spend hours talking or window shopping 
Source: Ten year anniversary coming up o.O
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I understand what the point of this thread is, but tbh I don't think I'd want to spend the rest of my life with someone who wasn't cool with me playing games as much as I do. I don't give a shit if you want to watch your reality shows or go to book club or go shake your tailfeathers with your girlfriends at a bar or club. Do your thing, I'll do mine. Everyones a winner.
Where people go wrong is when they decide to "settle" with the person they are with, even though they might not really be compatible life partners. People like to say things like "it's gotta be 50/50 in the relationship, theres got to be some give and take". I say that is crap. It should be 100/100; it doesn't really make sense to limit yourself or your spouse into this 50/50 mentality.
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you're 21 and you're getting married?
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I've been married for 4 years, got married when we were both 24. When we first got married, we would do this kind of thing:
Her: "I'm thinking of going shopping this afternoon. Want to come?" Me: "Shopping for fun? That is so stupid. Why would you ever want to do that."
Or
Her: "Playing computer games again? Why do you do that so often."
Now it's more like:
Her: "I'm thinking of going shopping this afternoon." Me: "Good idea, you deserve a break. Have fun."
Or
Me: "I think I'm going to spend a few hours playing computer games." Her: "Ok, have fun dear."
In other words, when we first got married we naively expected that we would like the same things, want to spend all our time together, etc. Now we understand that we have some independent interests, and we encourage each other to do things that we each enjoy.
Anyway, congrats on getting married OP. Enjoy the day.
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I really appreciate all you're comments people make me pretty optimist about the futur. I think she will not have much trouble accepting it if I talk to her about it in the correct way!
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Thou shall not get yourself binded to a maiden for she willst eat your very soul and make you play not. :3
Seriously, guys? If you're getting married it means you consider youself grown-up. You got to make choices in life. If you love someone you should easily give up a part of your life. If not, it means your feelings are not that strong.
On September 30 2011 04:19 askTeivospy wrote: you're 21 and you're getting married?
:S
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I live with my Girl. I make no adjustments. I play literally whenever I want and she brings me food if I'm busy. If my girl wasn't ok with my passions and hobbies then she wouldn't be my girl. Lots of girls out there... only one me.
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I got married when I was 21. Been 4 years now, and I have a 2 year old daughter.
I still get to game, I play SC2 probably about an hour every evening, and maybe 2-3 hours on Sat/Sunday. My wife doesn't care, she watches sometimes. You just have to be considerate of your significant other... if she's in a crappy mood or the baby is being horrible, of course I'm not going to go chill out and play a video game.
I also work a full time job as a manager at a health care practice... so anyway, my point is, people exaggerate when they say "You can't game anymore once you have a family". I think that's an old fashioned view on things, and if you have a partner who actually cares about your interests, they will understand why you want to play games.
It's all about balance!
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Getting married at 21... should have thought about the drawbacks.
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On September 30 2011 04:32 QTIP. wrote: Getting married at 21... should have thought about the drawbacks. People are so immature nowadays. What's with this idea that you have to be a manchild until you're 30? No problem if you feel that way, but some of us have different priorities in life.
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On September 30 2011 04:35 muzzy wrote:Show nested quote +On September 30 2011 04:32 QTIP. wrote: Getting married at 21... should have thought about the drawbacks. People are so immature nowadays. What's with this idea that you have to be a manchild until you're 30? No problem if you feel that way, but some of us have different priorities in life.
Have you MET our half of the species?
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On September 30 2011 04:35 muzzy wrote:Show nested quote +On September 30 2011 04:32 QTIP. wrote: Getting married at 21... should have thought about the drawbacks. People are so immature nowadays. What's with this idea that you have to be a manchild until you're 30? No problem if you feel that way, but some of us have different priorities in life.
No one said anything about being a manchild till your 30. I was merely pointing out the fact that before you get into something like a life-long commitment, you probably weigh the pros/cons. Obviously, this con was unexpected. I don't think many people would disagree that marriage at the age of 21 is quite early. If anything, getting married at 21 is immature. (I'm not saying the OP is, just saying that making poor decisions that will impact the rest of your life when you have only lived roughly 25% of your life is immature)
Also, this is not a personal attack. So don't turn it into one.
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On September 30 2011 04:32 QTIP. wrote: Getting married at 21... should have thought about the drawbacks.
What drawbacks would those be? (I got married at 23, by the way).
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On September 30 2011 04:35 muzzy wrote:Show nested quote +On September 30 2011 04:32 QTIP. wrote: Getting married at 21... should have thought about the drawbacks. People are so immature nowadays. What's with this idea that you have to be a manchild until you're 30? No problem if you feel that way, but some of us have different priorities in life.
Thanks, some people are indeed immature and do not understand that at 21 you can be ready for this. Also it is a question that will not define the success of our mariage, it is way beyond this.
And to those to wonder, I was the one to propose so I am fully commited to this and OBVIOUSLY I know that I have to cut on those hours. However, some people did not take the time to read fully the 1st post. I am looking for experience of other people to know how to deal with this in the best way. It is not a question of wheter I will game or not, because I will! It is a question about how I will deal with the situation if she thinks I play too much! Or that I don't spend enough time with her.
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On September 30 2011 04:46 Gnosis wrote:Show nested quote +On September 30 2011 04:32 QTIP. wrote: Getting married at 21... should have thought about the drawbacks. What drawbacks would those be? (I got married at 23, by the way).
Time for gaming in general. Obviously this does not apply to everyone, you might marry a chick who is just into gaming as you are. But it seems like the OP is losing some time, and I can see myself in the same situation if I were to get married now (22) given my current gaming habits.
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On September 30 2011 04:49 Datz2Ez wrote:Show nested quote +On September 30 2011 04:35 muzzy wrote:On September 30 2011 04:32 QTIP. wrote: Getting married at 21... should have thought about the drawbacks. People are so immature nowadays. What's with this idea that you have to be a manchild until you're 30? No problem if you feel that way, but some of us have different priorities in life. Thanks, some people are indeed immature and do not understand that at 21 you can be ready for this. Also it is a question that will not define the success of our mariage, it is way beyond this. And to those to wonder, I was the one to propose so I am fully commited to this and OBVIOUSLY I know that I have to cut on those hours. However, some people did not take the time to read fully the 1st post. I am looking for experience of other people to know how to deal with this in the best way. It is not a question of wheter I will game or not, because I will! It is a question about how I will deal with the situation if she thinks I play too much! Or that I don't spend enough time with her.
Congratulations on your marriage. Don't misinterpret my post, I'm not hating on your situation. Looks like you are looking for a constructive solution, already accepting the fact that the total gaming time will be less than if you were not married. GL
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