EPTArticle: "Why Chinese mothers are superior." - Page 15
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Kickboxer
Slovenia1308 Posts
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Cel.erity
United States4890 Posts
On January 09 2011 15:40 ecaesar wrote: I was raised exactly like OP. Letter for letter, did piano, got 98+ in high school, typical Asian upbringing. From my own experience I would like to point out that the people in this thread saying that its inhumane, they are not looking at the whole picture. Sure you can have fun in high school and attend uni get a nice job and great life. I actually agree on that. However, the point of Chinese parents being so strict is that they are sacrificing a little of the childhood fun for better success for the majority of the child's life after they turn 18. Competition for top schools are getting higher and higher as the population is increasing, with opportunities to make 6 digit figures less and less unless you do come out of a top school. Chinese parents simply think far ahead, really far ahead. As for me, I am doing second year at Princeton university. Not to brag but I think I turned out great compared to the people saying Asian kids turn to drugs and so. Your university doesn't say anything about your happiness and quality of life. Besides, you are only one example; I'm betting your parents are wealthy and more westernized than most. A white child raised loosely in the same position would be likely to obtain similar results. The difference is, the asian child is more likely to drop out early due to the pressure, or commit suicide, or be socially inept and chronically unfulfilled. No offense, but making it into a top school isn't an accomplishment; the smart will always succeed regardless of where they got their degree, and pass the kids who got higher entry-level salary in exchange for not having a childhood. Academics are a measure of your time and rote memorization, not your aptitude, and they never will help you in the real world. I was accepted into one of the top schools in the country, and I dropped out, and it's a good thing I did. I've been broke, I've been rich. My parents don't care, and neither do I. I am pretty much equally happy in either situation. The money doesn't give me anything that I need. On the other hand, you have been instilled with values that make it impossible to be happy without money. If things go bad for you, or god forbid you decide to follow your own path, your parents will shun you. Not mine. I was raised on junk food and unconditional love, getting shit grades, and now I have everything I always wanted. I think your story is kind of sad, to be honest. | ||
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mikado
Australia407 Posts
Brag post. | ||
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Dezzeh
Netherlands45 Posts
I feel like this woman is trying to live through her children. She's trying to make them live the life she would have liked - being excellent on the piano and all that jazz. By not giving them any freedom to express themselves she can mold them into the person she wanted to be. To be honest some strict discipline can be good, but the stories she's been telling in that article go way too far. She is limiting her own kids' personal freedom which is necessary for anyone to bloom. It's quite sad but this happens alot, maybe not in such extremes (MUST GET A's, MUST PRACTICE 10 HOURS A DAY etc.). Children grow up to be depressed and colorless. Most of them can and will be succesful, but none will truly excel because they never had the chance to do what they want to do. | ||
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stroggos
New Zealand1543 Posts
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Perkins1752
Germany214 Posts
If a Chinese child gets a B—which would never happen—there would first be a screaming, hair-tearing explosion. thats obvious sarcasm, otherwise she would make a retard out of herself. | ||
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stroggos
New Zealand1543 Posts
On January 09 2011 16:05 furymonkey wrote: Younger generations are becoming more pansy now days. People are stopping to realise that education is a luxury, there is alot people out there that wants education but couldn't. Back then, alot more teenagers need to work full time to even survive, now that some are forced to study it become inhumane? You should be thankful that you're allowed to do full time study. I would take strict educations over living on the street working all day just to buy food. Since when having alot of fun become a necessity? I'm not saying I agree with their method, but people need to realise the good life you get is hardwork of your parents and ancestors, and don't throw the word like inhumane around. Edit: Not to mention that you'll be free to do whatever you want when you're grown up. i disagree, we have it much harder than older generations. university used to be FREE, and they didn't have massive distractions like the internets. | ||
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mikado
Australia407 Posts
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mahnini
United States6862 Posts
given enough time and practice people can become mechanically proficient at anything. don't get me wrong, repetition and practice is something that is also necessary to learn anything (there is no substitute for experience), but in order to truly understand and have knowledge of something it takes motivation beyond getting yelled at and effort beyond pure repetition. | ||
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evanthebouncy!
United States12796 Posts
well, competition is more fierce now with more people. | ||
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koreasilver
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Order
Lithuania231 Posts
People, all of this (the article AND the comments) are written in such a way as if children were bred in a farm or something like that. It was horrible for me to read this, cause that lady sounds like she encouraging parents to "breed" children. LOL, what happened to everyone being a beautiful personality. God damn these crazy mothers :/ | ||
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Tazza
Korea (South)1678 Posts
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WiljushkA
Serbia1416 Posts
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Luddite
United States2315 Posts
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Railxp
Hong Kong1313 Posts
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riesza
66 Posts
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Robstickle
Great Britain406 Posts
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Whalecore
Norway1110 Posts
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ChrisXIV
Austria3553 Posts
On January 09 2011 19:53 Kickboxer wrote: Nice way to breed miserable people. This. Speaking from experience. | ||
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