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kdog3683
United States916 Posts
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Djabanete
United States2786 Posts
On November 09 2009 17:45 kdog3683 wrote: Could you post a video of you in action? This would be so much more useful for nerds like myself. thanks This is him, 0:07-0:15. | ||
NeverGG
United Kingdom5399 Posts
On November 09 2009 17:12 mOnion wrote: what do you think about really ridiculous dyes? like  Jaehoon's new doo?I like it. Although it looked more anime-esque before he let it fade. I wish Realy had kept his honey blonde color, but apparently it was too bright for him to cope with. | ||
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LarJarsE
United States1378 Posts
On November 09 2009 14:57 fanatacist wrote: How do you approach single men? Do you ease them into the concept of your homosexuality and try to change their orientation through a prolonged friendship, or do you just spring the trap on them once you become a close friend? ....To answer your question: I cannot give advice on this situation because I do not personally know how men are attracted to other men. | ||
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mOnion
United States5657 Posts
On November 09 2009 17:50 NeverGG wrote: I like it. Although it looked more anime-esque before he let it fade. I wish Realy had kept his honey blonde color, but apparently it was too bright for him to cope with. that is incredibly fascinating. gawd i just love asian culture. i could pull off a Sephiroth cosplay and be fawned over. | ||
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ParasitJonte
Sweden1768 Posts
There's this smart/cute girl in my japanese class that I'm interested in. During breaks, she approaches me and talks to me and she's impressed by my language skills. Problem is, I have a hard time distinguishing whether a girl is attracted to me or just thinks good of me in general. The good old "friend-dilemma". How do I find out the answer without asking the question straight to her face? It's also a problem that I can't get much alone time with her as all students gather together during breaks (which is when I have the most obvious opportunity to talk to her). | ||
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Foucault
Sweden2826 Posts
I'm actually thinking of starting up a PUA business of some sort. Been talking to some people about it and I have a background in psychology/sociology, disciplines from where PUA:s get like 90% of their "knowledge" about men and women. | ||
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starfries
Canada3508 Posts
On November 09 2009 17:19 resonance wrote: + Show Spoiler + On November 09 2009 16:55 biomedical wrote: please...who gives a shit. if people arent interested in thread content then they should stop posting in it and let it die. i dont want to read a bunch of whining and half-assed trollisms which go ON AND ON AND ON AND ON. so many posters here are contempt brats who just use the forums as a playground so they can scorn things and pick fights with fucking EVERYTHING. they bicker and pick out faults and negatives without trying to understand the actual MEANING behind what someone posts and WHY they posted it. everything is totally one dimensional to them. they dont ever look for the variety of meanings or uses/usefulnesses behind what a person posts. when i posted something reasonably interesting in the "drink and drive" thread i was taken completely by surprise. i was attacked viciously by people who CLEARLY didnt understand my posts , OR the purpose of my posts. they were completely unable to analyse and think in a constructive manner. it was overwhelming, to the point that i didnt even bother to reply. some people here wonder that the "quality of posting has gone downhill". well it has - a greater percentage of people used to make thoughtful CONSTRUCTIVE posts....now all i see is DESTRUCTIVE thoughtlessness and hostility. Yikes buddy calm down. Just because somebody offers dating advice it doesn't necessarily mean it's good. I just think it's funny that this guy is ignoring my questions asking what his credentials are in terms of what makes him a good candidate to give out dating advice. Imo, it's a bit naive to take advice from some random person on the internet who really hasn't said anything about himself, so that is why I am asking him. Some of you guys are asking him these questions as if he is some sort of guru with women. If he is as good as he says he is, I don't see why it should be a problem for him to answer. I am not trying to be an asshole or troll at all (or "DESTRUCTIVE" as you mentioned). Just because I am questioning this guy it doesn't necessarily mean I have bad intentions. I really do hope that this guy is the master that he claims to be because I would love to ask him some questions myself. If he answered already though, I am pretty sure the last thread wouldn't have been such a mess. obviously the people asking him questions trust his judgment enough to ask him questions. if you don't think he's qualified, then.. uh.. don't ask a question? | ||
thedeadhaji
39489 Posts
On November 09 2009 17:54 larjarse wrote: ....To answer your question: I cannot give advice on this situation because I do not personally know how men are attracted to other men. Probably ask Mora. | ||
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XeliN
United Kingdom1755 Posts
I know this question is quite vague, but what are some good ways, of approaching a girl in a non club type situation. At the park or in a coffee shop e.t.c Most of my experience with approaching girls comes from doing so in clubs, typically with music blaring and alcohol cascading. | ||
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StukA
United States64 Posts
On November 09 2009 19:55 ParasitJonte wrote: Hey, I have a serious question. Problem is, I have a hard time distinguishing whether a girl is attracted to me or just thinks good of me in general. The good old "friend-dilemma". How do I find out the answer without asking the question straight to her face?. Yeah i've been wondering about this too... is it in her body language? like what signs should I be looking for? or is it how we talk and what not ;( Another question I have is: When you want to talk to a lady that catches your eye, say in like a coffee shop, mall, etc., what do you say when you approach them? like any general advice? and also how do you keep the conversation going/interesting? do you use the information she gives you when you approached her? And lastly, in order to be able to spontaneously talk to a woman w/o stuttering, w/o using any cheesy lines, or fidgeting... do I just have to go out there and don't give a fuck? thx lajarse for starting these threads btw...combining my two loves...women and starcraft...sadly they're incompatible wtih each other lol | ||
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fanatacist
10319 Posts
On November 09 2009 17:21 Djabanete wrote: I don't pretend to be an expert on sexual orientation, but I do know that if a guy friend tried to "spring the trap" on me I'd be pretty pissed. Yea, I was too. | ||
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Romance_us
Seychelles1806 Posts
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fanatacist
10319 Posts
On November 09 2009 23:29 Romance_us wrote: Is it bad to work your way up to having sex with a girl and then having sex, while knowing that she has strong emotional feelings for you, and they are not mutual? Keep in mind that I have made my intentions EXTREMELY clear (no relationship, etc.). Is this the girl's fault? I believe it is but I'm not totally sure. I think I've done this a few times in the past as well but I figure I'd solve this mystery once and for all. It usually ends with them being really mad at me for some reason Yes it's bad. I've done this many times. Basically you are taking advantage of her weakness for you. Most girls who like you are willing to do anything that brings them closer to you, because they think they might be able to sway you and maybe you will like them back too. Making it clear to them that you don't want to have a relationship with them isn't enough if you are still having sex with them. You are basically tooling the girl for her vagina, when all she wants is to be in a relationship with you (and that is why she is allowing this to continue). Like you said though, eventually women get fed up and can't take the weight of the their repressed feelings, and they explode on you because you in fact are an asshole. I would say that it's both the girl's and your fault. However it is obvious who is the one responsible for the situation, and who is the victim. It's the girl's fault because she allows you to be a heartless dick to her while having sex with her, ignoring her feelings. It's your fault because you take advantage of people for your own profit. To make this more evident, here is what a more moral and empathetic person would do in your situation: apologize for the lack of mutual feelings, then ask the girl what her ideal resolution would be (to keep on going as friends, or to stop talking entirely, etc.). Instead, you see it as an opportunity to get some pussy. In other words, you're a douche. On the other hand, you're a guy, and whatever gets you pussy is worth it, even if you have to sell your soul I guess. Remember, I have done this many times (and knowingly, unlike you I guess, although I am not sure if you honestly thought you were doing something acceptable or if you just were afraid to reason it out for yourself). I'm no better than you. That's how I know, you and I are both going to hell for breaking hearts with our penises. | ||
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29 fps
United States5724 Posts
On November 09 2009 17:41 KurtistheTurtle wrote: some questions are better left unanswered. if his answers to real questions dont speak for him, then i dont know what will to you what do you find are some good ways to get a girls #? what are some of the subtler signs that asking is appropriate? i think he just wants to know if the OP's advice is working for him. if the OP is giving all this advice, but he's unhappily single for quite some time, then his credibility goes down. of course, he's not going to mention that even if that were the case. if his advice is really working for him, then he should have no problem mentioning it, right? | ||
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fanatacist
10319 Posts
On November 09 2009 23:51 29 fps wrote: i think he just wants to know if the OP's advice is working for him. if the OP is giving all this advice, but he's unhappily single for quite some time, then his credibility goes down. of course, he's not going to mention that even if that were the case. if his advice is really working for him, then he should have no problem mentioning it, right? Being single doesn't rule him out, everyone has downtime between relationships, and some people don't like to have fuck buddies in that interim period. Previous experience can sometimes be sufficient. However, I think larjarse wants people to trust him based on his answers and not his credentials (which would be hard to prove and easy to lie about anyway). Knowing the level of internet skepticism most people have, this is a pretty myopic approach to the situation, especially if you are pompous enough to include your name in the thread title. But, people are posting, so I guess it's working (or most people just don't care and want to get a second opinion, even if there is not necessarily any qualification to it). In the end, there is no loss to the people posting questions, because if he is credible then you get good advice, and if not then you at least get another fool's perspective. When you combine that with your own, you might actually learn something. | ||
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Romance_us
Seychelles1806 Posts
On November 09 2009 23:40 fanatacist wrote: Yes it's bad. I've done this many times. Basically you are taking advantage of her weakness for you. Most girls who like you are willing to do anything that brings them closer to you, because they think they might be able to sway you and maybe you will like them back too. Making it clear to them that you don't want to have a relationship with them isn't enough if you are still having sex with them. You are basically tooling the girl for her vagina, when all she wants is to be in a relationship with you (and that is why she is allowing this to continue). Like you said though, eventually women get fed up and can't take the weight of the their repressed feelings, and they explode on you because you in fact are an asshole. I would say that it's both the girl's and your fault. However it is obvious who is the one responsible for the situation, and who is the victim. It's the girl's fault because she allows you to be a heartless dick to her while having sex with her, ignoring her feelings. It's your fault because you take advantage of people for your own profit. To make this more evident, here is what a more moral and empathetic person would do in your situation: apologize for the lack of mutual feelings, then ask the girl what her ideal resolution would be (to keep on going as friends, or to stop talking entirely, etc.). Instead, you see it as an opportunity to get some pussy. In other words, you're a douche. On the other hand, you're a guy, and whatever gets you pussy is worth it, even if you have to sell your soul I guess. Remember, I have done this many times (and knowingly, unlike you I guess, although I am not sure if you honestly thought you were doing something acceptable or if you just were afraid to reason it out for yourself). I'm no better than you. That's how I know, you and I are both going to hell for breaking hearts with our penises. I think she has sex with me because at least directly in the act, I do have some feelings for her. As soon as I get off though I start glancing around for my keys... it's a bad habit to say the least. I would go the obvious route and find girls that simply had the same goals as me, but to be frank, that's not as fun and I'm afraid of any "extra baggage" the girl might be carrying (STD, penis, child, etc.). And as for hell... well I guess I'll see you there. | ||
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fanatacist
10319 Posts
On November 10 2009 00:11 Romance_us wrote: I think she has sex with me because at least directly in the act, I do have some feelings for her. As soon as I get off though I start glancing around for my keys... it's a bad habit to say the least. I would go the obvious route and find girls that simply had the same goals as me, but to be frank, that's not as fun and I'm afraid of any "extra baggage" the girl might be carrying (STD, penis, child, etc.). Of course you have feelings while having sex with her, that's an instinctual consequence of the act that has kept our numbers from dwindling over the millenia. The only girls who have the same goals as you are party skanks, maybe the occasional emotionally broken girl who has sex as a rebound. I agree with your fear of STDs and other side shit that you can get involved in, but I just want to make sure you know that you are an asshole for consciously making the decision to break a girl's heart to get laid (not to mention you said that the alternative is "not as fun," wtf). As long as you know that, you can make your decisions knowingly and accordingly. Have you ever thought of maybe having a relationship with someone? And yea, bring some marshmallows. | ||
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Romance_us
Seychelles1806 Posts
On November 10 2009 00:16 fanatacist wrote: Of course you have feelings while having sex with her, that's an instinctual consequence of the act that has kept our numbers from dwindling over the millenia. The only girls who have the same goals as you are party skanks, maybe the occasional emotionally broken girl who has sex as a rebound. I agree with your fear of STDs and other side shit that you can get involved in, but I just want to make sure you know that you are an asshole for consciously making the decision to break a girl's heart to get laid (not to mention you said that the alternative is "not as fun," wtf). As long as you know that, you can make your decisions knowingly and accordingly. Have you ever thought of maybe having a relationship with someone? And yea, bring some marshmallows. No, I've never considered a relationship. Yes, I know I'm an asshole now. And I still don't care, so I guess that even confirms it further. Thanks for the advice man | ||
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fanatacist
10319 Posts
On November 10 2009 00:38 Romance_us wrote: No, I've never considered a relationship. Yes, I know I'm an asshole now. And I still don't care, so I guess that even confirms it further. Thanks for the advice man Relationships bring out the best in us, you should try it. You have guaranteed sex (if you play your cards right), and the sex is better if you have legitimate feelings for the other person. Don't worry about not caring too much, you are probably still young, and there are many of us assholes out there. Just keep your mind open to progressive change. No problem. | ||
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