EPTOn December 03 2009 13:11 ghostWriter wrote:
Maybe, but I guess you can have sex with it now.
Maybe, but I guess you can have sex with it now.
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Licmyobelisk
Philippines3682 Posts
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iloveambiguity
United States81 Posts
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keepITup
251 Posts
ive been talkin with this girl and i am just out of things to say it was so much easier when i was drunk | ||
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fanatacist
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Stratos_speAr
United States6959 Posts
Recently (in the past month or so), I've gotten really close to a female friend of mine. We hang out almost every day and text each other quite a bit. Needless to say, I'm pretty crazy about her. The problem is, she's got a boyfriend back home, and they have a serious relationship they've been in for 2 years. Sometimes it seems like she's sending me obvious signals that she's interested - other times it just seems like she could just be that really friendly type and not actually interested at all. How do I deal with this? I'm pretty cautious about this because if I just make a move and she isn't interested, she's seriously liable to try to punch me. On the other hand, if I just talk to her about it, it could be disastrous because if she isn't interested, it'll just ruin the relationship, which would not only suck because she's the person I'm closest to on campus, but we are in Taiko club together and hang out with the same people quite a bit, and I know that if she's not interested, she'd probably be fairly upset that I brought this all up and it would just fuck everything up. Thoughts? Advice? | ||
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Naib
Hungary4843 Posts
This probably won't really be helpful, but it could be summed up in two words: friend zone'd. That, my friend, sucks. I think getting all friendly with a girl you're genuinely interested in is a bad idea, exactly because of what has just happened to you...if you really like a girl, you better tell her as soon as possible to avoid misunderstanding. However, I think most people have made the "mistake" you have - certainly, I know I did  (I think out of all those ocassions a true relationship formed a grand total of one time...when it does happen though, it's a really good experience. However imo it's not worth the emotional roller-coaster you're going to go through if you make a move in a situation like that.)Well, here's the advice,but I'm pretty sure you know this already: you either talk to her and risk ruining your friendship, or you don't, pretend that your friendship is enough for you and either put up with it, or keep suffering. I don't think either choice is too wondrous. | ||
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Hypnosis
United States2061 Posts
Just because a girl wants to hang out with you sometimes and texts you alot about personal things does not mean they truly like you however. They are not waiting for you to make a move, you will KNOW when they really want your nuts and it is not a guessing game that you can analyze and figure out how to win. @stratus_spear: she is NOT into you as more than a friend or she would break up with her boyfriend, she is happy with him and likes you as a friend. Be nice to her and appreciate that she is your friend. If you ask her out it will not change how she looks at you, she will deny you the pleasure and you will either be a retard and hate her or understand and be a good friend to her. You won't risk fucking anything up because if she begins to like you as more than a friend she will tell you right away and get with you. Just be her friend man, you probably just like her alot sexually because she is a girl in your life and you truly don't love her, you just want to have a girlfriend. Just wait and it will happen. Girls don't get upset when they get asked out dude, they are flattered and love that shit, but will stick to the guy that really makes them happy, can satisfy them sexually in real life and in fantasy and has alot going for him. Just improve your life, gather as many friends as you can and one of them is bound to fall for you soon. Stay positive! @fanatacist: I understand that you hook up with girls alot but have you ever had a really good relationship? This is not a challenge or offensive question I'm just wondering. And you are right, girls enjoy guys that are outgoing and joke around alot because it is interesting and they don;t know what to expect. keep em guessing y'all. And if they dislike starcraft they arent meant for you! or weed.. | ||
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freelander
Hungary4707 Posts
On November 29 2009 10:55 dreamerra wrote: Here's a serious question: Guy has a decent paying job (250K+) and is a few years post-college. His job requires long hours at work on the weekdays and unpredictable weekend work. His relationships, since high school, have been fairly superficial (longest: 2 months) and he has generally broken off his relationships before they have gotten too personal. He's unclear why he has hesitations about taking relationships to the next level, both physically and emotionally, and it isn't helped by the fact that the majority of girls he's dated since he's graduated have been secretaries/support staff. It is also not helpful that he finds gaming more interesting than going shopping or walking around the pier. How should this guy widen his social circle, find someone who understands the fun in gaming, and/or get more comfortable with commitment? I am assuming you are talking about yourself. If you earn 250 K a year (holy shit) you really can afford a coaching session with the kind of guys who teach lifestyle improvement/ how to meet women. If I had money and lived in the USA like you I'd have totally started to do that. A 2-3 day long coaching session usually costs like 2-3 thousand dollars but there is usually a money return guarantee if you are not satisfied. So basically for someone, who has the money to call them, there is no risk. I'd start with RSD http://www.realsocialdynamics.com | ||
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keepITup
251 Posts
im just kind of nervous about meeting her in person (she lives nearby). i rarely have a car to drive and neither does she. i was thinking about just going with a couple of my really good friends and going out to eat (like we usually do) and just pick her up and have a good time (hopefully). iono, would that be a bad move? | ||
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freelander
Hungary4707 Posts
you gotta avoid talking too much in the beginning and you should start getting physical with her dont overcomplicate it just go for it | ||
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Stratos_speAr
United States6959 Posts
This probably won't really be helpful, but it could be summed up in two words: friend zone'd. While the rest of your post makes sense, I don't think it can necessarily be called friend-zoned, since most of the problem lies with her currently being in a relationship... On December 07 2009 04:59 Hypnosis wrote: The thing that most guys do NOT understand is that if a girl likes you, they WILL try and get with you in any way possible. They will call you when they are horny, they will send you half naked pictures, they will try and hang out with you any chance they get and they will tell you stories about all the boys they hang out with, how they would like to have lesbian sex with freshman girls (wtf?) and overall just give themselves up to you. Sorry dude, that's just bullshit. A LOT of girls aren't like that. @stratus_spear: she is NOT into you as more than a friend or she would break up with her boyfriend, she is happy with him and likes you as a friend. Be nice to her and appreciate that she is your friend. If you ask her out it will not change how she looks at you, she will deny you the pleasure and you will either be a retard and hate her or understand and be a good friend to her. You won't risk fucking anything up because if she begins to like you as more than a friend she will tell you right away and get with you. Just be her friend man, you probably just like her alot sexually because she is a girl in your life and you truly don't love her, you just want to have a girlfriend. Just wait and it will happen. While I do appreciate the feedback, you're really just making a lot of assumptions both about me and the girl in question, and they're mostly wrong... | ||
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Hypnosis
United States2061 Posts
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Nevuk
United States16280 Posts
On December 01 2009 08:04 iloveambiguity wrote: I started reading the book. Funny thing is, i repeatedly find myself in the description of Chip. The first 45 pages sucked me in, will read the rest asap. Thx for mentioning it. No problem. I'm now somewhat disturbed that I identified with Chip also, but I guess he is just that kind of character. Mostly I only identified with him because that's my future career goal (both the defrauding american investors and the literary theory part). edit: On December 07 2009 08:59 Stratos_speAr wrote: Sorry dude, that's just bullshit. A LOT of girls aren't like that. I actually agree with Stratos_spear. Not always to the extent he speaks of, but there's always at least some form of sexual undercurrent. On the other hand, I do have a friend who tells me stuff like that all the time, but we don't like each other like that. (Doesn't send half-naked pictures, tells me about lesbian fantasies and etc. though). Mostly the way I can tell is the the "hang out with you any chance they get," which neither of us do with each other. And I've asked someone out when they were dating another person, got rejected... but we started dating 2 months later when her relationship went bad. Unfortunately, she was a compulsive liar and insane, but that's a different story. | ||
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Cirn9
1117 Posts
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Nevuk
United States16280 Posts
On December 07 2009 10:29 mikku wrote: So what about when two fall in "love" via the lolinternets after a couple years only to find eventually find out the girl is a MtF tranny I don't see the problem here. | ||
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iloveambiguity
United States81 Posts
And I've asked someone out when they were dating another person, got rejected... but we started dating 2 months later when her relationship went bad. Unfortunately, she was a compulsive liar and insane, but that's a different story. Dude, i always end up with those kind of girls... What is disturbing me about the book is that all the crazy fantasies of the 3 male characters I experienced. I was playing with my feces, for example, when i was in grade school. I am just anxious to see the resolution to the story, my life is complicated by very simimlar concerns. | ||
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iloveambiguity
United States81 Posts
On December 07 2009 10:29 mikku wrote: So what about when two fall in "love" via the lolinternets after a couple years only to find eventually find out the girl is a MtF tranny I guess that is a little worse than my story, I took a girl over to my hotel in Bangkok just to discover the stitches on her "vagina." That reminds me of a joke i invented: what is common in a seasoned bangkok hooker and a ladyboy? Neither of them gets wet.... | ||
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fanatacist
10319 Posts
On December 07 2009 04:59 Hypnosis wrote:@fanatacist: I understand that you hook up with girls alot but have you ever had a really good relationship? This is not a challenge or offensive question I'm just wondering. And you are right, girls enjoy guys that are outgoing and joke around alot because it is interesting and they don;t know what to expect. keep em guessing y'all. And if they dislike starcraft they arent meant for you! or weed.. Yea. I think that I know more about girls and relationships because of the ones I've had not because I've been more loose recently (past 6 months) and in the rather distant past (~3 years ago for 3 months). I've had 5 relationships (2 with the same person), totaling ~50 months. I'd say that the three longest ones were the best (22, 12, 8 months), ones I'd classify as "really good." The 22 month one was pretty bad for the last 6 or so, I learned a lot from that time as well, so I guess count that first one as 16 good months. | ||
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LarJarsE
United States1378 Posts
I used to be a more relationship oriented kind of guy, because I didn't think I had the ability to get with women at my leisure. I thought they were in control of the whole hooking up game and I just had to play along. Eventually through experience, I figured it out. I went a little crazy for awhile with hooking up, but now I'm more feeling a relationship. It's been awhile, and the mindset is completely different, so it makes me anxious. The girl I am with; we have been on and off for almost 4 years. We have always liked eachother and basically act like we are dating when we are together. When you like someone, you tend to think about them when you are alone. Because I enjoy making art and music, I sometimes spend quite some time alone. For Americans who have had their ears open at all in the last few months: shawties like a melody in my head. The emotions from desiring someone can really inspire to create something (in my case, just to get some pressure off my chest sometimes) I am simply not used to being in a relationship, and thinking clear under such emotion and tension is seldom. I overanalyze if we talk too little, too much, if we see eachother enough. I have the sense to smack the nonsense out of myself and understand that I'm thinking too much because I actually LIKE someone now, but those emotions are still there. Those little feelings are driving me to see her and not really give a shit about what other girls think or if I get with other girls. The hard part is, this is when you are most noticed by other women because you are so confident and not self conscious around other women. I feel my old self coming back, even thinking about starting to talk to other people just to not feel the pressure anymore, but its something I have to deal with if I dont want to end up 40 year old alone dude who thinks he still can pick up girls like no problem. The advice I give on this topic usually tends to direct people away from one individual until you have had experiences with people you aren't attracted to emotionally. This way you can experiment with different personalities and figure out what you like and who you are really. When you know what you like, then your body will tell you who to stay with. My taste of women has changed drastically since I've had such experience. It seems I used to be attracted to insecure girls, like I could be their therapist and they would like me once they were more confident. WRRRONG! I dated a girl for 2 years who was depressed and I spent so much time and energy trying to make sure she was okay. Finally, as she comes out of this dark bullshit she was into, she breaks up with me and turns into a big slut who dates an abusive boyfriend. Now I 'm really into someone with a personality more like mine. Someone more real, and someone who doesnt really give a shit what people think and does what they enjoy. I hooked up with this girl for the first time when I was "more loose" as fanatacist would call it. I did it because she's very physically attractive to me, but thats about it. As we got a little older and I realized what I really liked, (and I guess she did too because we completely lost interest in eachother for awhile) we are undeniably attracted to eachother for much more than the physical aspect. I will comment about the poll later | ||
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Hypnosis
United States2061 Posts
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