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Please answer this poll so I can make a section answering common questions:
Poll: What do you think your problem is with dating?
(Vote): I get too anxious or nervous when talking to girls, so I just don't.
(Vote): I am not good looking enough
(Vote): I try to talk to women but I get rejected often.
(Vote): I'm not really sure.
(Vote): My dating life is great. I make conscious effots toward achieveing
my goals with dating every day
Okay so here we go again. This is the remake of my last topic because there were many who didn't take it seriously and flooded its content with irrelevent idiocy and bickering.
-for those who plan on making a post, please look for the informative posts and the posts by me, your question may be answered with a little reading-
But, since we have all matured and are prepared to partake in discussion about dating, we can finally move on.
For people who are curious about any aspect of attraction, dating, and relationships: Feel free to request advice from me and the willing TeamLiquid community!
I am not writing a "guide", because that would be like trying to write an entire liquipedia of stragegies and what ifs for every single possible situation. This is impossible.
Many issues people have with dating are psychological. People look for the answers in the wrong places, and usually blame themselves or how they look or how they think others percieve them. How silly is it act upon how you think others will accept you? It is degrading and demotes progression because you are always looking for acceptance.
After practice and experience, I hope you all understand that what you THINK is what you ARE and what you SEE when it comes to this topic. If you BELIEVE that talking to women and being attractive will come naturally if you just do it, then it WILL come natural. Believe that FAILURE is just a concept made up by people, and when you do something wrong, the lesson is much more valuable than what has been lost
Since I cannot possibly make every point I would like to in this initial post, I will make several points based on peoples requests for advice.
When asking a question or requesting advice, pleace be specific about the situation. The more you can tell me about how you are percieving things and what you are doing and how she/he (or they) responds, the more specific and quality the advice.
Because other people will be responding to questions and requests, I don't think I will be agreeing with ALL of the content posted here. If I do disagree, I will post an explanation. ALSO: I DO have a life, and therfore will not be available to answer questions 24/7. I will, however, update the topic whenever have the free time.
ALSO: If you have a question or request for advice and do not feel comfortable posting your concern, than PM me. Let me know if it is okay to post your ANNONYMOUS question and my response.
Happy dating
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i LOVE how you told haemonculus to "man up" in the last thread looool
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What's the best way to stand out amongst friends, in a either neutral or positive light?
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Calgary25977 Posts
why is this round 2? what happened in round 1 to warrant round 2?
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On November 09 2009 10:02 Archaic wrote:
What's the best way to stand out amongst friends, in a either neutral or positive light?
Archaic:
My answer to this question may sound assholish, but bear with me.
You are asking what in a man gets a woman's attention, wether it be you out of your friends or you out of everyone on the face of the planet. Woman are attracted to men who display higher status in their social setting. If you are twiddling your thumbs with your head down wishing someone would just talk to you and accept you, that is a great way to inadvertantly tell women to stay far away.
You dont have to be a dick to display higher status. To display higher status, you just really believe that you are of high status and you are not seeking acceptance from ANYONE, because you don't have to! Dont be shy to look a female in her eyes and give her a smirk. Dont laugh at things you don't think aren't funny, and don't agree with things that you dont agree for just the hell of it. If you BELIEVE that you are going to go out, be noticed, have a good time, and get the attention from the ladies, it will HAPPEN. But you must actually BELIEVE in these things without a doubt in the process.
Go out, have a good time, be spontanious and say what you feel. Dont glance at people and glance away quickly, this is a sign of an uncofident guy.
Have fun with your friends, joke around with your friends while in conversation with women.
This is a great example of me and my friend last night: ME=Jimmy FRIEND=Adam
-conversatoin started while we were around a small group of females-
Adam: hey man, i don't know how much i'm going to be drinking tonight, but if I get wasted you gotta take care of me.
Jimmy: no way, i'm not babysitting you!
Adam: [in a serious tone, but maintains sarcasm] oh yeah? well what if I did get wasted and you DIDNT take care of me, and just left me there huh?? What would that make you?
[girls begin to turn to us]
Jimmy:[I smirk and get that he's just putting on a show. its on.] Well I guess that would make me a big asshole. But what would I call YOU be for getting wasted at a party like that?
[girls giggling, what we are saying isnt even funny]
Adam: Stupid. Get ready to babysit.
[more laughing]
We look at the girls finally and say "oh yeah you are here. what were we talking about?"
One starts talking, I inturrupt "Hold that thought, I'm gonna get a beer"
Once I get back, Adam and I start joking around again.
This type of thing can really get the girls attention. The females are generally used to getting most attention at a party, or in general, but if you're joking around with your friends and kind of teasing them the ladies and shrugging them off, they will jump at the fact that you have denied them the attention they want! And they want more! They will see that you have higher status and they will try to gain your acceptance by laughing, but you keep pushing them down right as they think they are on the same level!
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On November 09 2009 10:36 Chill wrote:
why is this round 2? what happened in round 1 to warrant round 2?
Round one got pwned with tr0llz, to say the least. I PMed a TL member and he suggested I just make another topic some time because the first one was so full of shit. So I did.
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The funny thing is, when you are with a friend or friends in a situation like this, and both of you GET IT, you suddenly realize you are having a much better time than you thought you were. Its like you guys are in on something that the ladies will never find out, and they are DYING to know!
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On November 09 2009 10:36 Chill wrote:
why is this round 2? what happened in round 1 to warrant round 2?
Troles
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I will hug the next person that spells "trolls" correctly.
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United States42292 Posts
On November 09 2009 11:06 Archaic wrote:
I will hug the next person that spells "trolls" correctly.
Hot_Bid?
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Katowice25012 Posts
trolls trolls trolls trolls
I want a hug. Can I get 4?
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This is a serious relationships problem
I'm an aspiring starcraft progamer who recently joined a progamer organization in another country. While I was watching a replay, a player of that organization saw me messaging someone and assumed I was leaking information about the replay to a friend, which is a violation of the organizations rules. However, I was just messaging my friend about an unrelated matter, and the player can't even understand my language. This has caused an uproar and I've had to leave until they clear this up.
What do I do?
-Ruing Esports Troubles
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That has nothing to do with attraction OR relationships (dating)...
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I'm a student at a university that's ranked in the top twenty schools for alcoholism among its student population. I'm looking for a girl who's conservative, doesn't drink excessively, doesn't smoke, and wants to wait until marriage before having sexual intercourse.
If that's even possible, where would be some of the areas I should go to ante up my chances? Oh, and don't ask me to go to church to look for the ladies. I am a christian myself, but I don't follow any specific denomination, and I would feel tremendously uncomfortable in any church.
I'm also a commuter.
Thanks!~
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You didn't answer what makes you an expert in attraction and relationship advice from the last thread. I am just curious b/c I could make my own thread and do the same thing even though I am just barely average when it comes to dealing with women.
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Hello Larjarse,
This is a serious question okay? I'm planning on bring my friend to a bunch of PUA's here in Manila, Philippines.
I need you to check out their website and see if they are pretty good with what they do, because the SARGING and shit cost a lot of "mucho dinero"
Just give a feed back to us guys here in your thread and much appreciated. I don't want my friend to give out a lot of money for nothing you know what I mean?
I also need an honest opinion, my friend really has confidence issues! very shy and we've already tried bringing his spirit up when he mets new girls in the office.. nothing works 
here is the website anyway:
http://www.attraxionarts.com/
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im currently in college and I've always had confidence issues with woman as I've never had or girlfriend or anything. i've had a couple of cases where a cute girl had a crush on me in highschool, but i managed to blow it because i'm terrible at making interesting conversations -- all i can do is be nice and listen, which doesn't work to well when the girl is just as quiet as you are.
i'd like to change that, but it's really hard to meet girls here except for the walking up to strangers approach. i have friends here,but the parties I go to really don't have girls I find attractive at all (and my standards aren't very high 0_o).
i just suck at being natural, basically. i'm not a socially broken person by any means, and i'm fairly goofy around good friends, but with girls I'm just terrible.
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On November 09 2009 12:11 Licmyobelisk wrote:
I need you to check out their website and see if they are pretty good with what they do, because the SARGING and shit cost a lot of "mucho dinero"
I am actually crying with laughter.
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On November 09 2009 11:54 resonance wrote:
You didn't answer what makes you an expert in attraction and relationship advice from the last thread. I am just curious b/c I could make my own thread and do the same thing even though I am just barely average when it comes to dealing with women.
Whether or not somebody is qualified to answer questions on this subject becomes evident as they start answering questions. He could try to explain that he is qualified because being qualified means you have "it"...you can take a woman. You don't need money or looks, you need to be able to make them celebrate with you. You can't just say you have "it", you have to demonstrate it. He could post pics of him with various women, but that doesn't actually say anything. I could go get pictures with a lot of attractive girls if I tried.
If his answers from the previous thread (sparse as they are) don't qualify him, then I suggest you re-read them. There are things that never even occur to most guys when they're talking with women, and Larjarse can identify the real situation and address it correctly with valid advice. You have to think on a new, different level that makes complete sense when you realize its there--but you don't know to look for it until you see its there. I'll vouch anything he says.
On November 09 2009 12:11 Licmyobelisk wrote:Hello Larjarse, This is a serious question okay? I'm planning on bring my friend to a bunch of PUA's here in Manila, Philippines. I need you to check out their website and see if they are pretty good with what they do, because the SARGING and shit cost a lot of "mucho dinero" Just give a feed back to us guys here in your thread and much appreciated. I don't want my friend to give out a lot of money for nothing you know what I mean? I also need an honest opinion, my friend really has confidence issues! very shy and we've already tried bringing his spirit up when he mets new girls in the office.. nothing works here is the website anyway: http://www.attraxionarts.com/
umm...
+ Show Spoiler +This is the second part of our interview with three PUAs who have learned to take embarrassment, rejection and lawsuits in stride: X, Smooth and Charlatan of AttraXion Arts. Contrary to what my three female readers might think, it’s not easy being a PUA: you have to pick up a specified quota of women per month or else your license will be revoked and you will be demoted instead to picking up blow-up dolls and avatars.
success with women is not measured in how many women you can pick up. its about being able to have a rewarding relationship with the girl you choose. all their shit is just hyping themselves up and trying to sell you that they will instantly fix and turn you into a pimp machine. it doesnt happen like that. im not saying its not that easy, but it doesnt come from other people.
one of my friends showed me a video from realsocialdynamics.com, it was this australian guy talking about how he came to have success with women. I would recommend checking that out. I don't wanna say torrent them, but check them out and if you like their stuff then buy it.
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