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Anyone have any tips for a new player on not getting frustrated/mad when playing and losing a lot? Any inspirational words of advice to convince me to not give up?
I don't wanna go into too much detail, but suffice to say I have started competitive SC and I'm getting poor results and it's discouraging me from going on, even though I want to learn to play RTS games well. I've had success at most everything else I do/play, but this is different and it's really frustrating sometimes.
thx for any help
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uhm..After you lose a few games go stomp a computer or two
that helped me
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I'm only interested in the human-competition aspect of it. I feel like a loser if I have to go stomp computers to make myself feel better =/
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Well, even if I lose a game I'm usually satisfied even if I get some good moves in, and after every loss you've learned something more. Join some clan maybe and get some communityfeeling, if you join a sports club you're usually improving with others and that makes it feel easier, same with Broodwar for some I bet.
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I know exactly how you feel, lol. I'm right at the point where I get owned by regulars but own computers/noobs. I always feel like I'm being really outplayed by the other person or even if I win, I don't really feel any sense of accomplishment since it's always someone who just picked up the game.
Do you have any real life friends that play SC? I find that playing with friends is pretty fun even if you kill them just to hear the reactions, it really boosts your self-esteem since you are like a god to the average joe.
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CA10828 Posts
the level of a D rank iccup player is ridiculously high compared to the lowest rank players in other games. i would suggest playing on battlenet if you aren't already.
also, do you know what you're doing wrong? if you're losing a lot, what is the main cause? if you're a new player you should pinpoint one aspect of your game to work on and really really focus on that before moving onto other things to fix. i can say with around 90% confidence that many of your losses are due to sub-par macro. so make sure you're always making units.
good luck.
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Also if you're getting way too frustrated/mad, you wont be playing as well. So just play ums, or take a break for a couple of hours, and come back. You will probably play better than before, and feel better afterwards.
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watch your replays, see what you're doing wrong or what you could improve on, then focus on that for the next game.
browse through the strategy forum! look for build orders or situational advice that will help you tighten up your game. i think it helps to understand why you lost the way you lost, as opposed to just sitting there after a game with a blank look at the end screen, frustrated that the other player "figured you out".
just keep at it, you should notice at least a slight improvement with each game you play. once you lose about ten games in a row, then finally win one, it feels great. 
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If you're a highly competitive person, then not getting frustrated and/or angry when you lose a lot is impossible.
Instead of trying to stop it, learn how to deal with it when it happens. If you can, channel it back into your next game and kick some serious ass. However, if you're frustrated to the point where it's disruptiung your ability to play, then maybe it's time to think about getting up, getting off the computer and releasing that pent up frustration.
Go for a run. Shoot hoops. Go to the gym. Smash the fuck out of a punching bag (my personal favorite).
You need to release that built up tension and the best way to do that is to physically exert yourself.
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I dunno how to stop from gettin frustrated. When i get frustrated i just don't play anymore.
But i do know how you should improve if you are a new player, first you should work on macro, since thats where most new players have the most trouble. After that you work on micro and strategy more.
It doesn't matter how good a tactician you may be if you have no units
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Make yourself do pushups for every defeat. However many minutes long the game was, do that many pushups. This way, even if you lose, you will have the comfort of knowing that you are doing way more pushups than your opponent, and thus are defeating them in that respect.
Another thing: make sure to stay fed and hydrated when playing. When you're on a winning streak it can be easy to ignore being undernourished, but when you're losing and undernourished it can likewise be easy to sink into depression and frustration.
Get sunlight.
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You just have to try and force that laid back "i don't give a fuck"-attitude, kind of the way you get after 1-2 beers, you just sit there and sort of laugh it off and try silly shit all the time.
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Netherlands4511 Posts
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You have to play ALOT, and you can't get pissed off when you lose, after you have lossed you have to rewatch the replay and look for better openings of when to attack/defend/expand.. do this for at least 2months and you'll defeat the average bnet noob , cheers
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On July 06 2008 05:32 ret wrote: grow up?
That, or keep playing until you win.
Really, I know you could have like a thousand different reasons to get mad because you lose. But Be aware that if you lose, is because you're doing something wrong. It's nobody's fault but yours, why would you get mad at yourself?, Focus that energy into practising more and watching replays to find your weaknesses.
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Korea (South)11586 Posts
On July 06 2008 05:06 Djabanete wrote: Make yourself do pushups for every defeat. However many minutes long the game was, do that many pushups. This way, even if you lose, you will have the comfort of knowing that you are doing way more pushups than your opponent, and thus are defeating them in that respect.
haha I actually really like that idea. But maybe multiply the number by 2. Because doing merely 20-30 pushups isn't that big of a deal, but if you're doing 40 or 60 pushups, then it starts getting crazy
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What I do is switch between ICCup and East, if I lose too much on iccup, i go play a bit on east where i know i have more chance of winning
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On July 06 2008 05:32 ret wrote: grow up? best advice; its a computer game..; fix ur priorities
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Just remember that you're playing to get better, not playing to win.
Once you've gotten better, then you can start playing to win.
Go into a game not expecting to win, but expecting to learn from it and discover new counters and tactics. Go into the game knowing that you may very well lose and it may very well be a crushing loss, but that any loss can be watched in the replay and prevented in the future.
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I think most of it has been said already, but i'll give it a shot...
I said this before to some kid who pretty much gave up every time he lost.
Winning isn't everything. In actuality, people at stages such as yourself who aren't either extreme pro-"gosu" but not a noob tend to learn a lot more from thier losses than thier victories. You may not feel it or comprehend how you are getting better from your losses, but with losses comes experience. Victory is a fine taste that everyone needs every now and then to keep them going, but defeat often leaves one in the same state of mind you are in now: frustration. You need to learn to channel that frustration into endurance and more even so determination to get better. Even if you have a terrible streak going on, such as 10 losses or even more without a single victory, you have to keep going on. Push yourself. Get over it and move on. There is no way to escape feelings of frustration or anger over defeat. It's quite normal. The thing is, then, is NOT to learn how NOT to get frustrated or angry, but how to tolerate it and learn to "fuel the fire" of your determination to get better. (I know that doesn't apply to everyone)
What im trying to say is that, a player at a normal caliber, such as you and myself ALWAYS get frustrated or even a bit angry over a loss or a defeat. I'd like to repeat by saying that you have to learn to channel that into determination and not tolerate giving up. It's pretty damn hard, yeah, but that is what makes chobos into gosus. In fact, suffice to say, even progamers get emotional after games. REALLY. You think every progamer made it to where they are without losses? Hell, some players suffered terrible losing streaks, but they aren't noobs. Sure, they get angry, even cry, as some of you know =), but most of them learn to either retire or get better. I hope you are not a coward and choose the former than the latter.
Lastly, do analyze your gameplay. Play people that you know. Find some friends online, or some people who'd be willing to analyze your reps with you. Don't be afraid of critical commetaries or rough insults of your gameplay: that is what makes you better. Sometimes, you have to face reality and face the facts that there is always going to be people better than you, even if that means just about 80-90% of the rest of world. Push yourself to reach that goal that you want. You will get better. It takes a whole lot of freaking time though, and especially for a intense game such as starcraft.
If you really can't take it anymore, and cannot channel that anger or frustration into determination, give up, or find something else to do. That means do something else BESIDES starcraft. Get off the computer and do something you are good at. Or just hang out with some friends. Or just enjoy life. Go on a vacation. You can fill in the blank here. Just do something else BESIDES starcraft.
Once you learn that you win some, and that you lose more than some, congratulations, you have found that little word that defines the universe: reality. It sucks ass, so once you have matured and can finally get over losing, toleration becomes under your control and you are no longer controlled by your emotions. But don't expect that soon. That takes expereince and time. And you learn that not through starcraft, but by your real life experiences. Once you have a family and all, a hard but rewarding annoying job, you'll know what I mean. =)
Encouragement you ask?
Never give up. Or just retire. But I hope you choose that for YOURSELF.
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Frustration never goes away. If you want something and you don't get it it's frustrating. And if you work hard for it and you still don't get it it's even more frustrating. It's part of all competition anywhere in the world.
There is no solution but there are a few short-term solutions. Do sports, punch a pillow, things like that. The frustration will stay overall but it won't hammer in your head so much anymore.
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I dont know, when I was massing games on ICCup I knew I was going to lose, so therefore I didn't get mad when I lost. Just take it easy and think, well if you're losing then thats the sign that youre playing the right people. Also just play the game and try to do better. Winning is a result of progress, and losing is the beginning.
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If you expect to lose then you won't be so upset when you do lose. Its when you expect to win that falling is the hardest. Lower your expectations and you should feel a lot better.
Edit: unless you play protoss. If you play protoss consider your defeat a glorious martyrdom for the sake of the khala, and know that you and the souls of your warriors will be rememberd forever in the templar archives.
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search for a friend around ur skill level, best if lower get him to play you improve while stomping him a lot .....PROFIT
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The most important quality you can have to improve is humility. You _NEED_ the humility and self-awareness to accept criticism and find your flaws. A lot of guys are ruled by pride and they don't deal well with accepting defeat after defeat.
When someone tells you what you did wrong, your natural response will be to justify your action, or make excuses. It takes a lot of self-awareness to recognize this and reverse your thinking.
You're entering a world where thousands of people are going to be better than you. NEVER record dodge on Iccup. Everytime I see a high rank join my game, I get excited. Losing to a B is worth a hundred wins vs D or C. Ask them for advice. Read the strategy forum. Watch replays. Watch Pro-FPVODS.
But most of all, think when you play. Think hard.
When you get into the downward spiral, when you lose and lose, and every loss makes you more upset, which makes you play worse, etc... Get up and splash some water in your face. Run up and down a flight of stairs or go outside for a few minutes. I remember chess grandmaster Josh Waitzkin said he would leave the chess board during big games and go run up a flight of stairs and splash water on his face. Something to do with body chemistry and activity sobers you from the frustration that is blinding you.
Sorta like being slapped in the face when you're hysterical. It sobers you.
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I find that competition isn't for everyone. Losing is just another way of life that eventually people have to overcome in life. If you say you are successful at everything else you have done then losing shouldn't even be an issue.
I grew up losing sooooooo much from competitive Street Fighter (game) and sports team, that if I lose, I can just shrug it off. Lose, forget about it and move on. Take a break if you have to, especially those close games.
Also ICCUP competition is quite high compared to bnet. Think of it as the training grounds for semi-pro. At least know where you should start from and your starting position in the hierarchy. In basketball, you wouldn't go out and play against college level players while you are still struggling just to get 2 pointers. Stick with bnet.
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There are far more important things to get emotional about.
When you realise that, you won't care.
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Aotearoa39261 Posts
just ask firstprobe about some of my frustrations ;; oh hey he posted above me o.O
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Get into the habit of watching every replay right after you finish a game. Name the weaknesses and errors you see in your game (don't just say "he made air and i had only zerglings", the error there was lack of scouting, not unit choice because you can't counter what you don't see). Try to make your goal learning and improvement, not winning. Winning will come by itself as you eliminate the weaknesses from your game one by one. I think the three biggest weaknesses for most beginners (I'm beginner so I'm speaking for myself too) are:
1. Macro. Did you spend your money, continually make units and workers, and take advantage of expanding? I think at low level, superb macro can make up for lack of micro skills, which you'll only gain after much play experience.
2. Map awareness. You absolutely must keep track of where your opponent is on the tech tree, where and how big his army is, and where his expansions are and how many. Every replay you watch of yourself, try and think, did I know all of the above things about my opponent?
3. Suicide attacking. I don't know if this applies to all beginners, but I find myself often just going blindly on the attack, without first spotting any reason to or weakness in my opponents defenses. Sacrificing all your units and inflicting no damage is a very quick and obvious way to lose. This doesn't mean you should be afraid to attack, but figure out by watching the guys who kill you when and why they attack, and what made their decision a good one.
Anyway by doing the above, it helps me deal with frustration because my goal is getting better (which I have control over), rather than winning all the time (in that case you're at the mercy of how good your opponent is). I still get frustrated after being owned, but using this mindset helps.
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teh_pwnerer dude I find your nick oddly familiar, where do you play? Does my nick ring a bell? I'm TrentLane on every bnet server.
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I think you are expecting too much of yourself if you expect to win a lot and are just starting competitive play. People have been playing this game for years, and therefore the skill level is extremely high. Look at your losses as an opportunity to improve, not as a failure. You should watch all the replays of the matches you lose to see what you did wrong, instead of just mindlessly playing match after match and making the same mistakes.
and also
On July 06 2008 09:08 FirstProbe wrote: There are far more important things to get emotional about.
When you realise that, you won't care.
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On July 06 2008 09:39 TrentLane wrote: teh_pwnerer dude I find your nick oddly familiar, where do you play? Does my nick ring a bell? I'm TrentLane on every bnet server. It probably sounds familiar because of the Internet show PurePwnage. The main actor Jeremy's ID is teh_pwnerer.
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I just take a five minute break and drink some water
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Games are meant to be fun. You say you are starting competitive SC?... what's competitive SC? iccup? Anyway that's not important... 1. Play for fun, not to improve. Improving should simply be a side effect of all the fun you are having. 2. Play with friends & shoot the shit while you all suck and improve together. Yell at eachother, laugh, whatever it is it's more fun in a group. Getting good takes time in any game for the vast majority of people. Most people plataeu at a relatively low place on the skill food chain anyway so just 1v1, 2v2, 3v3, 4v4, ffa etc.. and have fun. That's the best way for any player to get good and reduce frustration. You familiarize yourself with the game and your mind should simply adapt as everything improves.
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Learn to feel good about small improvements. This game is all about fixing things, and not making mistakes. No one is perfect. Always just try to get better, win or lose you can say "Hey I massed nicely," or "I had some nice micro." Only focus on the bad in replay form, and make yourself better.
Also, Smurf iccup.
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I personally study any loss that I find confusing. Like how the fuck did they get THAT MUCH more than me? Or why did he make X decision that raped me when as far as I know he didn't know what I was doing?
You'll learn a lot more studying your own losses than watching other reps, but it does help to watch pro gamer vods on matchups/maps where you have problems and try to understand how they make choices.
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On July 06 2008 06:49 ForAdun wrote: Frustration never goes away. If you want something and you don't get it it's frustrating. And if you work hard for it and you still don't get it it's even more frustrating. It's part of all competition anywhere in the world.
Just read that post and ignore the rest :>
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You have to rationalise every loss, while keeping in mind you'll never improve if you get too emotional about it.
But still, getting beat by cheese can be really frustrating, especially when you know the player is worse than you.
On July 06 2008 07:16 Nintu wrote: You're entering a world where thousands of people are going to be better than you. NEVER record dodge on Iccup. Everytime I see a high rank join my game, I get excited. Losing to a B is worth a hundred wins vs D or C. Ask them for advice. Read the strategy forum. Watch replays. Watch Pro-FPVODS.
If you're B- or C+, then you'll probably learn a lot from playing agaisnt a B player. However, a D player won't learn much from it, other than how huge the gap is between him and a B player.
I played people with 250-300 APM a few times and with hardcore, hardcore macro. I got crushed so badly it wasnt even funny, honestly afterwards there's not much I could learn out of it.
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Well, just take a break. Drink some cold water or some cool fluid. Play something else that lets you vent your anger. (I'm thinking GTA or God of War). Whenever I get frustrated, I take it out on Greek monsters as Kratos. IMO nothing is more satisfying after a loss than ripping through some inferior being with your blades on God of War.
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On July 06 2008 05:28 grobo wrote: You just have to try and force that laid back "i don't give a fuck"-attitude, kind of the way you get after 1-2 beers, you just sit there and sort of laugh it off and try silly shit all the time. ya, this is what i do. I just tell myself it doesnt matter.
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Testie's advice about playing with friends for fun is extremely good. But if you have no friends that play, try to find practice partners. Whenever I try to increase skill at something competitive I try to keep 3 people around. One that is better than me, who can help me improve my game. A second person with whom I can compete, as that pushes me to go one step further. And the third and unfortunate person is someone I know I can crush, to build confidence and try new techniques.
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another piece of advice
5 pool until you win
thats really, really useful to clear your temper
then you just /clearstats
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i like to yell and throw stuff
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wow, Purge2008 is really making a progress! I will try harder too! =D
Have to start playing in uncomfortable setting. Before i was like "alone: check, no important things to do: check, not hungry: check, took a shit: check", only then start playing ladder. Usually got stuck on the "hungry" point and make something to eat, start watching a movie and not play sc at all....
Later just tried "wtf, it has to be fun, not serious" and invite a friend, drink some beer whatever and then play "serious" ladder games. Playing in an uncomfortable atmosphere allowed me to get rid of the tension. No tension - no anger!
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When I'm getting angry/frustrated at losing a lot I switch back to my main race.
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Just move on to the next match is easiest, the more time you spend after the game not playing the more you feel like you suck or something; just immerse yourself into the playing aspect.
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