EPTIt's not fair to put the weight of your social happiness on one person, and those unbalanced expectations just going to keep causing problems.
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igotmyown
United States4291 Posts
It's not fair to put the weight of your social happiness on one person, and those unbalanced expectations just going to keep causing problems. | ||
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paper
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On August 11 2009 15:13 Bill307 wrote: That sounds a lot less significant than the happiness you'd give to each other on a daily or weekly basis. And if you're doing something meaningful for your partner only once a year, and it has to be scheduled in advance rather than being spontaneous... doesn't sound all that great to me. how did you interpret my post to mean that you only do something special once a year? honestly -_- | ||
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foeffa
Belgium2115 Posts
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closed
Vatican City State491 Posts
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Caller
Poland8075 Posts
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QuanticHawk
United States32081 Posts
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nayumi
Australia6499 Posts
People might say "It's such an insignificant issue, you guys have been together for blah blah ...". But to me, remembering those days/events shows that you do care about the other one. I don't really fancy birthday's presents or anything, really, but at least there should be a call, a card or just even an email. Anyway, happy birthday to you mate. | ||
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Snet
United States3573 Posts
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Liquid`Drone
Norway28699 Posts
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Tom Phoenix
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Anyway, happy birthday and I hope this will not spoil your long-time relationship. | ||
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Varn
United States33 Posts
If, in terms of your relationship, you're offering $10 worth of yourself and all you're getting back is $5, that's a problem. I can't make that judgment on this alone though; forgetting your birthday twice doesn't necessarily mean anything by itself, but if she consistently undervalues you then I think you should consider how strong your relationship really is. If, however, all she did was forget these two dates, well, then it seems more like you're getting $9.95 (yeah I'm just gonna keep beating this damn analogy). In that case, don't worry about it, just screw her over a couple times to even things out.  | ||
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Oedi
Canada265 Posts
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Varn
United States33 Posts
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Husky
United States3362 Posts
Sorry about caps but seriously I am so confused why people are so full of themselves to think everyone should have to remember the day they were born. You are 'disappointed' in your girlfriend for forgetting something as trivial as your birthday? By the sounds of it she's a really nice girl (nice enough to date for 5 years) and honestly something like forgetting your birthday is what makes you mad. I've never understood why people find themselves so self-important that everyone has to remember the day they were born  .I dunno, maybe I'm just crazy. Better luck next year? Edited out caps. | ||
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Machine leg
Sweden52 Posts
anyway, I don't think you should read anything in to it, her forgeting I mean... | ||
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Bub
United States3518 Posts
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brian
United States9627 Posts
i never forget when birthdays are, but i also dont usually do anything for them. So on one hand its probably really thoughtful that i can spit out most of my friends birthdays right now off the top of my head, but rarely will i go past giving them a call. I bought my best friend a cake, that was huge. stuff like that isnt really important to me. I'm more about being there every day and being kind every day, i would prefer people do the same for me than put a little extra into one day a year and slack off the rest. | ||
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Hypnosis
United States2061 Posts
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Elvin_vn
Vietnam2038 Posts
( ) talk to her about your feelings ( ) let it go (X) make a blog and bitch about it | ||
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PanN
United States2828 Posts
On August 11 2009 12:51 Phyre wrote: Twice. She forgot my birthday last year completely until the next day. Didn't call me, e-mail me, anything. She apologized of course the next day when she remembered. I was pretty miffed about that last year but I didn't make a big deal out of it because that's not how I am. I consoled her and explained it's okay. This year I figured "There's no way she'd forget it again..." So around the time when we usually talk on the phone I get a call from her so I figured "Ah, she remembered!" However, as the conversation progresses and it's increasingly just a normal conversation about her weekend... I begin to doubt. 15 minutes later my brother tells me I should come up since my family got a cake for me so I tell her so. She actually asked "Cake? Cake for what?" She was completely serious. A few seconds later it finally dawns on her that she completely forgot my birthday. She told me she had a birthday present ready for me and all but like last year she forgot once the day actually came. For some background, we've been dating for 5 years now and I've never missed a birthday, anniversary, valentine's day, etc. All the major occasions I've always had covered. I may not remember the dates off the top of my head, but I know this so I prepare and have tons of reminders and calendars setup to compensate so I'm always ready. The whole situation I find even more baffling considering she would easily be considered the more needy of the two of us, while I'm generally very very passive. If anyone was going to forget, you'd think it would be the other way around. I don't really know what to make of this. Just makes me feel so... disappointed. My birthday is one day away from my gf's. I consider my self the luckiest known man in the universe. Also, use her forgetting your birthday, for some anal. | ||
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