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konadora
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micronesia
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On August 12 2009 22:37 Phyre wrote: I didn't read every response to what other people had said, but it is very clear that the OP in no way indicated that she was actually aware of how much you seem to care about birthdays. In fact, like others have said, you made it seem like it wasn't a big deal when she missed it last time.Right... so apparently you skipped the entirety of my response (understandable, it was lengthy) but I clearly stated that she knows full well what birthdays mean to me. We've been going out for 5 years, she knows in no uncertain terms. Second, I'd rather you not come in here and dictate to me what is and isn't significant and thus worth caring about with largely no justification. I'm sure everyone has something that they hold dear to them but 99% of the rest of the world thinks is utter ridiculousness, including you. So please don't presume to tell me what I can/should care about. Do you really hold your birthday dear to you? Regardless, if we simply talk about what people do and don't care about, then sure we are all going to vary, and I'm not saying that's bad. But, that doesn't mean that you can care about anything, no matter how ridiculous it seems, and then make a big deal about it (like create a venting blog) and still not expect others to question it. In your defense, a lot of people care about birthdays a lot. I wasn't making fun of you with my earlier comment. I was reflecting on how strange I find this common behavior. If you want to claim that I shouldn't feel this way, then you should provide some actual justification rather than "I can care about whatever I want and then vent about it." On August 13 2009 00:35 konadora wrote: Found the problem + Show Spoiler + I think she really is just forgetful though Lol nice. | ||
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Phyre
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On August 13 2009 03:08 micronesia wrote: I didn't read every response to what other people had said, but it is very clear that the OP in no way indicated that she was actually aware of how much you seem to care about birthdays. In fact, like others have said, you made it seem like it wasn't a big deal when she missed it last time. Do you really hold your birthday dear to you? Regardless, if we simply talk about what people do and don't care about, then sure we are all going to vary, and I'm not saying that's bad. Yep. I don't go nuts or anything because that's not my nature, but it does bother me and I never ever miss birthdays of the people closest to me. On August 13 2009 03:08 micronesia wrote: But, that doesn't mean that you can care about anything, no matter how ridiculous it seems, and then make a big deal about it (like create a venting blog) and still not expect others to question it. In your defense, a lot of people care about birthdays a lot. I wasn't making fun of you with my earlier comment. I was reflecting on how strange I find this common behavior. If you want to claim that I shouldn't feel this way, then you should provide some actual justification rather than "I can care about whatever I want and then vent about it." Yeah, I'd expect flak if someone was saying they were frustrated by something really ridiculous but like you said birthdays are something quite a few people (dare I say, majority) do care about. I'd agree though, you can't just care about anything and expect no one to question it. I do find it peculiar that blogging about this occurrence qualifies as "making a big deal out of it." Perhaps I came off as a tad more hostile than I should have, I interpreted your post as more condescending and antagonizing than it appears you meant. | ||
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Ack1027
United States7873 Posts
Newsflash: Most people care about birthdays. Furthermore, the birthday of someone important to you should definitely matter. Yes, giving gifts and being nice at unexpected times is really great, but there's also space for occasions where you can do something extra special for your special friend. I think the problem most people are having against you phyre [ but won't admit ] is that you made a blog about it. Not that you are very mildly annoyed [ UNDERSTANDABLY ] that she forgot your birthday TWICE when conversely she is someone who places importance on such days like valentines, etc. As for my opinion: In my experience there are people like your gf who just have that personality trait. It is obvious that you love her and are in love with her. It is also obvious that you aren't making a big deal out of it. I mean....its enough said that she felt really bad and even apologized to you after she recognized her mistake. TL users blow my mind sometimes....like just cuz this shit is over the internet its some incredible phenomena and you're so above it. | ||
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