EPTgf forgot my birthday - Page 3
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Slaughter
United States20254 Posts
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gchan
United States654 Posts
On August 11 2009 13:41 KP_CollectoR wrote: How Tasteless of her. I see what you did there. For the OP, maybe she's just not good with exact dates? It seems to me that if she had a gift ready, she at least thought about it. Really, it's the thought that counts more than the specific details. Regardless though, you should be talking about this with her, not TL. | ||
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Oxygen
Canada3581 Posts
On August 11 2009 13:34 Bill307 wrote: Just how many people will immediately admit when they've screwed up? The normal reaction is to feel embarassed and to try to deny it, especially if they know the other person will be upset by their mistake (which she probably does, if the OP was angered by it a year ago). Even after some time has passed, most people will be afraid of looking bad in the eyes of the other, so they still won't readily admit it. Very, very few people would have admitted that mistake. That's horrible. Really? Is it really so hard to admit such a mistake? Poll: If you forgot your partner's bday, would you tell them up front? (Vote): Yes (Vote): No I need to put this in perspective, hope you don't mind OP. | ||
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Grobyc
Canada18410 Posts
Happy birthday though | ||
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Entertaining
Canada793 Posts
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Grobyc
Canada18410 Posts
On August 11 2009 14:32 Entertaining wrote: unless u warned her i dont see this being her fault. i dont know anyones b-day off by heart. Are you serious? Dating for 5 years and you wouldn't take the courtesy to make sure you don't forget? Maybe you don't have to know it by heart, but it's not hard to write it down off facebook or ask someone or whatever and mark it in your calender. | ||
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paper
13196 Posts
On August 11 2009 14:00 Bill307 wrote: I would. It must be one of the most useless pieces of information you could remember about them. It affects a single day in the entire year. Knowing about their personality, their interests, their experiences, and even which foods they like is much more important and useful. So I would try to remember it, but it would be a low priority. I'd probably just write it down somewhere. a girl forgetting her guy's bday is like a guy doing nothing for her on valentines (or her birthday, yes, redundant lol). i don't see how it's low priority or useless when its a SINGLE PIECE OF DATA that should've been discovered and stored in your memory within a month of actively dating. the ONE day you're supposed to give him any sort of meaningful gift and she forgets? unforgivable, especially after 4 previous birthdays. >:o | ||
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LaLuSh
Sweden2358 Posts
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icystorage
Jollibee19349 Posts
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zeks
Canada1068 Posts
The whole situation I find even more baffling considering she would easily be considered the more needy of the two of us, while I'm generally very very passive. I suppose everyone has different expectations out of a relationship. She's probably considered more needy because ... well girls are like that - they always ask you if you missed them, why haven't you called for so long etc etc, but guys tend to bury those feelings because it makes us look unmanly (i'm pretty sure guys want to know if their girls misses them too). And finally it takes something as simple (or big) as forgetting a birthday to really affect you. Ironically your girlfriend who is supposedly the needy one; it sounds like she doesn't really care. It looks like you like her a lot more than she does you. Everyone values their birthday differently, its not your fault that you care about it more. You just can't expect someone else to care about it as much as you do. on a lighter note: maybe she'll give you better sex? | ||
alffla
Hong Kong20321 Posts
maybe its just me though cuz i dont really care about my birthday | ||
Bill307
Canada9103 Posts
On August 11 2009 14:49 paper wrote: a girl forgetting her guy's bday is like a guy doing nothing for her on valentines (or her birthday, yes, redundant lol). i don't see how it's low priority or useless when its a SINGLE PIECE OF DATA that should've been discovered and stored in your memory within a month of actively dating. the ONE day you're supposed to give him any sort of meaningful gift and she forgets? unforgivable, especially after 4 previous birthdays. >:o That sounds a lot less significant than the happiness you'd give to each other on a daily or weekly basis. And if you're doing something meaningful for your partner only once a year, and it has to be scheduled in advance rather than being spontaneous... doesn't sound all that great to me. | ||
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Chef
10810 Posts
It sounds like she tried though, and did forget. But still, if you want someone to be nice to you on your birthday, you basically have to say earlier in the week what you think of being the age you're about to be. Or some other subtle lame hint. | ||
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Oxygen
Canada3581 Posts
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zeks
Canada1068 Posts
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never_Nal
Costa Rica676 Posts
So forgive her, just ultimatum ftw | ||
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eMbrace
United States1300 Posts
I couldn't tell you any of my close friend's birthdays or even the month they are in. | ||
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Zidane
United States1686 Posts
On August 11 2009 12:55 rockon1215 wrote: You just reminded me my mom's b-day is coming up soon  Thanks manlawl And yes it does suck to have your GF forget your birthday doesn't it. But try not to be all butthurt about it. and I mean that in the nicest possible way. | ||
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Heen
Korea (South)2178 Posts
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CharlieMurphy
United States22895 Posts
On August 11 2009 12:51 Phyre wrote: Twice. She forgot my birthday last year completely until the next day. Didn't call me, e-mail me, anything. She apologized of course the next day when she remembered. I was pretty miffed about that last year but I didn't make a big deal out of it because that's not how I am. I consoled her and explained it's okay. This year I figured "There's no way she'd forget it again..." So around the time when we usually talk on the phone I get a call from her so I figured "Ah, she remembered!" However, as the conversation progresses and it's increasingly just a normal conversation about her weekend... I begin to doubt. 15 minutes later my brother tells me I should come up since my family got a cake for me so I tell her so. She actually asked "Cake? Cake for what?" She was completely serious. A few seconds later it finally dawns on her that she completely forgot my birthday. She told me she had a birthday present ready for me and all but like last year she forgot once the day actually came. For some background, we've been dating for 5 years now and I've never missed a birthday, anniversary, valentine's day, etc. All the major occasions I've always had covered. I may not remember the dates off the top of my head, but I know this so I prepare and have tons of reminders and calendars setup to compensate so I'm always ready. The whole situation I find even more baffling considering she would easily be considered the more needy of the two of us, while I'm generally very very passive. If anyone was going to forget, you'd think it would be the other way around. I don't really know what to make of this. Just makes me feel so... disappointed. i suggest u get her a calendar for her bday with dates premarked. | ||
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