Asian Girl lol - Page 3

6'2 is like 188 cm.

On March 08 2009 12:31 Orlandu wrote:


How do you separate your asianness?

The whole comment from the guy reeks of a lack of confidence. Just because she took it upon herself to strike up a conversation with someone else (in which we don't even know the circumstances), he decided to go on this rant. How do we know she went out of her way to do anything? Simply what was described definitely doesn't give him the information necessary to accurately come up with the claims that he did. That's entirely a routine situation for most people, he was just being bitter.

Even if she was repulsed by him, chances are it had little to do with him being asian and much more to do with how he acted and presented himself. People are always quick to put the blame on things that they can't control and rarely look to themselves for improvement.

Just my opinion anyway.

EDIT: I realize that the whole thing may not even be serious and might just be meant for humor. What I wrote is just meant for the case that it is serious

On March 08 2009 18:31 TheosEx wrote:
I wish I had this problem.

Seriously, I thought it was the other way around. Usually, anywhere I go where there's an asian, that asian person (guy or girl) always tries to become my friend JUST because I'm asian. It's especially worse when it's another fellow Filipino. Like, wtf, don't say hi to me in Tagalog, cause I don't even understand.

Needless to say, it can be super awkward at times.

On March 08 2009 17:34 latent wrote:



This is something most white people don't understand about Asians. In Japanese there's a phrase for this, "KY", or "Kuuki ga yomenai". Literally it means "He/she can't read the air". The idea is that there are subtleties in behavior and emotions that a person must be able to read to function properly in an Asian society, especially one like Japan. Even in America, Asians in general tend to be more sensitive to these intangible indicators (at least 2nd generation...probably not 3rd generation Asian-Americans). Whether it was the slightly raised volume of her voice, the timing of her conversation, or even the positioning of her body (and just overall body language), some combination of things gave away the girl's true intentions.

Also I thought that youtube video was hilarious. One interesting thing to note is that in Asia they generally don't like it when guys chase after females. To some it looks uncool and overly desperate. To others it shows a decided lack of focus on important life goals. Except for Korea, which has become extremely westernized over the last few decades, much of the time a girl will develop feelings for a particular guy and subtly drop off hints (Japan), or two people will just sort of grow up together from a relatively young age being close friends and knowing they're eventually going to 'date' and marry (China). This obviously doesn't happen in all cases. I'm just trying to generalize a pattern.

On March 08 2009 18:31 TheosEx wrote:
I wish I had this problem.

Seriously, I thought it was the other way around. Usually, anywhere I go where there's an asian, that asian person (guy or girl) always tries to become my friend JUST because I'm asian. It's especially worse when it's another fellow Filipino. Like, wtf, don't say hi to me in Tagalog, cause I don't even understand.

Needless to say, it can be super awkward at times.

On March 08 2009 18:59 BottleAbuser wrote:
Who else noticed that "Chad" turned into "Chet"?

On March 08 2009 18:46 Orlandu wrote:


That's generally what I've noticed too. Which just further leads me to believe that the situation really had nothing to do with him being asian and everything to do with him as a person just not being very interesting to her.

On March 08 2009 18:43 Orlandu wrote:


I'm not sure why I was quoted, because what you wrote really doesn't address much of what I said at all, but since you did I'd like to ask you: are you under the impression that other races, apparently white people in particular, don't need to pick up on subtleties in behavior very often? Because if so, that's a very arrogant and ignorant thing to assume and that kind of mentality is likely a big part of why this guy got so riled up to begin with (assuming he was actually serious). Not to sound condescending or anything, but saying white people don't get something like that about asians, when that kind of thing is common in ALL social settings of the world (including ones where white people play a large role), is pretty conceited. While it may be arguable that some races are more sensitive towards these sorts of things, saying that one or more races just "don't get it" is just not a smart thing to say. If this isn't the impression that you're under, then ignore this whole paragraph as it doesn't apply to you. (Note: I am actually aware of kuuki ga yomenai, I actually have an entire book full of little Japanese phrases and their meanings similar to this one.)

More importantly though, again, none of that really relates to what I wrote. My point was mainly that the guy, based purely on what he wrote, wasn't very confident at all and that if she was actually repulsed by him like he claims, then it probably had everything to do with his confidence and how he acted and carried himself and very little, if anything, to do with him being asian. I do understand that the girl may have given off signals that showed that she didn't want much to do with him (and then again I also believe it's very plausible that she may not have, simply because this stuff can happen with girls, for a variety of reasons), but my point was that even if such was the case, he simply didn't have enough information to psychoanalyze her in the way that he tried to (I mean seriously, read what he implied about her younger days. That isn't being able to read the situation, that's being an arrogant dick who thinks they know all about someone). I fail to see how what you wrote towards me addresses that, unless you're implying that this guy isn't very good at picking up on what her true reasons were (despite him being asian which according to you would supposedly make him very well at doing that), in which case I would completely agree.

Like I said, people are often very quick to put the blame onto things that are out of their control instead of looking to things that they are responsible for as the reason. He automatically assumed that his flaw was being asian. I'm saying that's a load of crap and that he just wasn't very enticing or interesting to her. That sucks, but every guy has to go through that with girls of all races, it's not a problem unique to asian guys.

On March 08 2009 20:00 TheosEx wrote:


Now that I think about it, I actually do this myself as a self-defense mechanism, but to both girls and guys. Like one time, there was this Flip girl at Starbucks. I could tell she was trying to think of a way to talk to me. I put it out there very clearly that I didn't care that she was Flip and was not interested in talking to her. I was very flamboyant by talking to my gf at the time who was white and other white friends.

It's silly, I know, but I'm just trying to avoid those awkward situations that I was talking about earlier.

Ya'll asians know what I'm talking about, I think... right?

On March 08 2009 18:43 Orlandu wrote: Because if so, that's a very arrogant and ignorant thing to assume and that kind of mentality is likely a big part of why this guy got so riled up to begin with (assuming he was actually serious). Not to sound condescending or anything, but saying white people don't get something like that about asians, when that kind of thing is common in ALL social settings of the world (including ones where white people play a large role), is pretty conceited.

On March 08 2009 22:20 Matoo- wrote:
Btw two weeks ago I was speaking to a white guy living in China for one year and a half now and he said the only chinese girls you can get are
a) hookers
b) sluts
Because all the "serious girls" just want to marry a chinese guy and won't even try a foreigner.

He didn't try to validate himself like the OP (props) but could've done so easily since he earns like twenty times the average chinese salary.

If the OP is right (asian girls prefer white guys) then the guy I talked to shouldn't have had any problem.
If the guy I talked to is right (serious asian girls prefer to stick with fellow asian guys), then the OP shouldn't have any problem unless he's only trying to date sluts.

My personal analysis: both are wrong and should try harder instead of blaming their origins.

On March 08 2009 20:00 TheosEx wrote:


Now that I think about it, I actually do this myself as a self-defense mechanism, but to both girls and guys. Like one time, there was this Flip girl at Starbucks. I could tell she was trying to think of a way to talk to me. I put it out there very clearly that I didn't care that she was Flip and was not interested in talking to her. I was very flamboyant by talking to my gf at the time who was white and other white friends.

It's silly, I know, but I'm just trying to avoid those awkward situations that I was talking about earlier.

Ya'll asians know what I'm talking about, I think... right?

On March 08 2009 08:30 radar14 wrote:
I give credit to the girl for seeing through his presumably normal behavior and realizing that he was an insecure, whiny, obsessive loser who actually spent time to write that mind-rotting drivel about what was probably a 40-second encounter.

On March 09 2009 01:07 Luddite wrote:

I think I understand. I'm a white guy, and when I've been in Asia you occasionally meet other white people who want to talk to you just because you're white (well, and because you can speak English well),and it's always hella awkward and annoying.