Asian Girl lol

On March 08 2009 06:07 p4NDemik wrote:
reminds me of this

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=63bWYFGBTuE

On March 08 2009 06:50 Last Romantic wrote:
They're lecherous clingy creeps. Damn scary made-up clowns.

I prefer normal girls .__.

On March 08 2009 06:07 p4NDemik wrote:
reminds me of this

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=63bWYFGBTuE

On March 08 2009 07:01 T.O.P. wrote:

Lies, This can't be the truth. I should know, I'm a Asian guy at ucsd.

On March 08 2009 07:36 jbk613 wrote:
Hahah that guy sounds like a really bitter nerd.

On March 08 2009 06:54 Fontong wrote:
Loool I love the shirt the guy is wearing in the video. Tbh I think white people should be able to read that one by now...

LOL "JIE!?!!"

LOOOL its soooooo true about the indians isnt it omg

qft

On March 08 2009 08:04 fusionsdf wrote:


white people something not something?

what's it say?

On March 08 2009 05:51 gusbear wrote:
i know posting stuff i see on reddit is lame but this is pretty funny and will likely amuse the tl.net crowd.

from http://www.craigslist.org/about/best/lax/979427049.html

To the Asian Girl Whom I offended with my Asian-ness - m4w
Date: 2009-01-03, 9:20PM PST

You: Asian, young(ish), cute, petite, left-of-center, cosmopolitan.

Me: The Asian guy you would never dream of giving a second glance.

Hi! I’m so sad that you were offended by my very presence at your favorite boutique coffee shop. Seriously, I was just there to do some work and maybe a bit of reading – I didn’t mean to draw attention to the fact that you too, are also Asian. I was just looking for a quiet place to sit, and the seat by you just happened to be open. It’s not like peed all over you, put my arm around your shoulder, and screamed to all the other patrons in a heavy Chinese accent, “She mine! You all stay away!”

After I sat down and pulled out Said’s Orientalism (no joke), you, in all of your ignorant glory, proceeded to loudly flirt with the nearest non-Asian man with a pulse to dissuade any romantic overtures from me. Lady, I already know you only date white guys; you don’t even have to open your mouth.

Ever since Chad took you out back in high school and made you the envy of all homecoming, you’ve understood the magical power of white boys. Your parents balked until they saw how well Chet treated you and made you so so so happy. You tell yourself you don’t see color lines, and that you’re ending racism by only dating white guys – and you give yourself a little pat on the back every night before dreaming of waking up with beautiful blonde hair. You’ve even thrown in a black guy or two, just to get back at daddy. Asian guys? Like, gag me with a spoon!

Hey, I applaud you. You’re totally progressive. Never mind all that bukakke stuff Jeremy keeps wanting to do (I wonder where he gets these ideas?). No need to worry about Scotty’s browser history pointing to asianteensluts.com. Totally normal! What red-blooded American man doesn’t want to bang a Japanese high school girl?

Honestly, if I were in your stilettos, I’d do the same thing. If white girls were all over me ‘cause of my nice, smooth skin, my mad computer skills and wispy peach fuzz, I’d ride that white stallion to all glory.

But since I’m 6’2”, 200 lbs. with 4% body fat and a PhD, I guess I’ll have to settle for one of our more racist Asian sistahs.

Location: Westside
it's NOT ok to contact this poster with services or other commercial interests
PostingID: 979427049

Edit: Wow the comments on reddit are all about starcraft for some reason + Show Spoiler +

On March 08 2009 06:07 p4NDemik wrote:
reminds me of this

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=63bWYFGBTuE

On March 08 2009 08:16 fanatacist wrote:
I'm a white guy with a Korean girlfriend. FTW.

EDIT: not one of those English teachers' in Korea Korean girlfriends LOL

On March 08 2009 08:21 jingXD wrote:

White people can't understand (or read). The shirt is the implicit object in this case.

On March 08 2009 10:01 Straylight wrote:
If he had any confidence he'd just not give a fuck instead of writing some essay about why she's a bitch and then having to validate himself in the last line.

What a tool.

On March 08 2009 10:01 Straylight wrote:
If he had any confidence he'd just not give a fuck instead of writing some essay about why she's a bitch and then having to validate himself in the last line.

What a tool.

On March 08 2009 11:07 gg_hertzz wrote:


How is that confidence? He was having coffee and minding his own business when the Asian girl went out her way to separate her Asianness from the Asian guy sitting next to him. Not exactly a routine situation for most people.

On March 08 2009 09:20 cgrinker wrote:
Lol I'm always worried that I'm accidentally going to say bukakke in Japanese class.

6'2 is like 188 cm.

On March 08 2009 12:31 Orlandu wrote:


How do you separate your asianness?

The whole comment from the guy reeks of a lack of confidence. Just because she took it upon herself to strike up a conversation with someone else (in which we don't even know the circumstances), he decided to go on this rant. How do we know she went out of her way to do anything? Simply what was described definitely doesn't give him the information necessary to accurately come up with the claims that he did. That's entirely a routine situation for most people, he was just being bitter.

Even if she was repulsed by him, chances are it had little to do with him being asian and much more to do with how he acted and presented himself. People are always quick to put the blame on things that they can't control and rarely look to themselves for improvement.

Just my opinion anyway.

EDIT: I realize that the whole thing may not even be serious and might just be meant for humor. What I wrote is just meant for the case that it is serious

On March 08 2009 18:31 TheosEx wrote:
I wish I had this problem.

Seriously, I thought it was the other way around. Usually, anywhere I go where there's an asian, that asian person (guy or girl) always tries to become my friend JUST because I'm asian. It's especially worse when it's another fellow Filipino. Like, wtf, don't say hi to me in Tagalog, cause I don't even understand.

Needless to say, it can be super awkward at times.

On March 08 2009 17:34 latent wrote:



This is something most white people don't understand about Asians. In Japanese there's a phrase for this, "KY", or "Kuuki ga yomenai". Literally it means "He/she can't read the air". The idea is that there are subtleties in behavior and emotions that a person must be able to read to function properly in an Asian society, especially one like Japan. Even in America, Asians in general tend to be more sensitive to these intangible indicators (at least 2nd generation...probably not 3rd generation Asian-Americans). Whether it was the slightly raised volume of her voice, the timing of her conversation, or even the positioning of her body (and just overall body language), some combination of things gave away the girl's true intentions.

Also I thought that youtube video was hilarious. One interesting thing to note is that in Asia they generally don't like it when guys chase after females. To some it looks uncool and overly desperate. To others it shows a decided lack of focus on important life goals. Except for Korea, which has become extremely westernized over the last few decades, much of the time a girl will develop feelings for a particular guy and subtly drop off hints (Japan), or two people will just sort of grow up together from a relatively young age being close friends and knowing they're eventually going to 'date' and marry (China). This obviously doesn't happen in all cases. I'm just trying to generalize a pattern.

On March 08 2009 18:31 TheosEx wrote:
I wish I had this problem.

Seriously, I thought it was the other way around. Usually, anywhere I go where there's an asian, that asian person (guy or girl) always tries to become my friend JUST because I'm asian. It's especially worse when it's another fellow Filipino. Like, wtf, don't say hi to me in Tagalog, cause I don't even understand.

Needless to say, it can be super awkward at times.

On March 08 2009 18:59 BottleAbuser wrote:
Who else noticed that "Chad" turned into "Chet"?

On March 08 2009 18:46 Orlandu wrote:


That's generally what I've noticed too. Which just further leads me to believe that the situation really had nothing to do with him being asian and everything to do with him as a person just not being very interesting to her.

On March 08 2009 18:43 Orlandu wrote:


I'm not sure why I was quoted, because what you wrote really doesn't address much of what I said at all, but since you did I'd like to ask you: are you under the impression that other races, apparently white people in particular, don't need to pick up on subtleties in behavior very often? Because if so, that's a very arrogant and ignorant thing to assume and that kind of mentality is likely a big part of why this guy got so riled up to begin with (assuming he was actually serious). Not to sound condescending or anything, but saying white people don't get something like that about asians, when that kind of thing is common in ALL social settings of the world (including ones where white people play a large role), is pretty conceited. While it may be arguable that some races are more sensitive towards these sorts of things, saying that one or more races just "don't get it" is just not a smart thing to say. If this isn't the impression that you're under, then ignore this whole paragraph as it doesn't apply to you. (Note: I am actually aware of kuuki ga yomenai, I actually have an entire book full of little Japanese phrases and their meanings similar to this one.)

More importantly though, again, none of that really relates to what I wrote. My point was mainly that the guy, based purely on what he wrote, wasn't very confident at all and that if she was actually repulsed by him like he claims, then it probably had everything to do with his confidence and how he acted and carried himself and very little, if anything, to do with him being asian. I do understand that the girl may have given off signals that showed that she didn't want much to do with him (and then again I also believe it's very plausible that she may not have, simply because this stuff can happen with girls, for a variety of reasons), but my point was that even if such was the case, he simply didn't have enough information to psychoanalyze her in the way that he tried to (I mean seriously, read what he implied about her younger days. That isn't being able to read the situation, that's being an arrogant dick who thinks they know all about someone). I fail to see how what you wrote towards me addresses that, unless you're implying that this guy isn't very good at picking up on what her true reasons were (despite him being asian which according to you would supposedly make him very well at doing that), in which case I would completely agree.

Like I said, people are often very quick to put the blame onto things that are out of their control instead of looking to things that they are responsible for as the reason. He automatically assumed that his flaw was being asian. I'm saying that's a load of crap and that he just wasn't very enticing or interesting to her. That sucks, but every guy has to go through that with girls of all races, it's not a problem unique to asian guys.

On March 08 2009 20:00 TheosEx wrote:


Now that I think about it, I actually do this myself as a self-defense mechanism, but to both girls and guys. Like one time, there was this Flip girl at Starbucks. I could tell she was trying to think of a way to talk to me. I put it out there very clearly that I didn't care that she was Flip and was not interested in talking to her. I was very flamboyant by talking to my gf at the time who was white and other white friends.

It's silly, I know, but I'm just trying to avoid those awkward situations that I was talking about earlier.

Ya'll asians know what I'm talking about, I think... right?

On March 08 2009 18:43 Orlandu wrote: Because if so, that's a very arrogant and ignorant thing to assume and that kind of mentality is likely a big part of why this guy got so riled up to begin with (assuming he was actually serious). Not to sound condescending or anything, but saying white people don't get something like that about asians, when that kind of thing is common in ALL social settings of the world (including ones where white people play a large role), is pretty conceited.

On March 08 2009 22:20 Matoo- wrote:
Btw two weeks ago I was speaking to a white guy living in China for one year and a half now and he said the only chinese girls you can get are
a) hookers
b) sluts
Because all the "serious girls" just want to marry a chinese guy and won't even try a foreigner.

He didn't try to validate himself like the OP (props) but could've done so easily since he earns like twenty times the average chinese salary.

If the OP is right (asian girls prefer white guys) then the guy I talked to shouldn't have had any problem.
If the guy I talked to is right (serious asian girls prefer to stick with fellow asian guys), then the OP shouldn't have any problem unless he's only trying to date sluts.

My personal analysis: both are wrong and should try harder instead of blaming their origins.

On March 08 2009 20:00 TheosEx wrote:


Now that I think about it, I actually do this myself as a self-defense mechanism, but to both girls and guys. Like one time, there was this Flip girl at Starbucks. I could tell she was trying to think of a way to talk to me. I put it out there very clearly that I didn't care that she was Flip and was not interested in talking to her. I was very flamboyant by talking to my gf at the time who was white and other white friends.

It's silly, I know, but I'm just trying to avoid those awkward situations that I was talking about earlier.

Ya'll asians know what I'm talking about, I think... right?

On March 08 2009 08:30 radar14 wrote:
I give credit to the girl for seeing through his presumably normal behavior and realizing that he was an insecure, whiny, obsessive loser who actually spent time to write that mind-rotting drivel about what was probably a 40-second encounter.

On March 09 2009 01:07 Luddite wrote:

I think I understand. I'm a white guy, and when I've been in Asia you occasionally meet other white people who want to talk to you just because you're white (well, and because you can speak English well),and it's always hella awkward and annoying.

On March 08 2009 22:20 Matoo- wrote:
Btw two weeks ago I was speaking to a white guy living in China for one year and a half now and he said the only chinese girls you can get are
a) hookers
b) sluts
Because all the "serious girls" just want to marry a chinese guy and won't even try a foreigner.

He didn't try to validate himself like the OP (props) but could've done so easily since he earns like twenty times the average chinese salary.

If the OP is right (asian girls prefer white guys) then the guy I talked to shouldn't have had any problem.
If the guy I talked to is right (serious asian girls prefer to stick with fellow asian guys), then the OP shouldn't have any problem unless he's only trying to date sluts.

My personal analysis: both are wrong and should try harder instead of blaming their origins.

On March 09 2009 01:07 Luddite wrote:

I think I understand. I'm a white guy, and when I've been in Asia you occasionally meet other white people who want to talk to you just because you're white (well, and because you can speak English well),and it's always hella awkward and annoying.

On March 09 2009 03:01 caelym wrote:
it's also always hella awkward and annoying when people of the other race act differently because you're not their race. What kind of introverted and arrogant person are you to think that someone of your race saying hi to you in a foreign country is annoying? the dude is probably just being friendly. like it or not, being in a foreign country (especially asia) makes you the minority, so people like you should flush your superiority complex down the drain. More often than not minorities stick together, no matter how "integrated" you think you are in your present surroundings. ever wondered why racial boundaries still exist all over the world? Disowning your own race or forcing yourself to only socialize with the dominant race, is pathetic and not going to fix the problem.

On March 08 2009 20:25 latent wrote:



Yes, he's bitter. But his little rant wasn't about just this one girl. He's simply using her to generalize to a larger group of people.

If you don't understand how non-asians can be less sensitive to feeling the atmosphere than asians....I can't help you there. You need to take a class on cultural differences between the east and west. Broadly proclaiming there are no differences between 2 very different regions of the world is itself conceited.

On March 09 2009 00:49 TheYango wrote:

Except its DIFFERENT in all social settings of the world. It should be fairly obvious that Asians interact differently from Europeans or Americans, because the two distinct cultures create different meanings for different things. Its silly to say that implied language from both cultures would be the same, and its conceited to think that anyone would be able to understand both without study or immersion in both environments.

On March 09 2009 03:01 caelym wrote:

take a step back there... asian girls in america are WAY different from asian girls in asia. a lot of asians here disown their asianness because they subconsciously feel ashamed of their race and want to fit in. And this could easily lead to asian vs asian situations as described in the op

On March 09 2009 03:01 caelym wrote:

take a step back there... asian girls in america are WAY different from asian girls in asia. a lot of asians here disown their asianness because they subconsciously feel ashamed of their race and want to fit in. And this could easily lead to asian vs asian situations as described in the op

On March 09 2009 03:01 caelym wrote:

it's also always hella awkward and annoying when people of the other race act differently because you're not their race. What kind of introverted and arrogant person are you to think that someone of your race saying hi to you in a foreign country is annoying? the dude is probably just being friendly. like it or not, being in a foreign country (especially asia) makes you the minority, so people like you should flush your superiority complex down the drain. More often than not minorities stick together, no matter how "integrated" you think you are in your present surroundings. ever wondered why racial boundaries still exist all over the world? Disowning your own race or forcing yourself to only socialize with the dominant race, is pathetic and not going to fix the problem.

On March 09 2009 08:06 Orlandu wrote:
Of course they interact differently and of course there are differences between cultures. But that doesn't mean that they haven't developed many of the same skills, especially when people from one culture are living in a different society (most likely the case in our story). Saying that one group simply can't read situations is very arrogant and quite frankly, wrong. Of course there are things that one group may not pick up that another might. But again, that's all irrelevant to this situation.

On March 09 2009 08:06 Orlandu wrote:
Since you seem to think that maybe the guy was able to read the situation and derive that everything was because of him being asian, I'll ask you the same question that I asked the other guy: what kind of things do you think he read that signaled that it was because he was asian? She apparently didn't outright say it, so what kind of things might have proven his reasoning was correct? Simply because she talked to a non-asian person? Is that realistically sufficient evidence to support such a conclusion? These are serious questions, I'd be very interested in a well-thought response to these.

On March 08 2009 12:31 Orlandu wrote:
The whole comment from the guy reeks of a lack of confidence.

On March 08 2009 12:31 Orlandu wrote:
People are always quick to put the blame on things that they can't control and rarely look to themselves for improvement.

On March 08 2009 22:20 Matoo- wrote:
Btw two weeks ago I was speaking to a white guy living in China for one year and a half now and he said the only chinese girls you can get are
a) hookers
b) sluts
Because all the "serious girls" just want to marry a chinese guy and won't even try a foreigner.

He didn't try to validate himself like the OP (props) but could've done so easily since he earns like twenty times the average chinese salary.

If the OP is right (asian girls prefer white guys) then the guy I talked to shouldn't have had any problem.
If the guy I talked to is right (serious asian girls prefer to stick with fellow asian guys), then the OP shouldn't have any problem unless he's only trying to date sluts.

My personal analysis: both are wrong and should try harder instead of blaming their origins.

On March 08 2009 12:50 yubee wrote:
how do you accidentally say bukkake? i find it is one of those words where you really have to mean it

On March 09 2009 08:23 Orlandu wrote:


This actually is an interesting point and one which actually does support the guy's reasoning. However I'm not sure that I necessarily agree that a lot of asians disown their asianness and feel subconsciously ashamed of their race (not that I'm saying that this doesn't happen either, I agree that it does, I just disagree that it's "a lot" of them). I've usually found the opposite to be true in areas where asians aren't an extreme minority. I honestly can't remember meeting any asians that have ever been ashamed of being asian and weren't very openly proud of it, for whatever reason.

Regardless though I still think it would be a big assumption on his part to assume that this girl was one of those asians, unless there are some details that he's leaving out in the story. The reason that I think that is because his reasoning seemed to rely on the girl not giving him attention and instead giving it to a non-asian, which isn't enough support for such a conclusion by itself. Even if you're incredibly proud of your heritage, why shouldn't you be allowed to converse or flirt with someone of another race? Why should you have to automatically give your attention to someone of your own race over someone of a different race? We don't even know what went down before this guy entered the place.

Basically it seems like this guy is upset because he didn't get the attention that he felt he naturally deserved because he was asian. It seems like he felt that he was asian and thus automatically deserved attention from another asian simply for that reason, and when this sentiment wasn't reciprocated, he took it as a "black and white" issue in which by default she must not like asian guys or be in touch with her "asianness" or whatever.

Pretty shitty reaction regardless of the situation and whether or not he was right or wrong, though.

On March 08 2009 06:07 p4NDemik wrote:
reminds me of this

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=63bWYFGBTuE

On March 10 2009 05:37 TheYango wrote:

How is it irrelevant? If two Asians are interacting, the implications in Asian culture apply. Just because you're living in western society doesn't mean that you automatically suppress those other modes of communication.

I'm not saying that Asian's can read the situation and whites can't. I'm saying it works BOTH WAYS. There are plenty of nuances of western culture and conversation that an Asian would have difficulty picking up too. There are implications made in conversations between people of the same culture that others don't pick up due to cultural differences. How is this a foreign concept?


Assuming that he's right is just as much an unsupported assumption as assuming he's wrong.

I'm saying there isn't enough information given for you to make a judgment about this guy one way or another. Maybe she made it obvious because he was Asian, maybe she didn't. The point is, you DON'T KNOW. It's a legitimate possibility that she doesn't like him because he's Asian (it's not the only possibility, but I've seen it happen). You're the one who made assumptions about his character:



Perhaps he's bringing up a legitimate issue, perhaps he isn't. There's not enough information to tell, and making personality judgments without that kind of knowledge is rash.

On March 10 2009 09:52 latent wrote:


You just made a ton of assumptions yourself there. Your whole last paragraph is just a bunch of guesswork. What I was trying to point out is that he's more bitter about the situation among Asian-American girls in general. They either feel shame or simply dislike their own culture, and try very hard to be assimilated into the dominant culture. His writer's point about the girl dating white guys who 'make her so so happy' or dating a black guy to get back at her father are hilarious in how they point out a certain common trend among Asian-American girls.

There are nuances among each cultural group that can be difficult to pick up on for a non native of that group. But Asians in general emphasize non verbal communication. There are studies in social psychology that demonstrate how they're much more attuned to 'background' stimuli in a painting, while Westerners are much more focused on the most immediate and obvious stimulus. This extends beyond just paintings. A good example of Japanese cultural complexities is the concept of honne and tatemai. Since you spent so long studying cultures you probably know about it already, but for those others listening in tatemai is an incredibly complex form of politeness where almost everything someone says to another person has a hidden meaning. Honne is kind of the opposite, and is more prevalent in the West.


SaRangHaE if you really are an Asian, then you're what many Koreans in my university (born and raised in Korea but studying at an American university) like to call a twinkie: yellow on the outside but white on the inside. They also use the term 'banana'.

On March 10 2009 13:00 Orlandu wrote:
I'm not sure you're reading my posts at all then, because you just explained basically what I've been saying and showed pretty clearly why all this jazz about "reading the situation" is irrelevant. We DON'T know what happened, and there AREN'T enough details to say that it was (or wasn't) because he was asian. However it should be pretty clear that some conclusions are less likely than others (such as automatically assuming that race was the issue when more often than not between two asians, and especially off of the information given, this conclusion isn't supported), hence me stating that my opinion was that his reasoning was bullshit (which isn't me making any factual claims).

I'm also not sure where your disagreement with me is either (unless you simply agree that it was because he was asian, in which case you STILL have yet to provide the requested reasoning for such), because you've pretty much restated what I've said in different words.

On March 09 2009 05:34 fanatacist wrote:

No, she doesn't play.

But I play with her dad on B.net once in a while.

And he pretty much hired me to teach her brother lol.

He also asked for me to write a strategy guide for hotkey use for Zerg. So I did.

On March 10 2009 09:52 latent wrote:
SaRangHaE if you really are an Asian, then you're what many Koreans in my university (born and raised in Korea but studying at an American university) like to call a twinkie: yellow on the outside but white on the inside. They also use the term 'banana'.

On March 10 2009 14:13 TheYango wrote:

I haven't made attacks against the guy's character. You have.

On March 10 2009 14:13 TheYango wrote:

I haven't made attacks against the guy's character. You have.

On March 10 2009 15:22 Ilikestarcraft wrote:
... my grammar is getting bad lately constactly editing and writing my posts over because they sound awkward

On March 10 2009 17:10 Orlandu wrote:
I have to ask you, what point are you trying to make? Are you arguing that this guy wasn't out of line, and that he was completely justified in his reaction? If so, why do you think that? As well as this, you still have yet to address any of my other points or requests for evidence or reasoning supporting any disagreeing argument. Why is that?

On March 11 2009 01:45 TheYango wrote:

Because I'm not really trying to make a point. I just felt that you were overly dismissive of the possibility that the guy has a legitimate complaint. Yeah, he's acting like a douchebag either way, but what he thinks is the problem is something that DOES happen. Whether or not its happening here is questionable, but I don't think the idea of Asian girls dismissing Asian guys because they're Asian is just a myth. It does happen (and Asian guys do it to Asian girls too).