EPTThats my 2 cents :p.
What would you do (Girlthread) - Page 2
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Nyovne
Netherlands19137 Posts
Thats my 2 cents :p. | ||
Daigomi
South Africa4316 Posts
On September 01 2008 19:38 Nyovne wrote: Never ever even touch the subject of doing something romantic/sexual with a person in a relationship. Thats my 2 cents :p. I agree, people complicate their lives by doing things that are borderline OK or borderline wrong. In all honesty, your life won't greatly be improved by having a once off romantic/sexual thing with her, unless you want to go into a relationship with her which means she would have to dump her boyfriend first. Keep it simple, if she wants a relationship she can dump her boyfriend, if she wants sex she can either dump her boyfriend or you can get it somewhere else. | ||
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St3MoR
Spain3256 Posts
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punt
Singapore50 Posts
at least the both of you will know your respective stands regarding the issue.. if it looks it might get awry just bail but in a manner that is as nice as possible since she's a good friend.. | ||
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XCetron
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FreeDoM[YA]
Canada855 Posts
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Mandalor
Germany2362 Posts
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prOxi.swAMi
Australia3091 Posts
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Kennigit
Canada19447 Posts
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funkie
Venezuela9376 Posts
It's kind of like "karma". Don't do bad things to others, and bad things won't happen to you. ;P GL in whatever you decide though. | ||
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funkie
Venezuela9376 Posts
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nA.Inky
United States794 Posts
Every relationship has difficult moments. Its inevitable. So think about how you would want your partner to be in that situation, and think about how you would feel if you were the boyfriend in that situation. Of course, I'm not telling you what to do. It's just something to think about. | ||
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[X]Ken_D
United States4650 Posts
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NarutO
Germany18839 Posts
On September 01 2008 23:40 [X]Ken_D wrote: G.s)NarutO, what do you ultimately want from her in the long term? Relationship | ||
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Jibba
United States22883 Posts
On September 01 2008 23:35 nA.Inky wrote: A question to ask might be: If I were seeing a girl, would I feel ok if her and some other guy had sex just because we are having problems? Granted, if she slept with you or messed around with you, that's at least partly her decision, and her responsibility, but would you want to be helping her to cheat on her boyfriend? Would you like it if someone helped your girlfriend cheat on you in times of relationship trouble? Every relationship has difficult moments. Its inevitable. So think about how you would want your partner to be in that situation, and think about how you would feel if you were the boyfriend in that situation. Of course, I'm not telling you what to do. It's just something to think about. Oh so well put. | ||
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8Pylon
United States223 Posts
On September 01 2008 17:40 MYM.Testie wrote: It means she isn't really into her relationship and wants to bang you. (Or she's looking for a way out of her relationship). She might tell her boyfriend she loves him but if she's pulling shit like this she probably has no clue what love is. Regardless, keep your dignity and live a life of no regrets. Don't bang someone even when they are asking for it when it is going to needlessly hurt someone else. This guy'll get hurt by this girl eventually, but atleast you won't be the source. However if you're in a situation where you value sex that much or find banging a chick to be a scarce commodity and really want it, do it. You can do it guilt free to an extent anyway as she's initiating. I'd tell her if she wants it she'd better break it off with this guy because you have your own reasons you know? If you want to do it enough, your mind will come up with enough logical reasons to hit it convincing you it is ok. Even if it isn't. I wouldn't, but you can. On September 01 2008 23:35 nA.Inky wrote: A question to ask might be: If I were seeing a girl, would I feel ok if her and some other guy had sex just because we are having problems? Granted, if she slept with you or messed around with you, that's at least partly her decision, and her responsibility, but would you want to be helping her to cheat on her boyfriend? Would you like it if someone helped your girlfriend cheat on you in times of relationship trouble? Every relationship has difficult moments. Its inevitable. So think about how you would want your partner to be in that situation, and think about how you would feel if you were the boyfriend in that situation. Of course, I'm not telling you what to do. It's just something to think about. I agree with both of these.  I dont think its worth it if she's will to cheat because shes have relationship troubles. That shows some more into her character. You think there are people with some decent moral grounding in the world and wouldnt help her cheat in troubled times? You bet. Id take the higher route though. If she wants to mess around then have her break up with the bf and then you can see whats up. Until then no..dont you dare taste the forbidden fruit O_O. | ||
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8Pylon
United States223 Posts
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eXigent.
Canada2419 Posts
However, if you just planned on getting together with her for a fling over the course of a few weeks, then go for it. She might cheat on you, but at least your heart was not a part of it, just your body. Ive been in your situation, and I have found that once someone cheats, it's usually on their mind again, because they already know what they are doing, and how to do it. My advice....Just dont get hurt or played. | ||
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Phyre
United States1288 Posts
I've always had the notion that if you truly love someone you will put their well being before your own. If she's having a difficult time with her current boyfriend, probably what she needs more than a one night stand and a storm of drama is a good friend. You run the risk of getting stuck in that "friend" role, but do what is best for her if you really care about her. | ||
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[X]Ken_D
United States4650 Posts
The timing seems about right so go for it. Hopefully she will have the courage to leave her boyfriend. Her boyfriend, from how you describe, isn't someone that she will be with the rest of her life anyways. Convince her that. Just don't get stuck in the middle if she doesn't leave immediately, emotionally hurt. Good luck. | ||
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