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Hi again.
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Yes, another one of those "omg girlsssssss! Wtf do I do??!?! HALP!" blogs. I made one a while back, it ended shitty, oh well, moving on. I found out about the Sexy triangle and now I just go by that.
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Alright, in contrast to my other blog, this one is now about a girl who likes me. I went with the advice given in the other blog(and also Smurg's advice =DD) and started to talk with this girl. She's awesome! =O We share a lot of interests and, I didn't even know it but, we're the same age. To be honest, she looks like a freshman... she's skinny(cause she's in basketball) and she's somewhat short(about shoulder-level) and she's cute T_T!!; She's one of those girls that guys tend to fall in love with, not the type of girl that everyone wants to be with just to have sex with. There were like 2347232 guys on her 24/7 once she broke up with her boyfriend. Thing is, just like a different girl I once talked to, once I added her on Myspace, it's like she just wanted to talk to me all the time. I was like "O_o wtf" at first, then, she added me on Msn(I don't know how she got my email) and then wouldn't stop talking to me there, then she started to say hi to me in school, and since I just saw her as "that one girl who added me on myspace", I had no trouble saying "hi" back.
Well, anyways, I was talking to her on Msn(yes, fabled msn, what people told me to stay away from) and she starts saying how her Valentine's day was shitty and I tell her that mine was equally as shitty and etc. Thing is, she starts giving these HUGE hints about having an interest in me and I didn't really know how to react to them.
We typed messages to each other till like 2 in the morning(since around 9-10) and near the end we kept trying to say "bye" to each other but we couldn't XD. But anyways, before she left, she said she was going to "do something for me" on Monday. That kept me thinking. WTF is she going to do?
Going by Smurg's(Or was it Smurft?) sexy triangle, I think she's in stage 2 with me(the stage where you know you like this person and/or are in love with them a little) and I'm in stage 1 with her(I do like her but I'm not obsessed with her). I don't want to go past stage 1 yet... I don't want to get all obsessed with her and then find out that she only likes me as a friend.
So, generally, best case scenario, if she asks me out on Monday(just a possibility), what the fuck do I do? I've never had a girlfriend, I'm really lazy, I've never really gotten anyone gifts or stuff like that(I'm creative though.. XD) and I don't really know any of this boyfriend/girlfriend stuff...
Now, what I'm asking for is, if she does ask me out, what do I do? It might be too early(we've only been talking for 2 weeks or so) so I don't really know. I'm trying to think long term here... I don't want to say yes then end up not knowing what to do. So, Teamliquid, I ask for your advice! How the fuck am I suppose to be a good boyfriend? T_T
Pic of her:
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go for it.. wouldn't matter anyhow
coupel of years from now wen ur out of highschool and you'd look back n think highschool was pretty fuckign stupid anyway.
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United States22883 Posts
What kind of hints did she give?
I wouldn't advise sitting back and letting her lead completely, unless you're ready to go at whatever pace she wants. It's still Saturday. Honestly, if a girl was letting on that she really liked me and we were complaining about Valentine's day, I'd ask her out to do something fun (not romantic, just fun) within the next few days and say you want to make up for her shitty V day. Lazer tag, bowling that kind of non-serious thing.
Being a good bf is a whole other issue. I was always told I'm a great bf but then I got dumped without a reason given, so what can I say. :x It's a balance between giving attention and not being needy. Taking control and being a "leader", but still being respectful and not being a douche. And of course being heartfelt and sometimes unpredictable.
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United States24768 Posts
Dammit why haven't I had a problem with girls liking me and me not knowing what to do?
BTW Jibba: who said bowling isn't serious? XD
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Gave me a good scare there. Girl's pretty, but the moment that picture popped up, I couldn't help but think about the girl from The Grudge.
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On February 17 2008 07:16 bahhh wrote:
go for it.. wouldn't matter anyhow
Agreed. You're in your senior year. Time to be impulsive and do stuff without considering the consequences =D. Have some fun with her but don't get too attached.
BTW, what if, in a hypothetical scenario, this girl stumbles upon your blog and sees her picture online? =P
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On February 17 2008 07:17 micronesia wrote:
Dammit why haven't I had a problem with girls liking me and me not knowing what to do?
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This is like a freebie, you lucky dog.
If she is sane go for it.
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On February 17 2008 07:17 micronesia wrote:
Dammit why haven't I had a problem with girls liking me and me not knowing what to do?
BTW Jibba: who said bowling isn't serious? XD
I thinking the same thing about both those items micronesia.
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Canada7170 Posts
Don't get too excited.
Watch as she brings cookies for you or something Monday =P
gl yo.
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go for it!
hm i duno i guess as a bf you just need to be supportive and help our out with stuff. =/
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i always find it creepy when people post pictures of girls they have crushes on in real life on a public forum.
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I didn't read the above posts so i'm assuming no one said what i'm about to say...
Firstly if every single guy she sees is chasing after her like hungary dogs, she will see them as all the same. When they are all the same it is harder to distinguish which is good. So she goes to the person that doesn't actually chase her and is wondering "why doesn't he act like all the other guys" so she'll come up to you and try to figure you out because you are DIFFERENT from all the other people. Never under estimate the power of curiosity.
If you got her hooked, then you have to keep the ball under you, be the leader and try not to by a wuss(not saying that you are) by showing too much emotion. Try to be yourself, if you have to act like someone or something you are not comfortable doing your entire life just to keep her its not worth it xd.
While on the date, i would think maybe try not to get to the point where you go nuts and think "er.. what do i say next". If that happens often the relationship isn't going to last longer, when you lose interest in each other and don't know what to say its a very good sign that she thinks she knows everything about you now and which makes you predictable. No girls like guys who are predictable ~_~. If you aren't a talker (which i doubt since your MSN chat's lasted so long, but sometimes people are very talkative online and not really talkative in realife) maybe take her to some place where it involves less talking like perhaps to a movie or something xD.
All in all be yourself, if you're gonna act a way that you are forced into because of her, don't.
Just behave like yourself don't think too much when you talk because thinking too much will result in you being nervous. If she later ditches you for another guy just think its her loss ;p.
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even if you completely screw up, you'll be glad you went for it. better than wondering "what if" later.
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shocker on the first date ftw
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just be yourself 
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On February 17 2008 07:57 mikeymoo wrote:
Don't get too excited.
Watch as she brings cookies for you or something Monday =P
gl yo.
I was thinking along the lines of a BJ...? Anyone else?
Anyway, wtf, go for it. If you kind of like her, get her something small, maybe a stem of rose or w/e. If you guys do end up going out to dinner or something, doesn't hurt to pay.
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Well, she being interested in you won't last pretty much if you remain in "stage 1". Remember that even if she started talking to you, you have to ask her out or do the next step.
Girls need someone to take care of them, to provide a certain level of security for them. That's why you have to be the person "in control". Just chill and ask her out. And because you're still in stage 1 you'll look like you don't give a fuck and she'll say yes.
Then you have a great evening with her, and do whatever you feel or want (no, not sex, at least for now).
P.S. She's fucking hawt.
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On February 17 2008 08:38 YanGpaN wrote:
I didn't read the above posts so i'm assuming no one said what i'm about to say...
Firstly if every single guy she sees is chasing after her like hungary dogs, she will see them as all the same. When they are all the same it is harder to distinguish which is good. So she goes to the person that doesn't actually chase her and is wondering "why doesn't he act like all the other guys" so she'll come up to you and try to figure you out because you are DIFFERENT from all the other people. Never under estimate the power of curiosity.
If you got her hooked, then you have to keep the ball under you, be the leader and try not to by a wuss(not saying that you are) by showing too much emotion. Try to be yourself, if you have to act like someone or something you are not comfortable doing your entire life just to keep her its not worth it xd.
While on the date, i would think maybe try not to get to the point where you go nuts and think "er.. what do i say next". If that happens often the relationship isn't going to last longer, when you lose interest in each other and don't know what to say its a very good sign that she thinks she knows everything about you now and which makes you predictable. No girls like guys who are predictable ~_~. If you aren't a talker (which i doubt since your MSN chat's lasted so long, but sometimes people are very talkative online and not really talkative in realife) maybe take her to some place where it involves less talking like perhaps to a movie or something xD.
All in all be yourself, if you're gonna act a way that you are forced into because of her, don't.
Just behave like yourself don't think too much when you talk because thinking too much will result in you being nervous. If she later ditches you for another guy just think its her loss ;p.
I guess I'm that one guy that's not chasing her.
Oh yeah, posting a pic of her on a forum is kind of weird, I admit XD I doubt anyone would know about it though(especially where I live, I'm like the only one who plays Starcraft/follows the pro scene). Unless of course, someone else in the Rio Grande Valley follows the pro scene and browses TL? =OO!!
About that date thing... rofl, that'd be awkward. I'm talkative IRL and on MSN btw, some people say I either talk too much or don't talk at all(it depends on the situation, or what mood I'm in...(I usually prattle though; people tell me I talk about stupid things like why braille is put under signs for the Restroom(srsly, how the hell is the blind person going to find the braille? Sense?) When people tell me this I say they're stupid because what else am I going to talk about? I feel stuff like "Oh, did you hear about [insert even here]?" conversations or "It's [insert weather here]" or "I feel[insert mood here]" conversations are really bland and generic so I like to talk about different things.
What does a guy say when a girl asks you out? I'd probably giggle like a little girl or blush hardcore XD What do I do after that though? Walk her to class?
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Sounds like you are really young and really inexperienced. There is no way you are going to be an expert in love over night, no matter how many bits of advice you read. It's like BW in that the best way to learn is to just go for it. She's cute, she seems to like you, you seem to like her, so just try it out and see what happens. Realistically, it probably won't last anyway, so just go into it, enjoy it for whatever it turns out to be, and learn from it.
Ask her out to tea, a meal, a walk, a movie, an activity (bowling, billiards, darts, etc), whatever.
The idea of a good boyfriend is different for different people. Don't worry about being perfect, because one person's idea of perfect is another person's idea of lame. Just be who you are (of course, be compassionate and considerate too...) and you'll be fine.
Just go with the flow.
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