Ahhh good, now that I've drawn you into my blog with that infamous Girl Blog tag, I can finally enlighten you. My reputation as a fictional story writer must be well known throughout TeamLiquid. Pay that no mind for this story is entirely nonfictional. Also, it's more of a nice story than PuppyKiller's mess that he started (wtf's up with that shit). Nothing very dramatic about this story.
It started a week ago or so, during which my college classes had just started. I was eating lunch in one of the campus restaurants by myself, as none of my friends went to the same college that I went to. As I'm eating, this girl (who was in my group for the mandatory college introductory seminar) comes up to me.
"Hey, weren't you in my group? Epishade, right?" She asks. I'm surprised she even remembers my name from a 1 day overnight stay from 3 months ago. I didn't remember hers at all.
"I believe you were, yes" I replied.
"Nice seeing you." And then she left to eat with her friend at another table. Had she been eating alone, I would have offered her some company, but I wouldn't want to intrude on her meal she was enjoying with her friend. It's just not me.
Over the next week and a half, she would wave at me and say hi when we saw each other around campus. She also shared a lecture hall business class with me, so she'd wave to me in there too while still sitting with her friend a row or two away from me.
Today though, she decided to sit a seat away from me (so there was 1 seat in-between us) and said hello again. She told me how she accidentally forgot to come to class on Tuesday because she read her schedule wrong. She said she thought TR meant she only had class Thursday, when the R alone stood for Thursday.
"Yeah, I saw that too. Almost got me as well" I said. I did actually have the same thought as her, but I had a printed schedule that showed me exactly what days I had to come. I continued with "I'm sorry to admit this, but I don't quite remember your name from the introduction". No problem there. I worded it very excellently if I do say so myself.
"It's Lauren" she told me. I wrote it down inconspicuously so I wouldn't forget (I do this for most people). This was when I made my move.
"So Lauren," I said. "Shot in the dark here. Are you interested in going out with me at all?" She looked kind of shocked. Definitely not the reaction I expected. After a few seconds of silence: "I'm sorry, I already have a boyfriend."
"Ah, I see." I said, disappointed but glad I asked. Then I said it...
"And you're sure you don't want another?"
LOL. Almost straight from Johny Bravo himself (he actually said, "Well, you look like the kind of girl that could use two" in response to the "I have a boyfriend" line).
"Yeah, I'm sure..." She said after another few seconds.
"I joke, I joke" I said, but I'm not sure if it did any good. She started looking at her phone, possibly as a way to ignore me (but I'll never know the truth). I wanted to continue the conversation a bit so I asked her what she wanted to do in business, such as marketing/accounting/etc. She told me marketing but didn't say much after that. Class was about to start and somebody sat between us a few minutes after that anyways.
I couldn't stop thinking about what I said to her throughout class. It was hilarious! I had a smile on my face just thinking about it. But don't get me wrong, TL. I had to know. And now I do! I'm really glad I asked, even though I have no idea what she thinks of me now. At least now I don't have to worry about it any more. Plus, at least I know her name now. That's important to me too, as it's always nice to greet people by name when you see them around campus (I hope she wouldn't think it too awkward for me to still talk to her after that).
Glad I took that chance though. Feels good, especially if you're someone not entirely used to talking with people.
If its a high school boyfriend, your in dude. Just keep breaking down the wall. If it couldn't keep the Germans divided, it definitely won't keep the two of them together
On August 28 2013 09:37 leo23 wrote: dude i just fucking laughed like a maniac holy shit hahaha... hopefully you try more of these I would love to see those results
Well, there is this one other girl I've been keeping my eye on as well...
On August 28 2013 09:37 leo23 wrote: dude i just fucking laughed like a maniac holy shit hahaha... hopefully you try more of these I would love to see those results
Well, there is this one other girl I've been keeping my eye on as well...
"Interested in going out with me sometime?" "Sure! I don't have any plans this weekend." "Oh really? That's a shame, I only go out with girls who already have boyfriends."
On August 28 2013 09:37 leo23 wrote: dude i just fucking laughed like a maniac holy shit hahaha... hopefully you try more of these I would love to see those results
Well, there is this one other girl I've been keeping my eye on as well...
Why do bad things happen to tasty people?
Also your last blog didn't get nearly the attention it deserved.
On August 28 2013 09:37 leo23 wrote: dude i just fucking laughed like a maniac holy shit hahaha... hopefully you try more of these I would love to see those results
Well, there is this one other girl I've been keeping my eye on as well...
Why do bad things happen to tasty people?
Also your last blog didn't get nearly the attention it deserved.
The shot in the dark was out of line. You didn't really build any rapport first, otherwise it would have worked. I doubt she even has a bf. It's good being confident and getting to the point, but you can't just skip steps 2-3-4 to get the 'number close' most of the time.
On August 28 2013 12:09 MarlieChurphy wrote: The shot in the dark was out of line. You didn't really build any rapport first, otherwise it would have worked. I doubt she even has a bf. It's good being confident and getting to the point, but you can't just skip steps 2-3-4 to get the 'number close' most of the time.
Also I disagree that it was out of line. She was the one who was sending signals toward me. Was I supposed to play oblivious to her striking up conversations with me, waving, and then finally sitting (almost) next to me? Maybe she'd have assumed I wasn't interested if I kept that up for too long. Or maybe I'd have friendzoned her. Who knows? I really don't see her all that much outside of class anyways to make the shot in the dark not worth it. Besides, I'll still continue being friendly toward her anyways when I see her around.
It's not always about success. Sometimes you just have to take that chance. I don't care I got turned down.
On August 28 2013 12:09 MarlieChurphy wrote: The shot in the dark was out of line. You didn't really build any rapport first, otherwise it would have worked. I doubt she even has a bf. It's good being confident and getting to the point, but you can't just skip steps 2-3-4 to get the 'number close' most of the time.
Also I disagree that it was out of line. She was the one who was sending signals toward me. Was I supposed to play oblivious to her striking up conversations with me, waving, and then finally sitting (almost) next to me? Maybe she'd have assumed I wasn't interested if I kept that up for too long. Or maybe I'd have friendzoned her. Who knows? I really don't see her all that much outside of class anyways to make the shot in the dark not worth it. Besides, I'll still continue being friendly toward her anyways when I see her around.
It's not always about success. Sometimes you just have to take that chance. I don't care I got turned down.
I agree, it seems like she was goin for it. Good thing you got that cleared up!
On August 28 2013 12:09 MarlieChurphy wrote: The shot in the dark was out of line. You didn't really build any rapport first, otherwise it would have worked. I doubt she even has a bf. It's good being confident and getting to the point, but you can't just skip steps 2-3-4 to get the 'number close' most of the time.
Also I disagree that it was out of line. She was the one who was sending signals toward me. Was I supposed to play oblivious to her striking up conversations with me, waving, and then finally sitting (almost) next to me? Maybe she'd have assumed I wasn't interested if I kept that up for too long. Or maybe I'd have friendzoned her. Who knows? I really don't see her all that much outside of class anyways to make the shot in the dark not worth it. Besides, I'll still continue being friendly toward her anyways when I see her around.
It's not always about success. Sometimes you just have to take that chance. I don't care I got turned down.
I agree, it seems like she was goin for it. Good thing you got that cleared up!
The fact that she turned him down pretty hard is probably a sign that she was never really sending signals in the first place, much less "goin for it." She sounds like she was just being friendly and OP misinterpreted it.
On August 28 2013 09:00 Battleaxe wrote: If its a high school boyfriend, your in dude. Just keep breaking down the wall. If it couldn't keep the Germans divided, it definitely won't keep the two of them together
On August 28 2013 18:02 739 wrote: She wants the D. But she's too shy to admit.
That's the problem with girls man, you never can tell when they really do. Who knows, maybe OP's girl did since many girls use the "i have a boyfriend" excuse as quick defense mechanism.
Well, I could think of more embarassing answers to girl saying "I have a boyfriend". For example:
"Why would you suddenly change the topic?" "Are you familiar with the concept of opportunity cost?" "Oh, don't worry, I can handle that." "How fast do you think he can arrive here?" "My girlfriend once thought she had one too..." "Will there be any more castings yet?" "Yeah, I can tell that from the wedding dress."
That second line was a pretty good joke, whether you intended it to be or not. I didn't expect her to react so negatively, but I've never exactly been intuitive with these things so...
Hey man, definitely appreciate the more natural approach. What's not natural though is thinking/rationalizing her or your behaviors especially over a span of a few days. Next time you ever ask yourself, should I just go ask a girl out despite all odds? Just do it immediately after that thought crosses your mind or the next time you see her if you start liking her.
Try that line of thinking for a while, it could grow on you
Went to anime club today. I sat near the front and we were watching anime for about 2 hours before break time. I stayed in my seat and Lauren came up to me and started talking with me haha. Didn't even know she was in the club either. So I asked her what she thought of the club and she wasn't quite sure if she'd continue coming (she didn't like everyone yelling out during the shows. Neither did I tbh). Funny that we were both surprised to see each other there but I guess it looks like we're on good terms any ways.
After she talked with me though, she sat a few seats away from me with this one girl who showed up wearing bunny ears. I had originally changed my starting seat to move on the same row as her because nobody was sitting with her and she looked nice and I wanted a better look. I didn't end up talking with her at all, but maybe I'll strike up a conversation with her next time (if she shows up anyways). Now I think I'll ask Lauren if that was her friend she sat next to tomorrow in my business class.
On August 29 2013 06:20 THEPPLsELBOW wrote: Hey man, definitely appreciate the more natural approach. What's not natural though is thinking/rationalizing her or your behaviors especially over a span of a few days. Next time you ever ask yourself, should I just go ask a girl out despite all odds? Just do it immediately after that thought crosses your mind or the next time you see her if you start liking her.
Try that line of thinking for a while, it could grow on you
How is thinking/rationalizing someone's behaviors over a few days not rational? I thought what I did was hasty and much more forward than usual anyways. How would you know someone liked you without rationalizing their behaviors?
My decision to ask Lauren out came maybe 2 days before I actually did it. Of course, I had no idea that the opportunity would arise for me to actually ask though. Had she sat somewhere else instead of just a seat away from me, I likely wouldn't have made the effort to ask her.
On August 29 2013 12:30 catplanetcatplanet wrote: you sly dog you
Congratz on making a move, most guys can't do that unless they have a very high level of certainty that the girl will accept them. You are now more awesome that idk, 80% of guys? Some number... you can choose or not lol.
I think what your experiencing is something that used to happen to me a lot when I first started chatting up girls. It would go clearly bad, and I would rationalize the interaction as awesome as a way of coping with putting myself more out there than I was comfortable with.
That being said if you want to actually get a girl friend you might want to play it slow like most guys and get to know a girl and eventually ask her out.
On August 28 2013 12:09 MarlieChurphy wrote: The shot in the dark was out of line. You didn't really build any rapport first, otherwise it would have worked. I doubt she even has a bf. It's good being confident and getting to the point, but you can't just skip steps 2-3-4 to get the 'number close' most of the time.
Also I disagree that it was out of line. She was the one who was sending signals toward me. Was I supposed to play oblivious to her striking up conversations with me, waving, and then finally sitting (almost) next to me? Maybe she'd have assumed I wasn't interested if I kept that up for too long. Or maybe I'd have friendzoned her. Who knows? I really don't see her all that much outside of class anyways to make the shot in the dark not worth it. Besides, I'll still continue being friendly toward her anyways when I see her around.
It's not always about success. Sometimes you just have to take that chance. I don't care I got turned down.
I agree, it seems like she was goin for it. Good thing you got that cleared up!
The fact that she turned him down pretty hard is probably a sign that she was never really sending signals in the first place, much less "goin for it." She sounds like she was just being friendly and OP misinterpreted it.
But gg, good on OP for clearing it up.
Sorry, I didn't mean build up a deep freiendship. I meant shoot the shit with her in class, joke around, ask her a couple things; gauge her interest a bit more. Then at the end of class get her number or ask her on a date.
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