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I was showering when the 2 year old walked in and saw me. She asked what that, pointing to my penis and I told her it was my penis. She asked why it was in my but, I told her it wasn't. Apparently she thinks since her privates are next to her but that they are in her but, therefore mine must be in my but as well, even though they are obviously in the front. She asked me why was it there. I told her that's how men's and boy's privates are. She also asked what's that pointing to my balls and I told her that is my sack and that it has balls in it and it makes seeds. I also told her that is where I pee from. I told her I pee from the hole, pointing to it. She said "there is hole in there?" and I said "Yes."
She has done this a few times. Why is it she always asks the same questions? Is she trying to get some sort of confirmation that what I said before is true?Is the memory bank of her brain so underdeveloped that she doesn't remember doing this before? Her mother said she is playing a game. She told her mom she doesn't have one or as she says it "fwan." She told her mom that repeatedly and I told her she isn't supposed to have one. Children are naturally curious about almost everything around them. We should help them to learn especially about the human body so later on in life they are not confused. Better for their parents to teach the kids than some stranger in Biology class or "sex-ed" class.
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you realize that children don't even remember anything till they're 3 years old right
and 2 years old is not nearly old enough to understand any of this, nor is it necessary, you don't want your kid to be the one at school talking about dicks and balls
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On June 26 2013 22:40 Frits wrote:
you realize that children don't even remember anything till they're 3 years old right
and 2 years old is not nearly old enough to understand any of this, nor is it necessary, you don't want your kid to be the one at school talking about dicks and balls
Haha, I laughed at that. It's that age when kids are getting curious and they're discovering biological aspects.
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Is it wrong to teach your child to say "mommy give daddy a bee jay!"
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...maybe it's just me, but the idea of going out of your way to point to your "penis-hole" and explain that's where you piss from seems a bit less reasonable than simply answering her questions and moving on to diffuse the situation.
I'm not afraid of a child's (non-existent) sexuality at that age, and I certainly don't advocate lying, but the notion that you offer a grand view and exploration of your urethra makes me a bit uncomfortable.
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On June 26 2013 23:15 neSix wrote:
...maybe it's just me, but the idea of going out of your way to point to your "penis-hole" and explain that's where you piss from seems a bit less reasonable than simply answering her questions and moving on to diffuse the situation.
I'm not afraid of a child's (non-existent) sexuality at that age, and I certainly don't advocate lying, but the notion that you offer a grand view and exploration of your urethra makes me a bit uncomfortable.
Perhaps I'm wrong here but I feel this might simply be a difference in culture between america and europe, especially eastern europe. I think people in europe are a bit easier when it comes to these things and eastern europe even more so.
Ive never been in america though so good chance my perspective on this is skewed.
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On June 26 2013 22:35 ElizarTringov wrote:
I was showering when the 2 year old walked in and saw me. She asked what that, pointing to my penis and I told her it was my penis. She asked why it was in my but, I told her it wasn't.
I laughed so hard, then I realized it was a not a troll post. Still hilarious though.
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Yeah this is interesting. I like how you are being honest, but perhaps keeping things more basic, ie not talking about reproduction when she is aged two might be good.
Something like "yes mine different, i have boy parts, you have girl parts. makes pee come out~" thats what i'd do but i'd be all weirded out by the whole thing. I guess my point is, this is a sensitive issue... not everyone feels like he or she is adequately equipped. The penis seems superior sometimes... that's what i think...
Edit - despite my formal tone, i don't want my advice to be taken.. it's just my opinion that some of the information might confuse a kid at this age.. but everyone is different, so i think discretion is key.
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I'm very frank with my 21 month old son, too. I tell him stuff like he's a boy and he has a penis, and mommy's a girl and doesn't. I think he gets it, but he still points at my lack of a penis every time he sees me going to the bathroom and says "uh oh"
Toddlers!
But the way I see it, is that they're less looking for the actual information, and more going to react to your tone and mood. If I treat it the same way I treat any other question, he'll learn it's just another part of his body.
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I'm an Early Childhood Educator, and it's so good that you're using correct terms with your child (ex. penis and vagina instead of pee-pee hole -__-).
There is a stage in childhood called "gender identity" and its when they learn that they have a set gender (physically and emotionally) and it cannot change or they do not grow out of it. During this age, they are curious about physical differences between male and female (my classroom is a toddler room and they have shared bathrooms to spark the healthy curiosity).
As a parent, it's okay for you to answer questions that arises from your child, just don't take it beyond what they are asking. For example, if they ask what a penis is, you may describe to them what it does to help your body...not how you stick it in your wife and that's how they were born.
Children are active learners and seek knowledge for themselves, they do not sit around waiting for facts to be given to them. I hope that helps!
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On June 26 2013 22:35 ElizarTringov wrote:
She has done this a few times. Why is it she always asks the same questions?
Maybe you should've started earlier.
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Say that when you were small you asked too many questions, and that's how the thing grew out of your but.
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