OP, sorry for what happened to you. I'm lucky enough that I've never had a similar issue with cheating so I can't say what it's like but I can understand how difficult it would be and such. I do think you made a generalization about Japan based on what you experienced but again, I think that's pretty natural to do especially if you had a bad experience. Since this is the first blog post of ghostowl that I've read, I don't know his past history but I don't see anything particularly wrong with expressing his opinion. After all, this is a blog that he wanted to share. I don't really understand what's with everyone just deciding to attack the OP over his comments especially after he stated this in his 2nd post in the blog:
On May 10 2013 14:15 GhostOwl wrote: It was painful then, but it doesn't affect me now. I realize what I said is a generalization but its just my opinion from my experiences. Im just providing you guys a viewpoint of someone who has lived in both countries and dated girls from both society. Take my viewpoint with a grain of salt if u will
He even realizes he generalized but it's his experiences. You guys can politely agree or disagree for x reason and move on instead of clogging up his blog with useless comments like owned and such. Thanks for the blog OP! Some of us do appreciate hearing about your experiences and I do hope you'll write more
On May 16 2013 00:56 MaestroSC wrote: When OP never said anything about Mani and his success with women... Mani just felt he had to add in that he is married.
On May 10 2013 16:34 GhostOwl wrote: Why is a married man talking about game anyway?
On May 10 2013 19:45 Manifesto7 wrote: As for a married man talking about game, son, I won the game. That is why I am married.
quoting without context is meaningless.
He wasnt saying "well u have no game!" he was saying "why would a married man even talk about "having game" when most people take that as slang for hooking up with a multitude of women... Generally a guy who is with the same girl for a long time doesnt constitute having game or having anything to do with "having game"
Ok, sure, I shall explain: You said
On May 16 2013 00:56 MaestroSC wrote: When OP never said anything about Mani and his success with women... Mani just felt he had to add in that he is married.
when in reality it was GhostOwl who broght up the topic of Mani being married as seen in
On May 10 2013 16:34 GhostOwl wrote: Why is a married man talking about game anyway?
to which Mani responded with
On May 10 2013 19:45 Manifesto7 wrote: As for a married man talking about game, son, I won the game. That is why I am married.
On May 12 2013 00:29 GhostOwl wrote: The game is picking up many women, not settling down with one.
Ohhhhhhh, so you're one of those kids.
On May 14 2013 23:33 Ianuus wrote:
On May 12 2013 02:17 GhostOwl wrote:
On May 12 2013 02:08 babylon wrote:
On May 12 2013 00:29 GhostOwl wrote: The game is picking up many women, not settling down with one.
Ohhhhhhh, so you're one of those kids.
I'm just defining what the term means.
Yeah, and this is what defines you as a douche. Sorry brah, all your "look at how much game I got I'm so alpha" shit ain't impressin' nobody.
what are you guys, stupid? mani's the one that brought up "game." ghostowl is just explaining how he defines game and why he feels mani's statement doesn't apply to him
learn to pay attention please
disclaimer: my post has nothing to do with agreeing with OP and everything to do with people bandwagon hating on OP just because they see a mod do it
Mani didn't brag about getting so much game. He bragged about being a married man.
i don't care what mani is bragging about, mani bragging about marrying some chick has nothing to do with OP bragging about game or being alpha, which is what you accused him of
Who typed "ame" after "g" first has nothing to do with why OP is a douche.
sure it does; '"look at how much game I got I'm so alpha" shit ain't impressin' nobody.' you are using that as an insult to the OP, but he wasn't here bragging about game or alpha - the only context you have of him saying anything about game is in response to someone talking about his lack thereof
Learn to think a bit deeper than "hurr durr who posted what when" please.
learn to read what people are saying before insulting them for it, please
Wait a second, what?
On May 10 2013 16:34 GhostOwl wrote: P.S. I believe I do have game: + Show Spoiler +
Every dot except 2 was a date.
"Every dot except 2 was a date". How is that not bragging about how much game he's got? What Mani said to provoke that response is irrelevant - it's pretty evident that that was a throwaway ad-hominem, and not what Mani was accusing him of (which was the "sweeping culture generalisations" he mentioned, a fact which everyone seems to be ignoring). He could have chosen to either ignore it for what it is - general banter - or respond to it in any number of different ways. Instead, he chose to show you a calendar listing all his dates. If that's not "bragging about game" to you, then you should probably consult a doctor about possible autism spectrum disorders.
On May 16 2013 00:56 MaestroSC wrote: maybe English is his 2nd language?
Yes, in fact it actually is. Yet somehow, I still manage to construct grammatically correct sentences and clauses with subjects, something which I see yet eludes you. How sad.
On May 12 2013 00:29 GhostOwl wrote: The game is picking up many women, not settling down with one.
Ohhhhhhh, so you're one of those kids.
On May 14 2013 23:33 Ianuus wrote:
On May 12 2013 02:17 GhostOwl wrote:
On May 12 2013 02:08 babylon wrote:
On May 12 2013 00:29 GhostOwl wrote: The game is picking up many women, not settling down with one.
Ohhhhhhh, so you're one of those kids.
I'm just defining what the term means.
Yeah, and this is what defines you as a douche. Sorry brah, all your "look at how much game I got I'm so alpha" shit ain't impressin' nobody.
what are you guys, stupid? mani's the one that brought up "game." ghostowl is just explaining how he defines game and why he feels mani's statement doesn't apply to him
learn to pay attention please
disclaimer: my post has nothing to do with agreeing with OP and everything to do with people bandwagon hating on OP just because they see a mod do it
Mani didn't brag about getting so much game. He bragged about being a married man.
i don't care what mani is bragging about, mani bragging about marrying some chick has nothing to do with OP bragging about game or being alpha, which is what you accused him of
Who typed "ame" after "g" first has nothing to do with why OP is a douche.
sure it does; '"look at how much game I got I'm so alpha" shit ain't impressin' nobody.' you are using that as an insult to the OP, but he wasn't here bragging about game or alpha - the only context you have of him saying anything about game is in response to someone talking about his lack thereof
Your analysis is shallow and flawed.
that statement is frivolous and wrong
Learn to think a bit deeper than "hurr durr who posted what when" please.
learn to read what people are saying before insulting them for it, please
On May 10 2013 16:34 GhostOwl wrote: P.S. I believe I do have game: + Show Spoiler +
Every dot except 2 was a date.
"Every dot except 2 was a date". How is that not bragging about how much game he's got?
how is it bragging? that's just providing evidence to the contrary of mani's statement
What Mani said to provoke that response is irrelevant
it's definitely relevant. it's actually so relevant that the topic of game most likely would never have come up without mani bringing it up
(which was the "sweeping culture generalisations" he mentioned, a fact which everyone seems to be ignoring).
i ignore it because i know very little of the japanese culture and have nothing to say about those "sweeping culture generalisations"
He could have chosen to either ignore it for what it is - general banter - or respond to it in any number of different ways. Instead, he chose to show you a calendar listing all his dates.
i think you are confused about what bragging means. showing evidence is not necessarily bragging; on the internet everyone wants proof of everything for some reason
If that's not "bragging about game" to you, then you should probably consult a doctor about possible autism spectrum disorders
In the end it's just the OP being a whining baby because he can't fit into the society he lives in, he finds the wrong people and then generalises and seems to need to 'prove his ePeen' nonstop. Best we move along, and let him cry sadly about the Japanese girls that didn't like the overly alpha behaviour. Perhaps he has to compensate for something?
On May 16 2013 12:57 BigFan wrote: He even realizes he generalized but it's his experiences. You guys can politely agree or disagree for x reason and move on instead of clogging up his blog with useless comments like owned and such. Thanks for the blog OP! Some of us do appreciate hearing about your experiences and I do hope you'll write more
On May 16 2013 00:56 MaestroSC wrote:
When OP never said anything about Mani and his success with women... Mani just felt he had to add in that he is married.
Not once did OP brag about his success with women, just provided evidence that he is not a loser with no ability to get dates with women, which is what he was accused of.
Man defends himself from random baseless insults, and people take him defending himself as bragging? lolol.
Thanks guys. I didn't realize how much a thread would turn to shit if a mod starts hating on you.
On May 17 2013 00:37 Aelonius wrote: In the end it's just the OP being a whining baby because he can't fit into the society he lives in, he finds the wrong people and then generalises and seems to need to 'prove his ePeen' nonstop. Best we move along, and let him cry sadly about the Japanese girls that didn't like the overly alpha behaviour. Perhaps he has to compensate for something?
I never bragged about women, I just had to defend myself because Mani called me out for having no game. I DID generalize but I already said I was generalizing & thus just providing my viewpoint.
I don't know if I come off as whiny, but there are parts about Japan that I dislike, that I thought I would tell you guys firsthand since I live here. That is why this is in blogs. If you want me to only blog about positive things about Japan, I'm sure it will bore everyone. No country or location is perfect, and I'm blogging it to tell you guys about it incase you guys choose to go through the same path as I have.
I don't blame the society that I live in, I just admit that there are differences in cultures and explain my reasoning as to why it is so. I'm not angry about it, I'm in a healthy relationship with an amazing Japanese girl here, and I have started devoting all my time solely to her, and maybe considering even getting married.
Thanks for the positive mature comments, The negative comments are really putting me off from making another blog about Japan though. It's not like I gain anything for giving you guys free information and sharing my experiences. If the majority don't want to hear it, I won't say it.
On May 16 2013 23:12 LaSt)ChAnCe wrote: it's definitely relevant. it's actually so relevant that the topic of game most likely would never have come up without mani bringing it up
i think you are confused about what bragging means. showing evidence is not necessarily bragging; on the internet everyone wants proof of everything for some reason
Nope, not relevant. Let me tell you why - Mani brought up game, but he did it as a throwaway comment. OP responded by showing us all just exactly how much game he got - an over-the-top, disproportionate response. Bringing something up first isn't a necessary criterion for bragging; it is the nature of the comment itself which defines what is a brag and what isn't. I don't see how this is hard to understand.
This isn't wikipedia. No-one asked OP to cite his source on how many dates he's got. Mani didn't feel the need to scientifically prove that "OP has no game", but this comment burned OP so much that he just had to prove in the public arena that he did indeed have plenty of game. Obviously OP cares so much and is desperate to prove that he has said game, and immediately did so with vindicatory smugness - hence it is bragging.
In one of her rants, my racist grandmother told me that Koreans and Chinese come to Japan to try to steal and deceive Japanese women. I think she is right about one of them.
On May 10 2013 14:42 Manifesto7 wrote: Another foreigner in Japan that has no game and blames it on the culture through sweeping generalizations.
You know how I know this is true? When you called getting banned unfair, even though you have been warned/banned for the exact same thing multiple times. Your behaviour doesn't change (being a jerk/balance whine) the results don't change (get heartbroken/get banned) and your blame assessment doesn't change (fucking Japan/fucking mods).
But how about them tasty ramen noodles, amirite?
Why are you picking a fight with me? If you look at my most recent ban, it was a joke post, but the mod took it too seriously and thought I was complaining. Given my history, I'd say it's fair, but if it really was balance whining, I would have wrote out a detailed explanation to try to convince others.
Using the TL ban example to imply that my heartbreak is deserved is a real classy move, even from you. I also don't see why you try to say I have no game from my TL postings. Why is a married man talking about game anyway? Or does it sting you because you want to believe your Japanese wife will/won't cheat on you?
Anyway, if you have nothing kind to say, please don't say it. P.S. I believe I do have game: + Show Spoiler +
On May 16 2013 23:12 LaSt)ChAnCe wrote: it's definitely relevant. it's actually so relevant that the topic of game most likely would never have come up without mani bringing it up
i think you are confused about what bragging means. showing evidence is not necessarily bragging; on the internet everyone wants proof of everything for some reason
Nope, not relevant. Let me tell you why - Mani brought up game, but he did it as a throwaway comment. OP responded by showing us all just exactly how much game he got - an over-the-top, disproportionate response. Bringing something up first isn't a necessary criterion for bragging; it is the nature of the comment itself which defines what is a brag and what isn't.
providing evidence to the contrary of what someone says does not equate to bragging. you keep saying that it's a throwaway comment, but that is just an assertion by you and, as this is text, assuming a tone in someone's statement is dumb.
I don't see how this is hard to understand.
i noticed
This isn't wikipedia. No-one asked OP to cite his source on how many dates he's got.
doesn't matter - the population of teamliquid is well known for demanding proof for everything anyone says (slight exaggeration.) i understand you're relatively new here so i'll try to forgive you for not knowing that
Mani didn't feel the need to scientifically
who scientifically anything? you're trying too hard
prove that "OP has no game"
his implied proof is the thread's OP
but this comment burned OP so much that he just had to prove in the public arena that he did indeed have plenty of game.
experience with something generally increases your credibility when talking about it - it is relevant
Obviously OP cares so much and is desperate to prove that he has said game, and immediately did so with vindicatory smugness
i think that word does not mean what you think it means. i understand you're still hot about someone calling out your ESL earlier, but you're not impressing me with your misuse of uncommon words
On May 10 2013 14:42 Manifesto7 wrote: Another foreigner in Japan that has no game and blames it on the culture through sweeping generalizations.
You know how I know this is true? When you called getting banned unfair, even though you have been warned/banned for the exact same thing multiple times. Your behaviour doesn't change (being a jerk/balance whine) the results don't change (get heartbroken/get banned) and your blame assessment doesn't change (fucking Japan/fucking mods).
EPT
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