Hey guys, I promised to do a Japan blog but I got (unfairly) temp. banned. But I am back and ready to fulfill my promise. So this will be my first blog
I knew something was wrong. The usual phone call seemed unusual. Her voice was rather quiet, and her attitude was even more quiet. 'Mio, what's wrong?' I asked her in Japanese. She replies, 'nothing.' 5 more minutes of unusual awkward conversation ensues. Experiences have taught me that some Japanese girls will not tell you everything on their minds. I reach my breaking point. I say to her 'tell me why you are being so cold?' She skirts around the question by telling me its because of the cold weather. At that point, I knew it. Our relationship would soon come to an end. It was only a month of adventure, but franky, I was exhausted too. I felt that she had borderline personality disorder. She would easily get angry at me for no reason, and back to easily being happy. The breakup would be a blessing in disguise that I would realize only now.
During that week, I was very stressed. I still very much liked the girl, her breakup seemed to make no sense, especially when we had a recent happy date in Tokyo disneyland. Later that week, she told me she had simply lost feelings for me because she realized we are not compatible. Me, being a little pathetic sap I was, said that we could make it work. I could change. I asked for another chance. She simply refused. At that point, I wondered what was it that I did that messed everything up. I treated her nicely, and I felt I was fairly entertaining when we were dating. But later I realized it would not have made a difference.
I sat down and thought about a few things. A few things seemed not right. For one, there was a picture of her I took that she really liked. The day we broke up, she used the picture as her profile picture on a messaging app. On her facebook, there seemed to be photos of food and restaurants and scenary...all of which would have been perfect date photos. I would no way of knowing whether there was a guy with her because the photos did not show a person. It did cut off at a rather masculine arm, however. Few days after the breakup, I confronted her about her cheating on me. I told her I didn't have perfect evidence but everything would make much more sense if she found another guy and left me. She denied it while displaying harsh demeanor. When people lie, they seem much more emotional than usual. Her tone told me what I needed to know; I was right.
I told her she was a scum for cheating on me. Later that week, she uploaded photos of the guy she went on a date with on fb. Because we've only been going out for a month and a half, it didn't feel like hell, but it was still incredibly frustrating. It was also the first time a girl cheated on me. I stopped messaging her and told myself to forget about her. It was a lesson well learned. Before this experience, I was naive enough to believe that Japanese girls are less likely than Western girls to cheat. After this experience, I talked with some Japanese male friends who told me that cheating is rampant here.
There are three reasons for this.
For one, texting is way more dominant than calling here. When we meet new people here, we almost always text. Even during relationships, its rare to have relationships where you call each other daily. Phone charges / phone calling is expensive in cell phone plans here, and has only recently begun to break out of its shell with the increase in popularity with a free calling / texting app called LINE. When you text your girlfriend / boyfriend all the time, it's hard to know if they are out with another guy / clubbing.
For two, it seems to me that Japanese guys are not very faithful (just my opinion). When the guys are not faithful, it breeds the same nature on the girls who are cheated on. The trend of cheating うわき is something that worries me everytime I meet a girl here.
For three, its not as common as Western countries for you to introduce your girlfriend/boyfriend to your inner circle of friends. I don't know why they don't do this, but because your girl/guy is not connected to your friends, you don't hold a sense of guilt, there are no accountability check by your friends, and so on.
Before I came to Japan, I thought of Japanese girls as innocent and timid beings. I realize now, that an average Japanese girl is more likely to cheat on you as a girl back home in the States. They are not afraid to rip your heart apart. Of course, this is not the same for every girl, but after dating around and meeting a lot of girls here, this is the view that I have developed.
The nasty breakup wasn't the sole reason for me to develop this view, it's just stories of things happening to my friends here and living here that has really taught me this. I'm currently in a new healthy relationship here so it's not me being just bitter or whatnot.
If you're coming to Japan for the food / culture / experience, I recommend it. If you're coming here to meet your future wife / girl of your dreams, forget it. If you're coming here to try to get some easy sex, be prepared to get used to uglier girls (these tend to like foreigners...maybe desperation? I dont know) If you're coming here to work, forget it. Japanese work life is dull, inefficient, and terrible.
Anyway, please wait for my future Japan blogs on different things. If you want me to blog about something, please write in comments what you want to learn about.
Sorry about what happened to you, and it must really hurt. But don't you think you may be drawing sweeping generalizations about Japanese and American girls?
It was painful then, but it doesn't affect me now. I realize what I said is a generalization but its just my opinion from my experiences. Im just providing you guys a viewpoint of someone who has lived in both countries and dated girls from both society. Take my viewpoint with a grain of salt if u will
Another foreigner in Japan that has no game and blames it on the culture through sweeping generalizations.
You know how I know this is true? When you called getting banned unfair, even though you have been warned/banned for the exact same thing multiple times. Your behaviour doesn't change (being a jerk/balance whine) the results don't change (get heartbroken/get banned) and your blame assessment doesn't change (fucking Japan/fucking mods).
So why are you here? Did you come to meet your future timid wife? Want some easy sex? Gotta go with Manifesto on this one.
To be fair, the cheating prevalence thing is something that has crossed my mind in the past going by conversations I've had with people here. To me it seems like a symptom of relationships dragging out long past their use-by date. I wouldn't generalise like that though.
Yeah... I've been here for four years, and I don't agree.
I don't think cheating is that much more common here than elsewhere, at least not in my experience. Sure, there are the types that you are speaking of, but are you sure that you aren't the one finding the same type of girls?
You really find people who are texting with their boyfriend while they are on a date with another guy? I can't believe that there are too many of that kind, no matter of what country you're speaking of.
On May 10 2013 14:42 Manifesto7 wrote: Another foreigner in Japan that has no game and blames it on the culture through sweeping generalizations.
You know how I know this is true? When you called getting banned unfair, even though you have been warned/banned for the exact same thing multiple times. Your behaviour doesn't change (being a jerk/balance whine) the results don't change (get heartbroken/get banned) and your blame assessment doesn't change (fucking Japan/fucking mods).
But how about them tasty ramen noodles, amirite?
Oh manifesto.... I'm soo glad your back. And ramen noodles are supa good.
On May 10 2013 14:42 Manifesto7 wrote: Another foreigner in Japan that has no game and blames it on the culture through sweeping generalizations.
You know how I know this is true? When you called getting banned unfair, even though you have been warned/banned for the exact same thing multiple times. Your behaviour doesn't change (being a jerk/balance whine) the results don't change (get heartbroken/get banned) and your blame assessment doesn't change (fucking Japan/fucking mods).
But how about them tasty ramen noodles, amirite?
What other sound do you expect a GhostOwl to make than a whining?
Anyway, sucks to be cheated on but everything in your text was annoying. Japan is not Disneyland, other people pointed out already that your generalization are horrible.
You want generalization. No one is straight forward about anything in life. What we think is the only "liberty" we have. We all keep things quiet to avoid confrontation and that is keeping peace in the world.
On May 10 2013 14:42 Manifesto7 wrote: Another foreigner in Japan that has no game and blames it on the culture through sweeping generalizations.
You know how I know this is true? When you called getting banned unfair, even though you have been warned/banned for the exact same thing multiple times. Your behaviour doesn't change (being a jerk/balance whine) the results don't change (get heartbroken/get banned) and your blame assessment doesn't change (fucking Japan/fucking mods).
But how about them tasty ramen noodles, amirite?
Why are you picking a fight with me? If you look at my most recent ban, it was a joke post, but the mod took it too seriously and thought I was complaining. Given my history, I'd say it's fair, but if it really was balance whining, I would have wrote out a detailed explanation to try to convince others.
Using the TL ban example to imply that my heartbreak is deserved is a real classy move, even from you. I also don't see why you try to say I have no game from my TL postings. Why is a married man talking about game anyway? Or does it sting you because you want to believe your Japanese wife will/won't cheat on you?
Anyway, if you have nothing kind to say, please don't say it. P.S. I believe I do have game: + Show Spoiler +
On May 10 2013 14:27 ILuMiNaTe wrote: Whats your favorite kind of japanese food? And is Buddhism as strong there as it seems, particularly Zen Buddhism?
I love Yakisoba and sushi. Okonomiyaki is very good too. Honestly, I haven't been able to taste the difference between expensive sushi and cheap sushi. They are just really well made here. But if you go to a chain izakaya (drinking place where they serve food), you can find almost any Japanese food for low price.
I feel like Shinto is stronger but most people who DO believe in Shinto here will probably identify themselves as non-religious. It's more of a tradition/custom mindset than it is a religion to some people here. The funny thing about Japan is that it's hard to distinguish if a person believes in Shintoism or Buddhism here, even though they are two completely different religions. The culture here caters to both.
Stop worrying and be more interesting. More interesting is always better, even if you're already interesting. Don't take routine so much. Surprise her. Routine is a recipe for stale.
On May 10 2013 14:42 Manifesto7 wrote: Another foreigner in Japan that has no game and blames it on the culture through sweeping generalizations.
You know how I know this is true? When you called getting banned unfair, even though you have been warned/banned for the exact same thing multiple times. Your behaviour doesn't change (being a jerk/balance whine) the results don't change (get heartbroken/get banned) and your blame assessment doesn't change (fucking Japan/fucking mods).
But how about them tasty ramen noodles, amirite?
Why are you picking a fight with me? If you look at my most recent ban, it was a joke post, but the mod took it too seriously and thought I was complaining. Given my history, I'd say it's fair, but if it really was balance whining, I would have wrote out a detailed explanation to try to convince others.
Using the TL ban example to imply that my heartbreak is deserved is a real classy move, even from you. I also don't see why you try to say I have no game from my TL postings. Why is a married man talking about game anyway? Or does it sting you because you want to believe your Japanese wife will/won't cheat on you?
Anyway, if you have nothing kind to say, please don't say it. P.S. I believe I do have game: + Show Spoiler +
I encourage you to take a more nuanced view of men and women. Having one Japanese girl cheat on you, and taking that as a representative data for use in analyzing the whole of Japanese women, is bronze-level understanding.
It's as bad as playing a Protoss TvP who DT rushes you and then calling all Ps abusive cheesers. Never mind the fact that this is one player of many, never mind the fact that it's one game among millions played each day.
Apparently Japanese guys cheat a lot. Spot the key word. Texting is the preferred medium for communication (pretty standard) Japanese don't like to introduce partners to their friends (generalisation, with all your dates/short relationships I doubt it's the case. If you were worth showing off they definitely would.) Your Japanese gf of about a month 'might' have cheated on you (lol)
You don't even know she cheated. Maybe this other guy just asked her out and she realised he was a better deal and broke up with you to date with him? Going on your writing that seems quite plausible. You claim to have dated a lot of Japanese girls yet this is the first time you've been cheated on. So why the massive generalisation?
And then apparently: Japanese work life is dull, inefficient, and terrible and only the uglier girls will have sex with foreigners. Try not to blame an entire country for how shitty your job/love life is. Basic common sense/probability tells me there are almost certainly foreigners over there who love their jobs and sleep with beautiful women.
On May 10 2013 14:42 Manifesto7 wrote: Another foreigner in Japan that has no game and blames it on the culture through sweeping generalizations.
You know how I know this is true? When you called getting banned unfair, even though you have been warned/banned for the exact same thing multiple times. Your behaviour doesn't change (being a jerk/balance whine) the results don't change (get heartbroken/get banned) and your blame assessment doesn't change (fucking Japan/fucking mods).
On May 10 2013 14:42 Manifesto7 wrote: Another foreigner in Japan that has no game and blames it on the culture through sweeping generalizations.
You know how I know this is true? When you called getting banned unfair, even though you have been warned/banned for the exact same thing multiple times. Your behaviour doesn't change (being a jerk/balance whine) the results don't change (get heartbroken/get banned) and your blame assessment doesn't change (fucking Japan/fucking mods).
But how about them tasty ramen noodles, amirite?
Why are you picking a fight with me? If you look at my most recent ban, it was a joke post, but the mod took it too seriously and thought I was complaining. Given my history, I'd say it's fair, but if it really was balance whining, I would have wrote out a detailed explanation to try to convince others.
Using the TL ban example to imply that my heartbreak is deserved is a real classy move, even from you. I also don't see why you try to say I have no game from my TL postings. Why is a married man talking about game anyway? Or does it sting you because you want to believe your Japanese wife will/won't cheat on you?
Anyway, if you have nothing kind to say, please don't say it. P.S. I believe I do have game: + Show Spoiler +
Every dot except 2 was a date.
Not picking a fight with you, just pointing out that repeating the same behaviour generates the same results, whether it be posting on TL or picking women. Rather than blaming the environment, look within yourself to discover the change you need to experience a difference.
As for a married man talking about game, son, I won the game. That is why I am married. + Show Spoiler +
Congrats on all those blue dots. All these red dots are days I slept next to my wife.
Everyone I know who went to Japan for a vacation brough a wife back home. Without even speaking Japanese. Granted, that's only three people, but still, what's up with that?
On May 10 2013 20:30 ven wrote: Everyone I know who went to Japan for a vacation brough a wife back home. Without even speaking Japanese. Granted, that's only three people, but still, what's up with that?
there is maybe a high concentration of japanese women who still aspire to be house wifes
You do know that in the United States girls will date multiple guys and not consider it cheating. I'm guessing it's the same situation here where you were taking the relationship way more seriously than she was. Not that I hope to ever be in that situation but I have been in worse situations. Even with the circular talk Japanese tend to do when there is a sore subject it seemed pretty obvious she wasn't into you.
On May 10 2013 14:42 Manifesto7 wrote: Another foreigner in Japan that has no game and blames it on the culture through sweeping generalizations.
You know how I know this is true? When you called getting banned unfair, even though you have been warned/banned for the exact same thing multiple times. Your behaviour doesn't change (being a jerk/balance whine) the results don't change (get heartbroken/get banned) and your blame assessment doesn't change (fucking Japan/fucking mods).
But how about them tasty ramen noodles, amirite?
Why are you picking a fight with me? If you look at my most recent ban, it was a joke post, but the mod took it too seriously and thought I was complaining. Given my history, I'd say it's fair, but if it really was balance whining, I would have wrote out a detailed explanation to try to convince others.
Using the TL ban example to imply that my heartbreak is deserved is a real classy move, even from you. I also don't see why you try to say I have no game from my TL postings. Why is a married man talking about game anyway? Or does it sting you because you want to believe your Japanese wife will/won't cheat on you?
Anyway, if you have nothing kind to say, please don't say it. P.S. I believe I do have game: + Show Spoiler +
Every dot except 2 was a date.
Not picking a fight with you, just pointing out that repeating the same behaviour generates the same results, whether it be posting on TL or picking women. Rather than blaming the environment, look within yourself to discover the change you need to experience a difference.
As for a married man talking about game, son, I won the game. That is why I am married. + Show Spoiler +
Congrats on all those blue dots. All these red dots are days I slept next to my wife.
gg no re,
I'm not sure why or for how long you're in Japan but making broad generalizations about any culture you are (potentially?) heavily invested in isn't too wise of a decision. It'll often muddle up your thought process and affect the relationships you make while living there. Having a preconceived notion about the type of people you will meet in a foreign land prior to travelling there only sets you up for a stark let-down.
It may be corny as fuck, but it's hackneyed because it holds truth, just be yourself and eventually you'll find someone who likes you for you. If it doesn't work then pick up and move on, don't dwell on the past or attempt to find reason or fault in someone else simply to justify why the milk spilled. 23 years in this world and I have yet to encounter it spilling by itself.
TL:DR: Relationships are like milk. Life is like a box of chocolates, what a tasty world we live in.
On May 10 2013 14:42 Manifesto7 wrote: Another foreigner in Japan that has no game and blames it on the culture through sweeping generalizations.
You know how I know this is true? When you called getting banned unfair, even though you have been warned/banned for the exact same thing multiple times. Your behaviour doesn't change (being a jerk/balance whine) the results don't change (get heartbroken/get banned) and your blame assessment doesn't change (fucking Japan/fucking mods).
But how about them tasty ramen noodles, amirite?
Why are you picking a fight with me? If you look at my most recent ban, it was a joke post, but the mod took it too seriously and thought I was complaining. Given my history, I'd say it's fair, but if it really was balance whining, I would have wrote out a detailed explanation to try to convince others.
Using the TL ban example to imply that my heartbreak is deserved is a real classy move, even from you. I also don't see why you try to say I have no game from my TL postings. Why is a married man talking about game anyway? Or does it sting you because you want to believe your Japanese wife will/won't cheat on you?
Anyway, if you have nothing kind to say, please don't say it. P.S. I believe I do have game: + Show Spoiler +
Every dot except 2 was a date.
Not picking a fight with you, just pointing out that repeating the same behaviour generates the same results, whether it be posting on TL or picking women. Rather than blaming the environment, look within yourself to discover the change you need to experience a difference.
As for a married man talking about game, son, I won the game. That is why I am married. + Show Spoiler +
Congrats on all those blue dots. All these red dots are days I slept next to my wife.
Hahahahaha BOOM.
Thanks for giving me the best line to shut someone the fuck up with.
On May 10 2013 14:42 Manifesto7 wrote: Another foreigner in Japan that has no game and blames it on the culture through sweeping generalizations.
You know how I know this is true? When you called getting banned unfair, even though you have been warned/banned for the exact same thing multiple times. Your behaviour doesn't change (being a jerk/balance whine) the results don't change (get heartbroken/get banned) and your blame assessment doesn't change (fucking Japan/fucking mods).
But how about them tasty ramen noodles, amirite?
Oh God, Manifesto7 just brings seven levels of PAIN right here.
Dat dere cutting insight.
On May 10 2013 13:26 GhostOwl wrote: Before I came to Japan, I thought of Japanese girls as innocent and timid beings. I realize now, that an average Japanese girl is more likely to cheat on you as a girl back home in the States. They are not afraid to rip your heart apart. Of course, this is not the same for every girl, but after dating around and meeting a lot of girls here, this is the view that I have developed.
This kind of applies to any naive and unrealistic person who is prone to making absurd generalisations. For example:
Before I grew up, I thought of men as charming and caring beings. I realize now, that an average man is more likely to cheat on you than a Disney Prince. They are not afraid to rip your heart apart. Of course, this is not the same for every guy, but after dating around and meeting a lot of guys, this is the view that I have developed.
On May 10 2013 14:42 Manifesto7 wrote: Another foreigner in Japan that has no game and blames it on the culture through sweeping generalizations.
You know how I know this is true? When you called getting banned unfair, even though you have been warned/banned for the exact same thing multiple times. Your behaviour doesn't change (being a jerk/balance whine) the results don't change (get heartbroken/get banned) and your blame assessment doesn't change (fucking Japan/fucking mods).
But how about them tasty ramen noodles, amirite?
Why are you picking a fight with me? If you look at my most recent ban, it was a joke post, but the mod took it too seriously and thought I was complaining. Given my history, I'd say it's fair, but if it really was balance whining, I would have wrote out a detailed explanation to try to convince others.
Using the TL ban example to imply that my heartbreak is deserved is a real classy move, even from you. I also don't see why you try to say I have no game from my TL postings. Why is a married man talking about game anyway? Or does it sting you because you want to believe your Japanese wife will/won't cheat on you?
Anyway, if you have nothing kind to say, please don't say it. P.S. I believe I do have game: + Show Spoiler +
Every dot except 2 was a date.
Not picking a fight with you, just pointing out that repeating the same behaviour generates the same results, whether it be posting on TL or picking women. Rather than blaming the environment, look within yourself to discover the change you need to experience a difference.
As for a married man talking about game, son, I won the game. That is why I am married. + Show Spoiler +
Congrats on all those blue dots. All these red dots are days I slept next to my wife.
Hahahahaha BOOM.
Thanks for giving me the best line to shut someone the fuck up with.
LOL Mani-owned, with those fakesteve MS paint skills
On May 10 2013 14:42 Manifesto7 wrote: Another foreigner in Japan that has no game and blames it on the culture through sweeping generalizations.
You know how I know this is true? When you called getting banned unfair, even though you have been warned/banned for the exact same thing multiple times. Your behaviour doesn't change (being a jerk/balance whine) the results don't change (get heartbroken/get banned) and your blame assessment doesn't change (fucking Japan/fucking mods).
But how about them tasty ramen noodles, amirite?
Why are you picking a fight with me? If you look at my most recent ban, it was a joke post, but the mod took it too seriously and thought I was complaining. Given my history, I'd say it's fair, but if it really was balance whining, I would have wrote out a detailed explanation to try to convince others.
Using the TL ban example to imply that my heartbreak is deserved is a real classy move, even from you. I also don't see why you try to say I have no game from my TL postings. Why is a married man talking about game anyway? Or does it sting you because you want to believe your Japanese wife will/won't cheat on you?
Anyway, if you have nothing kind to say, please don't say it. P.S. I believe I do have game: + Show Spoiler +
Every dot except 2 was a date.
Not picking a fight with you, just pointing out that repeating the same behaviour generates the same results, whether it be posting on TL or picking women. Rather than blaming the environment, look within yourself to discover the change you need to experience a difference.
As for a married man talking about game, son, I won the game. That is why I am married. + Show Spoiler +
Congrats on all those blue dots. All these red dots are days I slept next to my wife.
I have a good question for the OP... Has he ever heard of the Hague Convention of 1980 in regards to the Civil Aspects of international parental abduction?
I'm not trying to breed hate here, but this predisposes me to not support Japan on 9/10 international issues (it's not a matter of people, it's a matter of politics), and I urge you to be extremely careful with any woman that you get in to a serious relationship with.
On May 10 2013 14:42 Manifesto7 wrote: Another foreigner in Japan that has no game and blames it on the culture through sweeping generalizations.
You know how I know this is true? When you called getting banned unfair, even though you have been warned/banned for the exact same thing multiple times. Your behaviour doesn't change (being a jerk/balance whine) the results don't change (get heartbroken/get banned) and your blame assessment doesn't change (fucking Japan/fucking mods).
But how about them tasty ramen noodles, amirite?
Why are you picking a fight with me? If you look at my most recent ban, it was a joke post, but the mod took it too seriously and thought I was complaining. Given my history, I'd say it's fair, but if it really was balance whining, I would have wrote out a detailed explanation to try to convince others.
Using the TL ban example to imply that my heartbreak is deserved is a real classy move, even from you. I also don't see why you try to say I have no game from my TL postings. Why is a married man talking about game anyway? Or does it sting you because you want to believe your Japanese wife will/won't cheat on you?
Anyway, if you have nothing kind to say, please don't say it. P.S. I believe I do have game: + Show Spoiler +
Every dot except 2 was a date.
Not picking a fight with you, just pointing out that repeating the same behaviour generates the same results, whether it be posting on TL or picking women. Rather than blaming the environment, look within yourself to discover the change you need to experience a difference.
As for a married man talking about game, son, I won the game. That is why I am married. + Show Spoiler +
Congrats on all those blue dots. All these red dots are days I slept next to my wife.
On May 10 2013 14:42 Manifesto7 wrote: Another foreigner in Japan that has no game and blames it on the culture through sweeping generalizations.
You know how I know this is true? When you called getting banned unfair, even though you have been warned/banned for the exact same thing multiple times. Your behaviour doesn't change (being a jerk/balance whine) the results don't change (get heartbroken/get banned) and your blame assessment doesn't change (fucking Japan/fucking mods).
But how about them tasty ramen noodles, amirite?
Why are you picking a fight with me? If you look at my most recent ban, it was a joke post, but the mod took it too seriously and thought I was complaining. Given my history, I'd say it's fair, but if it really was balance whining, I would have wrote out a detailed explanation to try to convince others.
Using the TL ban example to imply that my heartbreak is deserved is a real classy move, even from you. I also don't see why you try to say I have no game from my TL postings. Why is a married man talking about game anyway? Or does it sting you because you want to believe your Japanese wife will/won't cheat on you?
Anyway, if you have nothing kind to say, please don't say it. P.S. I believe I do have game: + Show Spoiler +
Every dot except 2 was a date.
Not picking a fight with you, just pointing out that repeating the same behaviour generates the same results, whether it be posting on TL or picking women. Rather than blaming the environment, look within yourself to discover the change you need to experience a difference.
As for a married man talking about game, son, I won the game. That is why I am married. + Show Spoiler +
Congrats on all those blue dots. All these red dots are days I slept next to my wife.
On May 10 2013 14:42 Manifesto7 wrote: Another foreigner in Japan that has no game and blames it on the culture through sweeping generalizations.
You know how I know this is true? When you called getting banned unfair, even though you have been warned/banned for the exact same thing multiple times. Your behaviour doesn't change (being a jerk/balance whine) the results don't change (get heartbroken/get banned) and your blame assessment doesn't change (fucking Japan/fucking mods).
On May 10 2013 14:42 Manifesto7 wrote: Another foreigner in Japan that has no game and blames it on the culture through sweeping generalizations.
You know how I know this is true? When you called getting banned unfair, even though you have been warned/banned for the exact same thing multiple times. Your behaviour doesn't change (being a jerk/balance whine) the results don't change (get heartbroken/get banned) and your blame assessment doesn't change (fucking Japan/fucking mods).
But how about them tasty ramen noodles, amirite?
Why are you picking a fight with me? If you look at my most recent ban, it was a joke post, but the mod took it too seriously and thought I was complaining. Given my history, I'd say it's fair, but if it really was balance whining, I would have wrote out a detailed explanation to try to convince others.
Using the TL ban example to imply that my heartbreak is deserved is a real classy move, even from you. I also don't see why you try to say I have no game from my TL postings. Why is a married man talking about game anyway? Or does it sting you because you want to believe your Japanese wife will/won't cheat on you?
Anyway, if you have nothing kind to say, please don't say it. P.S. I believe I do have game: + Show Spoiler +
Every dot except 2 was a date.
Not picking a fight with you, just pointing out that repeating the same behaviour generates the same results, whether it be posting on TL or picking women. Rather than blaming the environment, look within yourself to discover the change you need to experience a difference.
As for a married man talking about game, son, I won the game. That is why I am married. + Show Spoiler +
Congrats on all those blue dots. All these red dots are days I slept next to my wife.
I went out on a date last night.
Beautiful girl. Spent 10 dollars at Wendy's and then played some video games. Still got laid in the end.
On May 10 2013 14:42 Manifesto7 wrote: Another foreigner in Japan that has no game and blames it on the culture through sweeping generalizations.
You know how I know this is true? When you called getting banned unfair, even though you have been warned/banned for the exact same thing multiple times. Your behaviour doesn't change (being a jerk/balance whine) the results don't change (get heartbroken/get banned) and your blame assessment doesn't change (fucking Japan/fucking mods).
But how about them tasty ramen noodles, amirite?
Why are you picking a fight with me? If you look at my most recent ban, it was a joke post, but the mod took it too seriously and thought I was complaining. Given my history, I'd say it's fair, but if it really was balance whining, I would have wrote out a detailed explanation to try to convince others.
Using the TL ban example to imply that my heartbreak is deserved is a real classy move, even from you. I also don't see why you try to say I have no game from my TL postings. Why is a married man talking about game anyway? Or does it sting you because you want to believe your Japanese wife will/won't cheat on you?
Anyway, if you have nothing kind to say, please don't say it. P.S. I believe I do have game: + Show Spoiler +
Every dot except 2 was a date.
Not picking a fight with you, just pointing out that repeating the same behaviour generates the same results, whether it be posting on TL or picking women. Rather than blaming the environment, look within yourself to discover the change you need to experience a difference.
As for a married man talking about game, son, I won the game. That is why I am married. + Show Spoiler +
Congrats on all those blue dots. All these red dots are days I slept next to my wife.
∞/∞
i think i love you
Is that even a number?
On May 10 2013 13:26 GhostOwl wrote: If you're coming here to work, forget it. Japanese work life is dull, inefficient, and terrible.
On May 10 2013 14:42 Manifesto7 wrote: Another foreigner in Japan that has no game and blames it on the culture through sweeping generalizations.
You know how I know this is true? When you called getting banned unfair, even though you have been warned/banned for the exact same thing multiple times. Your behaviour doesn't change (being a jerk/balance whine) the results don't change (get heartbroken/get banned) and your blame assessment doesn't change (fucking Japan/fucking mods).
But how about them tasty ramen noodles, amirite?
Why are you picking a fight with me? If you look at my most recent ban, it was a joke post, but the mod took it too seriously and thought I was complaining. Given my history, I'd say it's fair, but if it really was balance whining, I would have wrote out a detailed explanation to try to convince others.
Using the TL ban example to imply that my heartbreak is deserved is a real classy move, even from you. I also don't see why you try to say I have no game from my TL postings. Why is a married man talking about game anyway? Or does it sting you because you want to believe your Japanese wife will/won't cheat on you?
Anyway, if you have nothing kind to say, please don't say it. P.S. I believe I do have game: + Show Spoiler +
Every dot except 2 was a date.
Not picking a fight with you, just pointing out that repeating the same behaviour generates the same results, whether it be posting on TL or picking women. Rather than blaming the environment, look within yourself to discover the change you need to experience a difference.
As for a married man talking about game, son, I won the game. That is why I am married. + Show Spoiler +
Congrats on all those blue dots. All these red dots are days I slept next to my wife.
On May 10 2013 19:45 Manifesto7 wrote: As for a married man talking about game, son, I won the game. That is why I am married.
Barney: Which one of us has more game? Marshall: Neither one of you has any game, right? Or else you'd be married. Like me. Barney: What? Marshall: If dating is the game, then marriage is winning the game. Ted: If you're playing in the women's league.
On May 10 2013 19:45 Manifesto7 wrote: As for a married man talking about game, son, I won the game. That is why I am married.
Barney: Which one of us has more game? Marshall: Neither one of you has any game, right? Or else you'd be married. Like me. Barney: What? Marshall: If dating is the game, then marriage is winning the game. Ted: If you're playing in the women's league.
LOL nice nice.
I thought Mani came across as a bit confrontational in his first comment but I suppose that kind of response is warranted.
On May 10 2013 22:53 Enders116 wrote: I have a good question for the OP... Has he ever heard of the Hague Convention of 1980 in regards to the Civil Aspects of international parental abduction?
I'm not trying to breed hate here, but this predisposes me to not support Japan on 9/10 international issues (it's not a matter of people, it's a matter of politics), and I urge you to be extremely careful with any woman that you get in to a serious relationship with.
what does child abduction have to do with japan's political stance on international issues? and be extremely careful with any woman (i'm assuming you mean japanese woman)? that should be for ANY person. if you don't understand, are very close with, trust, and love the person before you have a child with them, then you're making a serious mistake.
On May 10 2013 19:45 Manifesto7 wrote: As for a married man talking about game, son, I won the game. That is why I am married.
so so good
On May 10 2013 22:53 Enders116 wrote: I have a good question for the OP... Has he ever heard of the Hague Convention of 1980 in regards to the Civil Aspects of international parental abduction?
I'm not trying to breed hate here, but this predisposes me to not support Japan on 9/10 international issues (it's not a matter of people, it's a matter of politics), and I urge you to be extremely careful with any woman that you get in to a serious relationship with.
yeah be super careful every japanese female is just gonna come for your sperm and bolt for the motherland when the baby comes!!!!
The only thing funnier than Manifesto's stinging indictment of the OP is the abundance of hangers on trying to get some of the extra Mani milk off the already dry teet.
[Insert generic "OHHH NO HE DITINT! OH MAH GAWD HE DEEDDDD" here]
On May 11 2013 04:19 farvacola wrote: The only thing funnier than Manifesto's stinging indictment of the OP is the abundance of hangers on trying to get some of the extra Mani milk off the already dry teet.
[Insert generic "OHHH NO HE DITINT! OH MAH GAWD HE DEEDDDD" here]
whooaa do i smell a hint of jealousy here? if it's funny, then it's funny.
besides, there's no way on TL to "like" a comment, so you gotta post about it. sit back and enjoy the heat~
On May 10 2013 22:53 Enders116 wrote: I have a good question for the OP... Has he ever heard of the Hague Convention of 1980 in regards to the Civil Aspects of international parental abduction?
I'm not trying to breed hate here, but this predisposes me to not support Japan on 9/10 international issues (it's not a matter of people, it's a matter of politics), and I urge you to be extremely careful with any woman that you get in to a serious relationship with.
yeah be super careful every japanese female is just gonna come for your sperm and bolt for the motherland when the baby comes!!!!
For someone living with a Japanese national outside Japan this is a real and troubling issue. Men/women have little to no recourse if their partner decides to go back to Japan with the children, and Japanese people know it.
This is less of a problem for people who live in Japan, usually. Those that have residence status through work, or take the time to get permanent resident status aren't affected if a relationship goes sour. Those "in-betweeners" that are on a spousal visa are at risk though. That is why anyone staying long term needs to have the protection of permanent residency.
On May 10 2013 14:42 Manifesto7 wrote: Another foreigner in Japan that has no game and blames it on the culture through sweeping generalizations.
You know how I know this is true? When you called getting banned unfair, even though you have been warned/banned for the exact same thing multiple times. Your behaviour doesn't change (being a jerk/balance whine) the results don't change (get heartbroken/get banned) and your blame assessment doesn't change (fucking Japan/fucking mods).
But how about them tasty ramen noodles, amirite?
On May 10 2013 16:34 GhostOwl wrote:Why are you picking a fight with me? If you look at my most recent ban, it was a joke post, but the mod took it too seriously and thought I was complaining. Given my history, I'd say it's fair, but if it really was balance whining, I would have wrote out a detailed explanation to try to convince others.
Using the TL ban example to imply that my heartbreak is deserved is a real classy move, even from you. I also don't see why you try to say I have no game from my TL postings. Why is a married man talking about game anyway? Or does it sting you because you want to believe your Japanese wife will/won't cheat on you?
Anyway, if you have nothing kind to say, please don't say it. P.S. I believe I do have game: + Show Spoiler +
Every dot except 2 was a date.
On May 10 2013 19:45 Manifesto7 wrote: As for a married man talking about game, son, I won the game. That is why I am married. + Show Spoiler +
Congrats on all those blue dots. All these red dots are days I slept next to my wife.
OP got smoked. Then proceeds to abandon thread. Best thread of the month! I laughed! I cried! Thank you so much Mani!
On May 10 2013 22:53 Enders116 wrote: I have a good question for the OP... Has he ever heard of the Hague Convention of 1980 in regards to the Civil Aspects of international parental abduction?
I'm not trying to breed hate here, but this predisposes me to not support Japan on 9/10 international issues (it's not a matter of people, it's a matter of politics), and I urge you to be extremely careful with any woman that you get in to a serious relationship with.
what does child abduction have to do with japan's political stance on international issues? and be extremely careful with any woman (i'm assuming you mean japanese woman)? that should be for ANY person. if you don't understand, are very close with, trust, and love the person before you have a child with them, then you're making a serious mistake.
Ok, imagine for a minute that the same thing was said about Americans?
I'll just save you guys a non-pathos rant, and give you a simple, yet true story. I know a guy who married a woman that he met in university. Same university I went to. They got married in China (He was half Korean, she was full-blown Chinese, came from a family in china, etc.). The total time they knew each other before divorce: 5 years. Give or take. Of course the situation is more complicated than I make it sound, but was there no love, trust, or understanding between the two of them?
She got the kid when the divorce court was all over and done with, and thankfully, China still allows parents visitation rights, and has a divorce court system that is similar to that of America's - allowing shared residence for the Child. What is the point of me saying this? This can happen with any woman, regardless of nationality. I am simply trying to highlight the one and only situation that might set his apart from other countries in the near future.
Overall, I see things like "Texting is more important a form of communicating here in Japan." for example... when we're comparing G8 member states, I dont think we really need to compare anything. You compare this form of communication with your average Kenyan (who I imagine couldn't afford a cell phone), however, well, I think it would make more sense. I lived in China for over a year, I lived in Taiwan for 4 months. I'll be going to Korea next semester if my mother's health is fair enough. If anyone even begins to think for a minute that I am a different personality simply because I am a Caucasian, then I will immediately stop talking to them. Hell, sometimes I was in Taiwan and I would go to a place and I order food and I would get pissed when people think I don't speak Mandarin.
Overall, I'm just thinking that perhaps, just perhaps the OP should simply change the circle he's hanging with... Then again, I could see where some elements of this society have been normalized with media... I studied contemporary Japanese history with the semester that just passed.
On May 10 2013 22:53 Enders116 wrote: I have a good question for the OP... Has he ever heard of the Hague Convention of 1980 in regards to the Civil Aspects of international parental abduction?
I'm not trying to breed hate here, but this predisposes me to not support Japan on 9/10 international issues (it's not a matter of people, it's a matter of politics), and I urge you to be extremely careful with any woman that you get in to a serious relationship with.
what does child abduction have to do with japan's political stance on international issues? and be extremely careful with any woman (i'm assuming you mean japanese woman)? that should be for ANY person. if you don't understand, are very close with, trust, and love the person before you have a child with them, then you're making a serious mistake.
Ok, imagine for a minute that the same thing was said about Americans?
not sure i understand your point...
I'll just save you guys a non-pathos rant, and give you a simple, yet true story. I know a guy who married a woman that he met in university. Same university I went to. They got married in China (He was half Korean, she was full-blown Chinese, came from a family in china, etc.). The total time they knew each other before divorce: 5 years. Give or take. Of course the situation is more complicated than I make it sound, but was there no love, trust, or understanding between the two of them?
probably not? i mean, they had a divorce. there was clearly something wrong with the relationship that they could not resolve.
She got the kid when the divorce court was all over and done with, and thankfully, China still allows parents visitation rights, and has a divorce court system that is similar to that of America's - allowing shared residence for the Child. What is the point of me saying this? This can happen with any woman, regardless of nationality. I am simply trying to highlight the one and only situation that might set his apart from other countries in the near future.
well yeah, so we agree then. your original post made it sound like japanese women will steal your children.
Overall, I see things like "Texting is more important a form of communicating here in Japan." for example... when we're comparing G8 member states, I dont think we really need to compare anything. You compare this form of communication with your average Kenyan (who I imagine couldn't afford a cell phone), however, well, I think it would make more sense. I lived in China for over a year, I lived in Taiwan for 4 months. I'll be going to Korea next semester if my mother's health is fair enough. If anyone even begins to think for a minute that I am a different personality simply because I am a Caucasian, then I will immediately stop talking to them. Hell, sometimes I was in Taiwan and I would go to a place and I order food and I would get pissed when people think I don't speak Mandarin.
wait what? off topic? i don't see how this is relevant at all... but to respond anyway, why would you get pissed that people assume you don't speak chinese? it's a perfectly normal assumption. most white people don't speak chinese, so of course when i see a white person, i would assume they don't speak chinese.
Overall, I'm just thinking that perhaps, just perhaps the OP should simply change the circle he's hanging with... Then again, I could see where some elements of this society have been normalized with media... I studied contemporary Japanese history with the semester that just passed.
All I read is some entitled white kid wanting to get some of that submissive Asian ass and is disappointed that in 21th century such thing are no longer true...
On May 11 2013 22:42 haduken wrote: All I read is some entitled white kid wanting to get some of that submissive Asian ass and is disappointed that in 21th century such thing are no longer true...
1. I'm actually Korean American, I'm not some "entitled white kid" I've had to struggle with discrimination and racism all my life growing up in southern Georgia, so I'm actually the most far away from entitled you can get.
2. I didn't abandon thread
3. You guys really love sucking up to Mani don't you? He said he married, so he "wins" the game but technically if you're married, you quit the game. The game is picking up many women, not settling down with one. But go ahead and keep kissing his feet.
Anyway, I never came to Japan for this reason anyway. I didn't even try to talk about this subject until Mani started harrassing me. There are things about Japan that I like and dislike, and would love to talk about it in blogs instead of trying to defend myself against a classy mod and a group of his fanboys.
On May 11 2013 22:42 haduken wrote: All I read is some entitled white kid wanting to get some of that submissive Asian ass and is disappointed that in 21th century such thing are no longer true...
1. I'm actually Korean American, I'm not some "entitled white kid" I've had to struggle with discrimination and racism all my life growing up in southern Georgia, so I'm actually the most far away from entitled you can get.
2. I didn't abandon thread
3. You guys really love sucking up to Mani don't you? He said he married, so he "wins" the game but technically if you're married, you quit the game. The game is picking up many women, not settling down with one. But go ahead and keep kissing his feet.
Anyway, I never came to Japan for this reason anyway. I didn't even try to talk about this subject until Mani started harrassing me. There are things about Japan that I like and dislike, and would love to talk about it in blogs instead of trying to defend myself against a classy mod and a group of his fanboys.
pretty sure you play the game to meet a woman you can spend the rest of your life with...quitting the game is either turning gay (gay game is a lot different from straight game) or turning abstinent
On May 11 2013 22:42 haduken wrote: All I read is some entitled white kid wanting to get some of that submissive Asian ass and is disappointed that in 21th century such thing are no longer true...
1. I'm actually Korean American, I'm not some "entitled white kid" I've had to struggle with discrimination and racism all my life growing up in southern Georgia, so I'm actually the most far away from entitled you can get.
2. I didn't abandon thread
3. You guys really love sucking up to Mani don't you? He said he married, so he "wins" the game but technically if you're married, you quit the game. The game is picking up many women, not settling down with one. But go ahead and keep kissing his feet.
Anyway, I never came to Japan for this reason anyway. I didn't even try to talk about this subject until Mani started harrassing me. There are things about Japan that I like and dislike, and would love to talk about it in blogs instead of trying to defend myself against a classy mod and a group of his fanboys.
pretty sure you play the game to meet a woman you can spend the rest of your life with...quitting the game is either turning gay (gay game is a lot different from straight game) or turning abstinent
The game is a PUA term / hustling term and that's not about trying to meet your soulmate.
On May 11 2013 22:42 haduken wrote: All I read is some entitled white kid wanting to get some of that submissive Asian ass and is disappointed that in 21th century such thing are no longer true...
1. I'm actually Korean American, I'm not some "entitled white kid" I've had to struggle with discrimination and racism all my life growing up in southern Georgia, so I'm actually the most far away from entitled you can get.
2. I didn't abandon thread
3. You guys really love sucking up to Mani don't you? He said he married, so he "wins" the game but technically if you're married, you quit the game. The game is picking up many women, not settling down with one. But go ahead and keep kissing his feet.
Anyway, I never came to Japan for this reason anyway. I didn't even try to talk about this subject until Mani started harrassing me. There are things about Japan that I like and dislike, and would love to talk about it in blogs instead of trying to defend myself against a classy mod and a group of his fanboys.
pretty sure you play the game to meet a woman you can spend the rest of your life with...quitting the game is either turning gay (gay game is a lot different from straight game) or turning abstinent
The game is a PUA term / hustling term and that's not about trying to meet your soulmate.
On May 10 2013 22:53 Enders116 wrote: I have a good question for the OP... Has he ever heard of the Hague Convention of 1980 in regards to the Civil Aspects of international parental abduction?
I'm not trying to breed hate here, but this predisposes me to not support Japan on 9/10 international issues (it's not a matter of people, it's a matter of politics), and I urge you to be extremely careful with any woman that you get in to a serious relationship with.
yeah be super careful every japanese female is just gonna come for your sperm and bolt for the motherland when the baby comes!!!!
imo consider yourself lucky you find out your partner is a cheater BEFORE marriage. Tens of thousands of dollars and unfairly messed up children luckier.
The way I see it, you only get like 80 years on this planet, and half of them at least you will be washed up anyway. If you are single on your tax form, you are single.
He may not have put it very eloquently but there's a good deal of truth in the OP. Cheating is quite prevelant and doesn't really carry the same stigma as it does in the west. People here tend to stay in relationships until they find someone new, regardless of how disfunctional it may be. This means there's technically a lot of cheating going on but that's just how dating works here. Pretty much every girl I've dated here has been in a relationship when we met, and pretty much every girl I know is in one now whether or not they are looking for someone new. You can take the moral high ground and likely miss a lot of good opportunities or you can accept that this is a different culture than what we're used to, for better or worse.
On May 14 2013 12:40 futility wrote: He may not have put it very eloquently but there's a good deal of truth in the OP. Cheating is quite prevelant and doesn't really carry the same stigma as it does in the west. People here tend to stay in relationships until they find someone new, regardless of how disfunctional it may be. This means there's technically a lot of cheating going on but that's just how dating works here. Pretty much every girl I've dated here has been in a relationship when we met, and pretty much every girl I know is in one now whether or not they are looking for someone new. You can take the moral high ground and likely miss a lot of good opportunities or you can accept that this is a different culture than what we're used to, for better or worse.
It may just be the kind of girls you date. If you are okay with seeing girls while they are in relationships, then of course they're going to cheat on you. Maybe if you date girls who are outside that mold, you'll find something different.
On May 14 2013 12:40 futility wrote: He may not have put it very eloquently but there's a good deal of truth in the OP. Cheating is quite prevelant and doesn't really carry the same stigma as it does in the west. People here tend to stay in relationships until they find someone new, regardless of how disfunctional it may be. This means there's technically a lot of cheating going on but that's just how dating works here. Pretty much every girl I've dated here has been in a relationship when we met, and pretty much every girl I know is in one now whether or not they are looking for someone new. You can take the moral high ground and likely miss a lot of good opportunities or you can accept that this is a different culture than what we're used to, for better or worse.
Blindly agree with Mani or get out! Dont you know how TL works?
idk its hard to take "ban history" seriously when i was once banned for a blog because i share the same first name as Mani and he thought my old TL ID was too similar to his so he thought i was trolling him.... (and it was a perma ban that I had to get reversed)
IDK i just find it to rude to start with "Tho i know nothing about you, its clear that you are just a lame person who has no success with women"
and then people jump on and agree blindly simply because of who posted it.
Not saying OP is right... there are shitty people/girls everywhere, but to say his experience is a lie and means "You are shit with women" seemed like a bit of a random stretch.
Even TL post history doesnt make much sense as evidence I have hung out with people in TS who after a couple hours went "Holy shit your Maestrosc... usually you are so harsh on the forums" but maybe its cause I only post when i am fueled by passion?
idk cheers <3
idk I got banned once for commenting in a TL Blizzcon party thread that there were attendants who needed to Bathe and learn to groom themselves when they go out in public...(seriously u can tell when someone with a giant nerdfro hasnt changed clothes or bathed in days) but then he starts with "You have no game loser"
also wtf is with the racism... guy went from "Entitled white kid lookin for ez asian ass" to a Korean Loser because he is more interested in finding a wife than cheap ass....??
On May 11 2013 22:42 haduken wrote: All I read is some entitled white kid wanting to get some of that submissive Asian ass and is disappointed that in 21th century such thing are no longer true...
1. I'm actually Korean American, I'm not some "entitled white kid" I've had to struggle with discrimination and racism all my life growing up in southern Georgia, so I'm actually the most far away from entitled you can get.
2. I didn't abandon thread
3. You guys really love sucking up to Mani don't you? He said he married, so he "wins" the game but technically if you're married, you quit the game. The game is picking up many women, not settling down with one. But go ahead and keep kissing his feet.
Anyway, I never came to Japan for this reason anyway. I didn't even try to talk about this subject until Mani started harrassing me. There are things about Japan that I like and dislike, and would love to talk about it in blogs instead of trying to defend myself against a classy mod and a group of his fanboys.
You're the one calling all of this onto yourself by making broad, whiny generalizations. I feel sorry for the Japanese women who went out with you. PS: Going out with women in Asia isn't that hard, if you're half-nice.
On May 12 2013 00:29 GhostOwl wrote: The game is picking up many women, not settling down with one.
Ohhhhhhh, so you're one of those kids.
I'm just defining what the term means.
Yeah, and this is what defines you as a douche. Sorry brah, all your "look at how much game I got I'm so alpha" shit ain't impressin' nobody.
what are you guys, stupid? mani's the one that brought up "game." ghostowl is just explaining how he defines game and why he feels mani's statement doesn't apply to him
learn to pay attention please
disclaimer: my post has nothing to do with agreeing with OP and everything to do with people bandwagon hating on OP just because they see a mod do it
On May 15 2013 07:33 Aelonius wrote: You're the one calling all of this onto yourself by making broad, whiny generalizations. I feel sorry for the Japanese women who went out with you. PS: Going out with women in Asia isn't that hard, if you're half-nice.
Criticize someone for making generalizations then make a sweeping generalization about the women of an entire continent. Well done.
I feel like you shouldn't be putting blame on the country for your problems. Other than that, this has been an interesting read. Thank you for sharing.
On May 15 2013 07:33 Aelonius wrote: You're the one calling all of this onto yourself by making broad, whiny generalizations. I feel sorry for the Japanese women who went out with you. PS: Going out with women in Asia isn't that hard, if you're half-nice.
Criticize someone for making generalizations then make a sweeping generalization about the women of an entire continent. Well done.
thats going a bit far,all he said was along the lines of women in asia are the same that any women in the world,if youre half nice youll be alright.
i dont think saying asians are normal is a sweeping generalization
On May 15 2013 07:33 Aelonius wrote: You're the one calling all of this onto yourself by making broad, whiny generalizations. I feel sorry for the Japanese women who went out with you. PS: Going out with women in Asia isn't that hard, if you're half-nice.
Criticize someone for making generalizations then make a sweeping generalization about the women of an entire continent. Well done.
thats going a bit far,all he said was along the lines of women in asia are the same that any women in the world,if youre half nice youll be alright.
i dont think saying asians are normal is a sweeping generalization
if he had been talking about women in general and not just asians, he wouldve said "going out with women isnt that hard, if you're half nice"
the fact that he clearly specified "women in Asia" makes his meaning obvious.
I think there's a lot of truth in the OP. It's always easy to go "LOL ur making horrible accusations and generalisations, ur a racist" without realizing there's a cultural difference at work and generalizations can be true. Is it easier for white guys to get girls in Japan? Yes. It sounds like a dumb generalization, but anyone with experience will tell you that it's perfectly true. In the same fashion, I think a lot of people with insight will agree that japanese men have a higher probability of being unfaithful than a lot of western men. It's more of a patriarchal society, and lets not forget the whole aspect of business meetings often having girls/escort as a direct component.
Just because something is a generalization, and a negative one at that, doesn't make it untrue.
On May 11 2013 22:42 haduken wrote: All I read is some entitled white kid wanting to get some of that submissive Asian ass and is disappointed that in 21th century such thing are no longer true...
1. I'm actually Korean American, I'm not some "entitled white kid" I've had to struggle with discrimination and racism all my life growing up in southern Georgia, so I'm actually the most far away from entitled you can get.
2. I didn't abandon thread
3. You guys really love sucking up to Mani don't you? He said he married, so he "wins" the game but technically if you're married, you quit the game. The game is picking up many women, not settling down with one. But go ahead and keep kissing his feet.
Anyway, I never came to Japan for this reason anyway. I didn't even try to talk about this subject until Mani started harrassing me. There are things about Japan that I like and dislike, and would love to talk about it in blogs instead of trying to defend myself against a classy mod and a group of his fanboys.
To be fair, we're only hating on you because you have a history of blaming others for your problems. Like for me, the first thing I thought of when I saw your name was this blog: http://www.teamliquid.net/forum/viewmessage.php?topic_id=378593 And lo and behold, the first line of this blog is how you were "unfairly" banned. Your image on TL so far with your ~500 posts is that of a whiny adolescent.
To follow the opposite train of thought, Mani has a history of being a very mature, reasonable individual and I consider him to be one of the fairest mods on TL. So at least for me, it's less sucking up to Mani and more reinforcing my negative opinion about you.
(Also, this is not really relevant and you have a good point that it's not the kind of "entitled" that people were thinking of, but being a korean american in the US usually means you're pretty well off middle class. And dealing with racism in no way makes you somehow less "entitled". Not saying that you are! Just pointing that out.)
On May 12 2013 00:29 GhostOwl wrote: The game is picking up many women, not settling down with one.
Ohhhhhhh, so you're one of those kids.
I'm just defining what the term means.
Yeah, and this is what defines you as a douche. Sorry brah, all your "look at how much game I got I'm so alpha" shit ain't impressin' nobody.
what are you guys, stupid? mani's the one that brought up "game." ghostowl is just explaining how he defines game and why he feels mani's statement doesn't apply to him
learn to pay attention please
disclaimer: my post has nothing to do with agreeing with OP and everything to do with people bandwagon hating on OP just because they see a mod do it
Mani didn't brag about getting so much game. He bragged about being a married man. Who typed "ame" after "g" first has nothing to do with why OP is a douche. Your analysis is shallow and flawed. Learn to think a bit deeper than "hurr durr who posted what when" please.
On May 12 2013 00:29 GhostOwl wrote: The game is picking up many women, not settling down with one.
Ohhhhhhh, so you're one of those kids.
On May 14 2013 23:33 Ianuus wrote:
On May 12 2013 02:17 GhostOwl wrote:
On May 12 2013 02:08 babylon wrote:
On May 12 2013 00:29 GhostOwl wrote: The game is picking up many women, not settling down with one.
Ohhhhhhh, so you're one of those kids.
I'm just defining what the term means.
Yeah, and this is what defines you as a douche. Sorry brah, all your "look at how much game I got I'm so alpha" shit ain't impressin' nobody.
what are you guys, stupid? mani's the one that brought up "game." ghostowl is just explaining how he defines game and why he feels mani's statement doesn't apply to him
learn to pay attention please
disclaimer: my post has nothing to do with agreeing with OP and everything to do with people bandwagon hating on OP just because they see a mod do it
Mani didn't brag about getting so much game. He bragged about being a married man.
i don't care what mani is bragging about, mani bragging about marrying some chick has nothing to do with OP bragging about game or being alpha, which is what you accused him of
Who typed "ame" after "g" first has nothing to do with why OP is a douche.
sure it does; '"look at how much game I got I'm so alpha" shit ain't impressin' nobody.' you are using that as an insult to the OP, but he wasn't here bragging about game or alpha - the only context you have of him saying anything about game is in response to someone talking about his lack thereof
Your analysis is shallow and flawed.
that statement is frivolous and wrong
Learn to think a bit deeper than "hurr durr who posted what when" please.
learn to read what people are saying before insulting them for it, please
On May 12 2013 00:29 GhostOwl wrote: The game is picking up many women, not settling down with one.
Ohhhhhhh, so you're one of those kids.
On May 14 2013 23:33 Ianuus wrote:
On May 12 2013 02:17 GhostOwl wrote:
On May 12 2013 02:08 babylon wrote:
On May 12 2013 00:29 GhostOwl wrote: The game is picking up many women, not settling down with one.
Ohhhhhhh, so you're one of those kids.
I'm just defining what the term means.
Yeah, and this is what defines you as a douche. Sorry brah, all your "look at how much game I got I'm so alpha" shit ain't impressin' nobody.
what are you guys, stupid? mani's the one that brought up "game." ghostowl is just explaining how he defines game and why he feels mani's statement doesn't apply to him
learn to pay attention please
disclaimer: my post has nothing to do with agreeing with OP and everything to do with people bandwagon hating on OP just because they see a mod do it
Mani didn't brag about getting so much game. He bragged about being a married man.
i don't care what mani is bragging about, mani bragging about marrying some chick has nothing to do with OP bragging about game or being alpha, which is what you accused him of
Who typed "ame" after "g" first has nothing to do with why OP is a douche.
sure it does; '"look at how much game I got I'm so alpha" shit ain't impressin' nobody.' you are using that as an insult to the OP, but he wasn't here bragging about game or alpha - the only context you have of him saying anything about game is in response to someone talking about his lack thereof
Learn to think a bit deeper than "hurr durr who posted what when" please.
learn to read what people are saying before insulting them for it, please
maybe English is his 2nd language?
Because any1 with half a brain can read the thread follow exactly what happened
OP: Japanese girls suck
Mani: Your a loser with no game. Japanese people are awsome!
Mani Fans : LOL OWNED ZOMG MANI SO COOL OMG OP IS A LOSER LOLOLOL
OP: Actually I am not a loser, and I go out with plenty of women.
Mani: WELL IM MARRIED LOSER SO I AM > YOU
Mani Fans : ZOMG YOU SURE SHOWED HIM MANI! BOOM! MANI TOO COOL!
When OP never said anything about Mani and his success with women... Mani just felt he had to add in that he is married.
Not once did OP brag about his success with women, just provided evidence that he is not a loser with no ability to get dates with women, which is what he was accused of.
Man defends himself from random baseless insults, and people take him defending himself as bragging? lolol.
On May 16 2013 00:56 MaestroSC wrote: When OP never said anything about Mani and his success with women... Mani just felt he had to add in that he is married.
On May 10 2013 16:34 GhostOwl wrote: Why is a married man talking about game anyway?
On May 10 2013 19:45 Manifesto7 wrote: As for a married man talking about game, son, I won the game. That is why I am married.
On May 16 2013 00:56 MaestroSC wrote: When OP never said anything about Mani and his success with women... Mani just felt he had to add in that he is married.
On May 10 2013 19:45 Manifesto7 wrote: As for a married man talking about game, son, I won the game. That is why I am married.
quoting without context is meaningless.
He wasnt saying "well u have no game!" he was saying "why would a married man even talk about "having game" when most people take that as slang for hooking up with a multitude of women... Generally a guy who is with the same girl for a long time doesnt constitute having game or having anything to do with "having game"
OP, sorry for what happened to you. I'm lucky enough that I've never had a similar issue with cheating so I can't say what it's like but I can understand how difficult it would be and such. I do think you made a generalization about Japan based on what you experienced but again, I think that's pretty natural to do especially if you had a bad experience. Since this is the first blog post of ghostowl that I've read, I don't know his past history but I don't see anything particularly wrong with expressing his opinion. After all, this is a blog that he wanted to share. I don't really understand what's with everyone just deciding to attack the OP over his comments especially after he stated this in his 2nd post in the blog:
On May 10 2013 14:15 GhostOwl wrote: It was painful then, but it doesn't affect me now. I realize what I said is a generalization but its just my opinion from my experiences. Im just providing you guys a viewpoint of someone who has lived in both countries and dated girls from both society. Take my viewpoint with a grain of salt if u will
He even realizes he generalized but it's his experiences. You guys can politely agree or disagree for x reason and move on instead of clogging up his blog with useless comments like owned and such. Thanks for the blog OP! Some of us do appreciate hearing about your experiences and I do hope you'll write more
On May 16 2013 00:56 MaestroSC wrote: When OP never said anything about Mani and his success with women... Mani just felt he had to add in that he is married.
On May 10 2013 16:34 GhostOwl wrote: Why is a married man talking about game anyway?
On May 10 2013 19:45 Manifesto7 wrote: As for a married man talking about game, son, I won the game. That is why I am married.
quoting without context is meaningless.
He wasnt saying "well u have no game!" he was saying "why would a married man even talk about "having game" when most people take that as slang for hooking up with a multitude of women... Generally a guy who is with the same girl for a long time doesnt constitute having game or having anything to do with "having game"
Ok, sure, I shall explain: You said
On May 16 2013 00:56 MaestroSC wrote: When OP never said anything about Mani and his success with women... Mani just felt he had to add in that he is married.
when in reality it was GhostOwl who broght up the topic of Mani being married as seen in
On May 10 2013 16:34 GhostOwl wrote: Why is a married man talking about game anyway?
to which Mani responded with
On May 10 2013 19:45 Manifesto7 wrote: As for a married man talking about game, son, I won the game. That is why I am married.
On May 12 2013 00:29 GhostOwl wrote: The game is picking up many women, not settling down with one.
Ohhhhhhh, so you're one of those kids.
On May 14 2013 23:33 Ianuus wrote:
On May 12 2013 02:17 GhostOwl wrote:
On May 12 2013 02:08 babylon wrote:
On May 12 2013 00:29 GhostOwl wrote: The game is picking up many women, not settling down with one.
Ohhhhhhh, so you're one of those kids.
I'm just defining what the term means.
Yeah, and this is what defines you as a douche. Sorry brah, all your "look at how much game I got I'm so alpha" shit ain't impressin' nobody.
what are you guys, stupid? mani's the one that brought up "game." ghostowl is just explaining how he defines game and why he feels mani's statement doesn't apply to him
learn to pay attention please
disclaimer: my post has nothing to do with agreeing with OP and everything to do with people bandwagon hating on OP just because they see a mod do it
Mani didn't brag about getting so much game. He bragged about being a married man.
i don't care what mani is bragging about, mani bragging about marrying some chick has nothing to do with OP bragging about game or being alpha, which is what you accused him of
Who typed "ame" after "g" first has nothing to do with why OP is a douche.
sure it does; '"look at how much game I got I'm so alpha" shit ain't impressin' nobody.' you are using that as an insult to the OP, but he wasn't here bragging about game or alpha - the only context you have of him saying anything about game is in response to someone talking about his lack thereof
Learn to think a bit deeper than "hurr durr who posted what when" please.
learn to read what people are saying before insulting them for it, please
Wait a second, what?
On May 10 2013 16:34 GhostOwl wrote: P.S. I believe I do have game: + Show Spoiler +
Every dot except 2 was a date.
"Every dot except 2 was a date". How is that not bragging about how much game he's got? What Mani said to provoke that response is irrelevant - it's pretty evident that that was a throwaway ad-hominem, and not what Mani was accusing him of (which was the "sweeping culture generalisations" he mentioned, a fact which everyone seems to be ignoring). He could have chosen to either ignore it for what it is - general banter - or respond to it in any number of different ways. Instead, he chose to show you a calendar listing all his dates. If that's not "bragging about game" to you, then you should probably consult a doctor about possible autism spectrum disorders.
On May 16 2013 00:56 MaestroSC wrote: maybe English is his 2nd language?
Yes, in fact it actually is. Yet somehow, I still manage to construct grammatically correct sentences and clauses with subjects, something which I see yet eludes you. How sad.
On May 12 2013 00:29 GhostOwl wrote: The game is picking up many women, not settling down with one.
Ohhhhhhh, so you're one of those kids.
On May 14 2013 23:33 Ianuus wrote:
On May 12 2013 02:17 GhostOwl wrote:
On May 12 2013 02:08 babylon wrote:
On May 12 2013 00:29 GhostOwl wrote: The game is picking up many women, not settling down with one.
Ohhhhhhh, so you're one of those kids.
I'm just defining what the term means.
Yeah, and this is what defines you as a douche. Sorry brah, all your "look at how much game I got I'm so alpha" shit ain't impressin' nobody.
what are you guys, stupid? mani's the one that brought up "game." ghostowl is just explaining how he defines game and why he feels mani's statement doesn't apply to him
learn to pay attention please
disclaimer: my post has nothing to do with agreeing with OP and everything to do with people bandwagon hating on OP just because they see a mod do it
Mani didn't brag about getting so much game. He bragged about being a married man.
i don't care what mani is bragging about, mani bragging about marrying some chick has nothing to do with OP bragging about game or being alpha, which is what you accused him of
Who typed "ame" after "g" first has nothing to do with why OP is a douche.
sure it does; '"look at how much game I got I'm so alpha" shit ain't impressin' nobody.' you are using that as an insult to the OP, but he wasn't here bragging about game or alpha - the only context you have of him saying anything about game is in response to someone talking about his lack thereof
Your analysis is shallow and flawed.
that statement is frivolous and wrong
Learn to think a bit deeper than "hurr durr who posted what when" please.
learn to read what people are saying before insulting them for it, please
On May 10 2013 16:34 GhostOwl wrote: P.S. I believe I do have game: + Show Spoiler +
Every dot except 2 was a date.
"Every dot except 2 was a date". How is that not bragging about how much game he's got?
how is it bragging? that's just providing evidence to the contrary of mani's statement
What Mani said to provoke that response is irrelevant
it's definitely relevant. it's actually so relevant that the topic of game most likely would never have come up without mani bringing it up
(which was the "sweeping culture generalisations" he mentioned, a fact which everyone seems to be ignoring).
i ignore it because i know very little of the japanese culture and have nothing to say about those "sweeping culture generalisations"
He could have chosen to either ignore it for what it is - general banter - or respond to it in any number of different ways. Instead, he chose to show you a calendar listing all his dates.
i think you are confused about what bragging means. showing evidence is not necessarily bragging; on the internet everyone wants proof of everything for some reason
If that's not "bragging about game" to you, then you should probably consult a doctor about possible autism spectrum disorders
In the end it's just the OP being a whining baby because he can't fit into the society he lives in, he finds the wrong people and then generalises and seems to need to 'prove his ePeen' nonstop. Best we move along, and let him cry sadly about the Japanese girls that didn't like the overly alpha behaviour. Perhaps he has to compensate for something?
On May 16 2013 12:57 BigFan wrote: He even realizes he generalized but it's his experiences. You guys can politely agree or disagree for x reason and move on instead of clogging up his blog with useless comments like owned and such. Thanks for the blog OP! Some of us do appreciate hearing about your experiences and I do hope you'll write more
On May 16 2013 00:56 MaestroSC wrote:
When OP never said anything about Mani and his success with women... Mani just felt he had to add in that he is married.
Not once did OP brag about his success with women, just provided evidence that he is not a loser with no ability to get dates with women, which is what he was accused of.
Man defends himself from random baseless insults, and people take him defending himself as bragging? lolol.
Thanks guys. I didn't realize how much a thread would turn to shit if a mod starts hating on you.
On May 17 2013 00:37 Aelonius wrote: In the end it's just the OP being a whining baby because he can't fit into the society he lives in, he finds the wrong people and then generalises and seems to need to 'prove his ePeen' nonstop. Best we move along, and let him cry sadly about the Japanese girls that didn't like the overly alpha behaviour. Perhaps he has to compensate for something?
I never bragged about women, I just had to defend myself because Mani called me out for having no game. I DID generalize but I already said I was generalizing & thus just providing my viewpoint.
I don't know if I come off as whiny, but there are parts about Japan that I dislike, that I thought I would tell you guys firsthand since I live here. That is why this is in blogs. If you want me to only blog about positive things about Japan, I'm sure it will bore everyone. No country or location is perfect, and I'm blogging it to tell you guys about it incase you guys choose to go through the same path as I have.
I don't blame the society that I live in, I just admit that there are differences in cultures and explain my reasoning as to why it is so. I'm not angry about it, I'm in a healthy relationship with an amazing Japanese girl here, and I have started devoting all my time solely to her, and maybe considering even getting married.
Thanks for the positive mature comments, The negative comments are really putting me off from making another blog about Japan though. It's not like I gain anything for giving you guys free information and sharing my experiences. If the majority don't want to hear it, I won't say it.
On May 16 2013 23:12 LaSt)ChAnCe wrote: it's definitely relevant. it's actually so relevant that the topic of game most likely would never have come up without mani bringing it up
i think you are confused about what bragging means. showing evidence is not necessarily bragging; on the internet everyone wants proof of everything for some reason
Nope, not relevant. Let me tell you why - Mani brought up game, but he did it as a throwaway comment. OP responded by showing us all just exactly how much game he got - an over-the-top, disproportionate response. Bringing something up first isn't a necessary criterion for bragging; it is the nature of the comment itself which defines what is a brag and what isn't. I don't see how this is hard to understand.
This isn't wikipedia. No-one asked OP to cite his source on how many dates he's got. Mani didn't feel the need to scientifically prove that "OP has no game", but this comment burned OP so much that he just had to prove in the public arena that he did indeed have plenty of game. Obviously OP cares so much and is desperate to prove that he has said game, and immediately did so with vindicatory smugness - hence it is bragging.
In one of her rants, my racist grandmother told me that Koreans and Chinese come to Japan to try to steal and deceive Japanese women. I think she is right about one of them.
On May 10 2013 14:42 Manifesto7 wrote: Another foreigner in Japan that has no game and blames it on the culture through sweeping generalizations.
You know how I know this is true? When you called getting banned unfair, even though you have been warned/banned for the exact same thing multiple times. Your behaviour doesn't change (being a jerk/balance whine) the results don't change (get heartbroken/get banned) and your blame assessment doesn't change (fucking Japan/fucking mods).
But how about them tasty ramen noodles, amirite?
Why are you picking a fight with me? If you look at my most recent ban, it was a joke post, but the mod took it too seriously and thought I was complaining. Given my history, I'd say it's fair, but if it really was balance whining, I would have wrote out a detailed explanation to try to convince others.
Using the TL ban example to imply that my heartbreak is deserved is a real classy move, even from you. I also don't see why you try to say I have no game from my TL postings. Why is a married man talking about game anyway? Or does it sting you because you want to believe your Japanese wife will/won't cheat on you?
Anyway, if you have nothing kind to say, please don't say it. P.S. I believe I do have game: + Show Spoiler +
On May 16 2013 23:12 LaSt)ChAnCe wrote: it's definitely relevant. it's actually so relevant that the topic of game most likely would never have come up without mani bringing it up
i think you are confused about what bragging means. showing evidence is not necessarily bragging; on the internet everyone wants proof of everything for some reason
Nope, not relevant. Let me tell you why - Mani brought up game, but he did it as a throwaway comment. OP responded by showing us all just exactly how much game he got - an over-the-top, disproportionate response. Bringing something up first isn't a necessary criterion for bragging; it is the nature of the comment itself which defines what is a brag and what isn't.
providing evidence to the contrary of what someone says does not equate to bragging. you keep saying that it's a throwaway comment, but that is just an assertion by you and, as this is text, assuming a tone in someone's statement is dumb.
I don't see how this is hard to understand.
i noticed
This isn't wikipedia. No-one asked OP to cite his source on how many dates he's got.
doesn't matter - the population of teamliquid is well known for demanding proof for everything anyone says (slight exaggeration.) i understand you're relatively new here so i'll try to forgive you for not knowing that
Mani didn't feel the need to scientifically
who scientifically anything? you're trying too hard
prove that "OP has no game"
his implied proof is the thread's OP
but this comment burned OP so much that he just had to prove in the public arena that he did indeed have plenty of game.
experience with something generally increases your credibility when talking about it - it is relevant
Obviously OP cares so much and is desperate to prove that he has said game, and immediately did so with vindicatory smugness
i think that word does not mean what you think it means. i understand you're still hot about someone calling out your ESL earlier, but you're not impressing me with your misuse of uncommon words
On May 10 2013 14:42 Manifesto7 wrote: Another foreigner in Japan that has no game and blames it on the culture through sweeping generalizations.
You know how I know this is true? When you called getting banned unfair, even though you have been warned/banned for the exact same thing multiple times. Your behaviour doesn't change (being a jerk/balance whine) the results don't change (get heartbroken/get banned) and your blame assessment doesn't change (fucking Japan/fucking mods).
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