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I've learned a lot of lessons in my life time. Some the hard way, some the easy way, but I still have a lot to learn. I'm only 19 so that's not much of a surprise but I'm a lot more naive than I'd even like to admit for my age. Some experiences in life I won't ever have the chance to go through or learn from. I'm finding more and more lately that I'm trying to improve myself in more ways than one. The ability to simply change our diet is something I've come to learn not everyone has the freedom to do so and it's taken for granted. It's the little things like that I have been taking in the most, and I've grown a lot from.
I haven't had a death in my family that really rocked me. Both of my grand mothers have passed away but one I was to young to feel much about, and the other I hadn't seen since I was young and don't have many memories of her. I've been very sheltered from death, I haven't had to experience it up close. I wish that would stay the same but that is wishful thinking and impossible, but such is life.
My big realisation about life came from my uncle last night. He's currently dying from cancer. I've known him for as long as I can remember, Him and my Aunt I feel at the closest relatives I have. I've known their kids since I was in diapers, and now he is dying. He's only 55 and instead of planning his retirement with his wife he's planning his funeral and how he will leave everyone behind comfortably. It was something surreal to me. He's in town to talk to my dad and other uncle about it. I was briefly apart of the conversation and it really hit me hard.
If I were to ask him if he lived his life the way he wanted to, with passion to do what made him happy, I don't think he would say he did. I don't think many people can say they did/are. A lot of people in life settle easily for a cushy job that gets them by and lose the passion for what they loved so dearly growing up. I don't want to be one of those people. I have big dreams that I chase passionately and wouldn't enjoy life not being able to reach them. I've proved to myself already that I can do anything I put my mind to and will continue to reach my goals. I want to look back on my life with dignity saying I did exactly what I wanted to in life because it made me happy, Not because I want my parents to be proud of me, Not because I want to impress my girlfriend, I want to do it for me.
When times get tough and I get down on myself I lose focus on my goals. I have thoughts of quitting, I have thoughts that I'm not good enough and won't make it. It's life lessons like this that I can look back on and continue forward, Knowing how lucky I am to be in a position I am in and continue living my life with love and passion towards my future.
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Good attitude and good luck sir.
You may realize you have much left to learn, but you also clearly have a good head on your shoulders, so don't discount that. I know for myself, there are some areas that I'm pretty immature and some where I feel pretty happy with myself.
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Thanks man, I appreciate the support.
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On January 29 2013 15:12 FXOkaRmy wrote:
A lot of people in life settle easily for a cushy job that gets them by and lose the passion for what they loved so dearly growing up. I don't want to be one of those people. I have big dreams that I chase passionately and wouldn't enjoy life not being able to reach them.
There are a lot of jobs in the world that are not flashy and exciting, but need to be done. Not everybody can be a movie director or a professional surfer and free climber or a lion tamer for that matter. Do you think people just decide what they do in life and then they "chase their dreams"? There´s plenty cab drivers and waiters with a degree. And there´s also nothing wrong with doing a regular job. In fact, when your girlfriend gets pregnant unexpectedly, it is the most responsible thing to get one.
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Passions can fade with time. I think people without the experience of real world responsibility overweight the desire for a 'dream' job when at the end of the day its a job. Happiness is found with experiences and the people you share them with (yourself included). At the end of the day all decisions come down to how bad do you want it? If you want it enough you will find a way.
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I have to admire the resolve. I'm only 22 but I can already see these types of "passions" beginning to fade. You can find plenty of joy in a "normal" life, you don't have to be a superstar at something to be happy. Being happy revolves around the people in your life more than anything else.
I do have to say that some people really do have this drive, and if you do good luck with everything!
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On January 29 2013 18:58 KillerSOS wrote:
I have to admire the resolve. I'm only 22 but I can already see these types of "passions" beginning to fade. You can find plenty of joy in a "normal" life, you don't have to be a superstar at something to be happy. Being happy revolves around the people in your life more than anything else.
I do have to say that some people really do have this drive, and if you do good luck with everything!
Honestly this is disheartening to hear. While I respect that centering your happiness around those close to you, it feels as though its a slippery slope from there to mediocrity and a loss of progression. I'd never look to be satisfied by people or things. While you should look for happiness everywhere what you're describing sounds more like satisfaction which I would hope is harder to obtain than you imply.
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There's more to life than 'following your passions/interests' and 'feeling happy'. However, facing death is the first step towards questioning what a good life might consist in. The next step is to read Aristotle.
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On January 30 2013 01:24 Sauwelios wrote:
There's more to life than 'following your passions/interests' and 'feeling happy'. However, facing death is the first step towards questioning what a good life might consist in. The next step is to read Aristotle.
... and Kant my dear German friend !
No joking, i seriously hope you will go through this difficult moment and grow and become stronger with that ! Don't forget your dreams dude !
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how old are you? If you're more than 20, then it is probably gonna be harder to change your life than other people
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Keep thinking positive. That is what has kept my up in very hard times. family too.
Good luck.
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On January 30 2013 02:14 iheartEDM wrote:
how old are you? If you're more than 20, then it is probably gonna be harder to change your life than other people
I said 19 in the blog. And changing your life doesn't have to due with age or experience. It comes with how you think and the way you pursue what you want in life.
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On January 30 2013 04:48 FXOkaRmy wrote:Show nested quote +On January 30 2013 02:14 iheartEDM wrote:
how old are you? If you're more than 20, then it is probably gonna be harder to change your life than other people I said 19 in the blog. And changing your life doesn't have to due with age or experience. It comes with how you think and the way you pursue what you want in life.
the older you get, the more ingrained youre mindset gets which ultimately is what helps direct you towards various paths in life
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