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On October 10 2012 07:23 MountainDewJunkie wrote:Show nested quote +On October 10 2012 02:34 Xanbatou wrote:On October 10 2012 00:50 Chaggi wrote:On October 09 2012 15:21 Xanbatou wrote:On October 09 2012 13:34 MountainDewJunkie wrote:On October 08 2012 15:43 Xanbatou wrote:On October 08 2012 15:30 KawaiiRice wrote:enjoy the weather in seattle  ~ Thanks. You must live in seattle, right? Is the rain really as bad as they say? I don't think I will mind it so much, coming from San Diego. San Diego is pretty much the land of no rain >_> Seattle we've gone something like 60+ days straight without measurable rain, a record, not to mention terrifying. 3 weeks ago it was cloudy for a day, but for the last few weeks, after that fucking awful August - September heat wave, it's been sunny every day. There are no clouds in the sky. And haven't been. I'm starting to freak out. Oh, your relationship: you should consider ending it. You're a jackass. You don't tell someone to end a 5-year relationship without any insight into it. As much as you don't want to hear it, it's a possibility for you to consider. If that's not something you're thinking about, then you're still pretty immature. There's a difference between ending it, and consider doing it. Ok, I'll bite. List every reason you think we should break up, and I will utterly refute every one of them. Then you don't say such outlandish things, k? Careful guys - - a blogger that wants attention but no harsh opinions
On October 10 2012 07:25 Chaggi wrote:Show nested quote +On October 10 2012 02:34 Xanbatou wrote:On October 10 2012 00:50 Chaggi wrote:On October 09 2012 15:21 Xanbatou wrote:On October 09 2012 13:34 MountainDewJunkie wrote:On October 08 2012 15:43 Xanbatou wrote:On October 08 2012 15:30 KawaiiRice wrote:enjoy the weather in seattle ~ Thanks. You must live in seattle, right? Is the rain really as bad as they say? I don't think I will mind it so much, coming from San Diego. San Diego is pretty much the land of no rain >_> Seattle we've gone something like 60+ days straight without measurable rain, a record, not to mention terrifying. 3 weeks ago it was cloudy for a day, but for the last few weeks, after that fucking awful August - September heat wave, it's been sunny every day. There are no clouds in the sky. And haven't been. I'm starting to freak out. Oh, your relationship: you should consider ending it. You're a jackass. You don't tell someone to end a 5-year relationship without any insight into it. As much as you don't want to hear it, it's a possibility for you to consider. If that's not something you're thinking about, then you're still pretty immature. There's a difference between ending it, and consider doing it. Ok, I'll bite. List every reason you think we should break up, and I will utterly refute every one of them. Then you don't say such outlandish things, k? Stop being a baby. No one here is saying GO BREAK UP MAN LOL. All we're saying is if you don't consider the possibility, you're not doing your due diligence as someone who I hope, loves your gf. If you don't understand this, then I don't know what to say to you.
I'll be addressing both of you with this post.
The reason I said you were full of shit is because you are making a completely useless post. Obviously I have considered many different possibilities. I didn't get to where I am by flying by the seat of my pants and doing things without thinking about them, which is what you seem to be implying. I considered many things regarding our relationship before even accepting the offer from Amazon. To not have done so would have been, frankly, fucking retarded. If you actually have some specific insight into why I should break up with her, then please, share. Otherwise, don't call me stupid.
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Well I certainly didn't call you stupid, did I? My, what, one-sentence blurb was a mere blip of personal experience that long-distance relationships are beyond difficult to maintain. You should not read into my post beyond that. If you reread it, perhaps slowly, you will find no venom. Whereas your immediate reply was to call me a jackass. How about you apply that displaced anger to whatever it is that's really bothering you that you can't seem to pinpoint. Sorry for striking a sore nerve.
Anyways, good luck, you're in good shape, you'll be fine. But as the kids of yesteryear used to say, "chillax."
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On October 10 2012 10:18 MountainDewJunkie wrote:
Well I certainly didn't call you stupid, did I? My, what, one-sentence blurb was a mere blip of personal experience that long-distance relationships are beyond difficult to maintain. You should not read into my post beyond that. If you reread it, perhaps slowly, you will find no venom. Whereas your immediate reply was to call me a jackass. How about you apply that displaced anger to whatever it is that's really bothering you that you can't seem to pinpoint. Sorry for striking a sore nerve.
Anyways, good luck, you're in good shape, you'll be fine. But as the kids of yesteryear used to say, "chillax."
That part that I bolded was all that I wanted. When you originally posted, you just said:
Oh, your relationship: you should consider ending it.
Can you see how I would receive that negatively? If you had followed that up with, "because long distance relationships are beyond difficult to maintain", it would have been less emotionless and robotic.
To address your concern, it won't be an issue. We have been long distance before. One time was semi-long distance (about 45 mins of driving) when I was at university and she was still in high school. The other was for about 4 months when she was studying abroad in Sweden. The other was this summer when I went for my internship at Amazon. Long distance just isn't a problem for us, as long as we have some arrangements to be together again before too long.
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On October 10 2012 10:43 Xanbatou wrote:Show nested quote +On October 10 2012 10:18 MountainDewJunkie wrote:
Well I certainly didn't call you stupid, did I? My, what, one-sentence blurb was a mere blip of personal experience that long-distance relationships are beyond difficult to maintain. You should not read into my post beyond that. If you reread it, perhaps slowly, you will find no venom. Whereas your immediate reply was to call me a jackass. How about you apply that displaced anger to whatever it is that's really bothering you that you can't seem to pinpoint. Sorry for striking a sore nerve.
Anyways, good luck, you're in good shape, you'll be fine. But as the kids of yesteryear used to say, "chillax." That part that I bolded was all that I wanted. When you originally posted, you just said: Can you see how I would receive that negatively? If you had followed that up with, "because long distance relationships are beyond difficult to maintain", it would have been less emotionless and robotic. To address your concern, it won't be an issue. We have been long distance before. One time was semi-long distance (about 45 mins of driving) when I was at university and she was still in high school. The other was for about 4 months when she was studying abroad in Sweden. The other was this summer when I went for my internship at Amazon. Long distance just isn't a problem for us, as long as we have some arrangements to be together again before too long.
While I did call / imply you were retarded, there's no need to be so defensive if you've done your homework. LDR's are hard, you're at a stage in your life when you can very easily grow apart and I hope you've made some tangible plans to be together after some time. All we're really trying to tell you is that the most common pitfall of people who do LDR's don't even consider breaking up as an option, and that leads to awful times, and an awful breakup after a few months.
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As a fellow software engineer, I've experienced the same thing.
Being highly technical, it's hard at times to not find non-technical people annoying. Your interests shift over time, you find the things your friends do for emotional stimulation empty and meaningless.
I hated school as well, so much so that I took nine classes one semester in order to graduate early.
People come and go in life, sounds like Seattle will be a new beginning for you.
Flying every other week seems too often, especially if you are always the one doing the flying.
All the best.
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