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On October 08 2012 14:44 Chill wrote:Show nested quote +On October 08 2012 12:57 Xanbatou wrote:On October 08 2012 12:49 Chill wrote:
You're going to fly to see your girlfriend weekly? O_O well, maybe not every week because I will want to hang out with my work buddies, but at least every other week. That's extremely unsustainable. You'll want to kill yourself after 3 months. You should probably have a backup plan for when you realize this.
Disagree completely! I'm in a very happy long-distance relationship. If you really believe she's the one for you, then long-distance isn't a big deal really, you get used to it pretty quickly 
Just make sure you have a plan to live in the same area in the future, definitely do need a plan in that sense! That way it's just temporary!
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Quarter life crisis? When u were doing internships, your contracts were always fixed, you knew u had a way out regardless how sgitty it was. Full time employment is different, you are more or less stuck (I think amazon gave stick options that were exercisable after one year?), even though u always have the option of quitting, it's kind of a big deal whereas ur internships were supposed to terminate after some months
I was pretty much in the same boat as you, returned to the same company I did three internships with and loved, and felt very depressed the first few months. The point is u'll get over it.
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What are you angry about?
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I couldn't tell what specifically you are angry about. Is it the job? Something else? I wasn't clear from reading the post.
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A diverse set of feedback you got here OP. Sounds like you don't really need to be sad about anything. Do you have dreams you are not seeking out? Are you being as human as you can? are you helping your community? Are you remembering to keep it light hearted, challenging, humorous and graceful? My forced laugh has got me further in life than a lot of things
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On October 08 2012 15:43 Xanbatou wrote:Thanks. You must live in seattle, right? Is the rain really as bad as they say? I don't think I will mind it so much, coming from San Diego. San Diego is pretty much the land of no rain >_>
It varies. Hasn't rained in weeks now... people exaggerate our weather so much. Last week it was super beautiful sunny with no clouds and it wasn't hot either (~68~73?F outside).
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On October 08 2012 14:48 Xanbatou wrote:Show nested quote +On October 08 2012 14:44 Chill wrote:On October 08 2012 12:57 Xanbatou wrote:On October 08 2012 12:49 Chill wrote:
You're going to fly to see your girlfriend weekly? O_O well, maybe not every week because I will want to hang out with my work buddies, but at least every other week. That's extremely unsustainable. You'll want to kill yourself after 3 months. You should probably have a backup plan for when you realize this. Really? Why is that? EDIT: Actually, I misspoke earlier. I won't always be going to visit her. She will sometimes be coming up to see me.
Because stuff comes up. It's not good to plan weekly visits IMO, but maybe monthly ones. It gets expensive, and life can get in the way. LDR is hard cause of that.
On October 08 2012 19:17 Zapdos_Smithh wrote:Show nested quote +On October 08 2012 14:44 Chill wrote:On October 08 2012 12:57 Xanbatou wrote:On October 08 2012 12:49 Chill wrote:
You're going to fly to see your girlfriend weekly? O_O well, maybe not every week because I will want to hang out with my work buddies, but at least every other week. That's extremely unsustainable. You'll want to kill yourself after 3 months. You should probably have a backup plan for when you realize this. Disagree completely! I'm in a very happy long-distance relationship. If you really believe she's the one for you, then long-distance isn't a big deal really, you get used to it pretty quickly Just make sure you have a plan to live in the same area in the future, definitely do need a plan in that sense! That way it's just temporary!
I think the unsustainable part is the seeing each other weekly/bi weekly type of thing. Unless you both have absolutely no plans and only live for each other. Which I'm not sure how healthy that is anyways.
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On October 08 2012 19:17 Zapdos_Smithh wrote:Show nested quote +On October 08 2012 14:44 Chill wrote:On October 08 2012 12:57 Xanbatou wrote:On October 08 2012 12:49 Chill wrote:
You're going to fly to see your girlfriend weekly? O_O well, maybe not every week because I will want to hang out with my work buddies, but at least every other week. That's extremely unsustainable. You'll want to kill yourself after 3 months. You should probably have a backup plan for when you realize this. Disagree completely! I'm in a very happy long-distance relationship. If you really believe she's the one for you, then long-distance isn't a big deal really, you get used to it pretty quickly Just make sure you have a plan to live in the same area in the future, definitely do need a plan in that sense! That way it's just temporary!
Don't think I ever said that long distance is a big thing. I fly a lot. Flying domestic is a 2 hour commitment, plus the actual flight time. By the time you fly Friday night after work and then pack up Sunday afternoon, you don't really have much time to do anything. Doing this weekly or even biweekly will make you crazy. You'll feel like a zombie with no free time.
If you were a family man and going to see your wife while making good money, sure.
If you're a young guy doing this for his girlfriend with his first job, it's not going to end well.
You should have this conversation up front. Her coming to see you sometimes will help. You need to see if you and her will be okay skipping the flights sometimes and just doing Skype.
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On October 09 2012 00:09 Chill wrote:Show nested quote +On October 08 2012 19:17 Zapdos_Smithh wrote:On October 08 2012 14:44 Chill wrote:On October 08 2012 12:57 Xanbatou wrote:On October 08 2012 12:49 Chill wrote:
You're going to fly to see your girlfriend weekly? O_O well, maybe not every week because I will want to hang out with my work buddies, but at least every other week. That's extremely unsustainable. You'll want to kill yourself after 3 months. You should probably have a backup plan for when you realize this. Disagree completely! I'm in a very happy long-distance relationship. If you really believe she's the one for you, then long-distance isn't a big deal really, you get used to it pretty quickly Just make sure you have a plan to live in the same area in the future, definitely do need a plan in that sense! That way it's just temporary! Don't think I ever said that long distance is a big thing. I fly a lot. Flying domestic is a 2 hour commitment, plus the actual flight time. By the time you fly Friday night after work and then pack up Sunday afternoon, you don't really have much time to do anything. Doing this weekly or even biweekly will make you crazy. You'll feel like a zombie with no free time. If you were a family man and going to see your wife while making good money, sure. If you're a young guy doing this for his girlfriend with his first job, it's not going to end well. You should have this conversation up front. Her coming to see you sometimes will help. You need to see if you and her will be okay skipping the flights sometimes and just doing Skype.
You may be right. However, I'm not sure it will be that big an issue. When I go down to visit her, I will be living in the same room as I did in university and all my old friends will still be around for the last year. I will not be hanging out with just her 24/7; I'll also be hanging out with my friends. Why does it make a difference if I am a family man or a young guy? Money isn't really an issue. In fact, I was originally planning to stay in San Diego for the whole year so our long-distance wouldn't last so long, but then I realized how much money I would be losing by not working. I did the math and it turns out it would be far more cost-efficient to visit every single weekend lol, so that was my plan. Obviously it's not set in stone so if it turns out its taking too huge a toll on me, I can just cut back on it I guess.
I think some other posters made some good points. Maybe it's just all the changes that I know are coming up that are causing me sadness/anxiety. Individually I might be excited about them, but maybe together, they are causing these feelings. I've always been someone that likes to have some sort of set routine, and knowing that this will be disrupted could be causing that. And maybe I didn't feel this way during my internships because they were all temporary and I knew I would be returning to it.
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Tough biscuits, mate. Sounds like you got some issues to work through. Try looking for some spiritual guidance, but you don't have to rely on a conventional religion. If it gets worse, it might be a good idea to seek some therapy, depression is srs bsns.
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On October 08 2012 15:43 Xanbatou wrote:Thanks. You must live in seattle, right? Is the rain really as bad as they say? I don't think I will mind it so much, coming from San Diego. San Diego is pretty much the land of no rain >_>
Seattle we've gone something like 60+ days straight without measurable rain, a record, not to mention terrifying. 3 weeks ago it was cloudy for a day, but for the last few weeks, after that fucking awful August - September heat wave, it's been sunny every day. There are no clouds in the sky. And haven't been. I'm starting to freak out.
Oh, your relationship: you should consider ending it.
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On October 09 2012 13:34 MountainDewJunkie wrote:Show nested quote +On October 08 2012 15:43 Xanbatou wrote:On October 08 2012 15:30 KawaiiRice wrote:enjoy the weather in seattle ~ Thanks. You must live in seattle, right? Is the rain really as bad as they say? I don't think I will mind it so much, coming from San Diego. San Diego is pretty much the land of no rain >_> Seattle we've gone something like 60+ days straight without measurable rain, a record, not to mention terrifying. 3 weeks ago it was cloudy for a day, but for the last few weeks, after that fucking awful August - September heat wave, it's been sunny every day. There are no clouds in the sky. And haven't been. I'm starting to freak out. Oh, your relationship: you should consider ending it.
You're a jackass. You don't tell someone to end a 5-year relationship without any insight into it.
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On October 09 2012 15:21 Xanbatou wrote:Show nested quote +On October 09 2012 13:34 MountainDewJunkie wrote:On October 08 2012 15:43 Xanbatou wrote:On October 08 2012 15:30 KawaiiRice wrote:enjoy the weather in seattle ~ Thanks. You must live in seattle, right? Is the rain really as bad as they say? I don't think I will mind it so much, coming from San Diego. San Diego is pretty much the land of no rain >_> Seattle we've gone something like 60+ days straight without measurable rain, a record, not to mention terrifying. 3 weeks ago it was cloudy for a day, but for the last few weeks, after that fucking awful August - September heat wave, it's been sunny every day. There are no clouds in the sky. And haven't been. I'm starting to freak out. Oh, your relationship: you should consider ending it. You're a jackass. You don't tell someone to end a 5-year relationship without any insight into it.
As much as you don't want to hear it, it's a possibility for you to consider. If that's not something you're thinking about, then you're still pretty immature. There's a difference between ending it, and consider doing it.
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You don't seem sad, you seem resigned to mere contentment.
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On October 10 2012 00:50 Chaggi wrote:Show nested quote +On October 09 2012 15:21 Xanbatou wrote:On October 09 2012 13:34 MountainDewJunkie wrote:On October 08 2012 15:43 Xanbatou wrote:On October 08 2012 15:30 KawaiiRice wrote:enjoy the weather in seattle ~ Thanks. You must live in seattle, right? Is the rain really as bad as they say? I don't think I will mind it so much, coming from San Diego. San Diego is pretty much the land of no rain >_> Seattle we've gone something like 60+ days straight without measurable rain, a record, not to mention terrifying. 3 weeks ago it was cloudy for a day, but for the last few weeks, after that fucking awful August - September heat wave, it's been sunny every day. There are no clouds in the sky. And haven't been. I'm starting to freak out. Oh, your relationship: you should consider ending it. You're a jackass. You don't tell someone to end a 5-year relationship without any insight into it. As much as you don't want to hear it, it's a possibility for you to consider. If that's not something you're thinking about, then you're still pretty immature. There's a difference between ending it, and consider doing it.
Ok, I'll bite. List every reason you think we should break up, and I will utterly refute every one of them. Then you don't say such outlandish things, k?
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A little depressed and confused leading up to work? Wait until you actually start working... (as a full-time employee, not an intern / co-op student)
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On October 10 2012 02:34 Xanbatou wrote:Show nested quote +On October 10 2012 00:50 Chaggi wrote:On October 09 2012 15:21 Xanbatou wrote:On October 09 2012 13:34 MountainDewJunkie wrote:On October 08 2012 15:43 Xanbatou wrote:On October 08 2012 15:30 KawaiiRice wrote:enjoy the weather in seattle ~ Thanks. You must live in seattle, right? Is the rain really as bad as they say? I don't think I will mind it so much, coming from San Diego. San Diego is pretty much the land of no rain >_> Seattle we've gone something like 60+ days straight without measurable rain, a record, not to mention terrifying. 3 weeks ago it was cloudy for a day, but for the last few weeks, after that fucking awful August - September heat wave, it's been sunny every day. There are no clouds in the sky. And haven't been. I'm starting to freak out. Oh, your relationship: you should consider ending it. You're a jackass. You don't tell someone to end a 5-year relationship without any insight into it. As much as you don't want to hear it, it's a possibility for you to consider. If that's not something you're thinking about, then you're still pretty immature. There's a difference between ending it, and consider doing it. Ok, I'll bite. List every reason you think we should break up, and I will utterly refute every one of them. Then you don't say such outlandish things, k?
Careful guys - - a blogger that wants attention but no harsh opinions
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On October 08 2012 12:57 Xanbatou wrote:Show nested quote +On October 08 2012 12:49 Chill wrote:
You're going to fly to see your girlfriend weekly? O_O well, maybe not every week because I will want to hang out with my work buddies, but at least every other week.
does your family own an airlines or do you have hook up to some cheap tickets or something????
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On October 10 2012 02:34 Xanbatou wrote:Show nested quote +On October 10 2012 00:50 Chaggi wrote:On October 09 2012 15:21 Xanbatou wrote:On October 09 2012 13:34 MountainDewJunkie wrote:On October 08 2012 15:43 Xanbatou wrote:On October 08 2012 15:30 KawaiiRice wrote:enjoy the weather in seattle ~ Thanks. You must live in seattle, right? Is the rain really as bad as they say? I don't think I will mind it so much, coming from San Diego. San Diego is pretty much the land of no rain >_> Seattle we've gone something like 60+ days straight without measurable rain, a record, not to mention terrifying. 3 weeks ago it was cloudy for a day, but for the last few weeks, after that fucking awful August - September heat wave, it's been sunny every day. There are no clouds in the sky. And haven't been. I'm starting to freak out. Oh, your relationship: you should consider ending it. You're a jackass. You don't tell someone to end a 5-year relationship without any insight into it. As much as you don't want to hear it, it's a possibility for you to consider. If that's not something you're thinking about, then you're still pretty immature. There's a difference between ending it, and consider doing it. Ok, I'll bite. List every reason you think we should break up, and I will utterly refute every one of them. Then you don't say such outlandish things, k?
Stop being a baby. No one here is saying GO BREAK UP MAN LOL. All we're saying is if you don't consider the possibility, you're not doing your due diligence as someone who I hope, loves your gf. If you don't understand this, then I don't know what to say to you.
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On October 10 2012 07:25 StateofReverie wrote:Show nested quote +On October 08 2012 12:57 Xanbatou wrote:On October 08 2012 12:49 Chill wrote:
You're going to fly to see your girlfriend weekly? O_O well, maybe not every week because I will want to hang out with my work buddies, but at least every other week. does your family own an airlines or do you have hook up to some cheap tickets or something????
He said he has a good job lined up. He can probably afford to fly that often now. But fuck that's a lot of money annually. Got to be some good money.
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