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QuanticHawk
United States32097 Posts
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LaSt)ChAnCe
United States2179 Posts
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TheKwas
Iceland372 Posts
Also, any serious topic that you want to avoid, is probably best avoid through humourous distractions rather than head-on acknowledgements.Girls make decisions based off of emotions, so their emotions are subject to change to don't take any of their statements as set in stone. | ||
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WolfBro
United States59 Posts
In my opinion, if a girl ever says something along the lines of "I'm not ready for a relationship right now" that means "I'm a nice person, I don't want to hurt your feelings, but no, not in a million years will I ever want to date you." The first girl to ever say this to me was someone I'd known for a long time in school and she was the most honest person I knew, so I took her words at face value thinking.. "yeah, okay it makes sense that she's not ready, I'll just wait." Hahahahahaha, I wish I could go back and slap myself in the face for being such an idiot. Advice would be to ask someone else out. And don't ask them to study unless you just want to study with them. You need to make your intentions clear or you're just going to get friend-zoned. Yes, there are girls out there that want to be friends first and then more, but that's the exception. | ||
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ZapRoffo
United States5544 Posts
The way you did it was scary and alien from your normal interactions (it seems like) so you are making a friend ->more transition look like it will be really awkward to her. What you have to do to do that transition (sometimes it's just doomed though and won't work no matter what) is go through it in the course of how you normally interact with each other. But it'll be easier to say what that is/was in this case if you post more about the history. Also if she just broke up recently, that's the main case where the "I'm not ready for a relationship with anyone right now" can be truthful and is not a stone cold sign of disinterest (although it could be). And to add to what someone said earlier, I regret a lot more not making lasting friends in high school than I do not having had sex in high school. I like talking about your post though cause it's basically exactly how I was like at that age. | ||
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Endymion
United States3701 Posts
edit ok i read the op instead of just the ending, stop over thinking the situation.. you have to be a calous asshole to get girls.. you can still like them and be romantic/emotional, you just CAN'T show them that initially or you come off as a complete idiot in like 90% of situations.. as ridiculous as the PUA community is, they're actually really good at what they do, you should go check out some of their material for how to boost your success rates. | ||
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acgFork
Canada397 Posts
On October 02 2012 04:44 WolfBro wrote: Obviously girls can't be thrown into one category and have 100% of them share the same behavior, there will always be an exception. In my opinion, if a girl ever says something along the lines of "I'm not ready for a relationship right now" that means "I'm a nice person, I don't want to hurt your feelings, but no, not in a million years will I ever want to date you." I'm not sure if that's the case, or if I'm just trying to see the best of it because I want to be with her... And when I asked her out at school, she said yes. It was only the next day that she texted me saying she'd "Love to hang out, but doesn't want to date anyone right now". On October 02 2012 06:09 Endymion wrote: what the fuck, hello friendzone... i wanted a happy blog, she's not the right one for you =[ edit ok i read the op instead of just the ending, stop over thinking the situation.. you have to be a calous asshole to get girls.. you can still like them and be romantic/emotional, you just CAN'T show them that initially or you come off as a complete idiot in like 90% of situations.. as ridiculous as the PUA community is, they're actually really good at what they do, you should go check out some of their material for how to boost your success rates. Gonna go check it right now. | ||
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EnE
417 Posts
On October 02 2012 06:09 Endymion wrote: what the fuck, hello friendzone... i wanted a happy blog, she's not the right one for you =[ edit ok i read the op instead of just the ending, stop over thinking the situation.. you have to be a calous asshole to get girls.. you can still like them and be romantic/emotional, you just CAN'T show them that initially or you come off as a complete idiot in like 90% of situations.. as ridiculous as the PUA community is, they're actually really good at what they do, you should go check out some of their material for how to boost your success rates. Alternatively, stop caring so much what other people think and honestly be yourself. As long as you're not a total cunt you'll be much happier for it and the girl you find will be much more compatible with you. | ||
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ZapRoffo
United States5544 Posts
On October 02 2012 06:09 Endymion wrote: what the fuck, hello friendzone... i wanted a happy blog, she's not the right one for you =[ edit ok i read the op instead of just the ending, stop over thinking the situation.. you have to be a calous asshole to get girls.. you can still like them and be romantic/emotional, you just CAN'T show them that initially or you come off as a complete idiot in like 90% of situations.. as ridiculous as the PUA community is, they're actually really good at what they do, you should go check out some of their material for how to boost your success rates. You can like them, that's pretty given, but at least for me I could never respect them if I were following the PUA way of thinking, and that kills it for me. Just thinking about it in terms of "success rate" ... But for you OP, one of the issues with this blog is your stated mission of getting laid is not compatible with trying to date someone you've been friends with. It's like the worst plan. If you are after a deep relationship and expressing feelings as a main priority, then maybe yes, but if as you say getting laid is the main priority, nooooooooooooo, big nono, start with a new person or a casual acquaintance and it's much easier, intentions will be clearer, rejection won't hurt even close to as much, etc.. | ||
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RedTail
United States104 Posts
you gotta "be" with a girl. it doesnt matter if you are on a date or at school. you can even get a handjob under the desk if you play it right. first of all you gotta accept your limitations. whether that be nervousness, shes out of your league whatever. then you gotta know what you want and be able to acheive it. last you gotta do a ton of reading in the situation. timing. flirting. read her signals as to whether she is interested or not. you just gotta live man with both no's and yesses. sometimes a no could turn out for you better than a yes. know yourself. no what you want. know the girl. stop asking a girl out who youve had hopes on forever but have never flirted with. what if she says yes to be your girlfriend... now what... you still gonna be nervous... what now that shes yours you gonna uncomfortably kiss her and have a geniunely bad time? whats the point of "getting a girl". you gotta know what to do with her. since this forum is so big im prob wasting my time and no ones gonna respond to my post so. adieu | ||
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acgFork
Canada397 Posts
On October 02 2012 13:10 RedTail wrote: okay... how to get a girl... first of all thats the wrong question. you gotta "be" with a girl. it doesnt matter if you are on a date or at school. you can even get a handjob under the desk if you play it right. first of all you gotta accept your limitations. whether that be nervousness, shes out of your league whatever. then you gotta know what you want and be able to acheive it. last you gotta do a ton of reading in the situation. timing. flirting. read her signals as to whether she is interested or not. you just gotta live man with both no's and yesses. sometimes a no could turn out for you better than a yes. know yourself. no what you want. know the girl. stop asking a girl out who youve had hopes on forever but have never flirted with. what if she says yes to be your girlfriend... now what... you still gonna be nervous... what now that shes yours you gonna uncomfortably kiss her and have a geniunely bad time? whats the point of "getting a girl". you gotta know what to do with her. since this forum is so big im prob wasting my time and no ones gonna respond to my post so. adieu Not a waste of time at all, my friend. | ||
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EffervescentAureola
United States410 Posts
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Silentness
United States2821 Posts
+ Show Spoiler + ![[image loading]](http://imageshack.us/a/img853/5537/teamliquid.jpg) Honestly the road to getting laid is pretty short. Go to a bar/club, find the drunkest chick there and party with her... take her home or whatever and go from there. It's nothing special really. If you want to take the "normal" route, it'll probably take a little longer depending on how the woman feels you. | ||
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happyft
United States470 Posts
On September 30 2012 12:43 acgFork wrote: So I awkwardly and nervously say: "So... Ummm.. Do you wanna, like, study for the bio test with me sometime or something some time?". Oh man ... that's awkward. Im like: "so when do you want to talk bout this". In a really serious way, she says "just message me" and walks away. Oh...that's really awkward. So I msg her when I get home and say: "Hey sorry for acting so awkward. I guess I was just really nervous". I send it. And wait. And wait. And continue waiting. No reply, so i go to bed, and wake up early to check. Nothing. And then I realise its saturday and I need to go to work. I feel sick to my stomach because of all these emotions. GUH SO AWKWARD THIS MADE ME WANT TO CLAW MY EYES OUT (seriously) lol well bro you didn't get the girl, but props for trying. Don't worry man, you'll get 'em next time -- important thing is to keep your head up and keep trying for the next girl. You feel crushed from her rejection, but trust me you'll be over her in a week. In fact, you should count yourself so lucky that she had the courtesy to be straight up honest with you -- vast majority of girls would just play the silent the game and leave you guessing and hanging. | ||
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